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Flux: Women on Sex, Work, Love, Kids, and Life in a Half-Changed World

Peggy Orenstein,

Alice van Straalen (Editor)

3.81 · Rating details · 707 ratings · 95 reviews

Peggy Orenstein's bestselling Schoolgirls is the classic study of teenage girls and self-esteem. Now Orenstein uses the same interviewing and reporting skills to examine the lives of women in their 20s, 30s and 40s.

The advances of the women's movement allow women to grow up with a sense of expanded possibilities. Yet traditional expectations have hardly changed. To discov ...more

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Dec 22, 2009 Emily rated it it was amazing

Fantastic book about women in post-feminist America. The author did lots of really great interviews with women at all stages of their lives and gains a lot of insight into how the work-family balance is playing out for them. I found myself sympathizing with so many of the stories, goals, and challenges, and I feel I learned a lot just hearing about their experiences. Really fascinating to see what sort of trade-offs each woman decided to make along the course of their careers. I highly recommend ...more

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Jul 30, 2008 Kim rated it it was amazing

Recommends it for: young women having a quarter-life crisis, women struggling with work-life balance

When I first read this book in 2005, it was a complete lifesaver. I was in my early/mid 20s, living in NYC, struggling with trying to figure out the next step in my career, while balancing hopes and dreams of finding a partner and starting a family, all of which seemed so far out of my reach in that crazy city. In short, I was having my quarter-life crisis. I fell in love with this book because it discussed all of the things the people (really, the women) I knew weren't discussing -- how to bala When I first read this book in 2005, it was a complete lifesaver. I was in my early/mid 20s, living in NYC, struggling with trying to figure out the next step in my career, while balancing hopes and dreams of finding a partner and starting a family, all of which seemed so far out of my reach in that crazy city. In short, I was having my quarter-life crisis. I fell in love with this book because it discussed all of the things the people (really, the women) I knew weren't discussing -- how to balance work, life, family, and friends, deciding on whether to have kids, finding success, or even just contentment.

Peggy Orenstein collected her thoughts through interviews with women from a variety of backgrounds, though as another reviewer pointed out, she mainly talks to people who have achieved some degree of career success or who have decided to take time away from the workplace to raise their children. There are no profiles of women who are struggling, who are unable to make ends meet, who have had an unplanned pregnancy, etc. That said, the most important takeaway from this study is that it's very difficult to have it all and there are a number of people who have made alternative choices and had happy lives. That the ideal we're encouraged to attempt to achieve is neither ideal nor necessarily worth achieving. I found this exceptionally reassuring during a difficult year.

I decided to reread this book in early 2010 because I'd recently made another batch of big life changes and wanted to remind myself of how conflicted other people felt about their choices. On the reread, with a few more years of experience under my belt, this book did not quite earn the five stars I originally gave it, but it was still a good reminder that life takes a lot of different directions and they're all okay ones. There are still many changes that need to be made so that women can have the chance to pursue demanding careers, and who knows when we'll get there.

The best points I took from this book is that women of all generations need to speak more openly about their experiences, including their joys and their disappointments. Most importantly, young women need to stop buying into the myth that romance and children are the panacea for all their problems, and build their careers and their friendships so that they can have options if they do end up single for a time, something that is more likely given the rates of divorce and widowhood. For me, that was the biggest lesson: we need friendships and relationships that will help sustain us through all the challenges life will throw our ways.

I'm keeping my rating at five stars because I think it does what it says and that was my initial impression. Peggy Orenstein is a fantastic writer and I recommend checking out her other work. This book is best for women really feeling the state of flux of their lives, and anyone who wants to better understand and support them. But we could do even better and talk to one another! :) ...more

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Mar 28, 2010 Jen rated it really liked it

Wow. Its really rare for me to wish that I had read a book earlier, but this is one of those. Ms Orenstein does an excellent job of capturing thoughts and expectations of women in 20s, 30s, and 40s, with and without (or wanting or not wanting) children, in the professional workplace (or reasons for leaving it) and organizing them into a set of coherent narratives interspersed with relevant statistical facts that clearly delineate the trade offs each decade is facing. I learned a lot from this bo ...more

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Mar 17, 2013 Melainia Mcclain rated it really liked it

