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Boyfriends with Girlfriends

3.55  ·  Rating details ·  2,928 ratings  ·  298 reviews
Lance has always known he was gay, but he's never had a real boyfriend. Sergio is bisexual, but his only real relationship was with a girl. When the two of them meet, they have an instant connection--but will it be enough to overcome their differences?

Allie's been in a relationship with a guy for the last two years--but when she meets Kimiko, she can't get her out of her
Hardcover, 217 pages
Published April 19th 2011 by Simon Schuster Books for Young Readers
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Morgan F
Honestly, I did not completely finish Boyfriends with Girlfriends. I read the first 80 pages, then decided I did not want to spend any more time on it. I skimmed, and it doesn't appear I would have benefitted much from finishing it.

I've never read a book by Alex Sanchez, even though I have heard of Rainbow Boys and all the hype that surrounds it. When I got a free copy of this from Simon & Schuster's Galleygrab, I thought I would test the waters before borrowing his other books from the lib
Kat (Lost in Neverland)
Aug 12, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: turtle-pacing




Sort of.

Lance is gay. Allie is straight, but questioning. Sergio is bisexual, and Kimiko is a self-proclaimed butch lesbian.

Lance likes Sergio, but doesn't believe in bisexuality ("But you're attracted to guys, right? Doesn't that make you gay? Why not just come out? Stop hiding!"). Sergio likes Lance, but doesn't like how his ident
Mar 25, 2016 rated it did not like it
initial thoughts:
-a gay guy who refuses to believe bi people exist (lol im sorry but what...)
-"SUPER!!" "SUP DUDE" "COOL" "YEE-HAH" 102828282x per chapter
-bad characters & bad plot
-i cant even talk about what i didnt like vaguely because ill go into rant mode and just spew about everything i didnt like about this book lol
Dec 23, 2013 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: quiltbag-ya
This book sort of read like a screenplay for "How to be LGBTQ" as I imagine PBS would've put on in the 80s. On the one hand, I love that it's really all-encompassing, with L,G,B, and Q characters and a discussion of T. On the other hand, I felt like this book deserved better writing, better follow-through on the storylines...better everything. I wanted this to be a better book so, so badly.

While I found the storyline between Sergio and Lance merely frustrating - when one of you is ragingly biph
Vitor Martins
Esse é um livro cheio de boas intenções, que se propõe a falar se temas muito importantes mas que em alguns aspectos falhou bastante.

O tema principal aqui é sexualidade. Temos personagens gays, héteros, bissexuais e ~curiosos~ e a maneira como o autor foi honesto ao falar sobre sexo me agradou bastante. Os 4 protagonistas são adolescentes e os 4 ou já fizeram ou tem interesse em fazer sexo. Gostei muito disso porque os jovens santinhos em YA não me convencem muito.

O maior problema que encontre
Even though we are in the middle of Queer YA explosion, bisexual teens are rarely the stars of the show. This book, about the complex relationships of love and friendship between four teens (one gay, one lesbian, one bisexual, and one straight) is a great read. It brings creativity as the straight girl wonders if she is bi and the bi guy tries to beat the insecurity of his gay boyfriend. It captures the pace of high school life dead on and manages to nail the romance between the two pairs of cou ...more
May 25, 2011 rated it it was ok
Shelves: lgbt-fiction
Happy as I am to see a book concerning teen bisexuality on the shelves, I can't bring myself to give BWG a higher rating.

I've read many of Alex Sanchez's books before and was therefore surprised at how uncharacteristically bad the writing was. The point of view jumped between the four main characters constantly, sometimes twice in the space of one paragraph. The characters also seemed kind of flat, to be honest; they never really felt three-dimensional to me and I never quite related to any of t
Sep 29, 2014 rated it did not like it
This book is, frankly...

It's embarrassing that this is what we have to represent the lgbtqia+ community and its shameful that this is what we have to offer teens who want bi or qpoc representation in a genre overly full of gay cis white dudes.

First of all, I want to point out that whoever let this book get published obviously forgot what good writing is, blinded by their excitement for some material. The writing is dull, and, frankly, boring. Aside from that, the slang used is written so obviou
UGH. THIS IS TOO MUCH TO TAKE IN. Ah! man. The book is about four whiny teenagers who are stuck up with their feelings they couldn't be sure of it. I was damn tired to read about their pining, insecurities and everything in between.

