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A Grief Observed

4.26  ·  Rating details ·  38,533 Ratings  ·  1,976 Reviews
This intimate portait of bereavement and death recalls the author's experiences of the loss of his wife, as well as his evolving belief in God and his acceptance of a new life.
Paperback, 64 pages
Published December 12th 1966 by Faber & Faber (first published 1961)
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Aug 06, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoirs, non-fiction
To begin with, let me offer you my condolences.

If you’ve come here to read about C.S. Lewis’s A Grief Observed, you’re probably doing it for a specific reason. It’s not the thing you reach for in times of sunshine and cloudless days and a future of beautiful forevers. It’s the thing you reach for when you are casting about in the dark, looking for something, anything, that might help.

So, I am sorry for your loss. For the grief you are experiencing.

* * *

My grief: On June 22, 2015, my brother-i
May 14, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoirs, grief
Each person's grief is unique. When C.S. Lewis' wife died in 1960, he journaled and took notes, trying to observe his bereavement. This is a short but meaningful read; it is less than 100 pages, but it took me several days to finish because I frequently had to put the book down and contemplate certain passages.

Lewis often wrote and spoke about his Christianity, and this book has meditations on God and faith and purpose. I am not a religious person, so another reader may find these sections more
May 25, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
از هر چشم اندازی که به مرگ بنگریم، بدین معنی است که تمام تجربیات به پایان رسیده اند و مربوط به قلمرو گذشته اند و گذشته،گذشته است. معنی زمان نیز همین است،زمان عنوانی دیگر است برای مرگ و بهشت نیز...بهشت نیز وضعیتی است که تمام چیزهای پیشین درگذشته اند

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عموما سی اس لوئیس را در ایران بواسطه مجموعه نارنیا بهعنوان یک فانتزینویس میشناسند، این درحالیست که لوئیس در حوزه الهیات و مذهب هم چهره ای شناخته شده و جهانی محسوب میشود. لوئیس تا پایان عمر خود بیش از 50 اثر از خود به جای گذاشت که برخی شه
Jan 19, 2014 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: inglese, memoir
Un testo fondamentale di quella che mi viene da definire “letteratura del lutto”.

Iniziato a scrivere pochi giorni dopo la morte della moglie amatissima - che si chiamava Joy e qui diventa chissà perché H. (c’è da dire che il libro uscì firmato con uno pseudonimo) – e pubblicato solo pochi mesi dopo l’evento.
Composto ‘a caldo’.
Al caldo del dolore. Rovente, inarrestabile…


In questo mi sembra che si differenzia dalla maggior parte, se non forse da tutte le opere che si occupano d
K.D. Absolutely
May 07, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Grieving people; Fans of C. S. Lewis
Recommended to K.D. by: 501 Must Read Books
Shelves: 501, memoirs
Heartwrenching narrative about death and mourning. Inspiring musings of somebody who have just lost his loved one. Musings that include all phases of grief from shock, pain, acceptance and moving on. He even went to the stage of questioning the existence and love of God but in a way is so thought-provoking even people with strong faith will need to double check his deep-seated beliefs.

This 76-page poignant, partly angry and deeply moving journal by Clive Staples (C. S.) Lewis (1898-1963) was fir
Jun 08, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

Reading this book has resulted in an unknown number of panic attacks. I think that this should be one of the book jacket reviews. How can 73 beautifully deckled pages cause such angst?
Words, words, words.

I have a confession. I had to read this twice… the first time through I was a bit inebriated. Okay, more than a bit. I felt that I needed a little push to get me over that cliff… It’s almost like the more time passes the more hesitant I am to revisit the grief. Not that those scabs aren’t heal
Maddalena Tomassini
Feb 26, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: most-loved
I read this book for the first time something like four years ago. Me, like everyone else who had gone through the loss of a beloved, will surely recognize the same emotions that Lewis describes.
It's not easy to give a rational review of this book. It's something like a mirror, reading those words makes you feel like Lewis had been looking into your heart when he wrote them.
But this is not only a portrait of loss. It would be reductive to say that he only speaks about his pain. First of all, the
Donald Barnett
Aug 25, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
After my wife passed away from cancer and I was in the depths of grief, well meaning friends kept bringing me what I call "victory books." These are books about dealing with the death of a loved one that basically said, "If you were a victorious Christian you would get over this." I wanted to throw those books in the pond behind my house. I hurt bad and I didn't want to get over it! I loved her for 20 years and to just "get over it" was to count her as unimportant in my life.

Somehow, and I don'
Jan 10, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Favorite Quotes:

"I once read the sentence 'I lay awake all night with a toothache, thinking about the toothache an about lying awake.' That's true to life. Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery's shadow or reflection: the fact that you don't merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in grief."

