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Six Years in Waiting: Kisah Nyata Pejuangan Perempuan Demi Menjadi Ibu

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Peggy tak ingin menimang seorang bayi. Pernikahan dengan pria yang dicintainya pun tak membuatnya berubah pikiran. Pada usia tiga puluh dua, dengan karier jurnalis-penulis yang berada di pundak, menjadi ibu tak ada dalam daftarnya. Peggy ketakutan melihat satu per satu temannya memiliki anak dan melepaskan pekejaan mereka demi keluarga. Oh, tidak dia tak akan mampu.

Paperback, Cetakan I, 310 pages
Published February 2008 by Hikmah (first published February 6th 2007)
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Jun 02, 2008 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Peggy Orenstein paints herself in such a bad light in Waiting for Daisy that it’s next to impossible to sympathize with her predicament. And that’s too bad, because three miscarriages are a lot to suffer through. However, Orenstein paints her desire for a child not as a powerful emotional urge but as an accomplishment she can’t live without. She never once talks about wanting to be a mother, or even wanting to have a baby. She is singularly focused on getting pregnant and staying that way for as ...more
Apr 08, 2007 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: women who might want to be mothers some day; mothers
The publication I work for has recruited Peggy Orenstein as a writer, so her publishing company sent me a copy of her newest book. I didn't know much about her, other than she wrote an article for The New York Times Magazine (is it okay for little girls to loooooove princesses, pink and glitter?) that I loved.

Now I feel like I know EVERYTHING about her. This book is a memoir of Peggy Orenstein and her devoted husband trying to get pregnant. For a year....then two....then six.

They try *everythin
Jul 01, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A must read for anyone who's ever experienced infertility or multiple miscarriages. I was fully expecting this book to be a difficult read because of the personal connection I have to the subject matter. I was also worried it would be 'churchy'. Instead, I was stunned by just how much I had in common with the author. I could have written the first half of the book (except for being a wildly successful author married to an Oscar winner, of course). The second half deals with things I have yet to ...more
Jan 11, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone struggling with infertility or a friend/relative of someone who is
Wow! Just wow! If you've been through any of the experiences Peggy Orenstein has been through (and I've been through many of them) then you should read this book. It is brutally honest (which I appreciated) and unflinching. A few of her decisions might make some cringe (but not me and I had many of the same thoughts and reactions to things) but you can't fault her for her honest portrayal of the horrible roller coaster that is infertility. Also, unless you've been in the situation, it's probably ...more
Nov 30, 2007 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I wanted to like this book more than I actually did. While Orenstein is doubtless a terrific writer, her narcissism kept me from fully sympathizing with her plight (case in point -- WHY is there not a picture of her with her little girl on the jacket cover?). As the mom of three, I never had to walk the infertility road, so I cannot identify with the lengths people go to to have of child "of their own." But to risk her marriage and her health....! The ends seemed to justify the means. I am sure ...more
i feel kind of bad criticizing this book because peggy orenstein's six-year battle against infertility sounds hellacious. & i actually do enjoy her writing style, for the most part. (some of the stuff about her visits to hiroshima to meet with bomb survivors seemed kind of like history & social commentary shoehorned into a book on a totally different topic. it was interesting & everything...but it should be it's own book.)

other reviewers have commented on how orenstein's quest to bec
I'm not sure what to say about this book. It was really interesting to read it right after reading "Finding Grace" because the two books, though about the same type of six-year struggle with infertility, had very different feels and conclusions. I was uplifted by the former and many times flabbergasted and disgusted by this one. The main difference, for me, is that the author of "Finding Grace," had an anchor of faith to rely on during her trials, while Peggy Orenstein seems to believe in everyt ...more
Jan 25, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition

I’m pretty sure I understand the genre of memoir. I understand that it is honest and raw. When it's good, it often ain't pretty.

Full disclosure: my husband and I are considering international adoption. I suspect that’s why I reacted so negatively as a reader when Orenstein described stalling an international adoption in the most passive-aggressive way possible. (Not returning the adoption agent's calls about a particular baby, then promising to get back to the woman in "a day or
Sep 16, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
As a new mother who endured a 12 year quest for a child, I was curious to read Peggy's account.

So much of her ordeal resonated with me, except for the reluctance to adopt. The self-indulgence, self-doubt, the self-loathing, the exhaustion of the pursuit of one singular goal - it's all achingly familiar.

