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This is an EXACT reproduction of a book published before 1923. This IS NOT an OCR'd book with strange characters, introduced typographical errors, and jumbled words. This book may have occasional imperfections such as missing or blurred pages, poor pictures, errant marks, etc. that were either part of the original artifact, or were introduced by the scanning process. We be ...more
Paperback, 384 pages
Published 1981 by De Bezige Bij (first published 1822)
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May 29, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: essays-theory
At first I really loved Stendhal's essays on Love. His theory is that the pains of love are necessary in order to "crystallize" the object of one's love, which basically is a process of transcendence from the real to the ideal, a state which is necessary in real, passionate love. Furthermore, Stendhal dissects love into a number of classifications which range the gambit from passionate romantic love to egotistic physical love to mannered love, etc. It is these meandering discussions of love, wha ...more
Jan 23, 2017 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
یک اثر کلاسیک درباره عشق. کتاب در قرن 19 ام و متاثر از تجربیات شخصی نویسنده به نگارش درآمده و از این بابت نباید توقع داشت با یک اثر دانشگاهی و روشنگرانه روبرو شویم. در واقع این کتاب، شکل تغییر یافتهی رمان رئالیستی ناموفق استاندل به نام عشق بوده و طبقهبندی صرف کتاب در جرگه آثار روانشناسی اشتباه است (کتابی که من خریدم در فروشگاه فرهنگی سروش در راسته کتب روانشناسی قرار گرفته بود). ارزش این اثر ادبی که در نوع خود شاهکاری به زبان فرانسه محسوب میشود، در توصیف ضمنی جو فرهنگی و شرایط اجتماعی و عرف دوران ...more
Jan 25, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Stendhal exorcised his unrequited love for a Milanese
beauty w this philosophical buffet-chaud. Does he grump
or whine? He's too civilized. He offers no practical lessons
but rather extravagant literary exercises. With his awareness
of life's absurdities and human imperfections (including his own), he presents - most seriously - worldly ideas on intimacy, jealousy, pride and national differences. Americans : "They are just, they are rational but they are not at all happy. Is the Bible - or rather th
Jul 25, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I thought this was brilliant. The author uses the effect of crystallization to descibe the bejewelling (word?) effect of love on the person you love. He gives some really startling examples of how people can get fascinated with the feeling that loves gives them and find it difficult to dichotomize that from the person they are supposed to be loving. This is the type of book you should read at 18 because it makes you realise a hundred things you probably acknowledge when you turn 30. Although he ...more
Feb 21, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition

DNF. I don't know on what page, but it was so so boring.

Also the perspective was only from one side. I think that men and women feel differently about love.
Mar 14, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: smitten kittens
If your fires of classical romance need fanning, turn to this gem. This is one of those books that can convince you of humanity's pervading spirit; the timelessness of emotions and experiences that in the moment seem so seethingly personal, yet to discover that they are shared, almost exactly, by others who lived hundreds of years before you.... I am only giving it 4 stars to prove that I can review something without giving it 5 stars but this book probably deserves all of them because it can be ...more
Mar 26, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Many truths in this book, but the pain was still there when I finished.
Jul 25, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfic
আমার আসলেই পড়ে ভালো লাগছে - আহামরি কোনো বই না একেবারেই, মোটামুটি পরলাপসরবসব একটা বই, কিনতু সতেনদল উপনযাস ভালো লিখতেন, তাই গদযটা তার নোখের ডগায়, তার উপর তার উপনযাসে চরিতরদের চিনতার (পড়ুন পযাড়ার) পরিধিও বেশ বড়, পরেম নিয়ে লিখতে গিয়ে এই লোক হড়কে যাবেন না এটা কিছুটা হলেও সবাভাবিক। তাই মাঝে মাঝে কলানত করলেও পড়ে আরাম, নিজের পরেমের বিষয়ে দুইশ বছর আগের কারো পরিষকার মনতবয পড়তে যতটা আরাম হওয়া সমভব।

কিছু জায়গায় বাঁধাধরা সবগতোকতি, কিছু জায়গায় সরেফ শসতা মনতবয, কিনতু শেষ বিচারে সুনদর বই। না পড়লেও অবশয কিছু আসে
Б. Ачболд
This very proper and apparently dry book on ‘love’ is actually pouring with warmth and feeling. It explains . . . everything. If you think you are not interested in love, you should pick this up. Don’t skip the prefaces.

