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The No-Cry Potty Training Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Child Say Good-Bye to Diapers: Gentle Ways to Help Your Child Say Good-Bye to Diapers

3.60  ·  Rating details ·  580 ratings  ·  110 reviews
Say good-bye to diapers and hello to fast, effective potty training, from the parenting author millions trust

Potty training your child doesn't have to be a stressful experience. Parenting authority Elizabeth Pantley helps your child get on the road to bathroom independence without frustration, confusion, or tears.

Elizabeth Pantley's easy no-cry solution will help you:

Paperback, 174 pages
Published 2007 by McGraw-Hill (first published August 28th 2006)
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Laura Berry I think it's the best. Read it early, way before you want to potty train. The most important tips are regarding PRE potty training.

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This is a decent book. There's not a whole lot of new information here, but I really like some of the questions she poses, such as, "How does your child learn other things?" This made me think about how to match my expectations to my son's history of learning. When it comes to physical things, he takes a while, likes to observe a lot first, be cautious about it, and then he practices, practices, practices, and does it really well. I think this book encourages one to give thought to things like t ...more
Jun 06, 2009 rated it really liked it
I was glad not to have found a strict potty training regiment in this book. I was just looking for basic ways to get started and appreciated this book for the ideas and flexibility it allows.
Feb 08, 2012 rated it really liked it
The No-Cry Potty Training Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Child Say Good-Bye to Diapers is a gentle guide to help you transition your child from diapers to the toilet. It takes a gentle and relaxed approach to potty training that is based on waiting until your child is ready for potty training. If you are looking for either an elimination communication solution or an intensive 1-3 day potty training solution, this is not the book for you.

There are a total of 9 chapters in this book with a se
Mar 07, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: anyone involved in the care of children
Recommended to Frangipani by: an online search of my local library
Shelves: parenting
Here, finally, is a book that has proper modern ideas about when and how to start helping your little one to learn to use the toilet. Good ideas on how to handle unwanted advice/criticism. Things to do if "training" stalls or you have "setbacks". How to motivate kids who aren't interested. How night time dryness and daytime dryness are separate issues due to the physiology of children. This book should be recommended reading for every person involved in the care and welfare of children. Cannot s ...more
Feb 01, 2008 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: parents of babies and young toddlers
Shelves: parenting
There really isn't much in this book that is new or unique. I've read most of the ideas in this book elsewhere (other books or websites). The information is sound, though, and it's nice to have in one place.

Typical of Elizabeth Pantley, the tone of the book is knowledgeable without being condescending, and it's laid out nicely. It's a quick, uncomplicated read, and a good introduction to potty training. Not worth owning in my opinion, but a worthwhile check-out from the library.
Cassandra Griffiths

I was sent this book by the author and I have to say as ever the approach is gentle and has provided me with confidence to begin toilet training my two year old son. The advice is common sense and gentle. I've passed it on to my friend with an 18 month old. It has lots of different ideas all in one book!
Mar 26, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
Well formatted. Easy to read and get finer points