A survey of a small number of hand picked highly educated and ambitious women of 3 different age groups (and of 3 different life stages according to the author) who desire or desired a career track in male dominated fields, this book was informative in the way case studies can be. It highlights some potential struggles, pitfalls, and contradictions in a woman's pursuit of a balanced life in a half changed world. It brings some often unconscious but deeply seeded beliefs about gender roles and so A survey of a small number of hand picked highly educated and ambitious women of 3 different age groups (and of 3 different life stages according to the author) who desire or desired a career track in male dominated fields, this book was informative in the way case studies can be. It highlights some potential struggles, pitfalls, and contradictions in a woman's pursuit of a balanced life in a half changed world. It brings some often unconscious but deeply seeded beliefs about gender roles and social acceptance out into the open, and shows how easy it can be for these beliefs to shape the lives of both women and men without either realizing it, as well as illustrating the benefits of a truly chosen alternative to the traditional culturally expected lifestyles. An interesting read which ultimately comes down to the importance of self awareness, communication, and planning, as tools to break down these often undiscussed beliefs and the issues that arise from them, which lead to the sacrifice of equality between men and women, and often to a disproportionate amount of depressed and stifled women in marriages.

As far as this book relating to me, I have to admit there were a lot of ideas and positions expressed by the women in the book which shocked me. I obviously do not live in the same world that some of these women seem to, but I have made it a priority in my life to challenge every feeling and belief I have for underlying legitimacy, and have only one goal which is happiness. Even so, the experiences of some of these women in their relationships to men and how they would keep the peace and not stand up for themselves, losing their own identity in the process, was something I have experienced, and something that had I not been as sure as I was about the relative non importance of marriage in my life, could have propelled me on the same superficial appearances oriented controlled perfectionism mixed with self sacrificing acquiescence that seems to plague so many wives and/or mothers. The sexism of today is not as overt as that of yesterday, but we seem to be under the false belief that there is no more sexism, while we go merrily along conforming to gender roles despite ourselves, believing we have all these choices and options yet still somehow ending up at the same unfulfilling places over and over again, through the conflict between what we believe intellectually and what we feel based on still prevalent gender role indoctrination. The mixed messages of the half changed world. ...more

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Nov 25, 2007 Stephanie rated it liked it · review of another edition

Recommends it for: women, mothers, fathers

Shelves: women

Interesting book, but dealing mostly with the question "Can women 'do it all'?" (i.e. have a great career AND have children), I felt it didn't apply to me. And since when is choosing between family and work strictly a woman's problem? Many men wish they could spend more time with their families but buy into the 'man as breadwinner' stereotype that keeps them working long hours in thankless jobs just to make sure their families are kept fed, housed, and healthy.

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Mar 05, 2012 Claire rated it really liked it

Shelves: nonfiction, feminism-and-women, our-modern-family

Overall, I don't particularly relate to a lot of these women on a micro level, but I relate to the questions and challenges they face in general. I would like to see an update of this book, perhaps looking at how these women are 13 years later. I also would like to have heard less from women executives that are financially killing it, and more from 'regular' women. Not every woman who feels she has tough choices has astronomical aspirations.

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Sep 03, 2011 Jen rated it liked it

I feel conflicted. On the one hand this book gave me a lot of think about and reflected issues I am currently wrestling with. I think the question of women's changing roles is an important one and the book really covered a good range of women and life choices. However, I also feel like much of Orenstein's biases and judgment came across at certain points. On top of that, some of her conclusions (or maybe observations is a better word?) seemed simplistic and possibly predetermined by her own feel ...more

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Dec 20, 2007 Liz rated it it was ok

I dunno. A lot of my friends really loved this book, which is why I decided to read it. But it just didn't do it for me. I thought it was overly simplistic. I didnt' like that there weren't any interviewees who were just plain happy with their lives--surely, there must be some women out there who don't feel that they have had to wade through life, constantly struggling and somewhat disappointed with their choices? I suppose that's not the issue--we all struggle with SOMEthing--but these women ju ...more

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Jul 06, 2011 Emily Dahl rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Recommended to Emily by: Sarah Cady

Shelves: wost, nonfiction

A coworker suggested I read this one. After lending her The Meaning of Wife, she was shocked to learn that I hadn't read this one. I wasn't too keen to read it, not that I was opposed, I just thought that I'd read it already-- what could possibly be new? However, I was pleasantly surprised. I appreciated the first person perspective that Orenstein supplied through the direct quotes from her interview subjects. The topics covered, love/sex/work/kids/life, resonated with me and I appreciated that ...more

