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When the Man You Love Is Ill: Doing Your Best for Your Partner Without Losing Yourself
When the Man You Love is Ill is a woman's guide to living with a partner facing a medical crisis or chronic illness. How do you understand the male psyche? How do you manage your own feelings of fear and guilt? How do you deal with the loss and keep the family stable? This book helps to heal the relationship with their partners or spouses.
336 pages, Paperback
First published May 8, 2007
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December 30, 2018
I learned about this book in a spousal caregiver group on Facebook. I wish I would have known about it six months ago because my entire fall 2018 might have been different - less difficult. I read the book in a couple of days and now recommend it to anyone with a husband going through illness who requires care. This book saved me on many levels and I plan to read it again with my husband so we can discuss certain aspects of it.
December 27, 2022
Excellent! Don’t hesitate to read this. It does help.
June 8, 2023
It was nice to read the stories of others and to know that my feelings are normal. It has some great advice as well!
October 23, 2012
This book has been incredibly comforting to me. It does a great job of addressing fears, including some that I was unable to nail down or afraid to admit I had. It reminded me to name my fears when I feel afraid or anxious--the fear of feeling the fear is worse than the actual fear.
The book also talks about how to use the situation to strengthen your relationship, not destroy it. That's exactly what I wanted to know. It explains some stereotypical guy behavior--why they act that way and how to encourage them not to. (ex. complaining too much, refusing to do the things that would help his condition, not appreciating you, fighting, being needy, criticizing, yammering, being a huge baby, stonewalling, denying, refusing to accept help) As devastating as this whole situation has been for the past few days, that opened my eyes to how much worse it could be. I haven't had to deal with any of those behaviors. I'm so glad I don't have a stereotypical guy! Mine is so frickin' amazing!
The book also talks about how to use the situation to strengthen your relationship, not destroy it. That's exactly what I wanted to know. It explains some stereotypical guy behavior--why they act that way and how to encourage them not to. (ex. complaining too much, refusing to do the things that would help his condition, not appreciating you, fighting, being needy, criticizing, yammering, being a huge baby, stonewalling, denying, refusing to accept help) As devastating as this whole situation has been for the past few days, that opened my eyes to how much worse it could be. I haven't had to deal with any of those behaviors. I'm so glad I don't have a stereotypical guy! Mine is so frickin' amazing!
April 2, 2008
Definitely a worthwhile read for women who are caretakers for their sick husbands.
December 24, 2013
Anyone living with and taking care of someone they love can use this book. My favorite chapter is on Transformational Love.
July 4, 2015
Great book with some really great advice. Kindle edition - great to have as a reference.
July 4, 2015
Paperback Edition. Excellent resource for caregivers with a chapter for male caregivers included. Keep it close by.
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