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The Blessing of a B Minus: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Resilient Teenagers

4.20  ·  Rating details ·  907 ratings  ·  147 reviews
In the follow-up to her bestselling book, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, Dr. Wendy Mogel shows parents how to navigate the teenage years.

When a child becomes a teenager, her sense of entitlement and independence grows, the pressure to compete skyrockets, and communication becomes fraught with obstacles. Dr. Wendy Mogel emphasizes empathy and guidance over micromanaging te
Hardcover, 208 pages
Published October 12th 2010 by Scribner
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Oct 20, 2010 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites, parenting
If you have children between 11 and 20 (or if you plan on your kids reaching those ages, for that matter), go get this book right now. Mogel's take on parenting teens is compassionate,wise, and inspired. Much like her earlier book The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, which was geared toward parents of younger children, Mogel draws from her understanding of Jewish teachings to reframe some of the challenges children face (and the associated frustrations of parenting them) into blessings.

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May 17, 2012 rated it really liked it
The title of this book intrigued me. What, I asked myself, is the blessing in a B minus? Other chapter headings include "The Blessing of a Bad Attitude," "The Blessing of a Lost Sweater," "The Blessing of Staying Up Late," and so forth. The author manages to find a bright side to many of the frustrations of parenting teens. She emphasizes how important it is to let them fail and learn from their mistakes now rather than later in life when the stakes are so much higher. This book was a good remin ...more
Jun 11, 2012 rated it really liked it
Okay, I'm struggling with my own issues when it comes to living with an adolescent who is so unlike me… and so I have been seeking self-help/parenting books. Of the two that I have read/listened to, this one resonants with me the most. I thought her first book _Blessings of a Skinned Knee_ lovely (read as part of a parenting book club), but this one speaks more directly to me and my issues.

Similar to _Parenting From the Inside Out_ in many ways, it really does address the issues of parents' expe
Aug 09, 2011 rated it really liked it
Words of wisdom from a funny woman. I loved Skinned Knee and this one was almost as good. My favorite take away is an umbrella thought: our children, at all ages, need to see and believe that we believe in them. That we trust in them to try, to fail, to succeed. That we aren't always afraid. That we believe they are capable, more than capable. How can they believe it if they don't believe that we do? Stop doing for your kids (I'm talking to myself here) and show them that you believe they can do ...more
Apr 15, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A important book to all of those who are teen's parents or are going to be in the near future. Tip and tricks of how to deal with misbehavior, profanity, laziness, and distance most if not all teens express to their parents. Wendy Mogel does a great storytelling but at the same time explains professionally why we have to constrain of confronting our teens but keeping basic core rules. A must if you have a boy or girl in this journey: Puberty.
Jordana Horn Gordon
Nov 05, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Wendy Mogel, you are super smart and kind. I hope I can be a tenth of the parent you are!
Dec 23, 2017 rated it liked it
As a teacher of early teens, I thought I could find some nuggets to improve my teaching and my understanding of my students. And maybe I've found a few, but I realize that I don't have enough time with my students to pursue many of these strategies. 2 hours per week and 2 dozen students. Impossible!
May 09, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I loved this book so much I went out and bought it. As my son approaches high school graduation, I can honestly say that Mogel's commonsense philosophy and reassuring words helped me keep my sanity these past two years.

I first found this book when I googled "overparenting." I realized I had a problem when I was more worried about my son's grades than he was. This book explained a lot about what teenagers are experiencing now in school and how over protective, interfering parents can make it wor
Apr 18, 2011 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: all my mom friends!
I read this book just before I read the "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" and I could not have had 2 books more opposite!
I have told many of mom friends about this book. I found most of the book practical and very useful. I really liked the approach the author used Jewish beliefs and applied those practices to teens. I am not Jewish but found the book made sense. I am actually feeling just a LITTLE more confident (or at least understand a little better!) as my daughter moves into her teen years.
Jun 14, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I love this book. Our church used her first book. "Blessings of a Skinned Knee" years ago, and I have had this one on my to-read list for some time.

Wendy Mogel calms my parenting brain, and she reminds me how much I love my kids. Both on the days when they are lovely and sweet, and also on the days when they are stubborn and well, stupid. Her words help me remember that these little people are wonderful works in process, and there really is a method to their madness. If I could meet her, I woul
Laura Lawlor
Jun 08, 2011 rated it it was amazing
A must-read for anyone trying to navigate the tween and teen wolf stages of their offspring!
Also the prequel: Blessings of a Skinned Knee should be on every parent's bedside table.
You don't have to be Jewish to love these books...sound, non-sectarian advice for floundering and frustrated parents.
Jun 11, 2013 added it
Well, now that my boy will s nearly 12, this was more relevant. Sensible advice, nothing new.

