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The Control Book is about the fine art of taking control of your partner. It's about the processes involved, about taking control, using control, about ensuring that you have control, and-importantly-about giving control back once you are done with it. The book discusses how this works-the psychology of it-and looks at what can go right, and at what can go wrong and how to ...more
Paperback, 200 pages
Published July 28th 2009 by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform (first published March 1st 2007)
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Emma Sea
Mar 19, 2014 rated it did not like it
"There are many aspects of [control] which I haven't dealt with for various reasons" (p. 167) because it was easier to throw some obvious platitudes on the page and call it a book.

I am not involved in BDSM in any way. I wanted to read this to counter some of the more ridiculous fiction versions of BDSM that I've read in the last couple of years. I have to say, Peter Masters comes across as a bit of a dick, plus the book was boring, and didn't address what I thought it would.

I expected to get a d
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Alex Lowe
Apr 12, 2014 rated it liked it
- How kinky?
Not particularly. Many do consider and define the psychological aspects of BDSM to be kinky, but you aren't going to find anything in here about any kink except the titular.

- How sexy?
Not. Quite dry and academic. Exactly what can be expected from such a volume.

- How informative?
Very. The introduction does say that it's not a book for beginners, but it sure reads that way at times. A lot of the info was very basic. That said, it does have a lot of info that may not be commonly known t
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Jennifer
Sep 02, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This is a very hands-on, how to do it, why it works detailed instruction book with thought provoking questions at the end of every chapter. This is not a new area of thought for me, but still there were interesting points raised in the discussion of the various chapters regarding training. I'd recommend this for someone just starting out as well as someone with some experience under their belt.
Julian
Feb 21, 2018 rated it really liked it
Peter shares many insightful theories on the nature of control and how to manage it in the context of a D/s relationship. As a newbie, this resource has been eyeopening.

The only thing I did not like was that he never provided any answers to his own questions. It would have been more valuable to get his perspective than leave the reader guessing.
Glyn
Mar 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
An insightful and clear consideration of the practicalities of Dominants dealing with control sensitive submissives in a D/s relationship.

Masters writes from experience and deals with many aspects in seperate chapters. The tone is never preachy. Masters never claims to have definitive answers or a guaranteed way of handling any situation. Instead, he sets out the area, e.g communication puts forward how he believes the situation stands and finishes the chapter by posing general questions to prov
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Aenea Jones
Oct 05, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: read-nonfiction
No. Just no.

I understand there are people who want to be controlled, and that such relationships are consensual.
But I still think it's a pathological condition to want or need to control and manipulate other people. It's dehumanizing. And it probably stems from a deep form of trauma.
Maybe at some point, control has been taken from those people, and they felt utterly helpless, and now need to compensate for this feeling by controlling others. In any case, they should try therapy.

Tim Knight
Aug 19, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
This is one to be re-read in a couple of months. Much to think about...
Sinclair
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wanted it to be good. unfortunately pretty basic.
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