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Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby's Brain
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Why Love Matters explains why love is essential to brain development in the early years of life, particularly to the development of our social and emotional brain systems, and presents the startling discoveries that provide the answers to how our emotional lives work.
Sue Gerhardt considers how the earliest relationship shapes the baby's nervous system, with lasting ...more
Sue Gerhardt considers how the earliest relationship shapes the baby's nervous system, with lasting ...more
Paperback, 256 pages
Published
January 1st 2005
by Routledge
(first published January 7th 2003)
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Aug 18, 2007
Cameron
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it was amazing
Recommends it for:
people interested in psychology.
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This book changed my life. Really. I had never thought about social development in the terms in which Gerhardt proposes. And I've never been so self-aware. Still, sometimes I can't help thinking ignorance is bliss...
Fascinating book giving a solid argument for importance of empathic and responsive care in early infancy. The care we receive as babies sews the seeds for future adult relationships and how feelings are regulated psychologically and physiologically. If a baby is not regulated well by the parent he will find it difficult to regulate his own feelings as an adult. Being cared for by a depressed and unresponsive mother can have a devastating effect on a babies ability to develop good secure coping
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This book has been an amazing discovery. The way the author has been able to translate recent hard-science evidence into intelligible information is great. I'd like this book to be made compulsory reading at university, when one is mature enough to reflect about what it means to create a new life, and to try to gather information about our own infancy and how it may influence our emotions around parent-motherhood. This book is an invitation to think, not only about family but also about society,
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This is such a fantastic read. The author explains in easy to understand writing how important the relationship is between mother( main caretaker) and child the first 6 months of life. The amount of stress a baby feels can affect brain development and how stress is dealt with for the rest of his life. Not tending to a babies' needs can have disastrous results for the baby.
I especially enjoyed the research studies done in this area.
I especially enjoyed the research studies done in this area.
This book blew my mind. Along with Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn it's one of the most important books on parenting I've read. Drawing together compellingly presented, well researched evidence from neuroscience, psychology, psychoanalysis and biochemistry, Sue Gerhart provides an excellent account of why a developing brain requires responsive nurture.
Too technical for what I wanted, haven't finished it and won't. Great if you want the scientific details. I want love and hugs matter kinda stuff.
Thought-provoking, challenging, worrying and informative. An important read for parents, especially first time parents who are particularly vulnerable to often well-intentioned but misguided advice. This book looks at how stress under the age of two affects a baby's brain and social development, and how our early parenting choices-to leave baby to cry or not-can affect the long term physical and emotional health of our children, and by extension, the health of our society.
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FANTASTIC! Recommended reading for my Neuroscience for Therapists course, this has been a joy to read, in no way the chore I was anticipating. Written by a British author (sorry my American friends, but what a lovely change!) this has revealed the complexities and nuances of baby and child development in a comprehensible and fascinating manner. Here's a non-p.c. "should": should be required reading for all parents.
Why Love Matters is a very read-able and accessible foray into the world of attachment between a baby and their caregiver. Gerhardt uses scientific evidence to illustrate the importance of a loving bond but does so in a way that is easy to follow. I believe that this book is useful for practitioners but also invaluable for parents.
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this is an amazing and important book - as a psychology student it's really helped me fine-tune my interests - this is the kind of book anyone around children or anyone interested in the improvement of life for all should really read - that includes everyone from parents to politicians
Amazing book. Everyone should read this, especially parents or to-be parents. This book showed me why I react to stressors the way I do and how I can change my reactions. It also hopefully will stop the cycle so my daughter will be raised differently than how I was.
This book supports the theory I made in my own book that trauma suffered in childhood can severely affect your health both as a child and in later life.
Very important content, but a bit hard and exhausting to read
This book is hugely informative although slightly heavy in places. A basic psychological knowledge is useful to fully absorb the concepts with this book. Touching on attachment, neuropsychology, biology and social care, this title uses real life examples throughout to emphasise important factors in early childhood development. Would definitely recommend to professionals and parents.
A strange book. Easy to read (although it gets rather repetitive) and with some interesting information on the scientific evidence of the impact of relationships on the brain, but the interrelationship between the claims about brain states and the psychotherapeutic insights is rather uncertain. Sometimes she just seems to be translating normal things we might say about what someone was thinking/feeling into talk about brain states (so a sentence like: "he was stressed and then became frightened"
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This book was wonderful in simplifying the underlying science behind why the first year of development is so important in influencing long term self-regulation as we grow. I also enjoyed the discussion of the limitations in our current system of child care in meeting the best practices for infant attachment and emotional development. I particularly think that for skeptics of the importance of early childhood development, this book sheds light on the value of high quality early
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Every mother should read this book.
its a must read for the whole world
This book is utterly incredible. I started reading it as, thorough work, Im being expected to explain to new parents how responsive parenting supports their babys long term wellbeing. I havent been given any more training than that sentence. So I thought I would read this and get some background, so that if a pair of clued up parents started asking me deeper questions, Id be able to answer.