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Feb 29, 2008 Molly rated it liked it

definitely worthwhile reading, as it provides a “normalizing” context for my own confusion and frustration with what I am and am not able to affect in my life however, the book reads as if it is (and I think this is accurate) a project that the author put together for her own benefit, and so it seems a little biased – it covers a pretty narrow age range and by the end it feels like what happens when a nice but overbearing person has trapped you in a corner at a party – you don’t disagree necessa ...more

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Sep 23, 2008 Becky rated it it was ok

Shelves: book-club, non-fiction

This book really freaked me out. It really made me think about things that have been rattling around in my brain for quite awhile, but that I hadn't really faced yet. The book was thought-provoking, but I wouldn't categorize it as an accurate study of women in their 20s, 30s, or 40s. All of the women interviewed seemed to be white, affluent, and working in the corporate world. There was no representation of different ethnicities or sexualities. The book almost seemed more about the author's ques ...more

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Jun 15, 2012 Amy rated it liked it

Shelves: shanghaimamas-book-club

By 2012 this book was pretty dated. I enjoyed reading it, but I felt like I would like some follow up on whether after the economic downturn, there was any difference of feeling. Also I think that she didn't really get to understand and research the true feelings of men for the book. I think Men have much more of a facade about work and being in the workplace than women do, and so when women have feeling of self-doubt - they think it is a fault of theirs and that they are the only ones that feel ...more

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Mar 24, 2009 Kati rated it it was ok

I am so tired of these books... and yet I keep reading them. An incomplete analysis of the status of women today, focused largely on "powerful" women. It's not that it doesn't talk about relevant issues, because it does, making some good points along the way. It is just that the whole thing does not even question whether or not we--as women or men--should all be wanting to have "powerful" positions. It does not offer anything revolutionary about our options. If I were you, I wouldn't spend the t ...more

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Apr 08, 2012 Jessica rated it did not like it

Shelves: non-fiction

In general, I felt disappointed by the interviews and general commentary that the author chose to include in the book. It seemed as though the author assumed that all women want to have the "Dream" - a husband, kids, and a fulfilling career either inside or outside the home. The author then included stories and interviews that focused more on this "Dream" particularly when interviewing women in their 20's and 30's. Overall, I didn't feel as though it was a balanced view of women and their goals. ...more

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Feb 28, 2011 Amy rated it liked it

The second half of this book went by much faster than the first, perhaps because I could relate/identify more with the women that decided to have children. I thought this book was a little misleading-it contained way more of the author's personal agenda than I had anticipated. The "Afterword" chapter was my favorite, and summed things up nicely. Also, the book is in need of an update-most of the research cited/interviews were from the 90s. ...more

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Aug 06, 2013 Daniela rated it did not like it

So I wanted to like this book. I was looking for perspective on work life balance for women. But I couldn't get through it. The stories were not too compelling and I felt like I was just hearing everything I already knew about how difficult work life balance is. Perhaps I'm more disappointed in the conclusions than the actual book.... ...more

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Mar 02, 2012 V Tedder rated it it was ok

BORING

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Feb 25, 2010 Lauren rated it it was amazing

Four days later and I'm still ruminating over some of the lessons that I learned from this book. I think that's telling about its quality. The author, Peggy Orenstein interviews many women in their twenties, thirties, and forties to discover how women handle careers, families, and that ever elusive "balance" between the two. Orenstein wanted to know what decisions these women had made (or were in the process of making) and why they had made them. While she does talk a little about sex, it's real Four days later and I'm still ruminating over some of the lessons that I learned from this book. I think that's telling about its quality. The author, Peggy Orenstein interviews many women in their twenties, thirties, and forties to discover how women handle careers, families, and that ever elusive "balance" between the two. Orenstein wanted to know what decisions these women had made (or were in the process of making) and why they had made them. While she does talk a little about sex, it's really not that central to the core of the ideas in the book - I think the title just includes it as the first word to sensationalize and capture the random browser's interest (it's all about marketing).