Major points for Orenstein's humor, honesty and unique perspective. The only critism I have (and one Peggy freely admits to) is the baby-obsession she had was tiresome for her, her husband and a
May 17, 2016 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book does not paint Peggy Orenstein in a flattering light. She's indecisive yet obsessive, self-centered, destructive, manipulative, and just plain icky. And then she went and bred. Oh I'll bet that kid is just one big ball of spoiled "miracle baby"-ness. Women like Peggy are why women like me can't get their tubes tied. I'm nominating her husband for sainthood though.
I've read many memoirs over the year, and this book was fair. The author jumped around from being in San Francisco to Japan, and from infertility to WWII. The ending felt really rushed, and I was interested in hearing more about Daisy!! I also felt like I didn't get to know the author and her husband very well besides their journey towards having a child.
Patricia Knobloch
Jul 20, 2007 added it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone trying to conceive
This is a great book for anyone trying to conceive but also for woman in general. I learned a lot reading this book and the book also taught me how crazy woman can be and how we really need to appreciate our husbands.
Jeanette Cupcake
I wish that I would've read this 6 years ago when I was going through my infertility journey. It would've given me hope- let me know that I was not alone in my insanity, my desperation, my anger, my hurt, my sadness, my confusion. My self hatred.
Every woman should read this book!!
Mar 23, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
After spending several years going through fertility struggles, this book was a refreshing take on all that women go through to become mothers. While I didn't completely relate to the authors uncertainty of motherhood, I could relate to everything she was going through in order to get pregnant. It was a refreshing take on the topic, one filled with humor!
Nov 04, 2014 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book was hard for me to rate because while it was well written, the author is a truly terrible person. To start off with, she states that she doesn't believe that women who choose to be stay-at-home moms are feminists, which is basically like saying that you're not pro-choice if, when faced with an unplanned pregnancy, you choose to have the baby. Hate to break it to you Peggy, but feminism isn't about choosing a career over family. It's about having the freedom to make that choice for your ...more
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I ran across this book when I first was diagnosed with infertility last summer yet decided it wasn’t the time to read it. I am glad I waited because after 10 more months Waiting for Daisy has had a profound impact on how I view my quest for a baby. Peggy Orenstein opens her memoir Waiting for Daisy with riveting words that struck me deep inside as they anyone who is currently or has dealt with infertility. ‘I’d taken my temperature every morning. I have bee
Lacey Louwagie
Around the Year Reading Challenge Item #13: Reader's Choice

This book held my interest all the way through, but I'm having trouble coming up with something coherent to say about it.

Like the best memoirs, Orenstein is not afraid to sacrifice her pride for the sake of emotional honesty, and she writes candidly about many situations and conversations that do not present her in the best light. Still, the pain, disappointment and powerlessness that accompany infertility are very real, and it is in the
Aug 29, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Roughly 10 years ago, I read Peggy Orenstein's book Flux. Flux is about (among other things) the difficulties of being a profesisonal women in today's society - with all the expectations of success in the public realm equal to those of men, but still the expectations of success in the private realm, without the corresponding shift in the expectations of our male counterparts. I found the book both inspirational in all that women nowadays are able to accomplish, but also daunting in the effort it ...more
Zahwa az-Zahra
Sep 02, 2011 rated it really liked it
“Ketika terjadi banyak kematian, tampaknya harus ada kelahiran. Kita harus melakukan sesuatu yang memperkokoh kehidupan. Aku pikir, kita harus punya anak,” kata Steven kepada istrinya, Peggy. Momen ketika ayah mertua dan teman suaminya yang meninggallah yang kemudian menjadi titik balik Peggy untuk melahirkan seorang anak. Kariernya sebagai seorang jurnalis sedang berada di puncaknya. Membuat Peggy tak terlalu merencanakan untuk mempunyai anak meski usianya sudah 35 tahun kala itu. Suaminya send ...more
Jun 30, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book was transformative.

It wasn't about being in the same situation as the author (there are definitely differences between our stories), but more about feeling validated. I had so many yes moments - moments that I put down my kindle and smile because this writer got it. She understood the frustration, and the longing, and the desperation, and the sorrow of wanting to have a baby, because she had lived it.

