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When I Stop Talking, You'll Know I'm Dead: Useful Stories from a Persuasive Man

4.12  ·  Rating details ·  3,599 ratings  ·  392 reviews
Here is the story of Jerry Weintraub: the self-made, Brooklyn-born, Bronx-raised impresario, Hollywood producer, legendary deal maker, and friend of politicians and stars. No matter where nature has placed him--the club rooms of Brooklyn, the Mafia dives of New York's Lower East Side, the wilds of Alaska, or the hills of Hollywood--he has found a way to put on a show and s ...more
Hardcover, 291 pages
Published April 7th 2010 by Twelve (first published April 1st 2010)
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Oct 22, 2010 rated it really liked it
Jerry Weintraub loves Jerry Weintraub and believes that Jerry Weintraub has led a fascinating life. As a result, Jerry Weintraub loves to tell stories about Jerry Weintraub. Here, Jerry Weintraub tells a lot of them, about promoting stars and making deals. Most are quite short. Many are compelling. Weintraub dispenses show business gossip, Mafia talk, family tales, accounts of rock music and movie excesses, and instructions for a successful career in promoting, agenting, managing and producing, ...more
Olivier Goetgeluck
Oct 28, 2014 rated it liked it
Relationships are the only thing that really matter in business and life.

People will pay you to make their lives easier;
always take the time to make the pitch;
personal service is the name of the game;
never get paid once for doing something twice.

Those four days changed my life. Because I was scared but kept going on and managed to survive.

As soon as you feel comfortable, that's when it's time to start over.

Do not get attached to the world as it is, because the world is changing, something new i
Mar 28, 2011 rated it it was ok
I'm not sure why I put this book on my list from the library. Inasmuch as it was insight into the world of a person I'd never meet (nor want to), it only supported the cliche that movie/Broadway show producers are fast-talking and self-glorying. Weintraub seems to have no doubt that he was a good and faithful husband (despite tales of 1970s debauchery), though admits he might not have been the best dad because he wasn't home a lot of the time (ever). Reflection isn't his strong point.

My favorite
Mario Tomic
Sep 28, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This book is not really a biography, it's more of a compilation of important lessons from a man who followed his passions to the core and changed the world in many ways. Jerry Weintraub isn't just another rag to riches story, this book will among many other things teach you the massive value of having people skills and strong integrity. As I was listening to the audiobook in many ways it was like speaking to an old friend. I really recommend you to check it out and definitely get the audio versi ...more
May 02, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Showbiz stories and reflections from one of the top Illuminati figures in Hollywood. Lots of name-dropping and self-aggrandizement. But damn are these good stories. You might not know Jerry Weintraub by name, but trust me: this guy had his hand in some of everything. No Boutros? He started out as your typical lowly, madd suspect Broadway Danny Rose-style talent manager, putting on puppet shows and shit. Then he married a much older woman who happened to be friends with George HW Bush, back befor ...more
I so enjoyed listening to this book; I can't imagine anyone but the author reading it. I don't think people live lives like his anymore - talk about doing everything and knowing everyone! Hearing his story was a little like being swept away on a glamourous mini-vacation.
However, I'm not sure I'd like to know this man in person. I was left thinking, "Well! Isn't he the delightful little sheister!" He's probably not actually "little", per se. Still. From my perspective, he seems just this side of
Kasa Cotugno
May 09, 2010 rated it really liked it
Jerry Weintraub has led an almost Zelig like life, in the room with all the big names of the past 60 years, intimates as diverse as Led Zepplin, Jimmy Carter, Sinatra -- the list is endless and fascinating. His chapter about experiences with Armand Hammer reads almost like fiction. He is the beneficiary of more than a little luck, and if the word chutzpah hadn't been invented, it would have to have been made up for him. But he is more than an operator, a player -- his basic honest nature forged ...more
Sue Newhouses
Feb 28, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This book was a page turner .. especially for someone in my age group (and older). Weintraub drops names like crazy ... musicians, actors, politicians and directors. He's 74 now, has a wife who was a music star in her day (they have been married for over 50 years) plus a girlfriend for over twenty years!

He promoted Elvis (was partners with the Colonel and was one of the first people they called when Elvis died), was the driving force behind John Denver, brought Frank Sinatra out of retirement t
Tao Lee
Jan 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Very inspirational.