I appreciated Orenstein's case study approach to these larger issues, narrowing each age group into three examples of women, and then interviewing and examining each woman on why she had made the particular choices that she had made, and then the ramifications of their decisions. She examines the way that modern women, women who have come of age in the aftermath of the feminist movement of the 70s and 80s, balance the mantra "You can do/be anything that you want" and the traditional family model that most families ascribe to: the man/husband/father is the breadwinner/provider and the woman is the "Good Mother", "Perfect Wife" who stays home with the kids. Orenstein wants to know how do women balance this mantra and the traditional family model, or really, if this balance even exists. Can a woman have a successful career AND family AND be happy and satisfied in both? What kind of sacrifices would need to be made? And does having a family signal a death-knell to a woman's career?

I really resonated with this conflict between the mantra "You can do/be anything you want to be" that girls are told growing up and the traditional family model. In this stage of my life, I am a single career woman, who throughout my entire life, has been told that I can do anything that I want to do - and I have believed it! And why shouldn't I believe it? But what really got me was the truth that the odds are set against a woman having a career.

I've never really given this much credence, but through the facts and stories that Orenstein presents, there isn't much denying this truth. The working world is a man's world, set up for men to succeed and earn more, while careers that are traditionally held by women are valued much less (think financial analysts earning $120k each year versus teachers who earn $40k at best). Or the fact that women traditionally gravitate towards careers in non-profit organizations - but those organizations pay half what a man would earn in a for-profit organization, even though a non-profit actually works to change people's lives! It makes me angry and disappointed. And then the fact that if a woman does climb the ranks in a career field traditionally populated by men, her career gets derailed if she decides to have a child. Her earning potential instantly drops. Also disheartening is that women who do climb the ranks in this man's world have less sympathy for women who are trying to do the same and make different choices than they do with their life. This was a hard truth and bitter pill to swallow, but if I'm honest with myself, my own career mirrors this. Money is generally not all that important to me, but I do believe that my work should be valued at high dollar, and if I'm honest with myself, I don't believe that it is.

Orenstein also explores the family choices that women make - ie, whether or not to have a child, and if so, then when to have it, and then after you have it, who will take care of it and at who's career's expense? While I am not at this stage in life, it was difficult to read about and figure out what decisions would I make. And then the more startling thought was, do I want to even have to make these decisions? Do I want to fall into a traditional family model or do I want my family to look more balanced? Could I work and take care of kids at the same time? Would I want a child so much that I would have one without a husband, like one of the women did in the book? Or will I be 40 and single, a loving and doting "aunt" to my friends' and siblings' children? I can't predict those things now, but needless to say they were all questions that I am still confronting and working through.

All in all, I do highly recommend this book. It is hard to read, to look at the lives of all these women and the sacrifices that they have either made or are going to have to make, and whether it is fair in the first place that they even have to make them. The best truth in the book is the woman in the last case study who tells Orenstein to make sure that she tells her readers "It's not easy". Truly, it's not easy for a woman today to negotiate these decisions and choices, but hopefully, it's not impossible either.

As I was told once, "Who ever said life was going to be easy"?

(*Update - I have to rate this book 5 stars. It's months later and I'm STILL thinking and making decisions based upon stuff from this book. That earns 5 stars in my book.*) ...more

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Feb 22, 2011 Jeannette rated it it was ok

Shelves: nonfiction, eclectic-readers

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. The first part of this is from the thoughts that I wrote in my LiveJournal after reading the first third of the book. I used them because most are still valid. The last bit is my thoughts at the end of the book, which I'm re-writing because Goodreads glitched and lost it. Stupid glitch.

The latest Eclectic Reader's book is Flux, by Peggy Orenstein. From a certain aspect I'm enjoying it, because what's not to enjoy about a feminist book on women's life choices? I can totally identify with the idea The first part of this is from the thoughts that I wrote in my LiveJournal after reading the first third of the book. I used them because most are still valid. The last bit is my thoughts at the end of the book, which I'm re-writing because Goodreads glitched and lost it. Stupid glitch.

The latest Eclectic Reader's book is Flux, by Peggy Orenstein. From a certain aspect I'm enjoying it, because what's not to enjoy about a feminist book on women's life choices? I can totally identify with the idea of women having to make difficult choices and looking at their futures uncertainly. Seriously, what woman can't? From another aspect though, I'm really frustrated by it - and not in the way I suspect Orenstien was attempting to achieve.