I marked a lot of quotes from this book - but let me share with you a few of my favo
Jun 14, 2010 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2010-read
I picked up this book at an impromptu book swap my book club held a couple weeks ago, and although I don't think I'm really the author's target audience, I'm avoiding the reading of another couple books I've got around the house and this one looked like a quick read. It was, indeed, and it turned out to be much more interesting than I expected.

This book is one woman's tale of her journey from being a married woman who wanted nothing to do with the having of children, to wanting to get pregnant a
Cristina Vanalstine
I am a 28 year old woman struggling with infertility. There are so many of us, all different ages, and all different stories. I often feel like there is no one that understands what I am going through or what this pain and loss feels like. This book spoke for me in so many ways. I wish everyone in my life could read this so they could understand why I am the way I am at this time. We just had our first IVF cycle fail and I guess we are going to ride that roller coaster again. Exactly how Peggy d ...more
Apr 06, 2008 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Polished this off in a couple of hours this afternoon. I have read Peggy Orenstein before (Flux and some of her essays) and I like her voice. In some ways her struggles with infertility and international adoption are very similar to mine, in other ways very different (no two stories are ever exactly the same). Regardless, as I approach the six-year mark of trying to become a mother and feel particularly hopeless (yet again), it is nice to read a story that reminds me (regardless of how our journ ...more
Aug 09, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
I like Peggy Orenstein, and even as I bristled at some of the things that came up in this book, I liked reading it.

I say I bristled - I should say also that I realize that I have never been in this position and I can see how both the emotional toll and the societal pressures surrounding infertility and parenthood could drive someone to decisions I find....problematic from over here in the land of the fertile and comfortable. So I did my best to withhold judgement. That said, I saw what Orenstei
May 21, 2010 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: fertility
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A quick read that offers a glimpse into one woman's struggle with infertility and her desire to have a baby in her late 30s. Orenstein is an author, with a couple books under her belt, who was busy living her life - spending time with her husband, traveling, establishing herself as a writer, spending time with friends, etc.

Right before the couple decided to conceive, Orenstein finds out she has breast cancer, which further delays their attempts at a child. After several miscarraiges, IUI, IVF,
Feb 09, 2008 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Why does this woman bug the crap out of me? I really have no legitimate reason to hate this author like I do, but I have to say that from the early pages of the book she rubbed me the wrong way. I think that you have to make a call at some point if you are going to write a book about your struggle with infertility as to what your point is. I felt like I was reading a book written by a schizophrenic. She started the book discussing how she never really wanted children and still didn't know if she ...more
In Waiting for Daisy, Peggy Orenstein writes a candid memoir about the struggle she had while trying to conceive. Peggy waited until her mid to late 30s to try to conceive a baby with her husband. While trying to get pregnant, Peggy found out she had breast cancer. Once she recovered from that, Peggy and her husband started trying to get pregnant again, only to experience one misfortune after the other in their quest to have a child. They had several miscarriages, sought advice from a variety of ...more
Indri Juwono
Feb 04, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: novel-abroad, a-gift
Lho.. koq blum ada yang review.. padahal kan dibagi gratis ke yang ikut Jelajah Rahasia Meedee 2..

Caara menulisnya sih biasa aja (atau terjemahannya yang ga begitu bagus), tapi ceritanya menarikk sekali..
Kisah wanita ini, seorang penulis workaholic yang tiba2 ingin punya anak di umur 36 tahun, sudah mencoba berbagai macam cara, mulai dari minum pil penyubur Clomid, minum ramuan biarawati, ikut bayi tabung, dapat donor sel telur, akupuntur, bahkan adopsi anak dari Jepang.. semuanya gagal.
Ia sanga
Betsy Dion
Oct 29, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir
At the beginning of this book, I felt frustrated with the author, and rather self-congratulatory that "I'm not as crazy as she is." As the book progressed, I was more touched by the story, because although the author does some very terrible things, she is on a journey, her suffering is real, and she is learning something.

This book is a decent introduction to the struggle of infertility for the uninitiated. The new offers of hope and the subsequent crashes of disappointment, the pushing back of b
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Peggy Orenstein is the author, most recently, of Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches from the Front Lines of the New Girlie-Girl Culture. Her previous books include The New York Times best-selling memoir, Waiting for Daisy; Flux: Women on Sex, Work, Kids, Love and Life in a Half-Changed World; and the best-selling SchoolGirls: Young Women, Self-Esteem and the Confidence Gap. A contributing writ ...more
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