Note to self: Don't take no for an answer. Keep pushing people and DON'T stop until they say yes. Ask when you don't know. Tell the truth. Listen when someone else is talking. Never afraid to look silly. Don't know what isn't sound to you. Don't be afraid to try. Be willing to be lucky. Talk yourself into a career. Interesting is valuable. First one gets served, first. If you're going, no one will stop you. Mr. Disney was intense. have good mentors in your life. Get people th
Alex Demian
May 09, 2019 rated it liked it
I have a feeling me and Jerry wouldn't get along very well. Was excited at first, until I realized this book is pretty much a self-glorifying bible about how Jerry Weintraub got super lucky and you didn't. Taught me to try and be a persuasive motherducker like this guy is. Favorite thought: seek luck, don't wait for it to come around. ...more
Diego Kuri
Jul 11, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
What an amazing surprise. One of the most entertaining books I've read this year. ...more
W. Whalin
Aug 11, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Jerry Weintraub led a remarkable life and some of his stories are captured in WHEN I STOP TALKING. Born in Brooklyn and raised in the Bronx, his parents , Samuel and Rose, built amazing lessons and practical teaching into his life. Samuel built a jewelry business from the ground up and has a selling skill that Jerry learned at an early age.

Starting in Hollywood as a page at NBC in the late 50s or the Golden Age of television, Weintraub learned about the rise and fall of fame. “Do not get attach
Henrik Haapala
• Opportunity cost: "I have a philosophy of life, but I don't live by it and never could practice it. Now, at 72, I realize every minute doing one thing is a minute not doing something else, every choice is another choice not made, another path grown over and lost. If asked my philosophy, it would be simply this: savor life, don't press too hard, don't worry too much. Or as the old timers say "enjoy." But, as I said, I never could live by this philosophy and was, in fact, out working, hustling, ...more
Bonnie G.
Nov 26, 2014 rated it really liked it
An entertaining read. Weintraub is ridiculous, but also charming. Everyone is his friend whom he loves like a family member. When I say everyone I mean everyone. The list of people he considers like a brother or father or son goes from John Denver to the Rebbe Menachem Schneerson, from George Bush the elder to Bob Dylan, from Colonel Tom Parker to George Clooney. There is Forest Gump quality to some of this, but Weintraub verifiably had close relationships with all of these people (Clooney wrote ...more
Tyler Kom
Jan 14, 2020 rated it liked it
Jerry Weintraub is probably the greatest Hollywood and show business legend that you have never heard of. He's got his hands in every piece of the pie and unabashedly so. In his autobiography, Weintraub details key stories and funny moments throughout his life. We journey through the mean streets of mafia-laden New York City and the forgotten blur of midwestern america.

The book starts very strong, offering incredible business stories and an uncanny business perspective. The writing is decent, bu
Nov 20, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: already-own
I really liked this book, maybe even loved it. Jerry Weintraub is a fascinating man, who has some fascinating stories, and he knows it. He is a man that could be described as having his hand in everything in Hollywood/showbiz, or his finger on the pulse of it. His stories reveal his insistence on going with his gut and reaping the benefits. Persistence, hard work, persistence, confidence, persistence, integrity, and persistence is what is needed to succeed. Just to get an idea of the breadth of ...more
Sep 27, 2010 rated it liked it
This was an interesting and well-written book. I had never actually heard of the author before I read the book, so I was astonished to learn that he was such a Hollywood insider. He worked on Oceans 11 with Brad Pitt, et. al. and the guys liked him so much that when they were given spaces to put their hand prints in the cement at Grauman's Chinese Theater, they actually insisted that he join them and put his hand prints in as well.
He was friends with Armand Hammer and actually accompanied him t
Apr 28, 2010 rated it it was ok

So I bought this because Jerry was on Ellen (I am obsessed with Ellen) and his life sounded so interesting. He co-managed Elvis. He managed Frank Sinatra. He managed Led Zepplin. He managed so many actors, celebrities, personalities, it was amazing. He also directed the Oceans movies (11, 12, and 13).

