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The Ways Things Look to Me

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At 23, Asif is less than he wanted to be. His mother's sudden death forced him back home to look after his youngest sister, Yasmin, and he leads a frustrating life, ruled by her exacting need for routine. Everyone tells Asif that he's a good boy, but he isn't so sure. Lila has escaped from home, abandoning Asif to be the sole carer of their difficult sister. Damaged by a c ...more
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Published (first published 2009)
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Aug 30, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I love Roopa Farooki's novels. True to form, this novel is based around a 2nd or 3rd generation British/Pakistani family. We follow the perspectives of three siblings, who were orphaned by the unexpected death of their mother around five years prior to the start of the novel.

Sweet, dependable big brother Asif tries to parent his autistic sister Yasmin, while holding down a boring city job. His adherence to his sister's need for routine means he has very little social life. Yasmin is finishing h
Jun 10, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Based on the number of made-for-tv movies and specials on the topic, Americans are in love (or at least in fascination) with all things autistic. There is something engrossing in watching people with autism and trying to figure out how their minds work, because clearly their neurons are producing in ways that a typical person's brain is not. As a special educator, I've had more than my fair share of experience with children with autism. Ranging from non-verbal, stereotypical autism to high-funct ...more
Bel Murphy
Oct 09, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

Responsibility for the care of Yasmin falls to her older brother when their mother dies suddenly and the impact of having a family member with ASD is deftly explored in this lovely book.

An overarching theme in the novel is one of sacrifice. Asif is forced to abandon his student life in a prestigious University to assume the role of head of the family on his mother's death. This, in turn, leads him to forego a bright future for a monotonous career and the relentless daily grind of maintaining pr
Ruth Booth
The book tells the story of Yasmin (who has Asperger's) and her two older siblings, Asif and Lila. Each chapter depicts the story from the perspective of one of the 3 characters and is set both in the present time and occasionally goes back to give the reader some back story.
Basically the siblings are left with no parents so Asif becomes the carer for Yasmin, and I think the reader is supposed to feel some sympathy towards him. Lila on the other hand takes no responsibility for her sister and i
Vi Vian
a nice book to read but not as memorable as it should be. i like that the writings by the author flows very naturally and is not complicated. i expected this book to be a "heavy" reading which is dark and potentially depressing as it deals with how two elder siblings (asif and lila) cope with their youngest sibling(yasmin)'s asperger's syndrome. what attracted me to this book in the first place is that being an elder sister myself, i couldn't imagine being tasked with taking care of a challenged ...more
Apr 14, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
There seems to have been a glut of novels recently that have a main character with Aspergers Syndrome and/or synesthesia, Roopa Farooki's lead character in The Way Things Look To Me is Yasmin, a nineteen year old girl who has AS and sees emotions and sounds as colours, or to use the correct term, is synesthetic.

Although Yasmin is the lead character and the plot of the novel centres around her, she actually does not play a big part in the story. It is the effect of Yasmin's AS and her need for st
Apr 23, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
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Aargh! How did this book end up on my shelf? I don't know but I took it on vacation, and read it one jetlagged sleepless night. To me this is the negative definition of "chick lit", and I say that as someone who loved Judith Krantz, Jilly Cooper, Lace, Bridget Jones, to say nothing of the Brontes and Austen, and many other exemplars of the genre. This books takes a "creative" and "challenging" family premise -- a sibling with Aspergers -- clothes it in bad prose and plot improbabilities, and the ...more
Feb 11, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This novel tells about the relationship between 3 siblings, Yasmin who has Aspenger's Syndrome, Lilla, arty, crazy and non-conformist and Asif, a young bright accountant who's always been the good boy of the family.
It goes thru events, past and present, of the family coping with Yasmin's condition, and how it lead to resentment from her siblings, that they were sidelined by their mum. Their mum sudden death, leaves a vacum in which they struggle to come to terms with each other.
Thru all this, Y
Robin Nicholas
Jan 09, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book started slow for me and really started to pick up steam as it went on. It is about a family of three siblings who have been left behind by their parent's deaths. The youngest sister has Asperger's Syndrome, which has had an impact on the entire family. Written from all of their different points of view, it is an interesting window into that world. The author does an amazing job of describing what it would be to live in the shoes of someone who has Asperger's Syndrome. As I was reading ...more
Teodora Grigorie
This is not a life-changing book, but I think the story is very well written. I loved how the author played with the words and how consistent the story was. It was also interesting to discover more about the way people with Asperger syndrome experience life. The 3 stars don't reflect the quality of the book, but the intensity of the story.
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Roopa was brought up in London and graduated from New College in Oxford in 1995. She worked in advertising and it 2004 quit to write full time. She now lives in south east London and south west France with her husband and two sons. Bitter Sweets is her first novel and in 2007 it was nominated for the Orange Award for New Writer.

Her second novel, Corner Shop was released in October 2008 and her t
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