Anger Management for Everyone: Seven Proven Ways to Control Anger and Live a Happier Life

by Raymond Chip Tafrate, Howard Kassinove

Now, from the authors of Anger Management: The Complete Treatment Guidebook for Practitioners, here at last is a comprehensive program for the rest of us! Kassinove and Tafrate bring their significant expertise and research-based understanding to everyone who is interested in learning to control their anger reactions.

Is your anger:

making others uncomfortable and creating distance in your relationships?

disrupting your ability to think clearly and make good decisions?

resulting in behaviors that you later regret or recall with embarrassment?

Anger Management for Everyone shows you "Seven Proven Ways" to cope with adversity, unfairness, and disappointment so that you can be successfully "put anger in its proper place and live a vital, happy, and upbeat life."

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction

272 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2009

About the author

Raymond Chip Tafrate, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and Professor in the Criminology and Criminal Justice Department at Central Connecticut State University. He frequently consults with criminal justice agencies and has trained thousands of professionals to work more effectively with adolescents and adults with difficult-to-change problems such as alcohol and drug dependence, anger regulation difficulties, and persistent criminal behavior. Dr. Tafrate's work has been published in scientific journals, books, and demonstration DVDs for practitioners, and has been presented throughout North America, Europe, and Australia. His books include Forensic CBT: A Handbook for Clinical Practice and Anger Management for Everyone: Seven Proven Ways to Control Anger and Live a Happier Life.

Reviews

[Daniel Schulte]

A surprisingly good book that I learned a lot from.

[Sophia Goodwin]

A pretty quick read. Pretty basic info but I liked some of the worksheets.

[Carol]

Very straightforward book on assertiveness and anger management. Some of it I'll incorporate with patients. Only one pint of disagreement, but that was minimal. It included a really good chapter on forgiveness and a nice wrap-up about living a happy life.

[Suzanne]

I bought this book in 2015 when I started working on myself and the relationship issues.

It is very basic book. At that times I had some tips to follow, but now, five years after, when "I statements", assertive behavior is a basin in each communication, I do not recommend this book for the ones already have basing skills in the self-help world.

This book is written in 2009, I think you can find a lot of information for free online.

[Rachael]

Helpful tips to reduce and control anger...hopefully they work!

[Tim Abell]

Useful, full of good advice (especially for overwhelmed dads of young children!) but a bit hard going to read. Worth persisting I think.

[Ben]

This is another book that use CBT techniques to help with emotion issues. It was hard to find a book without a Christian or Buddhist background.

The authors show that anger episodes follow these order:


1. Trigger : Something or someone happen that make you furious. This happenbecause your life history, hidden reward and punishments that you get for this kind of behavior, also because your animal brain that think that everything is a fight or flight situation.

2. Thoughts: sometimes you can't trust your own thoughts. There are some cognitive distortions that make the experience seem worst that actually is. Actually you get angry because of your interpretation of what happened and your self talk

3. Experience : Your body sensation, the intensity and duration of anger episode

4. Action urge : When your fight or flight pattern emerge. This include symbolic expressions.

5. Anger expression: Some people Express their anger indirectly and some confront directly. Some people avoid the emotions and use alcohol , drugs or Netflix to avoid confront the situation

6. Outcomes : Some behavior lead to positive outcomes like problem solved or learning and some behaviors make everything worse.

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Generally CBT use the following techniques for every problem:

Improve your lifestyle and sleep and food

Body and mind relaxing with breed exercises, mindfulness and muscle tension release

Identify and Destroy cognitive distortions and make your thought more rational

Progressive Exposure techniques, first on your imagination and then on real life controlled situations

Express your feeling in an assertive way

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The thing that I liked the most was what the authors call "the big mistake": Blame other for my your emotions and behavior. Instead we should always take responsibility for our well being and mental health.

[Jason Green]

Meh, it was okay. There were certainly good things to take from this book. Realizing that anger comes from selfishness is huge. Understanding the six types of triggers is very help also. But there is no discussion of anger being a choice. There was also very little discussion of patience being the most effect "cure" for anger. This is definitely a clinical approach to anger. I'm looking for more of a faith-based approach. I look forward to reading Dr. Gary Chapman's book.

[Jennifer Hunt]

A great reminder not to get upset about things you can't control and a reminder that others can't control you and your reactions. Exercising, taking deep breaths, and having a supportive social group are also very helpful. If you have a setback, get back on the horse and keep trying.

[Shaikha Alshimmari]

Good book

Gives examples of how anger can damage our life and how people respond differently to anger. It takes about what triggers anger and it shows us different scenarios of how can we work on our anger
Also it gives some tools on control your anger