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Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: A Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion

3.80  ·  Rating details ·  1,723 ratings  ·  118 reviews
The author of the phenomenal # 1 New York Times bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray has helped millions of men and women achieve lasting love and happiness. Now he turns his wisdom and expertise to one of the most sensitive and essential issues in a relationship: sex. In Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, he explains how we can use advanced ...more
Paperback, 400 pages
Published September 4th 2001 by HarperTorch (first published March 22nd 1995)
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Ahmad Sharabiani
Mars and venus in the bedroom: a guide to lasting romance and passion, c1995, John Gray
John Gray (born December 28, 1951) is an American relationship counselor, lecturer and author. In 1969, he began a nine-year association with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi before beginning his career as an author and personal relationship counselor. In 1992 he published the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which became a long term best seller and formed the central theme of all his subsequent books and
Veronika KaoruSaionji
May 09, 2010 rated it really liked it
Not the bad, but nothing so much amazing.
The best and most important thing for me is near beginning - that men can love deeply mainly during and after good sex. That sex helps them to open their love - and their beloved ones. And it helps them to feel anything at all.
My boyfriend told me often in the past that he has sex with me because he loves me. I denied it angrily - "No, this is not true! You has sex with because you want have sex, because your own pleasure! Dont lie to me!"
But he WAS
I first have to give credit to my husband because as I was reading this I became impressed with him; I realized how good I have it. He is amazing in the bedroom. It seems so easy for him to put me first in his life. He does nearly everything for me that was discussed in this book. He would be ecstatic to know that he is the King of the Bedroom. Hopefully that isnt too much information.

I wanted to read this with hopes of what to look forward to for our sex life after I am done nursing our baby. I
Mar 21, 2016 rated it it was ok
John Gray PHD is an asshole. Apparently a monk that went mainstream and decided to have lots of sex after being celebate for a prolonged period of time and then also decided he knew all about women. He wrote TEN separate books imparting his insightful wisdom to the common man. I could write ten books if all of them are anything like this. A good portion is devoted to whoring out the other nine and what content there is just repeats itself over and over with simplistic common sense phrases and ...more
Joy H.
Apr 08, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: A Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion by John Gray (first published 1995)
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I read this book several years ago and found it to be very enlightening.

I think this book should be given as a gift to all engaged couples. Even married couples might benefit from it. It talks about the subject of intimacy in a straight-forward manner and might help communication between spouses. It teaches couples how to talk about their intimacy-needs using a vocabulary suited
Deborah Berberi
Jun 11, 2008 rated it it was ok
This guys...John Gray that wrote this book is just a little weird when it comes to his idea of what sparks sexual interest in a relationship. Like...his ideas do not fit into the teachings of my religion. Therefore...I only give him two stars for this book. He is a wild sex good for him! It may help people in some respects in learning how men and women are different but, it won't help if the man doesn't read the book as well. Just telling a guy that this book said this or ...more
Jul 12, 2017 rated it liked it
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John Hubenthal
Another book which I did not seek out on my own. Again, I do not agree with many of the concepts and advice given, as they conflict with other moral precepts to which I will adhere. I found it almost bizarre to think the author recommends women always give into their husbands request for physical intimacy...every single example he cited was a "yes" from the women, whether she wanted to or not. He thinks men are too fragile and easily damaged from rejection. I think there are other more powerful ...more
Jul 29, 2008 rated it did not like it
I hesitate to even add this to my list and only do so as a warning. Though Gray makes some valid points, his approach is smutty and tasteless. Anything he offers that is of value is covered in Lamb & Brinley's "Between Husband and Wife", which is the book that I recommend. I do NOT recommend this one.
Holly Ristau
Jun 29, 2016 rated it it was ok
Read summer of 1995: A book to explain how men and women think differently and using this knowledge to make sex more satisfying. The way the author rewrites paragraphs in old to reiterate is really insulting to the reader.
Feb 04, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Nothing groundbreaking here. Just good for the occasional reminder of what you should do to keep the passion alive in your married life.
C.G. Fewston
Feb 12, 2015 rated it liked it
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: A Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion (1995) by Dr. John Gray is a useful book to help couples, either new or old, spark the rhythms of romance back into their relationship. Dr. Gray focuses mostly on sexual aspects in the relationship (as in chapters like Sexual Confidence, The Joy of Quickies, Polarity Sex, Mechanical Sex versus Spontaneous Sex, and Sexual Anatomy and Oral Sex) and the more basic fundamental aspects of a relationship (as in chapters like Women ...more
Jul 31, 2015 rated it did not like it
There were a few insightful stories and tips, but overall I was very disappointed in this book. Although some things can be gleaned, a majority were not in-line with my worldview and standards.
Cecilia Mike
Sep 24, 2007 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Newlyweds, sexually-inexperienced couples
A must have for all sexually-inexperienced couples..
Apr 26, 2013 rated it it was ok
Useful as a springboard for conversation. Just don't swallow his sweeping statements hook, line, and sinker.
Name Third Name
Mar 13, 2018 rated it did not like it
um no thanks. just no. (listened to)
Lance Eaton
Apr 23, 2017 rated it did not like it
This review is focused on both the book and audiobook. While John Grays theory of male/female interactions has kept many of his books on the best-selling lists for weeks and even months, it does not mean he should apply his theory to everything. In this case, he writes a book about the interaction of the sexes during sex. Some points hit home but unfortunately, his emphasis puts him directly in the same category as most audiobooks dealing with intercourse; one will be more amused listening the ...more
Aug 18, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
U expected to hate this book. In fact, I had successfully avoided the book for years until I ended up with a free copy. At that point I figured I may as well read it. Surprisingly, I generally thought the book was pretty good.