I got more than I bargained for. I have learned so much about the effects of stress during pregnancy and in ...more
I got more than I bargained for. I have learned so much about the effects of stress during pregnancy and in ...more
This an important and well-written book. It does a compelling job of articulating just how high the stakes are when it comes to parenting. It also makes it clear that simply going with your gut and using your intuition may well serve you wrong as a parent.
Of course, it's worth mentioning that this book isn't really aimed at parents. I only realised towards the end that Gerhardt's goal with this book is to motivate a change in public policy towards social interventions earlier in a child's life. ...more
Of course, it's worth mentioning that this book isn't really aimed at parents. I only realised towards the end that Gerhardt's goal with this book is to motivate a change in public policy towards social interventions earlier in a child's life. ...more
I was not ready to go into this book. From the cover, I guessed that I would be in for a short read, something with that well-known fluffy language we find in the common book on parenting, which I would skim for details and move on from immediately. First chapter, full stop. A wave of recognition hits me-- the material here is increasingly the same material that I have been studying to put in my own book. At this point, I've seen serious thematic parallels with what I want to write so many times
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This book was recommended on a parenting board regarding discussions on whether to let a baby cry it out or not. It was an interesting, and at the same time a somewhat depressing, read. I found it accessible though it was not dumbed down in any way (the workings of the brain including the chemicals produced are covered in sufficient detail). It was good to see acknowledgements that adequate caregiving does not necessarily have to be provided by the mother all the time. Perhaps a larger Part 3
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The Scientific explanation for what we instinctively know is true.
This is a summery of the research, written for all of us, and so important for understanding how the way we parent our children early on has physical consequences in terms of their brain development.
I would recommend thus to all new parents but also to anyone involved in policy making - it could save society a lot of money and give future generations a chance of greater emotional well -being that would last for centuries to come.
This is a summery of the research, written for all of us, and so important for understanding how the way we parent our children early on has physical consequences in terms of their brain development.
I would recommend thus to all new parents but also to anyone involved in policy making - it could save society a lot of money and give future generations a chance of greater emotional well -being that would last for centuries to come.
I read this as a recommendation from my boss, a Clinical Psychologist, while pregnant. While it's not your standard "prepping for baby" book it was very interesting and gave in-depth psychological information about raising babies, attachment and the development of the brain. Not for anyone wanting a cushy developmental guide, this book gets deep into the neuropsychological basis of love and the need babies have for consistent affection.
I started reading this book thinking that it will be like a guide for a better parenting, but it turned out to be more like a professional literature intended for psychologists. It has some very detailed descriptions of how the brain works, which was fascinating anyway. Didn't contain much novelty for myself, but I think that the information that this book contains and the overall message is crucial for some new parents. Much of the examples are intuitive for most parents, but they are
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This book is a game changer when thinking about tackling the rise in mental health problems. Its all well and good to increase provision of counselling and mental health services but long term we should be aiming to educate parents in how to nurture mentally healthy children.
The book is hard work to read due to the amount of medical information included. Perhaps a more parent-friendly version could be produced! ...more
The book is hard work to read due to the amount of medical information included. Perhaps a more parent-friendly version could be produced! ...more
Perfect for anyone working with parents, or with babies. Teachers, social workers, psychologists, child worker wannabes - should read this! Parents should read this! A fascinating and understandable look into how important love is for babies, and how, unfortunately, due to their own traumas why some parents are unable to give the love that babies need. It's a brilliant read into the complex world of attachment and infant mental health.
I read this as part of a recommended reading for graduate level classes/working as a new clinician. Regardless, every parent, or soon to be parent, should read this book. Developmental psychology and attachment theory is quite fascinating but many folks who read this book will discover why their personality is the way it is, and gives good strategy for raising securely attached children.
I bought this while at uni and should really have read it then. Good and clear reminder of the importance of the first few years of a Childs development and good example of what good enough care actually is!
DNF for the sake of my mental health I can't continue to read all the scientifically proven ways that I might be screwing up the mental development of my tiny baby. Would have loved to have read it significantly pre baby though with enough time to forget the specifics...
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