Along the same lines as mt thinking.
Take away message:
Two magic indicator for toilet training success:
~teachers positive and supportive attitude
~teachers kind and understanding patience
Jan 12, 2017 rated it really liked it
Answered a lot of the questions I had (though not all, hence the 4 stars instead of 5), and left me feeling quite prepared for the undertaking.
Ashleigh Corsino
Feb 27, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I am writing this review before actually attempting active potty training, but I already know that it will be my reference guide when we do go for the action phase. I felt that it resonated with me because it is not a checklist of specific “steps” like a lot of other guides. If you are looking for very specific instructions, this may not be your “go to” for potty training. I do not like a specific methods approach to thing because if step 1 doesn’t go to plan, I find myself panicking as to what ...more
Feb 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I LOVE these "no-cry" books by Pantley! Her whole point to these books is that there is never a "one size fits all" solution. Every family, child, & situation is different so they all need to be approached differently. It's all about the growth mindset. This book inspired me to do all my toilet training backwards from what I was told to do with all my other children, resulting in successes & no stress this time around! I didn't read the book cover to cover, but have picked through it as ...more
Stephanie Piontkowski
Sep 11, 2017 rated it really liked it
It was a little more relaxed without losing the sense of urgency when it comes to potty training. I never felt like I was be berated for any previous potty training attempts. I didn't necessarily agree with everything in the book but on the whole it's the best potty training book I've come across so far.
Jan 28, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book helped me potty train my third! I wish I had had it with my first two! It was a full of no brainer facts and tips. Highly recommend! It was also a very quick read.
May 18, 2018 rated it liked it
A good resource if you’re just starting out.
Amina Al motery
great advises overall, i'll try her method with my toddler, i disagree on suggesting the rewards for the kid, not the right method at least in my parenting method
Amy Prewitt
Jan 16, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Great, solid advice that has worked perfectly for us — especially good advice for responding to accidents etc
Oct 05, 2011 rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting
While I wasn't a huge fan of this author's previous book, The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night, I decided to give Elizabeth Pantley another chance. While my older son still has the occasional accident with poop, I didn't expect this book to be much help, but I decided to give it a try anyways.

Reading through the book, I have to say, I was right. This book didn't give me any information that would help my older son with his accidents, at least not anyth
Apr 03, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: All parents, caregivers
Oh, this is the book I needed six months ago! We've been slowly potty training/learning for many months now and I wish I'd read this book sooner. I was all out of ideas, my sons were losing interest, and just didn't really know what I was doing wrong and why my boys weren't interested in the potty anymore. Elizabeth Pantley gives wonderful friendly and gentle suggestions and tons of great ideas in this book. I love how she gives you "permission" to stop treating toilet learning as something that ...more
Kirsten Mellin
Sep 02, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This book has been an amazing guide in teaching my children how to use the potty. I love how at the beginning of the book it mentions that potty training is really potty learning, so throughout this review I will always say learning or teaching and not training. I am at the beginning of teaching my 2 girls (almost 2 and 3) and I have already tried at least a dozen different things to "potty train" them. There are so many helpful tools and advice in this book to help every child and parent no mat ...more
May 21, 2016 rated it it was ok
I was hoping that this book would offer me some new ideas for potty training my difficult to train four year old, unfortunately it didn't.
Everything in the book I've read online (albeit in various different sites) and it didn't address the difficulty we seem to be having.

With a bit of looking around online you can gather all of these ideas for yourself without spending a penny. I found the book irritatingly repetitive, it's a short book and there are several points that are just copied from one
Patti K
May 29, 2012 rated it liked it
Similar to her other 'no cry' books in structure and tone, this one reflects much of the rhetoric of modern potty training advice. In short, expect it to be trial and error, to have accidents, to be frustrated and to need much patience, but if you wait until your little one is truly ready, all of those things will be shorter in duration. Honestly, I think that it's hardest with your first child, so if you're wondering about how to do it for #1, then this might help you quite a bit. I think I ben ...more
May 03, 2010 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: Parents entering the "potty learning" phase of toddlerhood
Recommended to Shannon by: Library Catalog
Shelves: 2010
What to say...this is a book about potty training or should I say "potty learning." This was not an eye-opening read for me, but it did make me feel better about the process as a whole. Specifically, since I have grown up hearing how I just started to use the potty around 18 months, and my sister took to the potty fairly easily at about two years, I was starting to feel like a loser that my kids didn't seem to be "getting it." Some of this book talked about readiness (which was not even in my pa ...more
Aug 04, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting, 2015
very quick read/skimming. like other reviewers have said, not a ton of new information. we've been working on this for my daughter for a couple of months and hitting a setback/regression, which was getting me really, really frustrated. this book helped me put it in perspective a little and take a breath, and had a few helpful suggestions for rekindling the interest - maybe a potty book starring my kiddo, sticker charts, reading, etc to make the whole process seem fun again and take some of the p ...more
Jul 16, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2011, own, parenting
This is an excellent book about toilet training. It's straight-forward, organized, concise, and full of ideas. It isn't gimmicky like a lot of the training books I've seen (Potty Train Your Child in Just One Day: Proven Secrets of the Potty Pro toilet training for instance). This is about the child's independence and not the parents' convenience, IMO. Pantley is right on that the two most important factors to training success are the teacher's positive attitude (1) and patience (2). My daughter ...more
Nov 24, 2008 rated it liked it
I checked this out from the library because I like Elizabeth Pantley's sleep book (The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers). As with the other one, I like her writing style. She shares her ideas in a helpful way without coming across like a know-it-all.