"I see people, as they approach me, trying to make up their minds whet
Saying goodbye to someone who was there beside us our whole lives is just about the hardest thing we ever have to do.

“And grief still feels like fear. Perhaps, more strictly, like suspense. Or like waiting; just hanging about waiting for something to happen. It gives life a permanently provisional feeling. It doesn’t seem worth starting anything. I can’t settle down. I yawn, I fidget, I smoke too much. Up till this I always had too little time. Now there is nothing but time. Almost pure time,
Sep 02, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone dealing w/grief
Do we find a book or does it find us? A Grief Observed seemed to 'find' me when I needed consoling insight after my brother died; C. S. Lewis was foreverafter a friend who not only knew and understood something very profound, but also had been there for me when I needed him.

A Grief Observed was also my introduction to the immortal Lewis, having missed the Narnian Chronicles in my childhood. While an improbable first book, Grief is no less excellent for being anomalous. Lewis wrote Grief in respo
Erin ☕ *Proud Book Hoarder*
It's hard to rate a book like this - doesn't feel fully appropriate since it's more an internal dialogue through stages of grief than anything else. C.S. Lewis was always a talented writer, whether penning fiction or non, but this is a diary-style jotting of internal reflections during the horrible stages of losing his wife to cancer.

Written in mini paragraphs that were apparently sections recorded during his thoughts, I can almost picture him waking up at night and unable to go back to sleep,
Sep 16, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Unlike C.S. Lewis, it was my dad whom I lost 17 years ago; but when he said that “grief felt so like fear” in the beginning of his book, I believe I know what he meant ; or, to make it more precise, I think he knows exactly what he’s talking about.

A Grief Observed offers a look at a man in deep despair, who doubted God because of it, but eventually emerges with a deep understanding of himself, his love for his departed wife, and of God.

In the first part, the question he presented is not “Do God
May 12, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: c-s-lewis
"Every grief is different"
Which is so true. I think Douglas H. Gresham rightly notes in his Introduction to this book that the article is an important part of the title. This is A Grief Observed. It is Lewis's own personal struggle and discovery.
Yet at the same time, grief is recognizable. We share something when we grieve, something that transcends specific circumstances. Lewis touches that.
He is so emotional in this book that it shocked me. This isn't the Lewis I recognize, yet at the same ti
Aug 22, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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Just yesterday, I was chatting with one of my best friends who is also my old household head in Youth for Christ (YFC). She was telling me about her latest Kindle purchase (if you're curious, it's Cassandra Clare's Clockwork Angel). I told her about how I was reading A Grief Observed in my Kindle, and added that I wanted to buy other C.S. Lewis books there, too, because I realized that his books are a bit too expensive if I buy it here in full price, and I don't rea
Demetrius Rogers
Dec 31, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: spirituality
This was one of the greatest books I've read this year. Man! This was outstanding. Wow. I can't say enough about the wisdom and insight embedded in these pages. I love short, pithy, and thoughtful works. Concentrated thought can go so far. Add a little water and it expands into a meal. There might be more here than in a book of a 1,000 pages.

My favorite writing of Lewis' is his novel Till We Have Faces. TWHF is about the grief that follows loss, and in this story Lewis nails it in stunning fash
Aug 30, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: essays
It is difficult for a practicing Christian to write a book about losing a beloved wife without sounding a bit too pat to someone whose beliefs are different. And yet, I do think Lewis was honest with himself: When his wife Joy died of cancer, his recovery involved a kind of hide and seek with God.

Throughout this short book, Lewis maintains his high standards of writing and comes up with such painfully honest observations as the following:
Tonight all the hells of young grief have opened again; t
Franco  Santos
¿Te diste cuenta en algún momento, amor mío, de lo mucho que te llevaste contigo al morir? Me despojaste hasta de mi pasado, hasta de las cosas que nunca compartimos.
La obra más personal de Lewis. Es una constante de tristeza y desolación por la muerte de su esposa. En éste se cuestiona la existencia de Dios y nos muestra cómo sobrelleva su dolor inherente a la soledad.

