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I'm So Happy for You

2.75  ·  Rating details ·  1,304 ratings  ·  262 reviews
What if your best friend, whom you've always counted on to flounder in life and love (making your own modest accomplishments look not so bad), suddenly starts to surpass you in every way?
Wendy's best friend, Daphne, has always been dependably prone to catastrophe. And Wendy has always been there to help. If Daphne veers from suicidal to madly in love, Wendy offers encoura
Paperback, 281 pages
Published July 29th 2009 by Back Bay Books (first published July 9th 2009)
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Aug 30, 2009 rated it it was ok
Congratulations to Lucinda Rosenfeld, who has created the least likable protagonist in the history of fiction for women by women. To the readers of "I'm So Happy For You" who laud the honest portrayal of female friendships, I say, "Who the hell are you hanging out with and why?"

Wendy Murman, a 30-something editor for a lefty political magazine, is singularly focused on getting preggers with her unemployed, stoner, screenplay-writing husband Adam. Meanwhile, all of her friends are sho
Christina M Rau
Jan 04, 2012 rated it did not like it
Shelves: novels
I'm So Happy For You by Lucinda Rosenfeld is one of the worst books I've ever read. I got it for free. One of the girls gave it to me from a gift bag from either Rooftop or Shecky's. I decided to take it on the plane to Denver. It was horrible but I had nothing else to read, so I read half of it. After reading half of it, I was too far in to not finish it. And so, it took well over two months to finish the friggin thing. I didn't even want to take it to the bathroom with me to read it in snippet ...more
Jun 30, 2010 rated it it was ok
I was excited to read this book. I am not going to lie, I have been guilty of feeling insecure and even jealous over a friend, so I thought this book would be a great read. Not so much. If I wasn't obligated to read this for a book discussion, I probably wouldn't have finished it.

This book is not about best friends. Heck, this book isn't about friendships. This is a story of two girls who claim to be friends but aren't. One friend seems to have everything, looks, money and men. The other is unh
Aug 26, 2013 rated it it was ok
Oh I wish this book were a better book, because there SHOULD be a really great novel about the dynamic of a toxic female friendship, and its weird co-dependent push/pull. So far the closest that I've found is Christina Schwarz's ALL IS VANITY, which no one but me seemed to like. But that's okay. That's actually one of the reasons I braved the grim Goodreads rating here, because I have liked books about this in the past that everyone else has hated, books with review after review that reads "Thes ...more
Sep 21, 2009 rated it really liked it
I loved this book. Okay, so the main character isn't the most likeable person in all the world--but I feel like her jealous, petty, inner thoughts are thoughts we all tend to have at some point. I could totally relate to Wendy and felt I've had my fair share of Daphnes in my life, and I bet a lot of us have as well. I felt Rosenfeld did a great job of building these women's lives and showing the complexities of women's relationships with each other. Sure, some people will read this and just thin ...more
Sara  Liebman
May 02, 2010 rated it it was ok
If you're interested in reading a book about obnoxious, whiny, insecure women, this is the book for you. I found Wendy, her husband Adam and her "best friend" Daphne all insufferable. Of course, I put best friend in quotes because I don't believe these women are friends or were ever friends.

The story opens as Daphne, who has a THING for married men is finishing up her affair with a news anchor. She calls Wendy in the middle of the night to sob on the phone to her. Of course, Wendy then turns ar
Feb 15, 2010 rated it did not like it
This book really did nothing for me. It was very realistic in the sense that it portrayed some truth about women's friendships- especially the jealousy and competitiveness...(Who isn't bored with fiction's highly romanticized concept of best lifelong friends whose shiny unblemished nature exists only in books?) The writing style was more conversational than streamlined, which just didn't grab, I REALLY hated Wendy...she is the epitome of the bitter jealous bland girl as an adult. I did ...more
May 14, 2009 rated it liked it
A lot more accurate than a typical chick lit book. I definitely saw myself and my relationships with some of my friends in Wendy, uncomfortable as it is to admit that. I found Wendy's relationship with her husband (and her best friend's love for a dude who really did seem to be a big jerk) a little less believable. And I couldn't keep any of the other friends (especially the ones who were mothers) straight, so after a while I just gave up and clumped them all together.

Anyway, three stars for ac
Aug 08, 2011 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nyc

A wonderful, quick and easy read. Finished it in 2 days because I couldn't put it down. Everything Rosenfeld has to say about the secret motivations and jealousies between friends in their 30s is spot on. Anyone who says different has lived a blessed life or is too young to recognize themselves in Wendy. It's that strange period in your life when you know you are a grownup, but still feel so far from being the complete human being you want to be. Whether it's your job, kids, family, money, fri
Jul 20, 2011 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Not good at all. This book was basically a complaining session the whole time. Wendy is so jealous over someone who honestly she shouldn't be jealous of and Daphne was such a ditz and completely annoying. They both were! I felt terrible for Wendy's husband who only "got some" when his wife was ovulating and Daphne's new boyfriend/fiance was such a jerk he was actually the most interesting to me because at least his character brought some sort of emotion from me; irritation! I was bored throughou ...more
Pam Rivera
Aug 08, 2009 rated it liked it
At first, I found myself really not liking Wendy at all. She was gossipy, jealous, insecure and really quite a backstabber who acted morally superior to her "best friend" Daphne, as well as everyone else around her. Her husband actually pegged it correctly on more than one occasion. As I got into the book, however, I began to empathize with Wendy a bit more, coming to the realization that although she took it to extremes, she really was commenting on the state of female friendships rather accura ...more
Amanda J
Apr 15, 2013 rated it it was ok
Shelves: popular-fiction
In an interview, the author said she purposefully created characters that the reader would find unlikeable. The problem is that I didn't feel strongly about the characters - either like or dislike - in any way. They were boring and petty; not the kind of people I would want to be around in real life and certainly not the type of people I want to disappear with into the pages of a book. People are jealous; no one gets along... blah, blah, blah. Nonetheless, I finished it, hoping right up until th ...more
Jun 18, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: females
I started this book yesterday and finished it today. So entertaining!

