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Don't Ever Tell: Kathy's Story: A True Tale of a Childhood Destroyed by Neglect and Fear

really liked it 4.0  ·  Rating details ·  2,075 Ratings  ·  94 Reviews
'I feel my story had to be told. So much evil was done there was a voice inside me shouting, "Justice".'

With no one to confide in, Kathy suffered in silence as she was battered by her father and molested by local boys.

At the age of eight, she was torn from her family and incarcerated in a series of Catholic homes. When she was sent to a psychiatric unit, she suffered terri
Paperback, 304 pages
Published May 18th 2006 by Mainstream Publishing (first published June 9th 2005)
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Mar 20, 2013 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
What a load of crap. After reading about 70 pages, the story didn't ring true. While I understand that people do have horrendous lives and tales of abuse, this was so over the top. There did not seem to be a single person of influence that this young girl encountered who was kind to her. On the balance of probabilities, your going to come across a decent person somewhere along the way. Anyway, I did a search on the internet, and sure enough, the story was discovered to be a hoax. I'm familiar wi ...more
Nov 28, 2012 rated it did not like it
As has been well documented by now, “Kathy’s Story/Don’t Ever Tell” was an elaborate hoax. The whole unsavory case tells us a lot about the culture of lies, deceit and false accusations targeting the Catholic Church since 2002. The book became a best-seller in Ireland and Britain. Yes, incredibly, 400,000 people were conned. In reality, they are but a tiny fraction of the millions who have been duped over the last decade.

Kathy O’Beirne claims she spent years as a slave to sadistic nuns in the Ma
Sabrina Rutter
After watching the movie "The Magdalen Sisters" I wanted to know more about the Magdalen laundries and it's victims.
While many believe that this is a fabricated story the author sticks to her claim that it's true and I believe her. I have done a lot of research on the internet and know that many women and girls suffered horribly in these laundries.
This is one of my favorite books.
This book is the same as "Don't Ever Tell: Kathy's Story: A True Tale of a Childhood Destroyed by Neglect and Fear"
Caroline Barker
Jun 08, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Chilling is not the word for this book. It is horrific and appalling how these State institutions in Ireland were treating their youngsters and female occupants.

I have read articles that claim this book to be untrue, however untrue or not I personally believe that there must be certain aspects that are true and it is up to the individual reader what they believe. Nobody can deny though that some of the torture and abuse that is written in this book has taken place at one time or another somewher
Dec 26, 2012 rated it did not like it
Read this book and then discovered that it has been discounted as being untrue, which I found very disappointing. this really disturbed me as people who write these books only give leverage to those who want to believe that these things only happen rarely and that most are false accusations. It does a grave disservice to those who truly have suffered abuse and gives voice to those who insist that the majority of claims are false or have little impact. However that being said I wonder if there is ...more
Mar 26, 2010 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I was sooooo disappointed when looking this book up on internet i found out it was all a lie. I lived in Ireland 5 years and I love it, and i feel a bit irish, I wanted to know more about the magdalene sisters, especially after watching the film and I thought this book was a brilliant testimony of what happened during those years, I mean there where even pictures of her best friend corroded stomach after swallowing batteries to get out of the laundries. This book made a mockery of all the reader ...more
Nov 14, 2008 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: no one!
I have no doubts that the Magdalene Laundries were horrific, but while reading this book I felt that it was the "everything plus the kitchen sink" approach in piling on the misery. It rang false, and then I looked online to find out that the book has been called into question. The amount of unreliable memoirs being revealed at the moment is astounding.
Rebecca McNutt
This book is unbelievably disturbing, but it's also a story of hope. Kathy, who was subjected to years of trauma and abuse, was able to overcome it all and publish this book despite horrible memories and belittling peers.
Apr 22, 2009 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: EVA
I tried and tried, just can not get into this one :( With so many more choices out there I will gladly move on to another story.
Jul 13, 2017 rated it liked it
I found the first half of this book repetitive and simply written. The second half of the book, however, is quite educational. I am happy to have learnt about this period in history, but it would've been nice it the editing had been tighter.
Jul 09, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Very sad touching story about unfairness in life and the corruption of some parts of the Catholic Church in Ireland!
This doesn't make for cheerful reading. Another example of where religion has a major hold over a country, and parts of society are severly repressed. The Irish, the Christians and the Catholics don't have a monopoly on this kind of behaviour, you read about it in various forms all over the world, and all over various periods of history - the past and now - but it's still grim. And at the bottom of it all I can never understand the justification of this behaviour. What do they think they're goin ...more
Aug 21, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: three-star
The general impression is that this book has now been outed as a hoax - which is truly terrible and frankly, insults everyone who was ever abused as a child. However, I am going to attempt to write this review as if it was written as a piece of fiction, instead of an attempt to deceive the public.

