Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception
GET TO THE TRUTH
People--friends, family members, work colleagues, salespeople--lie to us all the time. Daily, hourly, constantly. None of us is immune, and all of us are victims. According to studies by several different researchers, most of us encounter nearly 200 lies a day.
Now there’s something we can do about it. Liespotting links three disciplines--facial recognition training,
Pamela Meyer first intrigued me when I saw her TED talk on deception. There were two key concepts that I’d latched on to and that are echoed in her book. Firstly, that deception is a cooperative act; we buy into deception because of a core desire to have filled (greed, vanity, blissful ignorance, absolution, etc. etc.) The s ...more
The average human being lies 60 to 200 times a day. Almost all of these lies are harmless – lying by omission, lying to protect someone’s feeling, lying to aid social interaction. Sometimes we lie by talking; sometimes we lie by keeping our mo ...more
After Paul Ekman came back from Papua New Guinea, where he discovered that all people universally have 6 basic emotions: joy, sadness, surprise, fear, disgust and anger, he made presentations to therapists working in mental hospitals. They asked him something he had not previously considered: could the nonverbal behaviours Ekman was analyzing reveal whether a person was lying.
The therapists were concerned that mentally ill patient ...more
There are lots of interesting th ...more
-J. D. Salinger, The Cather in the Rye
Being human and being able to communicate and understand each other with our spoken or written words, might make us feel superior in front of other species. We can be on the top of the food chain, the IQ chain and all oth ...more
I read this book after seeing Ms. Meyer's TED talk on the subject of detecting lies. I was hoping it would help me improve at assessing the underlying realities of business conversations. I read it carefully but quickly - I didn't take the t ...more
The second half goes on to talk about ways to sure up your business/association with tips and tricks on building trusting relationships between employees and employers. It also outlines some good negotiation practices and other things probably more important to those with a more business-oriented mind. I was more intere ...more
I have to say, I felt like I needed to take a shower after reading this. And I've decided that I'm okay with the little lies that I'm told - really, I mean it. Go ahead and lie to me. It feels better than analyzing every facial tic or verbal mark.
The book is more about corporate culture than the individual. Write a transcript of a verbal contract and have others review it. Assign specific duties to the contracted. It is more difficult for someone to lie if duties are written out explicitly. Audits can confirm truth telling, and discourage weak and inconsistent messages. Truth audits in a company are ways of reinforcing positive beha ...more
According to one study found that over a one-week period, lies were detected in 37% of phone ca ...more
For a book that advertised techniques to detect deception, I found very few actual techniques in the book, and more anecdotal/stories/scenarios which mi ...more
Today, our reliance on technology in communications enables us to lie more often because we can hide our facial expressions. The approach most often displayed in movies is less eff ...more
The author focus mainly on revealing to the reader the major signs of deception and how to uncover them.
I’ve personally picked this book to understand how people deceit and what signals to look for so that one can dig deeper and seek the truth.
The author as fulfilled my expectations and made me more aware of where to look for evidence. Awareness of the signals makes you discover more about your surround ...more
Sure, you've read most of it before: look out for micro-gestures, find discrepancies between verbal expressions and body movements, inform yourself about the 'target' and trust your gut.
The author goes into detail about the BASIC method used by law enforcement, which I found useful.
The last 3rd of the book deals with detecting fraud and lies from employees in big corporations, which I ignored due to the corporate lingo and lack ...more
Notwithstanding the above, it is still a good read especially if you haven't read any of the works she refers to.
I gave up when I reached the second half of the book. It seemed like an attempt to justify "deception detection". Why not just put it out there and leave the decision as to appropriate use to the reader?
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