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Feeling Good Together: The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work

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Simple, Powerful Techniques that Make Relationships Work

"Why won’t my husband ever express his feelings?"
“Why won’t my wife listen?"
“Why is my sister such a control freak?"
"Why does my ex act like such a total jerk?"
“What’s wrong with people?”

We all have someone we can’t get along with—whether it’s a friend or colleague who complains constantly, a relentlessly critical bos
ebook, 352 pages
Published December 30th 2008 by Harmony (first published 2008)
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Roy Lotz
The path to intimacy is nearly always painful.

For a while now I have believed that the Life of Reading, if it isn’t to be merely a diversion or a way of stroking one’s own ego, must be a life of self-transformation. To be well-read does not only mean to be familiar with certain names and ideas, plots and quotes; more importantly, it entails the development of real changes in perspective, personality, and behavior. Thus when I recently ran into a problem in my relationship, I chose to see it as
Mar 16, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-improvement
I waited for this audio book for quite some time in a queue in my library and I glad that, when the title became available to me, I put all other readings on hold and focused on digesting the author’s messages thoroughly. I am ordering this book in a paper format now and also a complementary workbook. I’ve known about efficiency of cognitive behavioral therapy since I read Dr. David Burns’s bestselling book “Feeling Good” 12 years ago. I have never mastered techniques Dr. Burns suggested, though ...more
Ms A
Sep 21, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is a reworked and expanded offering of the communication sections from The Feeling Good Workbook. If you've already read either of the previous Feeling Good books, but you're interested in learning how to use the communication skills better, this volume streamlines some of the previous information and adds some new exercises. The Relationship Journal technique and provided form is helpful tool in assessing your strengths and weaknesses when using the Five Skills, and using it regularly will ...more
Jul 11, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A must read if you want to work on any relationship. It's amazing the techniques you will learn to deal with your spouse, boss or siblings. I was very impressed with the methods used especially EAR. Empathy, Assertiveness and Respect. The writer is an expert on personal relationship and how to get the most out of each encounter.
Sep 20, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
It has many valid ideas, I think, but you have to sift through a lot of self-help type of speech to get at it. To me, this was quite the effort!
Sep 18, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Despite the big title, this book offers many good pieces of advice. I really appreciate the honesty of the author working as psychotherapists: there are general rules to improve troubled relationships, but also be aware of extremely hard cases.

The general rules are: genuine empathy & respect for others people, courage to open one's own feelings and work hard to improve relationships. The author discussed his 5 techniques when dealing with people. From my experience, it really works as i oft
John Stucki
First off, I already have a great relationship with my wife. This book so is really good at showing you how to work with all types of relationships. Unlike other ones I have read it gives you realistic and simple tools to improve your communications. It also directly addresses common challenges and common types of personalities and how to deal with them.

Make no mistake though, it like pretty much all other books I've read on the subject, all indicate the only thing you can do is change your int
Much like Mindless Eating, this is one book that probably every American should read. Most people have communication issues that the techniques in this book can help you overcome by pulling you out of your automatic responses, acknowledging the truth in what the other person is telling you and then finding the path forward together.

Knowing and acknowledging that you can only control your actions is really the key to fixing a lot of things in life. Dr. Burns uses it extensively. Highly recommend
Jun 26, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this book after finishing Feeling Good and found it to offer practical suggestions on responding to the people we love in a way that promotes intimacy and deepens the relationship. These skills require a certain willingness to change oneself for the benefit of the relationship and may require the reader to work through his or her own resistance to being the one to change. The practice exercises are helpful for consolidating skills and applying them to one's own life.
Chris Hunt
Sep 01, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
My close relationships are dramatically improving.

First, David Burns' newly developed TEAM CBT therapy (as practiced by therapist Annie Hanaway) cured my 30 year depression. With that as a foundation, this book then has provided immense understanding of how to heal my most important relationship. And that is just what I plan to do. Just wow.
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David D. Burns is an adjunct professor emeritus in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Stanford University School of Medicine and the author of the best-selling book Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. Burns popularized cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) when his book became a best seller during the 1980s.

Burns received his B.A. from Amherst College in 1964 and his M.D. fro
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