As a writer, Stendhal is like those conductors (e.g. Mravinsky) who refrain from sentimentality in most of the notes, so that the notes that are allowed to break free come in to a sharper contrast (i.e. tear your heart out). But he’s never cold or detached: or detached in appeara
Oct 30, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A scientific research, called "On Love" by Stendhal is presenting love in all forms, such as Passion, Desire, Jealousy, Courtesy, Platonic, Savage and Pure. He crystallized all stages through his own experience, tormented by a going astray love affair. It's a bible of love!
Rosa Ramôa
Jan 12, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

Quatro tipos de amor:
-o amor-paixão
-o amor-gosto
-o amor físico
-o amor-vaidade."
Mar 19, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: essays
LOVE. (1822). Stendhal. **.
Marie Henri Beyle (a.k.a. Stendhal) was born in Grenoble in 1783 and died in 1842 after suffering a stroke. Most of his life was spent as a political correspondent, but he managed to fit in quite a bit of writing on his own behalf – mostly lives of musicians and travel books. This book was called his first novel, although it is certainly not a novel. It reminds me more of Burton’s “Anatomy of Melancholy” than of any novel I can think of. offhand. “Stendhal always cons
Howard Olsen
Sep 28, 2007 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is a work belongs with Stendhal's works of social and cultural criticism, rather than his brilliant noves. Regardless, all of the qualities he brings to his fiction are present here-irony, psychological acuity, poetry, satire, radical politics, etc. "On Love" is not a roses-and-candlelight affair, nor is it a 19th century version of "How to Pick Up Girls." Stendhal is interested in the psychology of love, especially the question of what makes someone focus their passion on a particular man ...more
Apr 07, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Not a book you have to read all at once. Neither do I feel there is a need to read it in a chronological fashion. Stendhal does a good job analysing the very difficult subject that is love. Particularly amusing is concerning the love life of nations. Here France, Italy, Spain, England and Germany are some of his examples.
Maybe a bit stereotypical, but definitely some truths in his observations!

There is a section called various fragments that consist of quotes, anecdotes which is very interestin
Eduardo Pereira
Jan 03, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Havia no tempo de Stendhal minas de sal em Salzburgo. Qualquer corpo estranho, como um ramo seco, que viesse a cair na salina, acabava por perder a forma inicial e cristalizava. Ficava irreconhecível. Assim S. associa o amor, em seus efeitos no nosso psiquismo, à uma espécie de cristalização. Para além de seu êxtase originário, desconfiança, ciúme, insegurança, mesmo decepções (o impressionante capítulo "Da diferença do amor nos dois sexos"), fazem parte da maturação desse sentimento (o caso da ...more

درباره ی عشق تلاش استندال است برای تفسیر پیچیدهترین نوع عاطفه ی بشری «عشق احساس مدار». استانداال در رده بندی انواع عشق - عشق پرشور، رسمی، تنانه، خودخواهانه – هفت مرحله را تفکیک میکند. در عین حال میتوان پشت تفکرات نویسنده تلاش او برای تسکین عشق رنجدیده اش را هم مشاهده کرد.
قسمتی از کتاب
در معاد نمک سالزبورگ، شاخه ی نازک درختی خشکیده از تاراج زمستان در گودی چاله ی متروکی فرو می افتد؛ دو یا سه ماه بعد، میتوان آن را پوشیده از کریستالهای درخشان یافت. شاخههای کوچکش، از پنجههای یک گنجشک بزرگتر نیست، به ا
Olga Vallinsgren
I think this is essential reading in the topic of love, or passionate love more precisely. No matter how much you think you know already, the insights in this book will still fascinate you.
Wu Shih
Riflessioni sull'amore intermezzate da aneddoti (presi dal fantomatico manoscritto di Lisio Visconti). Alcune intuizioni interessanti, nel complesso non troppo interessante e certamente non nelle mie corde. Alcuni frammenti:

