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The 10 Women You'll Be Before You're 35

3.35  ·  Rating details ·  276 ratings  ·  43 reviews
Everyone - from your mother to your boyfriend - is always telling you who you are and who you should be. But who are you, really, and who do you really want to be? New Graduate; Dollarless Diva; Worker Bee; Party Girl; Body-Conscious Babe; Chameleon; Crisis Chick; Ms. Independence; Wirl (half woman/half girl); True You. In "The 10 Women You'll Be Before You're 35," author ...more
Paperback, 256 pages
Published February 25th 2005 by Polka Dot Press (first published January 1st 2005)
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Jan 05, 2010 rated it it was amazing
I recommend this book to every female in their 20's. Alison James has a fun, direct way of presenting the many different attitudes, goals, and hang-ups women experience between the time they graduate college and turn 35. Most readers will find that they've already (on some level) experienced each phase James describes and may find comfort in knowing that their shifts in identity are not only normal but equally important in discovering who it is they want to be. With helpful tips, true stories, a ...more
May 12, 2009 rated it did not like it
Waste of my time. Couldn't get past the ridiculous chapter headings. This author is cynical and unoriginal. Can't believe this thing got published! ...more
Feb 13, 2009 rated it it was ok
Cute for a recent college grad, no longer relevant past one year in the work force.
Aug 09, 2019 marked it as abandoned
I read the first chapter of this book and decided to skip ahead to read the page overview of each woman you could be. This might have been a cute and interesting book in 2005 when it was published but it just doesn’t resonate with me in 2019.

Unfortunately it’s outdated and there are many things in here that showcase just how far we’ve come as a society. Or maybe It’s that I’m no longer in my 20s and I can no longer relate to these ideas.

This might be a good book for you if you have just graduate
Victoria Cryer
May 11, 2018 rated it it was ok
I'm afraid this book didn't really do it for me. It was one of those books I was hanging out to get through and probably wouldn't have bothered with, but I promised myself I would complete each book I started in my 30 things.
The style of writing was easy and yes there were phases I could relate to and times I uttered a chuckle but overall I feel this book was too young for me.
Probably better for a early-mid twenty something.
It did have some good advice given in a lighthearted way which may have
May 28, 2017 rated it it was ok
Shelves: abandoned
I started reading this after finishing college and found it cute and funny. Life happened and I put it down for nearly 10 years. I attempted to start over and finish it this time but found it incredibly boring and predictable.
Jul 14, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Hilarious! Had me nodding, smiling, cringing, sighing, hiding, shrugging, and agreeing with every line she wrote. A true insight into the stages of life a girl will go through, some of which, I am in now!
Apr 24, 2019 rated it liked it
I found this to be cute, humorous, clever and at times insightful.
Joseph Gioconda
May 29, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Girls/women in their twenties and early thirties will probably enjoy!
Sep 19, 2008 rated it liked it
Shelves: chick-lit
There’s no need to buy this one; you can read it in less than 20 minutes at the bookstore if the title catches your fancy (as it did mine). The book probably serves a much better purpose as a means of reminiscing for those of us who’ve already bumbled our way through most of the phases described in the book. But I think the point was to market it as the “ideal” book to gift to that recent college girl grad. That being said, I’m pretty sure that if somebody had given me this book at 22, it probab ...more
Stephanie Grassie
Feb 16, 2013 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction
It took me awhile to get through because it was slow, boring, and read at a 6th grade reading level. It was difficult for me to desire spending my precious time on this, so I primarily read it in very small bits over the course of a month. Anyway... The book is ok. It is very "cutesy" and could/should have been a much shorter, coffee table sort of book, rather than trying to format it like a novel. I genuinely enjoyed a few lines in each chapter and did, indeed, identify with each phase. I spent ...more
Jun 18, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Women Ages 20-infinity
An easy quick read that can be done in as little as an evening. Some I didn't relate to as much but the later ones definitely. Women at this time in history are going through their lives in a very different way than just a few decades before. This book is a good way to look back and reflect on where you've been, where your at and where your going and to find a healthy dose of self acceptance and humor.

Also had a lot of good quotes! Here are a few!

