Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic
Newly revised, featuring the most up-to-date research, effective strategies, and real-life stories
The spirited child—often called "difficult" or "strong-willed"—possesses traits we value in adults yet find challenging in children. Research shows that spirited kids are wired to be "more"—by temperament, they are more intense, sensitive, perceptive, persistent, and uncomfortable withstoriesThe ...more
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I have had this book recommended to me by several people but had never read it because I didn't think my kids were "spirited". They aren't hyper, but I was totally misunderstanding the use of the word. The opening page of this books says "I ... secretly needed to talk with other parents who understood what is was like to live with a child who could scream for 45 minutes ...more
This is called the Pygmalion Effect and has been well documented by researchers. The reality is that children learn what hey are from others in their lives. Think about ht e spirited children you know. What words do you use to describe them? Do they sound like the million-dollar words created by advertising companies, words that can make you wish you could have even more children who are spirited? Are they the kind of descriptors that would make other ...more
As I continued, what stood out, even beyond the helpful advice and tips for handling the intense traits of a spirited child, was her positive perspective. I was able to shed the burden I was feeling about having a "spirited" child and loo ...more
There are parts of the book that don't apply to us, which I think would be the case for many parents. But what parenting book is ...more
Toby has always been an intense child - even in the womb he was a nutball. I was at the end of my rope a few weeks ago and truly did not know what to do with this kid - nothing ever works. No really, nothing I have ever tried discipline wise has ever helped. Except for screaming - we told him if he screamed a bear would eat him. This cut down on 90% of the screaming, but I'm not really want ...more
I love that the book's premise isn't to "fix" your child - it unapologetically says, "this is who your kid is, you can't change 'em ...more
Today, my spirited child is a 20 year old American Soldier and a missionary who is the light and joy of m ...more
I wanted the facts laid out for me like boom, boom, boom. I wanted someone to hold my hand and say, "when he does x, you do y."
I don't know that there is a book in existence that can do that. However, I'll keep chugging along, reading parenting book after parenting book hoping that someday I am so filled with ...more
Quite honestly, I didn't learn a whole heck of a lot of new techniques. If anything, the author reassured me that I am alre ...more
The way Kurcinka writes was very helpful in breaking down each special trait and I enjoyed the examples tremendously in driving home her points.
My wife ...more
This book has been SO WONDERFUL!!!!!!! If your child is spirited, READ IT!!!
I'm so grateful for the tools and mindset that this book gave me. I felt punished every day for over a year. "Why did I have to get this child? I don't want this one. Take him back, please!" I also had terrible postpartum depression at the time, which made everything worse than it already was, plus my son had one of the five worst cases of colic I've ever ...more
I came to this book at a low moment in my parenting journey. I was on the MRT when I read the full description of the spirited child and I burst into tears. I thought, "thank god I'm not the only one" and "it's not just me sucking as a parent". Being a parent is an incredibly hard role for which you get no training in advance and a multitude of advice which may or may not have any bearing on your own reality. Raisi ...more
As director of parentchildhelp.com, Mary provides training nationally ...more