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Your Ten to Fourteen Year Old

3.88  ·  Rating details ·  168 ratings  ·  27 reviews
The years from Ten to Fourteen are undeniably trying and turbulent years for parents and children alike. Adolescents develop by leaps and bounds during these years, and often find themselves uncomfortable with who they are and what they’re feeling. Parents, too, don’t know what to expect from the adolescent child who is at one moment hostile and glum, at the next carefree ...more
Paperback, 368 pages
Published March 1st 1989 by Dell (first published 1988)
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Jun 11, 2010 rated it it was amazing
This series is indispensable in child raising. They shoot at letting you know what typical children are doing at each age and stage, rather than promoting a philosophy so much. It really helped us know what was normal and what was not. And mainly, it was normal. Who knew? Ms. Ames did.
Apr 11, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2018-women
I’m really sad I procrastinated two years to read this book, finishing it right before my boys turn 12. I’m sad because the book highlights how difficult 11 is... happy because it highlights how great 12 is. I’ve read every book in this series and love them all, finding them to be so insightful about each age. Highly recommend all of these.
Nov 12, 2012 rated it really liked it
this series of developmental books seem perfect for my daughter. I have read many of the ages ( mostly when I am stressed about parenting) and find them to be helpful in realizing what is normal behavior in my girl. My aunt recommended them to me after reading them when my cousin was young. Ageless information.
Jun 27, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
Very helpful for a mom of kids who will be 10, 12, and 14 when the birthdays come up in a couple of months.
May 10, 2017 rated it it was ok
Shelves: put-down
I didn't get to finish it because I had to turn it back in to the library, but I wasn't too impressed. I liked their earlier age specific books, but this one was done differently. For one, it was very repetitive. When they described the research they did to come to their conclusions, I found it highly lacking and not at all thorough. They basically took 100 upper-middle class kids from the same town and interviewed them. I don't see how you can tell what a kid is really like from just an intervi ...more
Oct 07, 2017 rated it liked it
There is valuable information here about child development, but some of the expectations are based on only one subset of society. It could have greatly benefited from including a wider demographic. In addition, this is extremely dated—last published in the ‘80s. It talks about kids using the phonograph, for goodness’ sake. Also, some of the questions in the interviews were leading questions. The same information gathered would be useful in an updated book in which the interviews given were less ...more
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The ten year olds to fourteen.
Jul 30, 2018 rated it really liked it
Excellent as usual, just wish it could be updated with today's issues. However, most info is easily transferred to current situations.
Ash Otterloo
Oct 22, 2017 rated it really liked it
Excellent breakdown of developmental norms, most of the value of the book lies in the first few chapters outlining typical developmental/behaviors for each year.
May 30, 2019 rated it really liked it
Read up to 11, where we are now. Not looking forward to these changes. Ugh
Apr 05, 2012 marked it as dnf-or-set-aside-for-now
Recommends it for: parents of children ages 10-14
Shelves: parenting, nonfiction
I have read many of the age-specific books about children by Louise Bates Ames et al and I have appreciated their timely reminders of what is considered normal for a child that age. It has helped me realize just how age-appropriate our girls' behaviors are.

I borrowed this last book in the series from our local library as our oldest approached the 'double digits.' I have to admit, though, that I procrastinated too long and had to return the book before I was finished. All of the other books are such
Naomi Kenorak
Apr 20, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting
It always amazes me how on-target these books are given their age. It goes to show that while our cultural norms (such as how often we wash our hair) may have changed considerably in the last 30-50 years, the stages of human development haven't. When you're parenting an adolescent, it's easy to feel uncertain about whether certain kid behavior is temporary insanity or regular teenage acting-out. This book helps to answer that question by describing the general trends and changes in thoughts, beh ...more
Jul 22, 2013 rated it liked it
It's important to note that the research for the Ames series ("Your __ -year old) was conducted decades ago, and even the updated edition is pretty old. Some of the societal assumptions are fairly dated, and the families studied are overwhelmingly, if not entirely, white and middle class. Nevertheless, Ames and her colleagues were among the first to study childhood and adolescence as distinct stages, and some of the observations are timeless. I picked this up last summer when my darling girl sud ...more
Diane Zwang
Dec 30, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
I only read the chapters on 11 year-old and 12 year-old because that is the age and stage I am dealing with. I have read several books by Louise Bates Ames over the years. I seem to check them out when my relationship with my kid hits a snag. Originally published in the 1950s some of the information is dated. This is not a parenting book but information about the age and development of the child and that information has stayed the same over the years. I always find her descriptions of behavior u ...more
Nina R.
Jan 24, 2010 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction, browsed
I'm reading different sections of this book! I hope it is promising - kids are tough!!

It did not include specific guidance on academic discipline, as I was hoping for, but I am sure this book will provide useful knowledge for others.
May 23, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015, may, hillsbororeads
While some of the detail about our contemporary society will feel out of date, these books remain as invaluable as ever in thinking about the changes children are going through and what is developmentally appropriate.
Will Mitchell
Mar 15, 2013 rated it liked it
Since this book covers the wide range of 10-14 year olds, and I only have the pleasure of teaching 10 year olds on a daily basis, I stuck with the sections about Tens.
Aug 29, 2012 rated it really liked it
Should re'read this one and skip to the 13/14 yr old part for a refresher.
Jan 16, 2009 rated it it was amazing
All of Louise Bates Ames books are wonderful parenting tools. This one is especially helpful tiptoeing into the teenage years.
Aug 15, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015-reads, parenting
These books are always helpful. Although, I did only read the sections on ten and eleven year olds. I'll have to re-read this as the children age!
Nov 18, 2012 rated it liked it
Some of the statistics are outdated in terms of generational trends, and when this book was first written. But the overall message is still relevant, and very insightful.
Nov 30, 2014 rated it liked it
Dated in some ways but helpful nonetheless.
Jul 18, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting, education
These can be helpful reads, even though they are dated. I think the younger ages are a little bit better but maybe I am just shell shocked about the upcoming years.
Jul 20, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting
I love the gesell institute books on child development. Picked this one up this week for reassurance about my oldest as he grows.
Jul 19, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
These are always insightful.
Aug 17, 2011 rated it it was ok
haven't liked it as much as others in this series. seems 'dated'.
Jan 29, 2013 rated it it was amazing
old but great information. It's hard for parents to know what the 'norm' is and although all kids are unique it is a great springboard.
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Louise Bates Ames was an American psychologist specializing in child development.[1] Ames was known as a pioneer of child development studies, introducing the theory of child development stages to popular discourse. Ames authored numerous internationally renowned books on the stages of child development, hosted a television show on child development, and co-founded the Gesell Institute of Child D ...more