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The Wisdom of a Broken Heart: An Uncommon Guide to Healing, Insight, and Love

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When a relationship ends, the anguish and disappointment can be devastating. A broken heart is genuinely traumatic. Typical recommendations to keep busy, move on, repair your hidden flaws, and then forget about it may not be helpful. In these pages, Susan Piver reveals that heartbreak actually creates an opportunity for genuine emotional and spiritual transformation, enabl ...more
ebook, 240 pages
Published December 29th 2009 by Atria Books (first published 2009)
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Dec 27, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: post-breakup women (and men!), new buddhists
This book is, simply put, something special. I was at my wit's end trying to find the light at the end of the tunnel after a devastating breakup, and I didn't find any light until I came across this book. For the first time, I finally felt I was reading the words of someone who actually did understand, and who actually had been there. Susan Piver just has a gentleness that seems to hold you when you're despairing. She is honest and genuine, allowing and encouraging you to honor the depth of your ...more
Apr 29, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help
This is the first book to address my breakup and/or healing process that is really speaking to me. For starters, it almost immediately gave me permission to grieve. It is not "rah, rah, you are awesome! you are great! you are better than ever!" It is definitely more of the tone of, "yeah, this sucks. It's going to hurt. Feel the hurt because when you really feel things, that's when you can start to heal." I'm really appreciating this book.
Jul 23, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Christina by: Rosie
Really helpful. Gentle, but not enabling. Piver presents heartbreak as an opportunity — “If you acknowledge the dark night and open to it, it will teach you extraordinary lessons about who you are and what your life is about.” I like that she gives philosophy and spirituality but also practical, what to do right-in-this-instant advice. Highly recommended.
Barry Graham
Feb 12, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Imagine if Pema Chodron was someone you could meet in a bar and drink margaritas with, and you'll have some idea of the content of this book. Piver's advice is kind and smart, with vast patience for human sadness but no time for nonsense.

I've written before about the value of heartbreak, so I'm glad to see an entire book on the subject. Piver offers no easy answers, but realistic instruction for practice, and, while her tone is breezy, warm and humorous, she doesn't pretend that there is any esc
Oct 31, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: life, mindfulness
Great book on channeling your grief into becoming a stronger, better person. It was interesting reading this now, because a lot of what it said would happen, I've already experienced. Sometimes I felt way ahead of where the book thought I was, and sometimes I felt way behind. That was kind of cool--i think the author is right about how it works, and it made feel like I'm on the path.

Also, somewhere in the book, the author says something to the effect of: forget what everyone else says you should
Nicole G.
Some really good insights here. Gentle but no nonsense. The spiritual enlightenment angle was nice, too. The last section of the book is a seven day ritual that would be very useful if your failed relationship is still very raw. For those of us who have healed a little, but still have our broken moments, there is advice for us as well. This book also made me realize that I would benefit from meditating again on a regular basis (I used to, but fell out of the habit).
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Quite possibly the best written book on the subject of heartbreak ive ever read. Piver nails the descriptions in such a way you suddenly dont feel nearly as embarrassed as you did for the last year. Or two. She sympathizes, and its a real sympathy from someone who has been as hurt as deeply you have. You realize its ok, and it will be okay. And she tosses you ladders and escape maps to help you through. But remember, the only way out is through, you have to work through the emotions or they will ...more
Elizabeth Black
Sep 17, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help
Still reeling from a broken heart, I found this book tremendously helpful. Though, I'd never wish this on anyone, Ms. Piver explains how can it actually be a good thing and that there are gifts to be gained from such a painful experience. The first time through, and I've already got the book all highlighted, underlined, and dog-eared. I'm sure I will continue to reference it throughout my healing process. The only reason it didn't get 5 stars is that some of the exercises are kind of hokey, but ...more
Dec 30, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book helped me through a terrible breakup. It provides real tips for getting through it, reassures you that even though your world is in chaos, it will be okay, and reminds you that the only way out is through.
Ana Ra
Oct 03, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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Author of "The Wisdom of a Broken Heart," "How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life" (winner of Books for a Better Life's best spiritual book of 2007), and the NY Times best seller, "The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say 'I Do'".

My next book is "Start Here Now: An Open Hearted Guide to the Path and Practice of Meditation" will be published in September 2015.

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