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The Art of Extreme Self-Care

3.92  ·  Rating details ·  1,198 Ratings  ·  112 Reviews
This life-changing handbook by best-selling author Cheryl Richardson offers you 12 strategies to transform your life one month at a time. Designed as a practical, action-oriented program, each chapter challenges you to alter one behavior that keeps getting you in trouble.The book is filled with personal stories of how Cheryl and others have learned to make the practice of ...more
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Published January 1st 2009 by Hay House, Inc. (first published January 1st 2008)
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Jul 28, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
As someone who was raised as a people pleaser and put up with epic amounts of abuse from irrational people growing up...I found this book very helpful in sorting out the bullshit found in most relationships. I have been told many times that I'm "too sensitive" and this book reminded me that this is actually a gift and something that should be gaurded and cherished because it has made me the caring person I am today. It offers tools to help remind yourself that you must come first or you will hav ...more
Danny Kelly
Overall, this is a good, helpful book for removing stress from your life and taking care of yourself. However, several of her solutions involved 1) hiring a service to cook/clean etc for you, and/or 2) delegate more to your staff etc. Unfortunately, not everyone can afford to hire someone else to do stuff for them, and not everyone is a manager or supervisor at a company. One is supposed to take a year to read it, doing a chapter each month. I didn't do that.
Nov 14, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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Jun 14, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: lovers of non-fiction
Recommended to Lorilee by: IIN Curriculum
Cheryl Richardson's 12 chapter, 111 page book offers a synopsis of the most confounding conundrums of what being a human being offers. Each chapter will speak to your most vulnerable parts. Each chapter will resonate at different levels and depths depending on personal challenges. Each chapter offers the step-by-step means, methods and ways of thinking needed to overcome even the most difficult situation or the most inane habit of thought. Richardson enables readers' understanding of deeper psyc ...more
Jul 20, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Inspired by a very useful live session she held on Facebook this week, I decided to read this book. It's got a lot of good advice that I think will be especially helpful during my upcoming move.
This was a good time for me to read this book. I'm usually not that big a fan of self-help stuff - I feel like it's often repetitive and basic and unrealistic - but Richardson keeps it simple and clear and never downplays how difficult it is to make these sorts of changes in your life. I think the most powerful part of this book is the way she breaks down the perfectionist helper personality, including identifying the pathological ways we set ourselves up for failure by basing our self-worth too ...more
Nat Rat
May 21, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm already a fan of Louise Hay. I love this book by two exceptional women, Cheryl Richardson and Louise Hay. It's written in the form of conversations between the two, where Cheryl asks Louise questions about her life. Louise briefly recounts how she came to her life's work, but mostly focuses on how affirmations and changing your thoughts can lead you to a better life. The book is short, but the affirmations alone are worth the price. I love the way they are gathered together by topic at the b ...more
Mary Campbell
Jul 31, 2009 marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: the guilt-ridden and the anxious
I don't care if the book is awful, I love the title. What a concept! Who knew?

I wrote recently that we spend the first half of our lives learning that we're NOT the center of the universe and the second half learning that we ARE. This is probably more evident to parents than to nonparents.

I've listened to Cheryl Richardson, a life coach, on Hay House Radio, and she always surprises me with something new, beyond the "how to say no" and "indulge yourself in a bubble bath" banalities.

Every time I
I think I've read so many of these types of books I've become jaded. Not that this one doesn't have some useful advice. But in the end, it's just more of the same ol' same ol': love yourself, learn to say no, take care of your health, clean up your space, establish a rhythm, relinquish some control, allow yourself to be sensitive and nurture that quality, let go of anger, and find something to be passionate about. All common-sense, practical advice in taking care of yourself. If you manage to do ...more
Feb 27, 2009 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to DDog by: RainbowZia
My girlfriend, who I borrowed this book from, is totally the person the introduction to the book describes. Not so much me, but there was still some useful information in the book. I especially liked the sections on creating balancing routines, the Absolute No and Absolute Yes lists, creating soul-nourishing space, setting limits on negative influences (people, technology, news) and being an active partner in your own health care.
This is one of the few books I'd probably give a 3.5 star to but plan to read again. The is just simple and fast but it is something a person needs to be reminded of. The info is basic and standard so it may not be revolutionary but I like it because it is short. You can read/skim it quickly and remind yourself of all the things you should be doing to keep life in balance.
I hope to pick it up about 2 times a year and adjust my life again :)
Kari Metzger
I would give this book 3.5 stars if given the chance. It's a great review of good concepts for taking care of yourself. For me it was a little thin on programs and needed to go more into depth on 'why' to do these things, how it affects you (based on studies), etc. I guess I just needed it to be a bit meatier to be more relevant.

