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The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective

4.08  ·  Rating details ·  5,516 ratings  ·  234 reviews
Martha Peace, a nouthetic councelor of women, has written an Excellent Volume. Not only does it explain what God "requires" of a Christian wife, but it explaines clearly how to obey God's commandments in order to become that wife. Get it, read it and profit from it.""The Excellent Wife" is an absolute must for women today. This book is a welcomed first because it is a Scri ...more
Paperback, 256 pages
Published August 1st 1997 by Focus Publishing (MN)
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Jun 18, 2009 rated it did not like it
Shelves: christian
I am currently hosting our women's bible study & we are going through this book. I am a conservative Christian(for those of you wondering, I attend a Baptist church). I have finished 6 chapters in this book which was highly recommended. I, however, would not recommend this book to anyone, particularly if they are a non-christian or a new christian. Pearce is hypocritical as well as unrealistic in her expectations for women. She begins a chapter telling women that their purpose is to glorify God, ...more
Apr 14, 2011 rated it did not like it
I do NOT recommend this book.

Although I do not necessarily disagree with the overall message of the book, it is delivered in a manner that, as one friend I lent the book to put it, "makes me feel bad about being a woman. She writes as though she thinks very poorly of women." Frankly, I couldn't agree more. The old adage says, "it's not what you say, it's how you say it," and that feels especially true with this book. The author may have some good things to say, but she says them in such a condes
Feb 27, 2012 rated it did not like it
Shelves: non-fiction, gender
I'm not exactly sure what to say about this book. I read it for a very specific purpose and was about as appalled as I thought I might be. Among many questionable interpretations, the most horrifying piece was the graphic that represented a man's and woman's relationship with God as three points on a triangle. God, at the top, imbues His image on both Man and Woman. Man can offer glory to God in a direct way. However, a woman cannot glorify God, because she is created to glorify Man. Yup. Infogr ...more
Apr 25, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Let me go on record to say that I know Christian women who couldn't handle this book. Martha Peace, full of wisdom, leads the Christian woman in freedom from judging her husband and understanding her own God-given role as a helpmeet suitable. The call of a Godly wife is mandated by God, not based upon the conduct of her husband. This is a powerful book. If you aren't ready to submit to God and submit to your own husband as unto the Lord, don't bother picking this book up. ...more
Oct 23, 2009 rated it it was amazing
My FAVORITE Book of all time for wives!!! I cannot say enough about this book. I was blessed to be a part of an online Bible Study with other women discussing this book in weekly lesson/discussion format. I was also doubly blessed to be able to take over the online discussion group and lead this study. This book is life-changing!! The light is taken off of the husband and focused on the wife. I learned that it wasn't my husband at was me that I needed to focus on. God changes and work ...more
Laura Rogers
Apr 23, 2009 rated it did not like it
This book is really demeaning to women. My husband hated it and wanted me to throw it out - does that mean I should obey him and do it? Because I am supposed to obey my husband in all things, right? Well, in this case, I did. Chalk one up for the fire pit.

Upon reviewing my review - I realized I sounded...harsh. Some people may find this book helpful - I did not.
Courtney Carlson
I agree in principle with much of what she said, but unfortunately her tone was condescending, her writing style poor, and her emphasis decidedly unbalanced.

Scripture is clear on the fact that the man should lead and the woman should not. The principle of submission and headship is important and biblical but it's not the foremost theme of marriage. The first mention of marriage in Scripture is as a cure for loneliness -- Adam needed a companion and a helper; the Song of Solomon never mentions th
Heather Hartman
Nov 21, 2013 rated it did not like it
I can NEVER recommend this book to anyone. I understand her perspective, but it is poorly written. The author condescends to readers in such an insulting way. Marriage is more complicated than she makes it seem with her lists of things to do for your husband. I was truly saddened as I read this book to think of women who are married to abusive men and think that God has called them to endure beating and berating merely because they are women and that is their lot in life. There are many other wo ...more
Jami Balmet
Dec 29, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Peace gives a thorough and Biblical breakdown of what it means to be an excellent wife according to God's standards and not our own. She takes Scripture and illustrates the main ideas with examples from her own life. If you want a great groundwork for what it means to be a godly wife, start reading this right away! ...more
Some really mixed feelings on this book. While I agreed with so much of what was in the book, Peace has a tendency to state some unBiblical things regarding glorifying the husband. While most Christian women could read this and recognize some of the flaws in it, I could never recommend it to someone unless they knew what they were getting into and were ready to search out and disregard some unbiblical statements she makes. I'm sure there are more theologically sound books out there that encourag ...more
Dec 13, 2015 rated it did not like it
I threw it across the room once I finished reading it, then proceeded to pray for my daughter. May she never agree with this ideology.
Jul 11, 2020 rated it it was ok
This book is a little tricky for me to review.

