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Him Her Him Again the End of Him

2.83  ·  Rating details ·  1,797 ratings  ·  417 reviews
Patricia Marx is one of the finest comic writers of her time, as readers of "The New Yorker" and fans of "Saturday Night Live" already know. Her fiction debut is an endlessly entertaining comic novel about one woman's romantic fixation on her first boyfriend.Marx's unabashedly neurotic heroine falls for philosopher Eugene Obello during her graduate school days in Cambridge ...more
Hardcover, 232 pages
Published January 9th 2007 by Scribner Book Company (first published January 1st 2006)
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Aug 26, 2007 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: Steve Martin
Sorry Lindsay, I didn't like this book.

The first half made me very anxious and brought back bad memories of stupid people I dated in college. I found myself flipping to the back and looking at the author's photo. She looks very pleased with herself.

Have you ever spent time with someone who does stand up? It can be very annoying. I used to be friends with a screenwriter, he would often tell me how amazed he was at the sharpness of his own mind. What do you say to a comment like that? Well, there
Ashley Lane
Jun 14, 2009 rated it really liked it
I don't even know what to say! This quote from the book basically sums it up for me: "Once you do something against your better judgment, it gets easier to do something else against your better judgment, and pretty soon, you’re doing things against everyone’s better judgment."

The girl (heroine??) is a moron, pretty neurotic, and at times as self-absorbed as the book's "protagonist," Eugene. She's really kind-of awful at times. I got completely annoyed with her and Eugene both.

At the same time- I
Jennifer Cooper
Nov 04, 2008 rated it did not like it
Shelves: chicklit
Neurosis can be entertaining-- Woody Allen, Jerry Seinfeld, and Larry David have the money and fame to prove it. Unfortunately, this book shows that neurosis can also be intensely annoying.

This book's unnamed 'heroine' is an insecure, immature, obsessive loser who can't seem to get her life together. She drops out of school, loses multiple jobs, sponges off her parents, attaches herself to a man who has no real interest in her, annoys her friends (and readers), and generally refuses to act like
Anita Dalton
Can you love unreservedly a book that enthralls you but falls apart in the final pages? I think you can. You can love it the same way you love your cat who continually butt drags on the beige carpet. The cat is loving, adorable, a delight in every way except that terrible surprise waiting for you when you walk downstairs. It irritates you fiercely when it happens but mostly you recall all the times the beast has made you happy. That’s the approach I am taking with this book: the great fun of th ...more
Aug 21, 2011 rated it did not like it
This book is horrible. Not worth anybody's time. The plot is somewhat trite: girl loves boy, boy rejects girl but uses her, girl pines for boy and loses her self-esteem and self-respect in the process. I suppose the author thought she was being very clever and funny by injecting stream of consciousness musings wherever she saw fit. And [spoiler alert] I suppose she thought that it would be some sort of redemption to have the boy meet his comeuppance at the end. But really, that comes way too lat ...more
Deb Victoroff
Sep 01, 2008 rated it liked it
Kind of funny. Probably great if you are the kind of woman who likes men to have sex with you, then he goes and has sex with your best friend, and your sister, and then your mother, and then your poodle, and then you have sex with them again and then you pine over them when they go to have sex with your therapist to whom you're telling your tale of woe.

The protagonist of this novel is an absolute idiot (despite many many MANY mentions of her ivy league background and her attempts to complete a P
Mar 20, 2007 rated it did not like it
I cackled in anticipation when I picked up this book from the library. The cover boasted glowing blurbs from people I consider funny and/or smart, such as Steve Martin, David Rakoff, Roz Chast, and Adam Gopnik. I did NOT laugh out loud at any point, as some of the blurbs assured me I would, and I am totally open to laughing out loud. Perhaps the author IS hilarious a)if you know her or b)for the length of a SNL skit (she is a former writer for them) or a picture book (she has written some with R ...more
Aug 07, 2007 rated it it was ok
Fluffy, nonsense book I read on the way to Colorado for a funeral. If I weren't trapped in the car with no alternative, I'm not sure I would've bothered finishing it -- pretty inane stuff. There were some funny bits, and the author had a pithy style -- but the heroine -- ugh! I never did like her and her ridiculous way of putting up with the man who did her wrong. I know it was supposed to be ironic but I just found it annoying.
Mar 29, 2009 rated it did not like it
Too clever by half is the best phrase I can think of to describe this book. I still can't believe I finished it, because I found the experience of reading it mostly excruciating. It follows the many-year affair of a woman who can't seem to find a job or a direction in life and a boorish academic a-hole who uses her over and over and treats her like crap. It's one of those ha-ha-isn't-my-life-pathetic kind of books, but I never really saw the humor in it.