Great idea though, and the ideas inside are good.
Dec 29, 2016 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Rehashed her other stuff, but a good refresher for what promises to be a stressful new year.
-why did i continue to give too much, usually at my own expense. i wanted people to like me, to enjoy spending time with me, and to see me as wise and helpful. i also wanted to avoid the anxiety i felt whenever someone disapproved of something i did.
-you need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the reality that some people just wont like you. it may not be easy, but its essential if you want your life to reflect your deepest desires, values,
Sep 02, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is probably better than 3 stars, but I've heard all this before and even practiced most of it, so it wasn't of much help. However, she's got great ideas and help for those who give too much of themselves away, to their own detriment, a common malady especially among women.
Aug 23, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology
Although I've already been doing some of the things suggested in this book, there are others that I find overwhelming. The author writes in an easy style and asks the questions I need to get me thinking that I can change things a little at a time
latonya rochelle!
Feb 24, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
As you practice "Extreme Self-Care", you’ll gradually raise your standards for what you will and will not tolerate in your life. Basically, take very good care of yourself! Sections include creating balancing routines, the Absolute No and Absolute Yes lists, creating soul-nourishing space, setting limits on negative influences (people, technology, news) and creating an extreme self-care first aid kit. :)
Miss Downtown NYC
One of my friends sent me an email with "Downtime" from Cheryl Richardson aka Coach on Call. Then I stumbled on this book in the local library and it seemed like a sign that I should read it or at least skim it.

Interesting that Thomas Leonard, founder of Coach University, was her coach. This is where she learned the model of extreme self care. Peter Block was mentored by Dr. Koestenbaum and shortly afterwards went on to write "Flawless Consulting", etc. Block discussed it in the introduction to
Kara Lane
Aug 20, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Cheryl Richardson has written a beautiful and uplifting book on the power of self-care. Not only do her words inspire, but so do the wonderful pictures of the ocean throughout the book.

Some people may think "extreme self-care" sounds like a selfish concept; but as Cheryl explains, when we learn to care for ourselves deeply, we naturally begin to care for others in a healthier and more effective way. In fact, if we always put others first out of guilt or obligation, it can lead to resentment whic
Jun 18, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book, at times, can be difficult to read. This is because you will have to give up certain behaviors that you are used to. They may not make you feel pleasant, but they make you feel safe, because you know what the outcome will be. But if you want to change your life, you have to make changes in your thoughts and behaviors.

Each chapter is about making one significant change in your life, which the author recommends you do over a period of 30 days. (There are 12 chapters total, so theoretica
Sandy H
I read this book immediately following another on the same topic (The Power of Full Engagement) so it's perhaps unfair--how much new material is out there on self-care, anyway? For the most part, they all say the same thing. That being said, the Power of Full Engagement had a lot more that was applicable to my situation, and although it also didn't say anything hugely new, the way it laid it out made me think about things in a new way, so that book was much more helpful. I think The Art of Extre ...more
Westminster Library
A quote I liked from the book is, “Extreme Self-Care…meant taking bold steps, such as eliminating clutter,…creating soul-nourishing work and home environment,…not making any commitments whatsoever out of guilt or obligation.”

I was intrigued by this title. Extreme self-care seemed a selfish act until I read the introduction and saw the author’s feelings were similar when she started the program. To have a personally happy life, you will disappoint and have people not like you. Being the best you
Leanna Manuel
Dec 18, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book was aesthetically pleasing and full of insight.