This seems really good, but it's definitely about teenagers. I'll put it away for 2 more years at least.
Mar 10, 2016 rated it it was amazing
My new bible! Great practice advice for the stage of parenting I'm in now. And bonus: I'm not doing everything wrong!!
Oct 07, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: wishlist, education
I wish I had read this book 10 years ago. It would have helped me so much with setting boundaries with everyone, which is a skill I certainly need to work on.
Melody Warnick
Nov 29, 2016 rated it really liked it
The upshot of this warm, wise book: "Chill out, it'll all be okay."
William Shieber
Jun 11, 2019 rated it it was ok
If you are an upper middle class parent (particularly an upper middle class reform Jewish parent from California) with normal upper middle class teenagers having normal upper middle class teenage experiences, but no significant problems, this book is for you. For the rest of us, look elsewhere.

For example, the blessing of a B minus incident involves a smart kid who blows off a research project and gets a B minus. The smart kid learns that he has to take research projects more seriously and gets
Adam Housley
I saw Wendy speak at a conference and did not hesitate to pick up all of her books. As a dad of two (soon to be three) teenagers, I started with The Blessing of a B Minus. As an educator, I am all too familiar with the parenting traps Mogel discusses, and I found myself nodding my head throughout. As a father, I enjoyed her examples and general advice to parents. While I imagine parents fighting some of the battles she mentions will find her advice overly simplified, I find it realistic and welc ...more
Diane Zwang
Mar 14, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
One of my friends was reading this book and since I have a teenager I thought I would give it a try. I liked Wendy's writing style and her take on parenting. She is very practical which I appreciate. I particularly liked the chapter The Blessing of a Bad attitude: Living Graciously with the Chronically Rude. I deal with eye rolling often. Much of her parenting advice aligned with my style of parenting. Some chapters were not applicable to my teen, yet. I found that I could not read this book at ...more
Shea Fox
Jan 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Very insightful like her book for parenting younger children called Blessings of a Skinned Knee. Mogel is hopeful and helpful covering topics like chores, jobs, attitudes, materialism, and consequences. She sees a b minus, a lost item, or any other problem as a blessing on the journey from teen to young adult. She stresses the importance of calm authority, honoring your child’s natural abilities and limitations, not confusing your own problems with your teen’s, avoiding comparing, requiring assi ...more
Nov 18, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this during Thanksgiving break, when I was spending a lot of time with my teenagers and feeling some frustrations with some of their behaviors. I felt like the first couple of chapters especially were helpful in reassuring me that teenagers by nature are unpredictable, focused on their needs and wants above others', and needing to figure out their place in the world. As with most books like this, it's not rocket science, but there are a few helpful sections about how we can appreciate our ...more
Jenny Wheelbarrow
Jun 22, 2017 rated it really liked it
I really enjoy this author's approach to parenting using Jewish teachings. You could in some ways replace Jewish with other faiths. I will revisit this as the teen years come. For the lay reader it reminds you of where your children are developmentally without citing theory. Her advice gives you permission to parent your child to match where they are and remind you to not take it personally while explaining why the teen years can be (don't have to be) so hard.

Great book.
May 02, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019
While I found her first book to be incomparably good, I still valued this second work. The inclusion of Jewish wisdom and principles was refreshing and worthy of consideration even for those of non-Jewish or no faith. Definitely worth the time for any parent, especially those staring the teen years in the face!
Cheryl M
Sep 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book helped me with some of my challenges with parenting my teen. Specifically, it helped me choose the battles to fight and figure out my method of fighting those battles. It also reassured me that what we are experiencing is relatively normal.

The audible version is solid.
Aug 03, 2017 rated it really liked it
Perfect timing for understanding my teenagers - some good nuggets of wisdom!!
Diana schiewer
Sep 25, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Great insight on the development of teens and best parenting practices to mold to one's family.
Oct 02, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I should have read this years ago! Think I need to own a copy so I can re-read as needed...
Jan 23, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Prep for school talk. And trying to keep up with Justine.
Aug 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is probably the only parenting book that I need to read right now.
Laura McDaniels
Sep 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Spot on with my teenagers~!
Dec 12, 2019 rated it really liked it
Great insights but a little repetitive (like most self help books). Highly recommend to anyone with a teenager.
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Wendy Mogel, PhD is the author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children published by Charles Scribner's Sons in 2001. Mogel is a nationally known speaker and author who looks at every day parenting problems through the lens of the Torah, the Talmud, and important Jewish teachings.

Mogel graduated from Middlebury College and completed an Internship and

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