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The Wife

3.68  ·  Rating details ·  11,961 ratings  ·  1,543 reviews
"The moment I decided to leave him, the moment I thought, enough, we were thirty-five thousand feet above the ocean, hurtling forward but giving the illusion of stillness and tranquility. Just like our marriage." So opens Meg Wolitzer's compelling and provocative novel The Wife, as Joan Castleman sits beside her husband on their flight to Helsinki. Joan's husband, Joseph C ...more
Paperback, 219 pages
Published April 13th 2004 by Scribner (first published March 25th 2003)
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Aliki Barnstone
Nov 30, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Some reviewers have said they find the wife's motivations unbelievable. They must be younger people, who didn't experience the transformation that feminism brought about for women writers. I'm both glad and concerned that they can take for granted the opportunities that have opened up for women. This book captures exactly the bind women have been in for most of history; in this case Joan Castleman comes of age in the '50s. The book is wonderfully written, engaging, historically accurate, and man ...more
Jul 27, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a great book. The only two drawbacks are that she used some strong profanity in parts and that from the beginning you can figure out the ending. However, the following passage makes up for it (I read it to my husband) "Everyone knows how women soldier on, how women dream up blueprints, recipes, ideas for a better world, and then sometimes lose them on the way to the crib in the middle of the night, on the way to Stop and Shop, or the bath. They lose them on the way to greasing the path ...more
May 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2018
Ao longo de mais de duzentas páginas, ficamos a conhecer as razões que levam uma mulher, aparentemente feliz, a virar as costas ao seu casamento de várias décadas com um renomado escritor, nas vésperas de ele receber um notável prémio literário na Finlândia.
As últimas páginas reservam ao leitor uma reviravolta que não antecipei, uma razão extra ocultada, que justifica muitos dos comportamentos invulgares que alguns dos outros personagens apresentavam.
Um livro feminista, que aborda o papel das m
Nov 09, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
A good written novel, a story of wrong compromises and sacrifices at life
the narrator, Joan the wife, has been married to successful author Joseph Castleman for over forty years, they were traveling where Joseph will receive a major literary award, but she has finally decided to leave him
the story of the Castleman couple is told in a series of flashbacks
the begining of their relationships in the mid 50s, Joe's success and fame, their children, and while Joan was trying to be a supportive wife, J
Patricia Williams
This book was good and interesting but to me, not great. I enjoyed the read and had this book on my "want to read list" for a while but when I saw that it was being made into a movie with Glen Close as the star, I moved it up on my list. I think Glen Close will be perfect in this role. This was a story about a husband and wife where the husband was a famous author. The reviews of the book says it had a shocking ending but I had already figure it out because I've read so much about Zelda and Scot ...more
Nicole Bonia
May 28, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
“The moment I decided to leave him, the moment I thought enough, we were thirty-five thousand feet above the ocean hurtling forward but giving the illusion of stillness and tranquility.”

Joan Castleman is on an airplane accompanying her husband, writer Joseph Castleman, to Helsinki, Finland where he is being honored with the Helsinki Prize in Literature, one step down from the Nobel Prize for Literature, which he knows that he will not get. Over the next four days, Joan revisits their courtship a
Nov 01, 2018 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: n-eua, 2e
A Mulher que odeia as mulheres...

Para justificar o subtítulo, algumas das frases deste romance, cuja narradora é uma mulher de sessenta e quatro anos, culta e inteligente:
1. Flannery O'Connor é um génio mas também "é uma aberração, tão visionária e devotamente católica e austera." (página 65)
Carson McCullers é uma "pequena criatura andrógina que parece um esquilo." (página 65)
Mary McCarthy, "com a sua prosa extraordinária, os malares arquitetónicos, o cabelo apanhado sobre um longuíssimo pescoço
♥ Sandi ❣
3.75 stars

Having never read Meg Wolitzer before I was pleasantly surprised. Her mastery of characters is rich and fulfilling. This story, based mostly on two people, progresses slowly in the beginning, like trying to climb a smooth boulder, then turns into something far more subtle and powerful. This novel covers over forty years of a marriage - one, you may say was one-sided. But after a series of disclosures, the novel ends with it's own unique surprise, buoyed by a profound balancing act, mak
Melissa Crytzer Fry
***UPDATE: I saw the movie on Monday and loved it. Thought it was so interesting to see the decisions made by the screen writers regarding what themes to beef up, which aspects of the characters' personalities to highlight or to soften. And even some of the bigger details were changed completely. Glenn Close deserves the accolades she is getting for this performance.***

I picked this book for our book club, as I thought it would be so much fun to have a corresponding “go to the movies night” to c
Oct 19, 2014 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: literary-misc
3 stars - It was good.