This book has a lot of good general ideas, but no specific plan. She encourages you to come up with your own potty-training plan and implement it with patience. She did discuss a few potty-training issues I hadn't considered (this
Jul 20, 2013 rated it really liked it
This is a not a step-by-step instruction book. I don't think those would help and would only create the frustration and crying we want onto avoid.

This guide helps determine if parent's and their child is ready for learning to toilet. It's encouraging and has good ideas to try. It's best advice is to relax.

My first daughter was four when I finally stopped putting diapers on her. She had learned her cues and succeeded in a week. My second daughter is three now and will soon be starting preschool
Dec 31, 2013 rated it really liked it
I have considered myself to be quite knowledgeable in this area but after hitting a number of stumbling blocks with my 2.5 year old in this area, i started reading this book and am so glad I did.

I like Pantley's approach to parenting generally. This book was quick and easy to read, I found myself skimming through sections that didn't apply to me. The great thing about the layout is that she walks you through how to analyse potty problems and by the end, I had a better idea of our problem and so
Feb 23, 2012 rated it it was amazing

Last summer when Joanna was 2,5 years, we started potty training. Since she was 18 months old she said when she needed to go to the potty. But mommy was so silly that she waited until she turned 2 to buy a potty. But then the whole family put a pressure on us and gave me advices. I was frustrated and she was demotivated. Luckily I found The No Cry Potty Training Solution book and started to relax. I learned to stop asking her if she had to go, but took her when she needed. It was so obvious. We
Feb 03, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Just started this's a breath of fresh air after the very unrealistic 'do it in a day' books & techniques out there. Let's just say that Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither is a potty-trained child!

Finished this awhile ago, but am still referring to it mentally. We've had way more success taking some of these ideas. Making a potty poster together with inspirational photos of her going through the process and then tracking the progress on a chart, rewarding for staying dry as well
Jun 22, 2007 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: toilet teachers
I'm a fan of Elizebeth Pantley (No Cry Sleep Solution) so that being said I do like this book. I'm only about 1/2 way through, and I haven't read anything amazingly helpful yet. I knew a lot of what I've already read. It all comes down to getting your kid to pee and poo in a little bowl as calmly and stress-free as possible. I do like her approach though...laid back and realistic. I like the Potty Poster idea in chapter 5. We'll of course be making one of those crafts. I've ordered my garb onlin ...more
Jun 23, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: mommy-baby-books
The book was what I needed. It doesn't have a master plan of attack but just a list of age appropriate behaviors and abilities. I am all for just waiting until my kid wants to potty train himself (which the author actually seems to disapprove of unfortunately) but I wanted to know when to expect that sort of thing to occur and just what to expect from my child. The quiz in chapter 2 was perfect for me and the statistics that she mentions gave me a realistic view of what to expect from my child. ...more
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Parenting educator Elizabeth Pantley is president of Better Beginnings, Inc., a family resource and education company. Elizabeth frequently speaks to parents at schools, hospitals, and parent groups around the world. Her presentations are received with enthusiasm, and praised as realistic, warm and helpful.

She is a regular radio show guest and frequently quoted as a parenting expert in newspapers