Despite the fact that the phrase "love tank" is corny, Gray's point is a good one. He is trying to show people that true happiness and success isn't measured through the external trappings of wealth -- without an inner life, and an inner sense of worth, people will
Apr 22, 2015 rated it really liked it
Wow! Such a necessary read for those engaged or married!! I'll admit it gets a little weird (for conservative Christians) at some points (he recommends masturbation and phone sex), but generally so necessary for couples to know. I think you can boil down a lot of what he says to what I believe is the key to a successful relationship: prioritizing the needs of your mate. No one likes to hear this because we are all naturally inclined to worry about ourselves, first. But time and time again, the ...more
Chris Munson
Aug 15, 2012 rated it liked it
Shelves: relationships
Ordinarily, I wouldnt have picked up Mars and Venus in the Bedroom by itself. It came with the Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" book that I reviewed previously. That book still stands as one of the best relationship books that I have ever read. Sadly, this sequel doesn't really provide the same brilliance. This book more or less focuses on how to improve and/or keep your sex life healthy. The central theme of improving communication outlined in the previous book still takes center stage. ...more
Leanna Manuel
Apr 21, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: psychology
SEX. Now that's a word that gets your attention. Men and women spend great amounts of time thinking about sex, wishing for sex, having sex, and complaining about sex. Few couples have the skills to discuss, request, or negotiate sex or understand why sexual expression becomes so problematic.

Would you like to learn about sex and passion, increase your sexual confidence, rekindle passion, and keep romance alive? If so, consider reading Mars and Venus in the Bedroom by John Gray. While Dr. Gray's
Anna Hellmuth
Feb 02, 2014 rated it it was amazing
What a wonderful book! That's not about technics, but really about what makes sex great. I found biggest emotional answer for every page of it and I agreed with every word written there. I think the was no book about sex that I red that formulated it more clear and truly, definitely liked it most of all from everything written on this subject. It contains lots of great tips and advises both for men and women. On my view the will not be any sexual problems and misunderstandings in couples if both ...more
Bill Conrad
Aug 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I think that all the Mars and Venus books should be required reading. This is a great book that takes a overall approach to how to behave in intimate situations. This does not really get into the mechanics, but rather the social aspects. For example, this is the first time you are seeing your partner in the buff. This can be really intimidating. Mars and Venus in the Bedroom gives a great prospective on how to navigate through these situations and avoid hurt feelings. One topic i enjoyed was the ...more
Counts as 1/2 a book.

If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, I'm from Mercury. Not down to Earth, closer to Venus than Mars, and I'm hot but a bit dense (or so my wife wd say).

Explicit sexual content, neat! Not the best on audio book, in headphones, at work -- I kept taking the headphones off and making sure no one cd hear the words "take it slow, gently rub the labia". But actually a good primer for 20-somethings who don't know a lot about sex.

But the book was not mostly about
Julie Barrett
Oct 22, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom by John Gray
Have liked the series and thought I'd just read all of them. Found it funny how a woman dresses what goes through the man's mind at the time.
Lot of helpful information that is easy to understand about how things are going and how you can make a difference.
I received this book from National Library Service for my BARD (Braille Audio Reading Device).
Nov 18, 2012 rated it liked it
Shelves: read-in-2012
This was a thrift shop find that helped fill a box for cheap, and since what I write has romantic angles, I figured what the hell? The mid-grade was for the repetition of points in many of the chapters (but I guess some readers need the same thing told to them six different ways for it to sink in?). It was certainly an...interesting read....
Feb 03, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
It does provide some useful information but it is not as funny and light as the previous self-help relationship book ghat I read. The author is considerate enough to make every chapter short so that readers remember the facts and have the chancr to try them out after a chapter. I think it is really sweet.
Soha Seliem
I have read it over a year ago, found it very informative, especially of how different genders see lovemaking differently and consequently have different drives, responses, needs, expectations and turnons.
I would recommend it for someone who's getting married, .. yes, mainly engaged and newlyweds.
Mohsin Hussein
Mar 06, 2013 rated it really liked it
I think all couples must read this book before getting married; more specifically ones who haven't had sexual experiences before marriage. Lots of people tend to force their non-realistic sex-life advices on you thinking they truly are helping you!! This book simply and thoroughly explains what to expect from the opposite sex and releases built-up tension most newly weds feel.
Tracy Crook
Mar 09, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Amazing how truly different men and women are. My eyes were opened to a different perspective I must say. Their seems to be even a strategy to relationships which was a bit disappointing to me. I can accept that to a certain extent but their comes a point when I say, "Man up man!"
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John Gray is an American author on relationships and personal growth, best known for his 1992 book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and other "pop psychology" books offering relationship advice.

He was previously married to fellow self-help author Barbara De Angelis, but they divorced in 1984. He is now

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