Few women do it and even fewer will admit to it. But in Toni Bentley's daring and intimate memoir, The Surrender, she pulls the sheets back on an erotic experience that's been forbidden since the Bible and celebrates "the joy that lies on the other side of convention, where risk is real and rapture resides." From Story of O to The Kiss to The Sexual Life of Catherine M., r...more
To be honest when I got this I thought I was mainly in it for the comic relief. And my god, did it deliver. This is the funniest book ...more
"I came to know God experientially, from being fucked in the ass—over and over and over again."
"I want to die with him in my ass"
It's a pretty good read, I have to say, although I wish I knew exactly how much of the humor was intentional. A lot of it reads like Mad Libs entries where all the inserted words and phrases involve ass: "True happiness can be found... in the ass." "Love is... taking it up the as ...more
It's incredibly daring and provocative, and while it is definitely graphic, this isn't hardcore porn by a long shot. It's witty, informational, and at times, moving. So what is the damned book about, already?
It's a memoir about anal sex.
Not just anal sex, but the connection between that ...more
I read this book because it was this month's selection for my erotica book group. I almost didn't read it because it's not available in ebook format but I finally caved and bought the dead-tree version and I'm glad I did.
First of all, let me say I felt a particular affinity with the author, having a background in dance, daddy issues, and a pre-existing love of anal sex and all things expli ...more
I, on the other hand, enjoyed Bentley's honesty. And in fact, she has a few moments of inspired prose (e.g., "If heaven is a taste of eternity in a moment of real time, then hell is an eternity of loss in a moment of real time"). Girlfriend admit ...more
Some puns she thought clever went along these lines: a look with ...more
For those who abhor the thought of ass sex, or those that hav ...more
i liked that it was such a bold topic (SODOMY), but.... meh?
let's talk about how i almost didn't even finish the book. the beginning chapters are TERRIBLE. 20 billion different and "clever" ways of writing the exact same thing. let me show you:
"This is the backstory of a love story. A backstory that is the whole story. A second hole story, to be entirely accurate. Love fr ...more
This was a challenge book for me and when I read the description, I admit I was curious. What would possess a woman to write this about herself and then share it with the world. I'm still left asking why. She can actually write, but after the initial shock wore off, it just became more and more of the same. I wanted to understand this damaged narcissistic yet completely insecure person but found it hard to endure her lifestyle and her choice of words. Finally at th ...more
I found the protagonist's courage inspirational, leading me to reexamine questionable attachments within and beyond the intimate and sexual in my own life.
Nevertheless, a wonderfully straightforward well-prosed erotic novel!
With that said, I really struggled with her incredible pretentiousness: It's really just sex. It is rather juvenile to build one's entire life around a single act. To turn every encounter into some sort of ritualized tantric nirvana-near-approach was laughable.
Bentley's tendency to typecast men was both ridiculous and sexist. Her penchant for puns often petered out into mediocrity :) Whe ...more
The Surrender is Toni Bentley's "erotic memoir" about transcendence/anal sex/submission, and despite the fact that there were things in the book that bugged me, I quite liked it overall. To start with the things that bothered me: I could have done with a lot less Freudian psychologizing, though at the same time, it feels somewhat unfair to criticize the book for its emphasis on something that is apparently a very big part of Bentley's subjective experience of her life and ...more
...what she likes A WHOLE LOT.
The prose gets a bit purple at times, but in that "if-you-like-it-you-like-it" manner of Anais Nin's, which kind of fits, if you think about it. Hey, more power to her--and yes, I enjoyed this book greatly! Cheers!