Let me try to list out few things which I really liked:

1. It shows how people are still not sure whether there is bisexuality. Of course there is. When you believe there are gays and lesbians, then why in the name of hell don't you believe in bis? The chance of bis in
Thorn MotherIssues
Jul 19, 2011 rated it it was ok
I really wanted to like a book that's about bi identity issues in teens and I'm glad that this one is out there, but I'd still recommend Sara Ryan's books if someone wanted a good story that covered some of the same ground. This was just too talky, too preachy, and while it's good that not all the characters were white, the white characters never had to consider their privilege and the Japanese-American girl Kimiko even found the creepy culture-based fascination the white girl Allie had with her ...more
Laura (travelbybook)
Jun 21, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: lgbtq
* 3.5 *
When I first started this book, I didn't really like it. I kinda regreted having bough it for a minute but then I kept reading and things got better.
I love the diversity this book exudes. We've got a Japanese butch lesbian, a Spanish bisexual (my fav character; he is so funny and easy-going), an inexperienced gay and a questioning femme girl.
I loved that the situations were very real and some of the moments felt very relatable. The friendship between Sergio and Kimiko and Allie and Lance
Vignesh Kumar
Jun 18, 2017 rated it did not like it
1.5 stars!
Sep 22, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Lance, Sergio, Kimiko, and Allie. Intelligent and vibrant teens in a contemporary American narrative swirling around skepticism, the swinging pendulum of love and hope, camaraderie, and beauty. This book is well-written, funny, deeply engrossing, and fun from the first page until the very memorable final page to this stellar work of young adult literature with palpable LGBTQ themes. It's quite an entertaining achievement. I loved how Alex Sanchez implied the obvious with the colorful use of symb ...more
Jan 26, 2011 rated it liked it
I don't really know what to think about this book. On one hand, it deals with very real, difficult teenage issues. But on the other, nothing really happens other than discussions of sexuality. But I guess that is was some teenagers need to want, what they need to read. With that said, it was a really quick read and I was entertained.

Boyfriends with Girlfriends follows four main characters. Lance, openly gay; his best friend Allie, bi-curious; Lance, bisexual; and his best friend Kimiko, lesbian
Feb 16, 2018 rated it did not like it
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Mar 09, 2015 rated it it was ok
my second time reading this book, it was less than satisfactory. i can't really adequately describe my disappointment, but i can try.

It kind of hits you over the head with its message: BISEXUALITY IS REAL AND NOT EVERYBODY CAN NEATLY FIT INTO LABELS. Which in and of itself is adequate. i can tell that this book tried really hard to be a comprehensive work of fiction about bisexuality, but i just wasn't feeling it. first of all, it was written poorly. The characters were pretty two dimensional. i
Mad Scientist
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Alex Sanchez is the author. Suburbia is the place. Lance, Allie, Sergio and Kimiko are the teens. Gay Lesbian Bisexual and Transgender is the genre. Mad Scientist is the reader.

This small group are maneuvering through high school while trying to figure out their sexual identities. The story starts to move along with best friend duos. Lance is on the swim team and very proud of being gay. Yes, he is way out of the closet. His best friend,
Jun 19, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I am not a huge fan of Alex Sanchez--I have read almost all his other books and usually find his characters to be either very sterotypical or moved more by the lesson he wants to teach than actual moments of personality. But when I heard that this book was about bisexuals and something not normally coverd in YA I decided to give it a shot.

I'm glad I did.

For me this was the best book of his I have ever read. I honestly cared about Allie, Lance, Sergio and Kimiko as characters each in their own wa
John Amory
Jul 31, 2012 rated it did not like it
Shelves: lgbtq-ya-lit
I wrote a paper for a grad class last summer on this book and Almost Perfect by Brian Katcher. My thesis was basically that LGBTQ young adult literature is expanding, but the focus is primarily on gay, lesbian, and/or questioning young adults. The B and T are largely ignored, and when they aren't ignored... well, the results aren't typically very good. This book was my example of how poorly bisexuality is portrayed in YA lit, because it is a problem. That's how it's presented throughout Sanchez' ...more
For the most part, Boyfriends with Girlfriends was a pretty decent read. There was just one major thing that severely lessened my enjoyment of the book and I am going to address that first.

Lance really bothered me. Initially, he is very biphobic and I hated him for it.

"My main worry is the bi thing....I guess that means he's still coming out" (3).

"I don't believe there really is such a thing as being bi...I just think that you're born gay or straight. One or the other" (64).