The story is set in rural Ireland, where young Kathy is living with her parents and siblings. Her father is abusive, both mentally and physically, but Kathy is close with her mother and enjoys rough-hou
Indira Iljas
Dec 15, 2008 rated it really liked it
Don't ever tell. Buku yang menceritakan kebobrokan penganut agama Kristen Katolik di Irlandia (mohon maaf tidak bermaksud untuk SARA tapi memang sesuai dengan ceritanya). Bagi yang sudah membaca buku ini, alur cerita tidak jauh berbeda dengan buku yang berjudul Magdalen.

Sedikit bocoran ttg isi buku ini. Magdalen atau "Maggie" adalah sebutan bagi perempuan2 yang dianggap berdosa bagi agama Katolik. Di mata agama Katolik "maggie" ini adalah anak setan. Para maggie ini ada yang berasal dari keluarg
Jan 12, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2006, biography
An Irish biography I bought while on Ireland this summer. I would not have bought it if I had know it was written with a gost writer...

Don't Ever Tell is "Kathy's story, a true tale of a childhood destroyed by neglect and fear". She spent her childhood anbused in a series of homes of the catholic church, psyciatric units and finally the Magdalen Laundry...

A definite feel bad book, a bit like Dave Pelzer's, but the suffering are worse.

The book is also full of anger directed towards the people an
Feb 18, 2017 rated it did not like it
Shelves: did-not-finish
I started reading it and then saw all the controversy. Whether it is true or not, I don't know. I rather not even read something that might be a lie. Onto the next book!
Jul 21, 2015 rated it really liked it
I read this book some years ago and later found that journalist Hermann Kelly went to extreme lengths to deny that Kathy ' story is a true account. I have read both sides of the info and I have noticed that people don't seem to question why Mr Kelly was so obsessed with Kathy ' story. Or that he published
one book and that was on the back of Kathy's story.
There is no doubt that incidents like these occurred. Unrestricted, routine degradation and abuse of thousands of innocent girls and boys plag
Feb 11, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This book was extremely powerful and emotional. It's difficult for me to put into words what it made me feel but like many other readers I quickly discovered that the book was said to be 'untrue' whilst Kathy may have or may not have experienced all of the traumatic events that she thoroughly explained in her book; that doesn't go without saying that these events are very real to many victims.

When Victims come forward about past events that have been haunting them for years, there will always b
Oct 22, 2012 rated it it was amazing
OMG!!!! this book was horrific!!! in the way that this poor child was physically abused by her father from an early age, then molested by local boys and actually raped by one on the eve of her confirmation. And it just carries on, and on, and on...... physical abuse by nuns, sexual abuse by priests and when she told about the priest was sent to a mental institute!! This poor child has such a wretched life I just don't know how she manges to get through, and then in adulthood tries to get those c ...more
Aug 26, 2010 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-2010
When i first started reading this it really reminded me of "a chils called it" in the sense that the horror starts from the very beginning. Little did i know that also this story shared with "a child called it" a title of "fake".

I personally think this must be true at least in parts. I did feel as if there was actually too much horror. Honestly i don't know if a person could go through so much horror and be mentally stable as the author claims to be.