First off, the main female characters have my favorite girls' names ever: Daphne and Wendy.

Second, I totally thought that their relationship, as well as the relationships between all the women in this book were pretty real. It's sad that there is always some underlying competitiveness to everything women say and do with each other. There's a saying that women don't dress for men. They dress for other women.

I couldn't relate
Sep 17, 2009 rated it did not like it
Recommends it for: Beach read
I got this out from the library as an e-book because I knew it would be a quick read. This is probably one of the first "chick-lit" novels I've read, and I'm happy to say it will probably be one of the last. I'm all for women writing about women, relationships, friendship, motherhood and all that, but please, do it well. I'm not professing to know how to do it well, but I'm also not writing this kind of stuff and convincing someone to publish it.

Maybe I just didn't like the character
Nov 03, 2009 rated it really liked it
this is a really complicated relationship between wendy and daphne -- at first i thought daphne was a total flake and a bitch, but after further reading i realize that wendy is just extremely competitive and insecure. sure, daphne might not be someone you'd want as your best friend... but wendy is just full of illusions and bitterness.

i liked this book mostly because it's so different from most other chick-lit i've read. the girl doesn't get the hot, rich husband at the end. it doesn
Jan 29, 2009 rated it really liked it
This is one of those books that as I was reading it, I was thinking: "why aren't I smart enough to write like this?" She's able to balance really lovely writing with a very relatable plot. I mean, there is an almost-too-real quality to this one that made me have to look away. And yet, you can't. Because all of her characters are so great and in so much trouble that you must, must, must know what happens to them.
Aug 26, 2009 rated it liked it
I was drawn to this book for two reasons: the fabulous cover and the dishy subject matter. I was totally in the mood for an honest examination of the jealousies that lurk beneath women's friendships. There is plenty of honest revelation here amidst moments of inspired writing. Unfortunately the book also veers mightily into movie-of-the-week cliches by the end. This book could have worked just as well without the contrivances.
Risa Xu
Feb 28, 2016 rated it liked it
It wasn't a BAD book but it's not the best portrayal of women. As much as I got a laugh here and there out of it, I think that "a novel about best friends" is a stretch. These women are more like frenemies than they are friends. And boy, do I feel bad for anyone that has "friends" like this.
Aug 27, 2009 rated it it was ok
Just bought it but I heard the Slate Double X podcast audiobook club discussion on the book and I'm really excited to start!
E. R
Feb 07, 2015 rated it really liked it
this is a great book about friendship and its hardchipsm great work learned alot from it .
Stephani Miller
I’m So Happy For You was written about a decade ago so first things first expect the slang to be a bit dated. “Fugly” is a prime example. With that being said, I purchased it about five years ago at a library sale and never got around to reading it. I needed a quick and easy read since my schedule is a bit busier towards the weekend.

Wendy is the main character and Daphne is her best friend. Wendy has a lot of resentment towards Daphne for making her feel less than her throughout their long frie
Jul 08, 2017 rated it it was ok
Unsure whether to give this a 2-star rating or 3-. The worst element of this story was, by far, the protagonist - and overall, the whole cast of characters. The protagonist is so goddamn egocentri - she's all for getting into other people's business, making a show of being a great friend, a carer and whatnot, but at the end, she's just so unlikeable. The thing is, there ARE people like that in life. I've recently had a close relationship with a woman who was this toxic and I made a conscious eff ...more
Katherine Nally
Dec 16, 2018 rated it it was amazing
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Dec 31, 2018 rated it really liked it
I loved this book. It was evil and awful at times but also very truthful, though maybe exaggerated. The characters were relatable. Everyone has that flaky friend or the one who drops you because she has a new Boy who she thinks is "the one" and you know they were all "the one" at one time and you just roll your eyes because you know it will end and another "one" will come. I just think there's a lot of underlying truth to the story. I love all my girlfriends and wish them all happiness but secre ...more
Jul 25, 2019 rated it liked it
Cute story, perfectly enjoyable, but at the end of the day, left me feeling a little empty. I certainty understand the complexities of female friendships and I understand that this story is about the challenges of one, but there was no glimmer of hope or silver lining about the female friendship. I believe that while tumultuous female friendships exist, most are positive and supportive, a side that was not shown in this book.
Kate H
Mar 18, 2017 rated it really liked it
Can you tell it's still Lent? I am zooming through my books! Add up the time you spend on Social Media, people and then drop that phone and READ!!

OK, so this is the second Lucinda Rosenfeld I read. I have to say I think she is a brilliant social satirist and good at getting into peoples' heads and listening to, and writing about the conflicts, they experience--so much so that I was saying, "wow--someone else thinks that too??"

I feel like then she feels the need to drop in
Jul 29, 2017 rated it really liked it
Found this book at a paperback bookstore, what a great find. I enjoyed seeing how this story unfolded. I'll have to check out other works by this author soon.
Nov 27, 2018 rated it liked it
The message(s) of this book is/are horrible on every level, but it's entertaining.
Aug 17, 2017 rated it liked it
Not my usual type of book to choose, but a good escape if you want a story about witchy frenemies.
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Lucinda Rosenfeld is the author of five novels, including CLASS, a satire about parenting, public school, and the liberal bubble.
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