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I Didn't Work This Hard Just to Get Married: Successful Single Black Women Speak Out

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Women once saw living single as a transitional period--singles marked time till they found “the one.” But now marriage is the transitional stage, connecting one unmarried period of life to another.

            In I Didn’t Work This Hard Just to Get Married, through lively and revealing interviews with women from various walks of life, Nika C. Beamon explores the challenges
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Paperback, 224 pages
Published May 1st 2009 by Chicago Review Press
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Phoebe
Feb 01, 2010 rated it it was ok
I am flummoxed about how to review, or even think about, this book. Part research paper, part self-help, part cheerleader (rahrah!) for the strong-black-woman archetype, part Christian/old values commentary, part glimpse into the oft ignored world of successful black women, this book is all over the place.

"I didn't get married" is not the book I though I'd find when I discovered it in the library and chuckled at the title. Many times I found it painful to read (stiff writing, gross generalizati
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Melody
Feb 25, 2015 rated it did not like it
One of the women interviewed in this book about her life as an older single woman was quoted as saying, "I don't need a man." Almost every woman interviewed for this book fit the "strong, black woman who don't need no man" stereotype and it made me sad. There are a lot of stereotypes about Black women and men in this book that made me sad. I thought this was going to be a more race-specific version of It's Not You 27 Wrong Reasons You're Single, which I loved. Race was not a factor in that book ...more
April Corbett (Dorris)
This book falls short in so many ways. It's a good premise and a notion that needs to be talked about, but not all of the women fit the title of the book. As you are reading, you start to hear voices of women that are only single because Mr. Right has not come along, not because it is the best choice or option for them at the time. Some of them are still waiting. And then the author starts giving all these statistics about the demise of the black family and why we feel we can't rely on black men ...more
Beverlee
Apr 19, 2015 rated it it was ok
I chose this book solely because of the title. It's an interesting premise that is often looked at mainly through the angry black woman lens. The women interviewed didn't seem angry, more idealistic if anything. Personally, I think it would be more interesting to ask "regular" black women to share their stories for a more realistic outlook. I recognize the book's focus was on successful (by society's standards) women, but it was a lot of repetition. The women are single by choice. I don't think ...more
African Americans on the Move Book Club
This book was very refreshing to read because these women were all real. I loved how Nika C. Beamon put the ladies stories into life. I felt as if I knew them and as they told their stories I understood more and more why most women are single. The fact those women out number men and then most men are less educated or in jail, or have some type of issue lowers the dating pool. But in all most women did state that they would rather be happy then miserable and in a relationship. I loved this book b ...more
Joshunda Sanders
Oct 13, 2011 rated it it was ok
I really wanted to like this book, especially since it has some similarities to the one I'm working on. Flaws: Code-switching without warning. Sistah, spelled with an 'h' (my own personal pet peeve.) Successful, single black women, with good points, who are quoted in grammatically shady prose.
Good points: Black women don't care about stats. Many of them want to be married, but they won't put their lives on hold to settle for a lame husband. Guess who the poster child is for that? Oprah! Who else
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Victoria
Apr 02, 2011 marked it as did-not-finish
Shelves: non-fiction
I'll admit, I picked this book up based mostly on the title. It's got some interesting facts, but wasn't really the book I was expecting - maybe this was my misreading, but the cover blurb led me to believe that it would be an anthology of short memoirs/autobiographical articles by various authors. In fact, it's a long series of chapters reiterating the same research and facts ad nauseum, interspersed with bits of interviews with various women. Great concept, failed execution.
Angineeki
Sep 20, 2010 rated it it was ok
I really wanted to love this book. The author did highlight some interestesting statistics based in research. However, I found many of the stories/profiles repetitive. Perhaps I knew too much about this topic already to learn anything new.
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Nika C. Beamon is an African-American woman currently residing in New Jersey.

In her fifteen years as a journalist, she has worked at various television stations including WABU-TV in Boston, ESPN Classic and WABC-TV in New York. She also served as Coordinating Producer for Like It Is with Gil Noble, the countrys longest running African American public affairs show, airing on WABC-TV.
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