Lasciate lavorare la testa di un amante per ventiquattr'ore, ed ecco cosa troverete. Alle miniere di sale di Salisburgo, si getta, nelle profondità abbandonate della miniera, un rametto d'albero spoglia a causa dell'inverno; due o tre mesi dopo lo si ritrae coperto di cristal
Sep 06, 2015 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: clásicos, francia
Del amor o "De l'amour" en francés es una obra muy particular de Stendhal, según algunos una de sus obras favoritas. Lo leí debido a que le tengo en muy alto gracias a sus novelas "Rojo y Negro" y "La cartuja de Parma" que son mis favoritas y las he releído varias veces. Pero Del amor, a pesar de su título que pudiera parecer novelesco es más bien un ENSAYO del autor muy personal pero al fin y al cabo hecho para probar algunas de sus afirmaciones sobre todo lo relacionado a las relaciones sentim ...more
Jul 07, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorites
aha! finally, finished. yet, this is one of those books that are meant to be studied rather than hastily devoured, thus I will retract any penalty upon myself. in fact, I will probably re-read this one again, which doesn't happen very often in my world.

to think that someone was so dismantled by rejection in love that he set out to travel the continent and write an entire two books about the ins and outs of love. and this is what Love by Stendhal is. although dated (duh), whatever angle in romant
I consider this book a history of love, because Stendhal draws his conclusions on one hand form the multiple ideas that were expressed in different ages of the past and on the other from his own experiences. This, I think, is the only way you can explain love; you experience it, you create your own explanations and when you get to a point where you don't understand what is happening, you go back in time to see how others saw it. Everybody knows how hard it is to express feelings and how hard it ...more
Jun 07, 2015 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is not a novel, but more of a dissertation of Stendhal's poignant, intense and sometimes hopeless view of passionate love. A lot of his ideas resonated with me, particularly the "crystallisation" and I underlined passages furiously throughout. The anecdotes are very tender and romantic, and make me want to live in the 19th century forever. The second part of the book, the "Fragments" I found a bit disjointed. I think my understanding of some of the themes would have been enhanced by a more ...more
Aug 03, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I still don't have a girlfriend, but then it was never marketed as a self-help book. I am consoled by knowing that as of 1822 this could already be said of the United States: "love there has become impossible."
Aug 14, 2009 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
"That you should be made a fool of by a young woman, why, it is many an honest man's case." (The Pirate, vol. III, page 77)...
Katrin Kirilova
Скъпи, Стендал. Куртоазната любов, за която говориш, не съществува вече. А и не вярвам някога да е съществувала в практиката, така както в теорията на романтистите.
Feb 25, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A witty book with lots to chew on.

Marie Henri Beyle, known through his writings as Stendhal, was born in Grenoble in 1793. He followed Napoleon’s campaigns in Italy, Germany, Russia and Austria. In between wars, he spent his time in Paris drawing-rooms and theaters.

After the fall of Napoleon, he retired to Italy, adopted his pseudonym and started to write books on Italian painting, Haydn and Mozart, and travels in Italy. He left Italy in 1821 due to the political situation, and returned to Paris
An interesting analysis, not only of love (as Stendhal tries to explain it) but of a historic perspective towards it. A little chaotic, but full of information. One can see how sceptical he was about this subject.
Mohammad Mirzaali
شاید قدری تاریخمصرفگذشته به نظر برسد و اشارههای جابهجایش به تفاوتهای زنان و مردان به مذاق برخی خوش نیاید، اما، با وجود ترجمهی بدش، خواندنی بود ...more
Kate Savage
All my favorite French authors gush about Stendhal, so I gave him another chance.

I still may be a bit underwhelmed by this plotless hodgepodge of ideas. This doesn't mean I'm not charmed by Stendhal. Maybe even a little seduced. Stendhal's belief in equality and justice doesn't come from dry politics, but from an impulse toward pleasure and joy. He wants everyone to enjoy leisure and education because then you can be in raptures together over Shakespeare and cumulonimbus clouds. Outlaw the educa
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