I consider myself to be a fairly conservative Christian. I would say that I am getting more conservative as I age (I'm currently 34). I grew up in an Evangelical Free church and now my husband and I attend an independent Baptist church. I believe in complementarianism (that men and women have different but complementary roles and responsibilities in marriage) and that in God's design, the husband leads the wife. I believe that before God, men and wo
Nov 12, 2015 rated it did not like it
In the book The Excellent Wife, Martha Peace claims to provide a biblical perspective on marriage. Instead, she provides a disturbing view into the dysfunction of patriarchal, authoritarian marriages, supported by the author’s own views and an array of twisted Scripture. In addition, the tone of the book presents an unbalanced and unhealthy dynamic within the marriage relationship, casting the husband in the role of “parent” and the wife in the role of “obedient child.” The husband is presented ...more
Mar 26, 2017 rated it really liked it
This is an excellent book for newly married or in between but would be very useful in marriage counseling.
Jul 20, 2015 rated it really liked it
Looking at reviews for this book, it seems to be quite polarizing. People either love it or hate it! And I can totally get that. As for me, I loved it, but I'd be hesitant to recommend it to someone unless I knew them really well, because it is definitely a challenging book. The author makes a lot of great, Biblical arguments, but the reason I'm not giving it 5 stars is because I wish she dove a little deeper into some of her explanations. She gives a Bible verse, and a one paragraph explanation ...more
Oct 26, 2009 rated it it was ok
Facilitating a study on this book. Covers the basics of biblical marriage and wifehood. Somewhat impersonal, but well-packed with scripture. Comes across a bit legalistic. It's a good book to discuss with readers, to make sure the role of God's grace in becoming an "excellent wife" is understood. ...more
Sara Larson
May 03, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Such a helpful resource for wives. It is PACKED with scripture and points to hard biblical truths with a lot of grace. The specific chapters in the last portion of the book are especially helpful.
May 10, 2012 rated it it was ok
I've only read through 8 chapters so far....and so far, I've either read stuff that was good but I've heard many times elsewhere in far better books, or stuff that frankly made me mad. I agree that sometimes when truth hits us, it can make us mad at first, etc. etc. but things she says in this book are IN MY OPINION, HER opinion, and not Biblically sound. She starts off one chapter saying women should glorify God...but then changes her mind to it all be about us glorifying our husbands, not God. ...more
Mercedes Cordero
Sep 28, 2010 rated it really liked it
I read this book a long time ago (it was recommended to me by my Pastor's wife), so I don't remember the specifics of it, except that it helped me a lot with my priorities. Before, I used to think that I needed a great job (among other things) to feel fulfilled. After reading this book, I realized that first and foremost, my goal in life should be to glorify God, and second, to be a good wife to my husband. Third, a good mother to my son. The rest, then, falls into place, at least it did for me. ...more
Abby Brown
Mar 01, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I really enjoyed reading this book. It's filled with practical application and encourages self-relfection/evaluation. There is an admirable amount of wisdom from Martha Peace for Christian wives (or wives-to-be)! She thoroughly covers topics such as a wife's right (or true) understanding of God, sin, relationships, marriage, and her role within that marriage. Additionally, she writes about Christ, the home, love, respect, intimacy, and submission. Toward the end of the book she discusses the pra ...more
This is my least favorite marriage book. Peace seems to think that if we just buckle down and “do” then we will be an excellent wife. While I do believe there is a lot of choice to humble oneself and put another first, I also believe this can only come out of a secure relationship with Christ. I feel Peace does not do a good job conveying this and thus has produced a book that is more burdensome than helpful to her readers. I know there are a lot of women who have used it and been blessed by it, ...more
Kayley Griffin
May 15, 2021 rated it it was amazing
This was a very excellent book! The author does a great job explaining everything in a way that is easy to understand. Everything she says is supported strongly by scripture. Definitely recommend this book to women seeking the biblical view of this topic.
Jun 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I think when I attend wedding showers from now on, I’m going to give out a “Godly Marriage Book Collection”, and this book will definitely be included in the set.
May 16, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2012
This was a hard book to just read through but read through I did. It is a book that I will pick up again and do the study guide that came with it as there is much that I needed here. I know that other women in my family and church would greatly benefit from doing the study as well.

I agreed with most everything in this book. This is the life I have tried to live. But I did pick up a few more things that would help me to please God more in my relationship with my husband. There are chapters includ
Jill Johnston
Jan 23, 2012 rated it really liked it
Martha Peace gives a practical look at what it means to have a Christ-centered marriage and how to be a godly wife. I've been married for 22 years to an incredible and godly man and while I am so thankful for our wonderful marriage, I am glad for the opportunity to seek to be a better wife every day. I'm currently reading the book and completing the corresponding study guide with a friend and we both hope that God will use us and the study to "train up" young married women who desire to honor Go ...more
Nina Singhapakdi
This book got the two stars because it's obviously very scripture-based and it's extremely thorough. However, a lot of the advice contained within are more reflective of the author's time period (70's?)/personal conviction than they are reflective of scripture. The book is pretty biblical, but it's not particularly memorable (I just finished the book ten minutes ago and can't bring up something really great that I learned/will keep with me) or encouraging. Instead of simply saying, "If you _____ ...more
Karen & Gerard
Jan 26, 2009 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Any woman who wants to be a better wife or Christian woman with an unbelieving husband.
This book has a wealth of scriptural advice for wives concerning their call to be a wife. I never thought of it this way before. The most foundational tip was to respect and be submissive to your own husband, seeking to be a "helper suitable" to him and to practice "mutual sanctification." Any woman who wants to be a better wife should read this book and start practicing the principles discussed. It also has encouragement and advice for Christian women who are married to unbelievers. It makes fo ...more
Megan Larson
Jun 17, 2016 rated it liked it
3.5 stars. I read this a while ago and found it helpful and challenging. I would describe it as extremely and thoroughly practical. Christian marriage is just such a beautiful mystery and this book tends to be heavy on the dos and don'ts and light, in my opinion, on the inspiring and joyful reasons for the dos and don'ts. In the search for the perfect book on marriage, aside from the Bible, I have not found one. This one is, however, a helpful addition to the library. ...more
Feb 04, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Definitely!!
A must read for every wife, especially in the first year. It has still been help to remember what I read all those years ago when it was all new! Take it slowly though. It's a hard one to race through. ...more
Zinnada Hodges
Jun 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: box-2
I'm a MARTHA PEACE fan!!! LOL I love that she is ALL BIBLE. She leaves you with what God's words say not just HER experiences, etc. This is a good book for every married woman to have on her shelf and for single women too. ...more
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Martha Peace is a biblical counselor with the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors. She is the author of many books and speaks and teaches nationally and internationally.

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