Part of it is due to my personal issues, which I should really just get over because it's not like it's the author's fault. Part of it is due to the fact that even with my personal problems and uncertainty, I'm actually happy with my life. I pretty much always have been, except for brief spurts. Even at my most miserable times, I found something to make me happy. I kind of resent someone telling me that my current and future life choices (choosing teaching as my career, wanting to get married and have a family) are second-rate because teaching is a low-paying, female-dominated profession and having a family is a traditionalist thing to do. It is a traditionalist thing to do, but it doesn't have to be done in the Donna Reed traditionalist sense, nor does it have to be limiting or life-ending. I didn't choose teaching because it was easy for a female to succeed on that path. I chose it because I enjoyed it, because I was good at it, because the school which offered me a job also offered to pay me well, because it's rewarding.

Does all this sound idealistic yet? Of course, because I am an idealist. I'm not going to pretend that I'm not. But I'm also a special education teacher - a profession that will never go down the tubes, and that will always make good money due to lack of people brave enough. I'm in a great relationship with a man who said, when faced with my concerns, "That won't be a problem." Why does that have to not be good enough?

Fortunately for me, Orenstein does address these dreams in a more positive way and provides examples of different women who do "have it all," though they had to make sacrifices to their Donna Reed ideals to do it, or their original career dreams. That makes sense though: life isn't life without sacrifices. I did find it interesting and relieving that she put an emphasis on equality in couples. She doesn't make motherhood the only option though; she also spends time with women who went a different way and how they view their choices and their lives.

Overall, I'm glad I read it. As well as making some valid points, it provided a couple of talking points with my boyfriend - conversations that I think we might not have had for a while, otherwise, and which might have gone a different way. So favorite book? No. Interesting read? Yes. ...more

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Nov 29, 2009 Anne rated it really liked it

I first read this book after I had just graduated from law school. I was single and fairly certain that I never wanted to have children. As the book looks at professional women and their choices involving raising families, I felt like it reinforced my belief that it is impossible to have it all, and that having children would only derail what I hoped would be a focused and successful legal career. Years later, the book was still on my shelves. But, this time around, I'd been praticing law for al I first read this book after I had just graduated from law school. I was single and fairly certain that I never wanted to have children. As the book looks at professional women and their choices involving raising families, I felt like it reinforced my belief that it is impossible to have it all, and that having children would only derail what I hoped would be a focused and successful legal career. Years later, the book was still on my shelves. But, this time around, I'd been praticing law for almost 12 years, I had a young son, and plans for more children in the future. I have a husband who supports my career- but who definitely has one of his own. And so, the majority of the child-care falls to me. In many ways, I feel like I am the disappointment that Orenstein predicted in women with professional potential who choose to take time to have children. Re-reading this book while in a completely different place in my life was very interesting. I found it frustrating and almost hopeless - sad to realize that I'd stepped off the competitive career track that I always saw myself on - or maybe sad to realize that I'm the stereotype of the woman who decided that a high-powered legal career wasn't giving me the satisfaction I thought I deserved. While having a family certainly isn't the be-all-end-all, I enjoy it. And I enjoy having a job that I love as opposed to one that other people think that I am supposed to have. I do wonder if it's possible to "have it all" and still get sleep at night. I feel like I've made the right choices for me that have led to more happiness in my career and personal life than I thought I'd ever have, but still feel like it came at the sacrifice of being a trail blazer or making things any easier for the women who come after me - that feeling still gnaws at me often. Other women I've spoken to about this book found it comforting - to know that there are other women who struggle with the same doubts as they do. I found it frustrating - wishing that more people could find a way to have pieces of everything they want, or to be happy in what they have. Mostly, I wish that we could all find a way to feel comfortable in our decisions, and support others who make ones that are not the same as ours - and for those of us that have choices, to appreciate that reality. This is a conversation I think will be going on for decades to come, as women wrestle with what we want and what we are willing to give up to achieve it. This is a great book for sparking debate and serious thought about the life one wants to lead - but getting through it was definitely (for me) no walk in the park. ...more

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Oct 23, 2011 Mary Jo rated it really liked it

This was the best nonfiction book I read in 2011. It’s over 10 years old, but sadly, the world hasn’t changed that much in 10 years to make it irrelevant. In fact, it seemed more relevant than ever, since some big news stories this year have been about “The End of Men” and women surpassing men in numbers graduating from college and graduate school. The books is also about things that I’m very concerned with in my life now: how women make the decisions in their lives about careers, marriage and c This was the best nonfiction book I read in 2011. It’s over 10 years old, but sadly, the world hasn’t changed that much in 10 years to make it irrelevant. In fact, it seemed more relevant than ever, since some big news stories this year have been about “The End of Men” and women surpassing men in numbers graduating from college and graduate school. The books is also about things that I’m very concerned with in my life now: how women make the decisions in their lives about careers, marriage and children. Especially children.