"Whoever said money can't buy happiness simply di
Aug 15, 2009 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: people who don't mind a bit of a generic look at female life rather than anything constructive.
Shelves: non-fiction
I'd been meaning to read this book for ages but I couldn't find it on any bookshop shelves ANYWHERE for months, so eventually I just ordered a cheapy copy of it online.

I think I'd bigged it up in my mind a little more than it needed to be honest, but it was still an enjoyable read. It was a little more fluff than I thought it might be, more of an amusing read than anything particularly instructive. And of course, as is always with these kind of books, it's very generic. But still a laugh to rea
Jun 20, 2007 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: woman under 35 into self-help books
Shelves: read_2007
If you are into self-help type books you may just like this books. The book describes different phases that many woman go through throughout their lives. The problem with the book was that they didn't really tell me anything that I didn't already know and also that I didn't feel that a lot of the information really applied to me or a lot of my friends for that matter. Wouldn't really recommend this one! ...more
Nov 06, 2007 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: girls who are younger and more frivilous than I
Note: This is a mom-issued book.

In attempt to be humorous, the author often falls short and just sounds cheap and moronic. It's like an episode of Sex and the City that doesn't go anywhere. Still, as I recovered from a break-up, something about the ridiculousness of this book was comforting. If this is the kind of thing most women can relate to, I'm still ahead of the dating curve!
May 29, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
This was funny at times... but not worth the $3 I paid for the sale version of it. It was a very fast read- and yes, you do recognize different stages of your life (since I'm a lil older than the teen girl this is modeled least that's the way it seemed to me.) But if you are in a reflective epriod of your life- it seemed like a fitting read. ...more
Aug 27, 2015 rated it liked it
This was a very cute and quick read that is helpful to anyone preparing to graduate college and start living on their own. There are a lot of helpful hints and tricks to tackle the more confusing concepts of life and create a balance. Though the chapters don’t necessarily pertain to everyone, I think most women in their early 20’s would benefit from this book.
May 13, 2007 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Colleen, Adrianna, Mandy
This book is just a fun read. You will recognize and identify with the different phases that women go through. This book is famous for creating the oh so true phrase "Perfecting the Martini Smile" Trust me it is a funny read and the vocabulary is outrageous funny. ...more
Jun 04, 2008 rated it really liked it
I read this book not too long after I graduated from college. I had just started my first real job. This was a great way for me to accept the changes that were occurring in my life and to roll with the punches. I have already been some of these women, and some are still to come.
Apr 13, 2009 rated it did not like it
This book is inane. I don't know why I even checked it out in the first place. I'm kind of cheating when I say I marked it read. I tried to read it, and did skip to the various sections. No way am I reading every word in this book. ...more
Cute book - would be a great gift for a female student. Some parts were really cheesy but I enjoyed the author's sarcasm and the quotes sprinkled throughout the book. My favorite chapters were the "party girl" and the last one one about being a "wirl!" ...more
Feb 03, 2014 rated it really liked it
I was able to relate to it in a way that every woman should... Realistic... Although it may not always be applicable to everybody's situation but the thoughts are transferable and life skills evolve into something that will fit in a certain circumstance ...more
Jan 24, 2017 rated it did not like it
I couldn't even finish this. It replaces another figure telling us who we are - I couldn't relate to any of the caricatured roles, even when the behaviour matched mine somewhat well. It is so over the top and too exaggerated to add any value. ...more
Apryl Marie
Oct 12, 2007 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2007
Just a good flip through and see where you are and where you've been book.

A little to general I think for any substance wouldn't run out to buy it but is good enough to pass on to a friend.
Sarah Marie
Jan 10, 2008 rated it liked it
This book was good, but I think I would enjoy it more now or in the next few years. I think I was a little too young to really appreciate the book.
Feb 07, 2008 rated it it was amazing
I think this book saved my life!! :)
Evett DiBianco
Feb 20, 2008 rated it really liked it
Shelves: a-girly-must
A fun book in which you'll see yourself through each stage. A total girly must! ...more
Mar 20, 2008 rated it it was ok
Meh. Nothing really new.
Jul 02, 2008 rated it it was ok
Shelves: enlightenment
Lists 10 phases women repeatedly go through and points out the lessons learned during each.
I'm pretty sure I went through all of them before 23.
Aug 27, 2009 rated it did not like it
My least favorite kind of book. I read about 2 pages of it. Given to me by my stepmom, which explains it all.
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