Either this is true and the author deserves a
Aug 24, 2008 added it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: no one
Recommended to Ozread by: my sister
I read this horrific tale and thought how great it was that Kathy could still have hope and be optimistic after having overcome such abuse in her life. I went looking for a way to donate money to the women of the Magdalene laundries, and found out that Kathy O'Bierne was never in a Magdalene Laundry - a fact proven by women who were at the laundries at the time Kathy claimed she was there.(Kathy named the laundries she allegedly was imprisoned in after her book was published. So many inconsisten ...more
Jan 02, 2009 rated it liked it
This is a story about a girl involuntarily committed to a Magdalan Asylum in Ireland in the 1960s (for more about the Magdalen Asylums, A very sad book, it really shines a light on atrocities committed by a sometimes backward society and a culture that placed a higher value on suppressing the dark pieces of their society rather than confronting them, often from the confused direction of the Roman Catholic church. There are claims that this "true story" ...more
Apr 22, 2013 rated it really liked it
Simply written, but harrowing story of a young Irish girl whose life was torn apart by physical, sexual & psychological abuse at the hands of adults who were supposed to be looking after her.

This book, like many other similar autobiographical works, throws light on the shameful treatment meted out by those in power within the Catholic Church in Ireland to these innocent victims. The trust that was placed in the adults running Draconian establishments such as the Magdalen Laundries is indicat
Samantha Rivers
Sep 28, 2011 rated it did not like it
Shelves: shelved-awful
I started reading this for research. Then I started researching other people's comments after seeing some of the reviews on here and discovered the entire book is fabricated.

It was ghost written because Kathy cannot read or write. Her sequel has been shelved by the publishers because of legal issues concerning the first book. Once I learned all of the above I couldn't continue reading. It was badly written, and the language was repetitive. I also found quite a few contradictions in her story. S
Noor Unnahar
Sep 18, 2015 rated it really liked it
While a lot of people believe this story has been tempered with false stories, I still trust the author since it's an autobiography and I would have been devastated if I published something from my life and people considered it false.
THEY WENT THROUGH IT. If not Kathy herself, but someone else. It saddens me how terrible things can be, for some people, while we get the usual comforts of life. The lack of State interest and authorities can really turn management upside down (in bad way, of course
Manda Seats
Apr 18, 2011 rated it it was amazing
This is a gripping book about horrible child abuse suffered at the hands of one child’s caregivers. Kathy was born to an abusive father and then shipped off to a “school” that educated its charges in the ways of suffering and sexual abuse. After Kathy tries to tell the nuns about the things the priest does to little girls, she is again sent away, this time to an asylum. There, she suffers more abuses and eventually is sent into slavery at a laundry.

Kathy’s ordeal - from start to finish - is a h
This is a story of a young girl who was abused by her father and thentaken to a reformatory school run by nuns. She was also abused here. The abuser was a priest and when she tried to get help she was sent to a psychiatric hospital. During her stay here she was given electric shock treatment and also given drugs. From here she was taken to a magdalen laundry which is a workhouse. whilst here the abuse continued and when she was 14 she gave birth to a girl. Kathy also served time in mountjoy pris ...more
Jan 24, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Sometimes, having parents, may question what's love. When one parent is enough to know what cruelty is. And one is just too scared to stand up for the child.
This biography, shook me to the core.
Where saying something can put you in a deeper pit. And not saying anything can put you in an even deeper pit.
Kathy o brien salute to you for writing your biography.
Writing a story like this. And not a story but going through each and everything for years on end. No one deserves a life full of emotional
Nov 13, 2011 rated it did not like it
I read this book. Not long after I read it there is speculation over this book that it may be a fake. I often wonder about these 'true stories' as there seemed to be an explosion of these type of books a few years ago. I did think it was a good book at the time but since all the bad press about it that is why I'm giving it one star. I have the book 'Kathy's Real Story' it is about her family telling the truth behind her book they claim her story is false. I have not read it yet but will do event ...more
The Bookwyrm
Oct 15, 2010 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
A friend gave me her copy of this book, insisting I must read. At first I was horrified at the ordeals this poor woman has gone through. Halfway into the book I started doing a bit of google searching into the Magdalene Laundries and was disappointed to find out this woman was a fraud. Although I can acknowledge that women lived awful lives in the laundries, I could not continue to read this book knowing Kathy O'Beirn was outted as a fake. I completely lost interest in the book. Maybe one day I ...more
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