What an odd, despondent little book. This was the first book I have read by Wolitzer and I was struck by her unique writing style - very candid and frank, yet at the same time ornate and flowery. Sounds like an oxymoron, I know, but it is the best way I can describe it. Her distinctive writing style is enough to make me want to pick up another book by her. This particular story, however, became slow somewhere on the back 1/2, and the big "reveal" at the ending was obvious t
Célia | Estante de Livros
Meg Wolitzer tornou-se conhecida dos leitores portugueses depois da publicação de Os Interessantes (Teorema | 2014), ainda que este não tenha sido o primeiro livro da autora a sair por cá; na verdade, A Mulher, agora publicado igualmente pela Teorema, já tinha conhecido uma edição portuguesa em 2009, pela editora Caleidoscópio.

A Mulher é narrado na primeira pessoa por Joan Castleman, uma sexagenária casada com o famoso escritor Joe Castleman. No início da narrativa, encontramo-los num avião rum
Oct 16, 2018 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Well, I had such high expectations for this and yet here we are.

The premise: a wife decides she wants to divorce her husband after a life of continuous misery. She’s a white educated woman who married her slightly older husband in the 50s so her decision to persist in a relationship that has for nearly its entirety made her unhappy is understandable. At least the book asks the reader to understand, and the reader does. To be fair, it’s not so far-fetched; marriage in the 50s and 60s was a diffe
I'm sick of the lovelorn and unrequited: give me a woman who can't stand her husband, oddly enough, brought to my attention many years ago by my father, who always knows a a good author when he reads one, despite his congenital misogyny.

I'm in love so far, complete love, like a Philip Roth novel if Philip Roth weren't so flawed and frustrating. Bad analogy perhaps but she has the same comfort with describing male0-female interactions, a biting sense of humor, a lack of shame regarding human wea
Jan 15, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: fiction, read-2018
I'm in love with this author's writing. I can't wait to read more of her work. The writing deserves 5 stars. I didn't love where the story went at the end though, so I'm going with 4 stars. Instead of going into the plot, I'm going to leave a quote that says so much about this story.

"Joe once told me he felt a little sorry for women, who only got husbands. Husbands tried to help by giving answers, being logical, stubbornly applying force as though it were a glue gun. Or else they didn't try to h
Sep 07, 2008 rated it it was amazing
This book is fantastic. I love the unique perspective of the protagonist: an introspective and talented woman who grew up in the 50s who spends her life married to a famous novelist who is really nothing more than a big kid. She makes a decision that historically stymes feminists, but this book gives her perspective in a fresh and convincing new way.

She's got fresh, beautiful ways of looking at things that are so perfect and sharp and spot-on that it leaves you wondering why you hadn't come to t
Jun 03, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Podia ter gostado muito deste livro, mas acabou por deixar-me um pouco desiludida. Todas as preocupações feministas que estão por detrás do enredo (e muito interessantes) ficam prejudicadas por uma construção algo deficiente e previsível. Ainda assim, vale a pena ler, sobretudo a primeira metade, por aquilo que tenta trazer à discussão.
Oct 16, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
One of the most accurate portrayals of marriage I've read. And my favorite line: "Everyone needs a wife. Wives need wives." That really resonated with me. So true!
Feb 12, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Ich habe mir "Die Ehefrau" als eAudio von der Bücherei ausgeliehen, weil mir "The Interestings" von Wolitzer schon sehr gut gefallen hatte. "Die Ehefrau" ist die Geschichte der Ehe von Joe und Joan Castleman, die allmählich zu Ende geht.

Das Buch war ganz interessant, aber für mich nicht fesselnd genug - hätte man mich nach der Hälfte gezwungen, das Buch abzubrechen, hätte mich das wahrscheinlich kurz geärgert, mich aber auch nicht groß aufgeregt. Die Geschichte plätscherte irgendwie so dahin, d
Oct 30, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: book-to-film
This is the first book I've read by Meg Wolitzer. It's very well written and I almost gave it 4 stars. I liked the way Joan (the titular wife of the story) flashed back to the beginning of her life with Joe and the present day. I'm looking forward to seeing the film version. I hear great things about Glenn Close's performance as Joan.

