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Was That Really Me? How Everyday Stress Brings Out Our Hidden Personality

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Outlining the stress patterns of 16 personality types using the framework of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, this book includes startling information on work-related stress and long-term stress.
Paperback, 228 pages
Published August 13th 2002 by Nicholas Brealey
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K.M. Weiland
Aug 13, 2014 rated it really liked it
I've been growing more and more interested in MBTI and grabbed this book out of a desperate need to finally figure out how the heck the cognitive functions played a role in determining type. If nothing else, this book gets my undying gratitude for helping me understanding how the introverted and extroverted functions play a role in each type - and how they *determine* the type.

The book is heavy going and took me about twice as long to read as it should have. But I learned a ton about MBTI in gen
Jun 14, 2013 rated it really liked it
Quite honestly one of the most fascinating and enlightening things I've ever read. The author stresses multiple times that she is writing a purely informative study and not a self-help book -- and she adheres to this vision, providing readers with neither advice on "curing" their inferior personality functions nor excuses on which to blame their actions while in "the grip" of this state. Nevertheless, she opens a world of communication through introducing these terms. If you or a loved one, then ...more
May 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Anyone who has talked to me recently has probably had to listen to me talk about cognitive functions and this book. If you aren’t sure what your Myers Briggs type is now, this book can almost certainly help you confirm it. The emphasis in this book is also on the weaknesses of each type and how to use that knowledge for growth. The sections on my type and my husband’s were spot on and I feel like I better understand the psychology behind MBTI and cognitive types much better...even if I am still ...more
Jonathan Karmel
Feb 23, 2016 rated it liked it
According to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator®, people tend to fall into one of sixteen personality types, based on the combination of these 4 dichotomies: people are either Introverted or Extroverted; people tend to rely more on Sensing (believe in observable facts) or more on iNtuition (trust impressions, look for future possibilities); people tend to be Thinking or Feeling; and people are either Judging (prefer to have things resolved) or Perceiving (prefer to keep options open). For example, ...more
Apr 14, 2014 rated it really liked it
Not a bad book. Best if you know something about the subject material going in, but it does do an overview of the basic functions of each type. It's fascinating how different types act on their inferior functions under stressful situations -- how the thinker types become emotional, and the other types can become paranoid or reckless. I found the inferior Se grip of the INXJs fits me to a T -- it explains my behavior in times of intense stress.
Clemens Lode
Feb 01, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Great insights :) While I skimmed over the basic type descriptions and "real life recounts" in the middle, and while I already made similar conclusions myself, the discussion of the inferior function really gave me a new insight of who I am. I know now better when to step back and take a deep breath - but also when to follow through with something.

Recommended for anyone interested in a more balanced inner life :)
Sheree Tampus
Jan 09, 2016 rated it liked it
A very insightful read on the analysis of stress and stressors each personality type. The language is formal and direct, although it would be much more interesting if the personalities were analyzed individually instead of pairing them up. Nevertheless, a very interesting read and detailed introduction into the study of typology.
Aug 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Excellent explanations of how the MBTI types react under stress! I highly recommend this book for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of MBTI & why people can seem to act outside their personality type or even test as the opposite type. ...more
Jess Dollar
Aug 28, 2018 rated it really liked it
A very interesting MBTI book looking at the inferior functions.
Katarina Stenstedt
Oct 10, 2018 rated it really liked it
If you know a lot about Myers-Briggs typology, this book is a fascinating and helpful deep dive. If you're just getting started with the MBTI, this probably isn't the best place to start.
May 05, 2020 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I'm not shocked that the reviews for this book are so high; it's such a torture to get to the very end of this book when you don't like it. But I forced myself to do it just to write this goddamn review.

Okay, so first thing first. God, the language used in this book is just awful. Hard to focus on and hard to understand, this typical "scientific" language that doesn't really try to make the reader understand, just wants to use the most difficult words it can think of. That said, a lot of non-fic
Sean Paul Irwin
Oct 22, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
5-star book. It helped me understand myself and others better. I didn't read the entire book from cover to cover merely reading up on the people I know personality types. However, I will turn to it every time I'm dealing with someone with a particular personality type to understand them better. You have to practice detecting peoples MBTI because it can be awkward asking them to take the test lol, for those I know, it'll be straight forward. However, I think I learnt what to look for and what que ...more
Helen Hnin
A deep-dive into inferior functions! I didn't really recognize my inferior function in play before now. If you have a pretty good knowledge about mbti and function stacks, I recommend this to you.
Simon Weinberg
Dec 05, 2017 rated it really liked it
Excellent, fascinating book which I highly recommend if you are a fan on Myers-Briggs and wat to take it to the next level.
Mar 26, 2013 added it
I normally don't read these sorts of mass-market self-help books, but this was recommended to me by a speaker at a recent conference (WELL, Women Educators and Language Learners at NWEC, the National Women' Education Center) and I am really glad to have found it. This is truly insightful analysis based on solid research. I became interested in the Myers-Briggs Typology Index back in the nineties and was typed as an INFP. Quenk (Berkeley) fine-tunes the MBTI to show that it's not just a system of ...more
Mohammed Saeed
Dec 15, 2009 rated it it was amazing
I know about MBTI personality types but some ppl really behave opposite to their personality including accurately indicate the state of not being oneself...regarding my personality it gives the exact thoughts passes my head..really deserve reading for all who is interested in MBTI personality
Mar 02, 2016 rated it really liked it
A real self help book. Read it if you what to know how you behave under stress.
Dec 05, 2013 rated it it was amazing
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Great book on personality types.
Sep 24, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Such a good read! I learned a lot about how and why I respond to stress the way I do.
Aug 22, 2019 added it
Provides a new lens to examine relationships and self.
Dec 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2019
For the more intermediate MBTI user. Quenk offers interesting insight to her research and clients through her theory of grip behavior. Fascinating if you're into this kind of thing.
Melson Chun
Nov 23, 2014 rated it it was amazing
an excellent explanation follow-up book to the world of myers-briggs
Donna Dunning
I found it really helpful to understand how different people tend to respond to stress.
Mar 21, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I loved that how the personality types were dissected and analysed.
Knowing self's strong and less strong points is rewarding as you know that there is so much room for growth.
Good read!
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