Thankfully, Sergio c
I need to stop reading things just because they're queer. Surely there are better novels with actual bisexual representation than this. That said, I also need to stop reading straight people's reviews of queer novels because if I read one more top review that says a book is "hypocritical" because "the characters are focusing too much on gender" RIGHT AFTER THE REVIEWER DECLARES THAT THEY ARE STRAIGHT I'm gonna implode.

That said, my biggest issue with this book, beside it clearly being a very hea
Kate Stericker
Aug 01, 2017 rated it it was ok
Recommended to Kate by: Meck M
I'm reluctant to criticize a book with such strong representation of bisexuality and racial diversity in the lgbtq+ community, but I was disappointed by Boyfriends with Girlfriends. The writing felt wooden and maintained an unwavering focus on the relationships of the four main characters throughout all 217 pages. It often felt as if the protagonists had nothing else happening in their lives and no thoughts that did not pertain directly to the three other characters--even some more general musin ...more
Mar 29, 2015 rated it it was ok
Shelves: ya
I was really disappointed. I knew that this book had bi teens and qpoc- whoo! I've also read several of Alex Sanchez's other books and loved/enjoyed them so I was all set for a good, angsty read through an 'issue book'. This one was very hard to get through. I stopped reading twice in the first chapter because of big issues in character descriptions and centring of whiteness. Overall, the book had too much going on to handle it all in a good way. Like I don't know how to talk about this without ...more
Jan 18, 2015 rated it did not like it
Lance has always known he was gay, but he's never had a real boyfriend. Sergio is bisexual, but his only real relationship was with a girl. When the two of them meet, they have an instant connection--but will it be enough to overcome their differences?

Allie's been in a relationship with a guy for the last two years--but when she meets Kimiko, she can't get her out of her mind. Does this mean she's gay? Does it mean she's bi? Kimiko, falling hard for Allie, and finding it impossible to believe t
May 15, 2016 rated it it was ok
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You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view - until you climb into his skin and walk around in it
~Atticus Finch, To Kill Mockingbird~

While reading this book, I kept spelling the quote above. I am not a phobia nevertheless the idea in this book are new for me. Surprisingly, various emotions were up to the surface when I read this book.

It was nice that every character, Allie, Lance, Kimiko and Sergio, got their own chapters. So I could read all their point
Nicole Craswell
Jan 30, 2017 rated it did not like it
Shelves: did-not-finish
I didn't want to give this a star rating cause I DNFed it at only 20 pages but ughhhhhh based on those 20 pages it would be a 1 star... I HATE DNFing books this soon but I really just can't do it. Which especially sucks since I've been wanting to reading this book for years, it's been on my radar for a while I'm just getting around to reading it now.

Okay, here's my issues: 1) the writing in general feels clunky and awkward, the dialogue feels forced, everything's just a bit too cheesy. 2) Allie
I’m sorry. I tried. I really, really did.

Great topic. Poorly executed.

Problem was this felt more like a textbook example used to educate students in a GSSA more than an actual story. I never got a real grasp on the setting or emotions behind the things being said and done. There wasn’t much to immerse into and it just gave the message a lectured aftertaste.

And I hated the main character (er, well one of the four - there is a lot of head hopping). To put it simply; he was offensive. The only conf
May 19, 2011 rated it it was ok
Shelves: ya, m-m
The book started great. The characters were interesting and the story was interesting. But then I don't know what happened. The characters started to annoy me. Really annoy me. And made me nervous but not in a good way. I mean... the second half of the book is like "I should call him. I shouldn't call him. What do I do? Maybe I should call him. I don't know. Do you think I should call him? What if he thinks I should be the one calling and then I don't call him? No, I'll wait that he calls. But w ...more
C Steiner
Jul 19, 2014 rated it did not like it
I would place any success from Boyfriends with Girlfriends on the fact that it is one of the few books that features bisexual characters. This inclusion was the only reason I picked it up and kept going throughout it. While it is nice that there is some breakaway from the two LGBTQ book models of "sassy gay friend and straight girl sidekick" and "questioning lesbians come out of the closet," the book felt very flat to me. The conversations seemed unrealistic and forced, and none of the character ...more
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Alex Sanchez is the author of the Rainbow Boys trilogy of teen novels, along with The God Box, Getting It, and the Lambda Award-winning middle-grade novel So Hard to Say. His novel, Bait, won the 2009 Florida Book Award Gold Medal for YA fiction. Alex received his master’s degree in guidance and counseling from Old Dominion University and for many years worked as a youth and family counselor. His ...more
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