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For Couples Only: Eyeopening Insights about How the Opposite Sex Thinks

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When For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men first burst onto the scene, it received rave reviews from women who were shocked but thrilled to discover how men really think. Soon For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women provided an eyeopening counterpoint, with simple revelations for men
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Hardcover, 380 pages
Published January 13th 2009 by Multnomah
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Jun 25, 2015 rated it it was ok
I am not really a big fan of self help books, however many members of my family are and I get them as gifts frequently. My husband and I received this (it's 2 books - one for the man and one for the woman) as a gift at our wedding last year. I decided to give it a try. I am not a fan, let me tell you why.

This book seems like it was written by and towards people of my parents age (50's-ish). The chapter on sex I read parts out loud to my husband and we were laughing so hard. It's just not written
Sep 10, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Perfect for : Personal Use, For couples, for newly-weds, for engaged couples, for church bible-study class, engagement gift, wedding gift

In a nutshell: For Couples Only is actually a set of books: For Women Only and For Men Only, which have been designed to help you understand your partner better. The books were written and based on input that was gathered by the authors from over 1000 surveys (each). We tend to make assumptions, and sometimes what we believe is actually far from reality. These
Apr 30, 2012 rated it liked it
I read the girl version, my husband read the guys version.

We've had this conversation about it so far.

Me "So, what is the book telling you about me?"

Him "That you do a lot of crazy stuff. *pause* But you can't help it."


I think I might be more confused now than before I read the book. It feels like a lot of the *issues* guys have are just the same as he described about women, crazy shit they can't help. I'm not sure if that makes me feel better or worse. It actually makes me feel ba
Sep 23, 2009 rated it it was ok
I was very disappointed with this book. I was hoping for enlightenment and all I received was respect your husband and God.

I won this book from Goodreads Giveaways and I must say that was the best part of this book. The general idea in this book it that women should always respect, encouraging, support, never nag, and be courteous to their husbands, which I agree with to an extent, but not for the reasons the book gives. This book uses men’s egos and pride as the reasons to do these things, bec
Aug 20, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: all couples regardless of length of relationship
In October of 2009 my husband and I will celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary. So, how much can we learn from a set of books called "For Couples Only"? Quite a bit, actually. Or, maybe, I should say, it was not so much learning something new, as it was being reminded of things we knew or should have remembered. We read the two books separately and then talked a bit about them. But, I know the first day I started reading, I was reminded of how easily a wife could hurt a husband's feelings by sh ...more
Aug 21, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: betterment, romance
My first Goodreads Giveaway win! I opened it up last night and read through it pretty fast. I do like the format: 2 little books, one for each partner to read that explains how the other one really thinks/feels. The books are pocket-sized and the whole idea is pretty cute. The info. is based on surveys, so it's not just some person telling you what THEY think the different sexes experience.

BUT it has a heavy Christian bias. Not being a Christian myself, I found this a tad annoying, but still go
Jul 15, 2009 rated it really liked it
I won this book box set in a giveaway from Goodreads a couple of years ago. I didn't start reading it till a couple of weeks ago mainly because my marriage is in trouble.....boy do I wish that I had read it earlier....say when I received it in the mail. Maybe if I had my marriage wouldn't be so messed up like it is now. I've learned so much from this book it has really helped me understand what goes on in my husband's head. I like the fact that it has some Christian views in it but if you're not ...more
Jul 15, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: marriage
Well written and accurate "his and her books" that talk about how the opposite sex responds, thinks, and acts. While some of the stereotypes did not fit our marriage--there was a lot that was true.

I am not sure how I missed reviewing this earlier, but I would recommend it especially for newly married couples who are still trying to understand each other.

* I received the book for free through Goodreads First Reads.
Dianna Dray
Oct 20, 2016 rated it did not like it
i hate how these books stereotype men and women. This book blatantly says that women do not want to have sex as much as men. Fitting into how society sees women. Just a book perpetuating old ideas about the sexes and the roles they should play. Total waste of money and i wish i could have returned them.
May 07, 2014 rated it it was amazing
My small group read these for our last series. It led to great discussions in the group and at home. I highly recommend these to anyone who is married or is getting married. My caution is to read with an open-mind and lots of grace for your significant other.
Jan 12, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: faith
Josh and I really enjoyed going through this pair of books together. There were many eye-opening moments!! I definitely recommend this to couples, or to people who want to learn more about what the opposite sex thinks. We found the advice and commentary very accurate!
Sep 17, 2009 rated it really liked it
These books were an eye opener to me. I learned how to relate to the opposite sex according on their own terms. What's important to a woman is not so important to a man, and vice versa. Mutual respect between the two sexes can make for a very fulfilling relationship.
Jul 30, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: first-reads, 2009
Very interesting book. I loved the way the topics were presented. Helped me better understand the way my husband acts and thinks.
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Shaunti received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher, best-selling author and popular speaker. Today, she applies her analytical skills to investigating eye-opening, life-changing truths about relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Her groundbreaking research-based books, such as For Women Only, h ...more

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