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The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework

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My job is more stressful than your's.
I'm just not very good at domestic stuff.
Your standards are too high.
I never learned how to do this chore.

Have you heard one or more of the above excuses in the past month? Are you sick of your husband's avoidance tactics regarding housework and parenting? If you answered yes to either of these questions, you need this book. The Lazy
ebook, 240 pages
Published April 1st 2007 by St. Martin's Press (first published February 1st 2005)
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Mar 05, 2011 rated it liked it
While the title The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework is rather inflammatory, Joshua Coleman's latest book (he's also written The Marriage Makeover: Finding Happiness in Imperfect Harmony) offers the shockingly simple and mature advice that asking your husband nicely to help out more around the house goes a lot farther than yelling at him for being "lazy". It's a little more involved than that, but essentially Coleman's advice is to stop getting upset and start crea ...more
Feb 02, 2010 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: library
This is not a commentary on Joe because he really does a lot around the house, but ...I was curious?

So far it's geared towards women who are not the primary breadwinner so that's kind of annoying. I can only take so many "no really, your job *does* matter" speeches. Look at the stats man! A significant portion of your readers make more than their husbands.

I didn't read the whole thing. So I guess I'm the Lazy Wife.

I don't even want to go into the sexism that runs rampant throughout this book, st
Feb 23, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: home-life
This book would probably be more useful for my situation were my situation different. I know that sounds like something a lot of women could possibly say, but I really did give some of the suggestions some serious thought. I think it really depends on your situation.

The advice in this book is fairly balanced. On one hand he says you should crack the whip with your husband in a gentle, loving manner that won't bruise his ego too badly. On the other hand, he also says women should look at themselv
Jul 03, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
ok book summarizing then-current (published in 2005 but on "new nonfiction" shelf in my public library for some reason) research on division of household labor. Target audience is women married to men they would like to see doing more around the home and with the kids. Discusses some of the classic issues in this area such as divergent perspectives (he thinks he's doing a lot b/c does more than his father did; she thinks he's not b/c he does less than she does by a huge margin.......), differing ...more
May 17, 2012 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I can sum up the entire book in a few sentences: 1. If you're husband is a lazy louse, keep your looks up and get an education so you can get a decent job when you've decided you've had enough OR 2. Hire a cleaning person OR 3. Get help if he beats you. This author had a couple chapters devoted to domestic abuse and I'm reading this thinking, "Dude, he doesn't pic his underwear off the floor, he doesn't beat me." Complete waste of a book. I hired a cleaning person.
I thought this book would be right up my alley, but I felt it's more for women who stay at home with the kids, or women who are not as independent (thus the husband has the upper hand, thus the husband feels like he doesn't need to do as much)

After sitting down and taking notes, I realized that my husband really isn't THAT lazy.

But he is, in different ways.
Apr 11, 2012 rated it it was ok
I echo the GoodReads review that was posted by Nicole.
To add to her point, I read recently that 40% of working women make more $ than their husbands. This book doesn't speak to that group.
Feb 25, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Woman should read this book. It's not man-bashing by any stretch; it's written by a recovering lazy husband. I enjoyed reading it and I learned a lot.
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“Studies show that the most effective parents are authoritative.110 Authoritative parents are defined as being affectionate and loving with their children, but strong in their ability to set limits and make demands. Authoritative parents are contrasted with authoritarians, who are highly controlling and show little affection or tenderness toward their children. They’re also contrasted with permissive parents, who are loving and affectionate but unable to set appropriate limits. Both authoritarian and permissive parents are less likely to raise well-adjusted children than authoritatives.” 0 likes
“Many men feel hurt and rejected by the central focus that a child gains in his wife's life. Men who feel displaced, hurt, rejected, or devalued by the arrival of a child are more likely to retreat from doing housework or parenting. Their “laziness” is a protest for feeling displaced and unimportant.” 0 likes
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