Holding onto a thought and actually explo
Diana Tilson
Oct 16, 2009 rated it did not like it
Shelves: abandoned
I bought this because of a glowing review in the New York Times that claimed it was funny and insightful, but I think the review must have been by one of her friends, because this book is not entertaining. This is thinly-veiled autobiography, and Patricia Marx comes across as an over-privileged brat. Everything is told from the satirical distance of hindsight to the extent that we never understand why she likes Eugene, the guy who her life revolves around, even after he gets married to another w ...more
Apr 22, 2008 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read_08
this book is supposedly funny, but I'm pretty sure it's funny in that weird way that only books can be funny to book critics -- meaning, it wasn't funny in the least. I kept waiting for the book to get interesting and instead it actually got significantly worse as it went along, completely devolving into insipidness at the ending. and the main characters were uniquely unlikable in every way. I give it 2 stars instead of 1 because there are a few things about the pathetic ways in which some girls ...more
Feb 24, 2008 rated it it was ok
Shelves: adult-fiction
This is an odd book. I found the first section hilarious; the writing style is random, abrupt, and often hard to follow, but I thought that was part of its quirky charm. However, I can see why a lot of people don't like it: if you've never fallen for or met an intellectual snob back in college, then you just won't relate to the narrator's plight at all. And there are a lot - and I mean a LOT - of references to obscure literature and words even the well-read (myself included) will not understand. ...more
Aug 12, 2015 rated it did not like it
This is a poorly written book with no likable characters. It is impossible to care about any of them or what happens to them. They are poorly developed bored privileged people with nothing to contribute. It was my book club's selection for this month. I finished it. The other book club members who are struggling to get through it keep asking if it will get better. The answer is no. It gets slightly more absurd at best, this might be more annoying than the rest of the book where nothing happens. ...more
Catherine Ashley Dumont
So, I have to say I found her prose intriguing. It was kind of manic in some ways, and the neurosis of protagonist really came through, so for that in itself, it got two stars, and I really enjoyed that part of it. My problem lies mostly with the story itself - the subject matter is relatable but that’s as far as it goes. Nothing was fleshed out; it jumped from story to story so fast that I always felt it was missing something and the characters were slightly too unbelievable to really identify ...more
Jun 05, 2009 rated it did not like it
At best, this is a completely erratic writer incapeable of stringing together more than two connected thoughts. The transitions are clumsey, she overuses obscure words and constantly makes reference to little know scientists and philosphers. Further, the narrator arrogantly refuses to decribe situations or characters. This book is a total waste of time and I wouldn't bother finishing it if I weren't obligated to for my book club. Ironicly, it was chosen (by the book club) for it's comedic slant ...more
Kate Powers
May 15, 2015 rated it it was ok
I think the scariest part about this book is that individuals like the main character exist. If you want to read about a woman who pines over one terrible, no good man for over 10 years (whom, may I add, none of her friends have ever approved of) - then totally read this! 2 stars because the "heroine" had a [sometimes] comical sense of humor.... and for making me think "Hm, how hard can it be to get a PHD at Cambridge if this scatterbrain got in." Also, if I have to hear the name "Eugene" one mo ...more
Aug 04, 2008 rated it did not like it
I wanted to like this book. Unfortunately, it sucks. Sucks is a bit too harsh probably. I'm half-way through the book, and I don't care about the next page.

I'm going to focus on only reading books I like. This one will be back at the library if anyone is looking for it.
Oct 15, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-in-2019
First-person fictional account of a young woman's 10+ year fling with a philandering philosophy professor, Eugene Obello, who is completely self-centered and narcissistic. Ironically, he specializes in "Ego Studies". He is a pompous, belittling, patronizing cheating blowhard. Yes, that is a lot of adjectives to describe one man, but he deserves them, and he would probably puff up from the added attention given him.

