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Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage

3.93  ·  Rating details ·  1,181 ratings  ·  78 reviews
Intended for Pleasure is an easy-to-ready reference book that has helped hundreds of thousands of Christian couples gain the most out of their sexual relationship. The Wheats, along with their medical associate Dow Pursley, combine biblical teaching on love and marriage with the latest medical information on sex and sexuality. Drawing on years of experience in counseling c ...more
Hardcover, Third Edition, 288 pages
Published April 1st 1997 by Revell (first published November 30th 1976)
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Jun 16, 2011 rated it did not like it
This book should stay in the 50's, when the idea of the wife as second-class citizen was normal. This book should either be massively updated, or discontinued. It should absolutely not be recommended to young couples nowadays without huge caveats about its insulting ideas about women. (Instead, I would wholeheartedly recommend The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun. Don't sweat the title, it's a beautiful treatise on intimacy in marriage.)

I haven't read al
Feb 26, 2008 rated it did not like it
Written from a man's perspective, I felt like I4P was insensitive to women. The tone of the book was cold and matter-of-fact. Funny line, "if you do this...I guarantee..." There are no such guarantees because all bodies are different. The first edition was published ages ago -- and though it has been updated, it certainly feels out of date.

Books I'd recommend instead:
A Celebration of Sex (by Roseneau): For the couple, comprehensive, written by a licensed psychologist, Christian sex therapist.

Douglas Wilson
Jul 19, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this many years ago, and have been giving it away in my pre-marital counseling, also for many years. I recently decided I ought to read it again, and was pleased to see that the book had weathered the years well. There are parts that are a bit too "medically sounding," but there is a lot of good info here for young couples. I guess I will continue giving it away.
Alexis Neal
Extremely helpful. I liked this book more than Sheet Music, but I suspect that my preference is just a matter of personal taste. Wheat is a physician, so he includes a lot of medical information that Leman, as a psychologist, is simply not qualified to give. Parts of this book read like a textbook, which I liked--the matter-of-fact tone made the whole thing less awkward. More like hearing a doctor or science teacher talk about sex (as opposed to hearing your pastor or psychologist talk about it) ...more
Tiffany Thomas
Aug 06, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This is an excellent book for couples experiencing sexual dysfunction who want quick, accurate medical answers for their symptoms and challenges. It is not flowery. It gets directly to the point. Couples need not read the whole book. Just read through the table of contents and try chapters til you find your issue. Then head to the doctor's office with a possible diagnosis in hand so that you can be treated (if necessary). Most if the issues in this book require simple changes or manipulation a t ...more
Dec 08, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: any virgin having a hard time have sex with husband for the first time
Recommended to Sandra by: A friend gave it to me long before I got married
When I got married in 1999, I was a virgin and found out that I was to tight for sex. I was married a whole week before I read this book and the small section in there for virgins helped me and my husband so. My mother had the same problem and she wen to the doctor for them to open her up and she said it hurt really bad. The technique given saved me that trip and caused my husband and I to bond in an even more intimate way.
Mary Anne
Sep 22, 2013 rated it really liked it
I read this book as part of my premarital counseling. I found it Biblically based and encouraging, casting marriage in a very positive light. It is extremely detailed in regard to the physical act of lovemaking in a Christian marriage and I would recommend it be approached carefully and with consideration of timing in a persons life. I would recommend this book for married couples and couples preparing for marriage.
Elisa Garza
Jul 01, 2008 rated it really liked it
I have to say, as a socially-conservative woman, I'm somewhat embarrassed to include this book on my list. To be honest, I haven't read it in years, but the book is very tastefully written (almost textbook-like), and it has a lot of great information - what you would get (or should get) from an ob/gyn or sex therapist.
Jennifer Trzeciak
Oct 14, 2020 rated it liked it
There are some helpful things in this book and several chapters that have proven useful in counseling. That said, Dr. Wheat is not coming from a biblical counseling perspective and is pretty psychologized. Since this is literally the only book on technique written from a Christian perspective, and is straightforward without being crude, I would recommend it to others, but with several caveats.
Evan Hoekzema
Mar 22, 2020 rated it really liked it
I don’t know if I’d say this was an enjoyable read 😂, but it was helpful as Mel and I did our pre-marital work. Growing up in a home where sex wasn’t regularly talked about, this book was a helpful pit stop on our journey towards marriage.
Nov 02, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: christian
Excellent resource for engaged couples and those counseling them. But helpful for married couples at any stage of life, as well.
Jul 25, 2011 added it
Shelves: nathan-library
During my engagement, I was advice-overloaded. I received all sorts of books on marriage, many of which started saying the same things. If I had to narrow the field for future newlyweds, this book is in my top three.

With a spectrum of knowledge from newlyweds to couples in their 70's, not everything in the book directly applied to my wife and me. But it was helpful to see Wheat's scope (and tuck some information away for future reference).