The early years, him growing up, his family, learning the business, starting out and working with these legends wa
Jan 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
I did not know who Jerry Weintraub was, but I read the book for a challenge where I needed a humorous book. Turns out this guy has been an agent, a concert promoter and a movie producer. He had an intuition for what it took to make money in the business. He worked with Elvis, John Denver, and many others and also managed people who were not musicians, such as Joey Bishop, George Burns, Dorothy Hamill, and produced the Oh God movies and the Ocean 11,12, and 13 movies among others. Actually, this ...more
Mar 04, 2011 rated it really liked it
Weintraub tells his story in a bold,a tad arrogant and un-politically correct voice. When I Stop Talking is an edgy and honest (but refreshingly spare in his criticism of stars, colleagues and family,) memoir of Weintraub's own life swings into the rat pack of the Sinatra days, to the rat pack of the George Cloony-Brad Pitt days, and everyone else he managed or "created" ranging from John Denver to Elvis Presley.
What I liked most about this book is Weintraub's flaming entrepreneurial spirit, al
Jaclyn Kendall
Aug 30, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Probably the most entertaining memoir I have ever read. Jerry is not the best writer, but he has a wonderful voice that brought the story alive. I loved all of his stories and each chapter made me either laugh or cry. Jerry's anecdotes were never long or boring - they all had good meat, and all added something to the story of his life. There were even a few key points that I took away from his life that I jotted down as notes to myself. Jerry has gained a lot of wisdom from doing what he does fo ...more
nathan timmel
Aug 12, 2010 rated it really liked it
By the end of the book, I really, really liked it, but the beginning was a little rough. My problem is in the tone; I heard Mr. Weintraub interviewed on NPR, telling some of the stories, and was immediately engrossed. Reading the book, however, was exactly like reading dictation; this is not a written-word book, it is spoken word translated, and that gives it an odd feel. This is most likely a fantastic audio book, but even though the stories are amazing and his life rich, it does not read well.
Jan 03, 2020 rated it it was amazing
How can you not love someone who both respected Frank Sinatra, but also have the audacity to say "Hey, is it true you don't show up tp shows sometimes?", and then, baffingly, be rewarded with the honor of a Sinatra Handshake Deal that saw to it they would 'both never disappoint one another'. Also, someone who plainly says 'no thanks' to the mob.

He's an amazing storyteller, and its very clear why he was able to become as successful as he had been: he's incredibly charming, funny, and a phenomenal
May 30, 2010 rated it really liked it
I read this book while I was on a hike through the Great Smokey Mountains and something about the juxtaposition of his wild adventures in the urban jungle against my own adventure through the wilderness made this book an even more memorable read. I love Jerry's "I can do anything" attitude and it was a great reminder that good things happen if you never quit. It was like he was there in the room (or the tent) just telling me stories. ...more
Tony Kauffmann
Mar 02, 2017 rated it really liked it
I loved this book, it's one of the most inspiring books I've read in a long time. This guy is a total hustler, in booth admirable and not-so admirable ways. His stories of perseverance and creativity on the spot are really impressive, but in a lot of ways I don't want to be this guy. Definitely a very fun read though, I think it can inspire anyone to pursue their dreams and create the life they want and hustle and persevere until you get it ...more
John Devlin
May 01, 2010 rated it it was ok
So Jerry looks and talks like every man want to look and talk in their 70's. Other than that, he acknowledges his life has been proof that Luck works. He chronicles the many people he knows, while revealing very little about them. All this is the more disappointing b/c Weintraub has known an eclectic and powerful group of folks. ...more
Danny An
Oct 21, 2015 rated it it was amazing
If there's a man who made it to the top being street smart, it's Jerry Weintraub. It's sad to know that I won't be able to meet this incredibly wise and driven man. But, his life lessons live in this book.

Stories with Elvis, Frank Sinatra, John Denver, etc. are fascinating, and you learn a lot about how the entertainment industry operates.
Oct 14, 2010 rated it really liked it
Shelves: media, audiobook
I liked this book, told by a man that is apparently persuasive, although he doesn't tell how he got to be that way. Quite an interesting life. On audio, the grandfatherly narration lends itself well to the story. ...more
Olem Modiga
Jan 15, 2020 rated it it was amazing
A truly amazing book filled with some of the greatest stories I have ever read about someone life.
And I feel like this is more than just a book, but it's a form of treasure that will certainly enrich all who are ready to take the many lessons it offers.
Apr 23, 2011 rated it really liked it
Fun read. Didn't really know who Jerry was before but he has packed some great inspiring Hollywood and business success stories in here. ...more
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