(Nameless) She, although a student at Cambridge University and having a high capa
Emma Garvey
Aug 29, 2020 rated it liked it
Narrated in a stream of consciousness style format that made me feel like I was reading the book in my own voice. At times, the format felt neurotic but also relatable - the voice on the page felt like it fit into my own clustered thoughts. I think this would be a more enjoyable read for someone who feels like their life is completely together - for those of us who are still trying to figure it all out... perhaps anxiety inducing.

A hilarious read to say the least.
Ines Garcia
Jun 11, 2012 rated it did not like it
When I first bought this book I judged it stupidly by the cover. I'm sure Patricia put the Knife into Him to throw people off into what may be seen as a suspense thriller theme. Clearly one cannot judge a good story when one has only been involved with three chapters. I initially thought it was good due to the humor and writing and thought to recommend it to a friend or two. Then I quickly realized after the fourth chapter I was dead wrong. But I continued on hoping that the main character would ...more
Heather Hay
I kept waiting for this book to pick up and become good or at the very least the author would give some reason for sympathizing with the protagonist. I finished the book, but I didn't feel my time was worth it. I work at a library and I see this book checked out because the cover looks like it could fit in next to a cozy mystery or some chick lit mystery, but I now know why nobody has said anything about the book even though it checks out alot. The audiobook has such a great reader and at times ...more
Feb 25, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2016
A very funny book!

The writing is really funny, and sometimes the author talks directly. This gives an extra dimension. The story about her, the me-person, is kind of sad. And she makes jokes about this, herself and the situation. The story really concentrates on the relationship with him: Eugene. There were a lot of moments when I had to laugh. In the first chapter there is a sentence with comes back in the and in an unexpected way: 'my grandmother believes everyone has a determined number of f
Dec 09, 2010 rated it it was ok
I read a book like this one when I was 22: depressed, living in Wichita ks, read in one sitting- well under the covers while nursing feelings of emotional angst that left me feeling immobilized and terrified of life. The book then was the Bridget jones diary. This current version, this him, her etc. Is like watching tv in book form. It seems like the author wrote it on a drunken binge, the plot and characters return randomly, funny stories are nonsequitors taken to the extream. Yet, bad books ca ...more
Jan 16, 2012 rated it it was ok
Shelves: chick-lit, humor
The writing style was different, almost stream of conscious, with lots of detailed quirkiness and dry, irony. It took me a while to adjust my reading ear the unusual voice, but eventually I found the groove. (It's kinda of like trying to adjust my reading ear to understanding Shakespeare when I haven't read it in a while.) The book had plenty of colorful characters surrounding the protagonist and lots of unique, out-of-nowhere-but-bizarrely funny plot twists. I really wanted to like it, but in t ...more
I get that it was **supposed** to be funny; and, there were some brief moments where I laughed half-heartedly.

I didn't learn anything from this book that my mother and aunt didn't teach me about dealing with men, such as "Don't throw yourself at them because after they use you up and drain you of light and love, they throw you back out!"

I may fit this one in with the shelf entitled "semi-funny cautionary tales of women who need to work on their self-esteem"
Jan 13, 2012 rated it it was amazing
i picked this one up at a library sale. the librarian taking my $2 said it was fantastic. she was right. in parts, it felt like a fictionalized version of bossypants, which was not really a surprise since the author has a similar background to fey.
Mar 31, 2012 rated it liked it
Enjoyable enough, funny in places, started to get old towards the end, and I pretty much wanted to punch Eugene and shake some sense into the narrator whose name, if we ever learned it, I have completely forgotten. And I just finished the book three minutes ago.
Dec 30, 2009 rated it did not like it
HATED this book. Kept skimming it to see if it'd get better. Loathed the heavy-handed intellectualism. Didn't find it funny at all. Didn't like a single character in the whole book.
Badly Drawn Girl
Jan 12, 2010 rated it did not like it

I couldn't get through this book. I didn't find it to be the least bit funny or even mildly amusing. It was just irritating. I didn't even get half way through before tossing it aside.
Jan 13, 2016 rated it liked it
Funny some of the time. I kept thinking of the Pink Martini song - Hey, Eugene, remember me?
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Patricia Marx is an American humorist and writer.
Born in Abingdon, Pennsylvania, she earned her B.A. from Harvard University in 1975. Her writing has appeared in the The New York Times, The New Yorker, Vogue, and The Atlantic Monthly. Marx is a former writer for Saturday Night Live and Rugrats, and one of the first two women elected to the Harvard Lampoon.[1][2] She is the author of the 2007 novel

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