Wheat takes a holistic approach to good sex. He writes, "
Sarah Cnossen
Oct 05, 2015 rated it it was amazing
A wonderful book on God's design for marriage and sex.
Sex was created for pleasure, but only within the boundaries of marriage, and again, ONLY between a MAN and a WOMAN. In this way does it serve to glorify God.
Sex can be a beautiful blessing, a treasured gift.

Due to a few descriptions and details explained in the pages of this book, I would only recommend to persons ages [AT LEAST] 18 and up. Especially if said persons are engaged, soon-to-be engaged, married, or soon-to-be married. Howev
Jun 04, 2015 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is good for young couples and/or anyone who may not have taken an extensive course in human sexuality. I will probably revert to this book from time to time for reference, but most of what I read in this book I learned in college or psych books on marriage. It is important to get the latest edition of this book for the most up to date statistics and references/facts. This is a Christian book so anyone expecting it to not include what's considered Christian values would be naive - even ...more
Sep 17, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very thorough and informed guide to sex within a marriage relationship. From healing emotional and relational dysfunction to fertility, pregnancy and stds, Wheat addresses topics like that are usually taboo in Christian circles and/or informed by secular perspectives with a godly perspective instead. This is an awesome read for newlyweds! If you have questions about sex, arousal and orgasm that you're not comfortable asking your parents, or even friends or mentors, this book is a great resource.
Charly Troff (ReaderTurnedWriter)
This is a book on intimacy within marriage. I thought it was well written. It was informative but not in any way vulgar and looked at things from a Christian/biblical perspective. I could tell reading through it that it was a general Christian rather than specifically LDS book, but it was still a good read (if you're looking for a purely LDS read, And They Were Not Ashamed by Laura M. Brotherson is a very, very good read). This is a book I would definitely recommend, especially to engaged or new ...more
Oct 22, 2007 rated it it was ok
This book might be helpful for some young couples, but others may find it doesn't teach anything not already learned from the journey through adolescnce. However, I could see this as being a good reference for counselors or pastors. Frankly, much of what is covered is the stuff of Cosmo or Men's Health, but from a Christian perespective. It also deals with a whole life perspective, and even has a few chapters on senior citizens.
Aug 12, 2013 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: virgins
I read this years and years ago when I was going through a pre-marriage course at my then-church. I have to say the medical perspective is much more informative and in-depth than I've seen in other places. However, the how-to parts were too preachy. I would only recommend this book for virgins who have been led to believe that all sex is sinful and bad. For that person, this book is a must read.
Marianne Ogden
Nov 11, 2007 rated it it was amazing
I highly recommend this to any newlyweds (or anyone else who needs to know.) I hate those books with pithy stories or moralizing. This book just gives the info ya need to know. You'll love the climax!... I couldn't resist that one.
Aug 12, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: premarital counseling, newlyweds, and married for awhile as a refresher
Recommended to Julie by: marriage counselor
Well written guide for Christian marriage, biblically based. Recommend for couples who've been married for awhile, too. Reminds you to get back to the basics - serving each other. Possibly a nice idea for a shower/wedding gift.
May 29, 2009 rated it really liked it
Ha Ha....Yep I read this. Very good....great for couples to read BEFORE and right after they are married. I wanted to check it out before recommending it to a close friend who is getting married soon. Very biblical, but not vague :-)
Jul 30, 2009 rated it liked it
We got these during our engagement and they were such a great resource that I bought copies of them for several of my also newly engaged friends. We chose them after a little research of so many other marriage resource books.
Anastasia Rose
Jun 07, 2012 rated it really liked it
Great book on God's real intention for sex. A great gift idea for an engaged friend (especially if she/he grew up in a sheltered Christian environment around people who might be uncomfortable talking about "such thing" =))
Oct 30, 2012 rated it liked it
Shelves: marriage-family
First read as part of pre-marital counseling sometime around 2001.

I think the book has a few problems, but that is far far less than many other titles on sex that carry the adjective "Christian."

April 2016
Carrie Allen
Nov 29, 2013 rated it really liked it
This was a really good, informative, Christian book. I read it in preparation for my second marriage. I really enjoyed it-it covers all the bases and gives Bible verses as reference. Very good, I really recommend it!
Mark Stamps
Nov 04, 2016 rated it it was amazing
You think the tv and porn you've watched will prepare you for great sex? You probably don't, right? Or how bout that awkward conversation your parents had with you like 10 years ago.

You're gonna get smart and read this book or something similar eventually. I think this is a great choice.
Feb 28, 2008 rated it really liked it
This clearly delineates for an inexperienced couple the "why" of sex and not just the "how". For an experienced sexual being, this may seem trite at times, but well written
Lisa Greer
Mar 10, 2008 rated it liked it
Sounds cheesy and was a bit embarrassing to receive as a wedding gift, but actually a good book.
Larry Taylor
Apr 07, 2008 rated it it was ok
birds and bees for puritans
May 08, 2008 rated it liked it
Had to read parts of this for premarital counseling.
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