Why Should I Be The First To Change? - Book

by Chuck Missler, Nancy Missler

Nancy Missler recounts the remarkable transformation of a 20-year Christian marriage in 'Why Should I Be The First To Change?'. She unveils the secret that unlocks the power of God's Love within every believer, offering hope in an era of high divorce rates. The book narrates the Misslers' journey, from meeting to marriage, breakup, and reconciliation. Despite their seemingly perfect life, they faced inner turmoil. Readers learn to revitalize their lives and relationships by letting God's Love flow freely. This discovery also inspired Nancy to teach 'The Way of Agape' globally after 12 years of Biblical research.

119 pages, Paperback

First published June 1, 2004

About the author

Charles "Chuck" Missler was an author, evangelical Christian, and Bible teacher, and former businessman and Air Force officer. He is the founder of the Koinonia House ministry based in Coeur d'Alene, Idaho. Chuck Missler, an honors graduate of the United States Naval Academy, earned his Master of Science in Engineering from UCLA.[1] In 1999, Missler received a Ph.D. in biblical studies from the unaccredited Louisiana Baptist University in Shreveport,[2] an institution founded by the late minister Jimmy G. Tharpe.

Reviews

[Lauren Rust]

I am so thankful someone gave this short book with a seemingly dated cover! I finished it with some serious homework. Inspired & convicted by this simple approach to loving God’s way: die to self and let Christ’s love permeate you. Married or not, worth the read.

*some of the theology woven throughout lacks some depth and grounding in scripture but taken on the whole the main point was excellent.

[Mandi]

This little book is powerful and has saved many a marriage! I just sent it to some Christian friends in the process of divorce and pray it has the same effect on them. This is especially recommended for couple having struggles in their marriage, but I also highly recommend it for any and all married couples, in fact, the principles are for all Christians (married or not) and can also be found in the study 'The Way of Agape' by the same husband and wife authors.

[Joshua Cannon]

This little book packs a mighty punch and contains tremendous wisdom…Chuck is a blessed man to have such a tenacious and godly fighter! I so enjoyed the authenticity and sincerity that Nancy showed in pouring out their story. This is a must-read for all married couples.

[Danica]

The first 3/4s of the book is her life story, and the "solution" is just to turn your problems over to God. While it's a good message, I still feel uncertain about how to actually follow the principle. I think the book could have been condensed to get to the point much quicker.

[Kelly]

This is a short, easy read. It is helpful to be reminded we can only change ourselves with Christ's power. We can't make our change dependant upon our spouse changing. I wish she would have given a little bit more perspective on her husband's change though. Without that it gave the impression that her husband only changed because she changed, which removed responsibility from him, which in my opinion isn't healthy.

[Janna]

a challenging but beautiful look at loving others more than ourselves

I read this along with “The Key” and have been incredibly challenged by it. Sometimes, I found myself arguing with Nancy about some of her points, then realizing through God’s voice and His Word the truth in the knowledge she offered

I do recommend!

[Nicole C.]

This book is great for any marriage or those looking for Gods reconciliation in any relationship! Nancy Missler’s testimony of what God did in her life and marriage is a great reminder of God’s love. I think everyone, young or old, married or single should read this book!

[John]

This was given to me by a friend who found it very powerful. To me, it seemed primarily directed at women, so I didn't relate to it as much. It makes some good points, and I found it a worthwhile read, but the writing and editing quality is poor at best.

[Francine Shrewsbury]

The heart of the matter

Must read. I wasn't exactly prepared for God to speak so loudly thru this book to my heart. But He did. Through this book He was able to hold up a mirror to my soul and I have been blind. I hope it blesses you in the same way.

[Sherrese Holder]

Nice Book

I enjoy reading it. I enjoyed her transparency. Very easy book to read. If you hope your spouse will change you are in for a shocker.

[Symonne Reid]

Good Read

Very practical and relatable easy read. One I have and will continue to recommend to wives who are experiencing difficulties in their marriages

[Jennifer Meux]

The book is a duplicate to their other book just a smaller version.