How to Win the Love You Want: Effective Techniques and Tactics for Getting the One You Love to Love Back

by Thomas W. McKnight, Robert H. Phillips

An innovative guide containing two volumes--"Love Tactics" and "More Love Tactics"--provides suggestions for building a loving and lasting relationship by drawing on the three aspects of love and includes a step-by-step guide that will help build self-confidence, choose the perfect mate, and more.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Love

336 pages, Hardcover

First published November 1, 1987

Reviews

[Monica Willyard Moen]

There are a lot of books about dating out there. This is the one that helped me gain an advantage. No, it didn't teach me cool pick-up lines or tell me which perfume has the sent to drive a guy wild. Instead, it helped me discover my most important asset... me! I began to focus on what's good about me instead of my flaws. I stopped seeing the first date as that one and only event that would make or break my future. I got out of the cycle of being desperate for a date and learned that there are some dates I should say an emphatic "no!" to. With the help of this book, I learned how to become a more confident, passionate, approachable person across the board, not just when I'm on a date. Yes, the tips about relationships are really great. Yes, they will help you get that important phone call after the first date. The thing I appreciate the most is getting to see my life, and love, through a new and better lens.

[Annie Harrison]

For the British market, this is obviously very American in its stance. However, it is practical and forthright and is an essential tool for any woman who vascillates between relationships. All the answers are here. I alluded to this book in my own self-help guide:
Finding Mr Right: The Real Woman's Guide to Landing That Man by Annie Harrison. So if you are single, late thirtysomething and want to meet the man (and maybe have the family), this is one of several books which can help you achieve that.

[Nick]

I read this book in college. It really changed the way I pursued relationships. I gave a friend advice from this book and she is now married to her husband because of it.

[Katia]

Un libro molto utile. Da leggere!

[Watch Jamie Read]

This is a very well written book about dating. It gives great direction on how to date. It gives very specific instruction on how to speak, approach someone, keep their interest, not give up, etc. The subject matter was a little more… descriptive on subjects I have already mastered, so it didn’t apply to me as I had hoped. It felt out of date a bit, especially with internet dating. It mentioned it once at the beginning and then not really again. Today is a day centered around dating apps and meeting online, especially as a millennial age. So I was disappointed that the subject matter I wanted wasn’t up to par.
I can see how it would help people, just not me in my life and situations. Had I read this book 20 years ago, it probably would’ve been a huge help in my life. But I’ve learned a lot of the subject matter just in my daily life.
My rating is more based on the subject matter not being right for me, but it was a very well written book.

[Haley]

This wasn’t the best relationship book I’ve read, but it was still interesting to read. I liked Part 2 of the book best, when it talks about wanting to get back with someone you lost.

[Kristina]

I'll let you know how it was if I win him. 😜

[Nisha Jacobs]

great principles

So great on connecting and having an amazing relationship with your loved one . Communication tips and how to compromise.

[Mark Daniels]

Great insight

A man can never learn too much about the art of love. This book is a very good instructional manual for that thank you.

[Chiara Santoianni]

Un manuale di psicologia divulgativa, che spiega in modo molto semplice come conquistare l'affetto delle persone che ci interessano, partendo dai suoi presupposti di base: l'amicizia, il rispetto, la passione. Il merito degli autori, psicologi americani, sta nel saper trasmettere contenuti importanti, frutto di approfonditi studi ed esperienze, con un linguaggio alla portata di tutti.

[Yoana]

When I first read it in the 9th grade (I was 16 years old), I loved it and thought it very insightful. Now that I've had some life experience, I think it's total bullshit. Interpersonal relationships are complex and unique and relying merely on gender stereotypes and vaguely outlines ideas about "emotional needs" (with no recognition of the vast diversity of such needs from person to person) will not get you far in your romantic life, sorry. This blatant misleading of gullible young readers is an abomination.

[Pietro Palomoni]

No le falta razón, a la gran mayoría de sus argumentos.
Lo que sigo de todos modos preguntándome, y a ver si un día encuentro la respuesta por alguna parte, es si merece la pena tener una relación con alguien que no te hubiese hecho caso por cómo eres, si no hubiese sido por las “tácticas” adoptada: llámale un día, desaparece por dos semanas, vuelve a aparecer, desconciértale, etc.

[Rabidbadger]

The two winners who wrote this book actually give the advice that you should become friends with a woman you like, in hopes that somewhere down the road she'll give you some.

And they sell this crap. For money.

[Joy]

There is a funny story behind this book. My interpersonal communication professor actually used this book to get his wife. They have been happily married ever since. So, I picked up this book but I didn't end up needing it to get my husband.

[Jaye]

I didn't expect much from this book but I was pleasantly surprised. Although I write fiction, I find myself reading nonfiction for research. The authors made some valid points in this book. It's worth a look.

[Daswills]

good