Eramos uña y carne. O, si lo preferís, un solo barco. El motor de proa se fue al garete. Y el motorcito de reserva, que soy
da non credente mi astengo dalla valutazione di questo scritto, toccante e sincero ma in buona parte costituito da interrogativi e dubbi di un uomo di fede che, davanti ad una grave perdita, vede vacillare le sue certezze; il percorso di elaborazione del lutto non prescinde dalla riconciliazione con dio e per quanto interessante testimonianza non sono nelle condizioni di comprenderlo
Rebecca McNutt
Author C.S. Lewis, best known for his work in the fantasy genre writing the Chronicles of Narnia series, unfortunately lost his wife and was told to repress his grief and emotion, keeping up appearances, but in secret he wrote this amazing, sad and very human book consisting of poetry and thoughts he had back at the time.
Barnabas Piper
Jan 01, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read this once before, right after college and appreciated the keen observations of God and man. I read it again just now and appreciate the deep humanness of the pain and agony. I believe this to be Lewis's best book in that it differs so dramatically from his others. It is so rich and honest and painful and hopeful.
Kells Next Read
Actual Rating: 4.5
I stumbled across this little book in a used bookstore and as I recently lost my mother, I thought it might be just what I needed. It was! This reads like a diary written by Mr. Lewis during the time right after his wife passed away. His stream of thought so closely echoed my own, with all the ups and downs of his emotions. As he struggles to come to terms with this grief in his heart, I connected with so much of what he wrote. And there were so many good quotes that I wrote out and stuck around ...more
Lenkiu galvą prieš C. S. Lewis meistriškumą. Pakutiniu metu skaitinėjau literatūrą apie netektį, ir šioje knygoje radau tai, ko ieškojau. Tai gyvas, išjaustas, išbūtas sielvartas. Ištvertas sielvartas. Tikrąja to žodžio prasme. Skaudus, piktas, kupinas liūdesio ir ilgesio. Tikras. Jautrus. Drąsus. Nusivylęs. Aišku, mano apibūdinimai toli gražu neperteiks autoriaus meistriškumo. Tad imkit ir skaitykit. Manau, nesigailėsit. O aš eisiu ieškoti, kur šią knygą galėčiau gauti savo namų bibliotekai.
Mar 02, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: reviewed
This review was first published on BookLikes:

Just over a week ago I wrote a review of The Problem of Pain, one of Lewis' early works, in which I tried (and failed) to come to terms with Lewis' notion that pain is an expression of divine love and an instrument of God's to shape humans into more complex beings.

As some of my BL friends have aptly pointed out, Lewis wrote The Problem of Pain from a theoretical and rather detached point of view. The Problem o
May 26, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep on swallowing.

At other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed. There is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says. Or perhaps, hard to want to take it in. It is so uninteresting. Yet I want the others to be about me. I dread the moments when th
Jim B
Nov 25, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Everyone who grieves the death of a loved one.
Shelves: christian, classic
The anguish and honest of C.S. Lewis after he lost his wife made this book unforgettable. I will never forget his fear that his memory was remaking her from the complex person she was to some idealized person. This is one of the griefs of loss. The people we love are so complex while they are alive -- they surprise us, frustrate us, relieve us, disagree with us, love us. It's not enough to remember -- real grief misses what we have started forgetting . . .

I think a lot of Christians and nonchri
Aug 02, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This may be both one of the saddest, and one of the most inspirational books I've ever read. In case you don't know the premise, this is a sort of auto-biographical about C.S. Lewis. He was a happy bachelor for most of his life, but through some strange circumstances (involving legal residency) he ended up marrying a woman whom he was close friends with. Before he realized it, he was madly in love with her. Unfortunately after about 4 years of marriage, she passed away from cancer (as did both h ...more
Jul 03, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I have had some grief in my life but nothing earth-shattering. I've had grandparents, uncles and aunts, friends, and loads of pets die; however, I have never felt the extreme loss that Lewis touches on so briefly and yet so poignantly here. I had no real reason to pick it up when I did, other than I had never read it and I wanted to read something by Lewis. Now, after reading it, I have two thoughts on this book:

1.) Part of me cannot fully appreciate the weight of this book until I go through
May 31, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
At first, this book totally upset me. As a HUGE fan of C.S. Lewis, it was hard to see him discount God, as he went through his grief. BUT then, I equated it to my own grief of late, and totally recognized his writing as a Christian man, trying to work things out through his anger, grief, love, and amazing love of God. Not really a novel, more just his writings in grief, and anguish, spontaneous, almost as if I could feel the tears as he wrote. For years of reading his amazing Christian, Fantasy ...more
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CLIVE STAPLES LEWIS (1898–1963) was one of the intellectual giants of the twentieth century and arguably one of the most influential writers of his day. He was a Fellow and Tutor in English Literature at Oxford University until 1954. He was unanimously elected to the Chair of Medieval and Renaissance Literature
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“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” 2254 likes
“We were promised sufferings. They were part of the program. We were even told, 'Blessed are they that mourn,' and I accept it. I've got nothing that I hadn't bargained for. Of course it is different when the thing happens to oneself, not to others, and in reality, not imagination.” 442 likes
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