This is a wonderful book and I will be recommending it to many of my clients, friends, and family. I have read lots of self-help books. This is definitely one of the best. I felt like I actually had a "to do" plan at the end of each chappter and kept post-it notes nearby to flag sections that I wanted to go back and re-read. The pages were much too beautiful to write on.

Cheryl's insightful observations and direct questions stimulated sever
A quick read, unless you decided to study the tips Richardson has for taking better care of the most important person in your life: YOU! Some of her suggestions include saying "I love you" to your reflection every day, listening to your body's needs (including getting annual health examines, eating healthy, exercising), saying "no" and delegating, and recognizing the persistent complaints that run through our heads about life tell us we need to put some commitments on hold, delegate, or cancel t ...more
Oct 14, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Each of Cheryl Richardson’s 12 steps are meant to be practiced an entire month and are particularly helpful to those who habitually put others before themselves. I found that her suggestions and methods made a lot of sense, and naturally different individuals would find some ideas more applicable to themselves than others. When I found myself balking here and there, Richardson’s next words anticipated that skeptical response and immediately acknowledged the reader / listener’s discomfort, and th ...more
Bethany Logan
Aug 05, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Nice book that teaches you to value yourself and the importance of putting yourself first for your own and the peope around you's sake. Recommends that you follow the suggestions in one chapter for a month before doing another one. I read it alongside F**k It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way, which was good as it emphasised that we shouldn't take anything as gospel just because its written down. And there was alot of information and suggestions in this book that could become a burden to precisely the ...more
Jun 01, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I listened to the audio book and it was very helpful in not becoming so overwhelmed in everyday life. There are many good pointers to help you not be so overwhelmed. If this being from asking for help from a loved one to setting boundaries on what you will put up with in your life. The end of the book is very helpful in making a checklist for you and how to life a wonderful stress free life. I would recommend this to anyone that is having a hard time keeping up with the everyday task of life.
Jun 07, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Simple, personal, and important reminders and ideas for personal well-being. Although this may seem like material you have heard before, Cheryl Richardson presents it in a way that is logical and nurturing. By tackling only one area per month, you build lasting habits and ways of reframing your attitudes and responses. The result is the ability to hear your own inner voice and body signals better and respond to them with more thought and intention... a healthier approach, indeed.
Jun 21, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Just started reading this and already highly recommending to everyone I know who does too much or doesn't know how to decline events, projects, favours without worrying about hurting the other parties feelings. This book came about from the author visiting a life coach who showed her that her "being a good girl" to everyone came at the expense of her happiness. She shows ways of still being "nice" but also being firm about maintaining what you need to be happy.
Jul 18, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: selfhelp
This is a simple, useful, yet profound handbook, with a month-to-month guided exercise to help the reader learn skills and acquire tools of better self-care. Its still up to the reader to implement the positive self-supportive changes in their own life, but Cheryl Richardson's book is wonderful, compassionate, and therapeutic source book to engage the reader in thinking about what they need and how to best take action for their better good.
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Cheryl Richardson is the author of The New York Times bestselling books, Take Time for Your Life, Life Makeovers, Stand Up for Your Life, The Unmistakable Touch of Grace and her new book The Art of Extreme Self Care. She was the first president of the International Coach Federation and holds one of their first Master Certified Coach credentials. Cheryl is also the recipient of the 2000 Motivation
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“if you want to live an authentic, meaningful life, you need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the reality that some people just won’t like you. It may not be easy, but it’s essential if you want your life to reflect your deepest desires, values, and needs.” 21 likes
“I love the ocean. My perfect day is spent riding waves at the beach, preferably early in the morning or just before sunset, when the light is beautiful and the crowds are sparse. I've loved the ocean my whole life. Some of my greatest memories are of piling in the station wagon with my family for a long drive to the beach, where we'd spend the day swimming, playing in the sand, digging for clams, or combing the shore for shells. I've always been taken by the majesty of the sea; the mystery of the unseen world below; and the calming, rhythmic sound of the waves.” 1 likes
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