I liked this book but it wasn't quite as good as I expected it to be.
This book was interesting, and I can see it being good as a movie (hopefully). I definitely had a disguest for Joe throughout the entire book, and it was definitely realistic in a marraieg where someone doesn't want it to end becuase they don't want change, I think that happens too much. It was told well in some shorter flashbacks and all around a single present time event for an award. A quicker easy read, but nothing spectacular. Solid 3.5 stars.
I had a hard time deciding how many stars to give this one. I ended up giving the author the benefit of the doubt and went with three instead of two. The main character, Joan, was almost unbearable as her older self. I found her much easier to deal with as her younger self. The beginning of the book was about the older characters and I nicknamed them Joe (which, coincidentally was actually the husband's name) and Wendy after Joe and Wendy Whiner. These two were a perfect match for each other. Sh ...more
Jun 20, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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"In her [daughter's] worldview, bad marriages were simply terminated, like unwanted pregnancies. She knew nothing of this subculture of women who stayed, women who couldn't logically explain their allegiances, who held tight because it was the only thing they felt most comfortable doing, the thing they actually liked. She didn't understand the luxury of the familiar, the known: the same hump of back poking up under the cover in bed, the hair tufting in the ear. The husband. A figure you never st ...more
Azita Rassi
Sep 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Powerful prose, memorable descriptions, amazing characterization, and a fascinating twist. It was a slow read for me but a delightful one. Unique in many ways.
It is easy for many of us today to forget the limitations placed on women in the very recent past; for those who wanted more than the traditional marriage and children, the options were very limited, the exceptions to the rule very few. It is also easy to overlook, until we are somehow confronted in a way that catches us up short, the challenges that remain, and the very real danger of losing all that has been gained. Meg Wolitzer’s book “The Wife” can remind us of both, and it is rather telling ...more
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Nancy K
Jun 22, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I always read a handful of reviews before I make my own comments, just to see where others are coming from.

I'm seeing a lot of discussion about unlikable characters (I agree) and the author not giving the married partners a chance to demonstrate what made the marriage fail in the way of dialogue and daily interactions (also true).

But to those who say that Joan was a spoiled, stay-at-home mother who made the choice to give up her career, I say that's not fair.

Women didn't have the same opportunit
I finished The Wife by Meg Wolitzer. I chose this book as a "twofer"- it works for Author of the Month and Off The Shelf, Books on the cover for my Goodreads Book Club.

Earlier this week I read LIFE AFTER LIFE by Kate Atkinson, so I was surprised and excited to read the following quote in THE WIFE:-
"'How can I just have this one life?' I used to ask my mother incredulously when I was twelve and sat at the dining room table in our apartment..."
There were no more surprises or excitement.

I underst
Ayelet Waldman
This novel is about the wife of a famous writer. Hmm. I wonder why I bought it. It was tremendous fun to read, but I didn't like the ending. I thought the dramatic surprise sold the novel short.
Sep 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2018, audio
I listened to this as an audio book and the narrator was really excellent. I didn't think so at first but as the story progressed I realized that the way her voice was constantly teetering on the edge of anger was absolutely perfect. Listening to audio books makes me realize that there are sentences in books that I might pass my eyes over on the page with out much notice but when there is a certain inflection in the narrator's voice you hear it a whole different way and it grabs your attention. ...more
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Meg Wolitzer is the New York Times–bestselling author of The Interestings, The Uncoupling, The Ten-Year Nap, The Position, The Wife, and Sleepwalking. She is also the author of the young adult novel Belzhar. Wolitzer lives in New York City.
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“Everyone needs a wife; even wives need wives. Wives tend, they hover. Their ears are twin sensitive instruments, satellites picking up the slightest scrape of dissatisfaction. Wives bring broth, we bring paper clips, we bring ourselves and our pliant, warm bodies. We know just what to say to the men who for some reason have a great deal of trouble taking consistent care of themselves or anyone else. “Listen,” we say. “Everything will be okay.” And then, as if our lives depend on it, we make sure it is.” 15 likes
“Everyone knows how women soldier on, how women dream up blueprints, recipes, ideas for a better world, and then sometimes lose them on the way to the crib in the middle of the night, on the way to the Stop & Shop, or the bath. They lose them on the way to greasing the path on which their husband and children will ride serenely through life.” 12 likes
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