Orenstein has a tone of genuine searching in this book. She honestly wants to know how other women manage their daily lives, weigh hard decisions about marriage, children, and jobs, and find meaning. She has some opinions about what she finds, inevitably, but for the most part she is compassionate when she approaches judgement, rather than contributing to any “mommy wars.” She decided to write about this topic because she was personally struggling to decide whether or not to have children; her most recent book, Cinderella Ate My Daughter, is about the eventual result of that decision.The book’s worst flaw is probably its focus on middle- and upper-middle class women, without giving much time to the perspectives of the working class. This is sadly common among white feminists, and has not changed much since this book was published, as other more recent writing on the topic shows.

The book’s conclusion seemed to be that men and workplaces need to change to keep up with the changes that women are making or want to make in their lives. Masculinity needs to be defined differently, so that men are ok with being a secondary breadwinner, doing household chores, and providing equal childcare, and people need to see a stay-at-home dad as a normal thing, not a hero or martyr, and hold fathers to the same high standards we have for mothers. Employers need to offer more flexibility for both men and women, fathers need to be offered and actually take a long paternity leave, and part-time work needs to be a more viable option. All of that sounds great to me. I sure hope it all happens someday, before I have a child, like within the next 2 years. Wouldn’t that be nice.

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Apr 23, 2012 Trena rated it liked it

In this very non-scientific social science book, Orenstein interviews women in various life stages about relationships, children, careers, and the uneasy intersections among them.

The first section, about early 20s, seemed very dated to me. It seemed like the kind of thing I read around the time I graduated from college. I thought it was kind of terrible and almost stopped reading.

But I think the issue was that it just wasn't relevant to my life. When it got to women in their 30s, I found the in ...more

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Aug 21, 2007 L rated it really liked it

Recommends it for: female professionals and the people who manage them.

Shelves: thought-provoking

This book attempts to answer the question "Can I have it all?" by following professional women at different stages of their lives and careers (20s, 30s, 40s, 50s). Unfortunately, it is not a longitudinal study and there is only anectdotal information, but there are some interesting anectdotes. Few women seem to succesfully "have it all" (both career and family) and those that do seem to make substantial compromises along the way; however most seem relatively comfortable with their choices.

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Aug 13, 2007 Briana rated it really liked it

this is a great book for any woman who is introspective about what she wants from her life (frankly, I don't know one woman who doesn't). orstein interviews women from their 20's-40's about their experiences of making decisions in what she calls 'a half changed world'. at times, the book be annnoying in that the women in their 20's are a bit obnoxious in their contradictions and then the seemingly 'you can never really have it all' conundrum highlighted in the stories of women in their 30's... h ...more

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Jul 21, 2011 Liz rated it it was amazing

Shelves: feminist-nonfiction

I found this book to be comforting, inspiring, and thought-provoking. So many of the sections and stories felt personally relevant. I read this along with one of my girlfriends, and probably stuck a post-it flag on about every other page, marking statements or passages that really resonated with me that I wanted to remember to discuss.

I think this is such an empowering and enlightening book for women, and I'd venture to say that husbands and fathers might gain some helpful insights from it as we ...more

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Jul 18, 2013 Susan Bazzett-Griffith rated it really liked it

Shelves: psych-soc-fem-pop

Peggy Orenstein's Flux is another great overview of the state of womanhood in America, and how women are impacted by our society's warped expectations of "having it all" in a society that doesn't support them in doing so. Orenstein speaks to women in various phases of life about the choice of staying single vs. traditional marriage in order to climb their career ladders, about remaining child-free versus having children, about developing their own definitions of success and about redefining gend ...more

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Oct 02, 2013 Annita rated it really liked it

I read Orenstein's Flux in a time of Flux! I had two children under the age of three and I thought I was never going to have control over anything again. (this remains true). I had left the workforce, an was fortunate to be part of a stable marriage, had good savings to rely upon, my education was completed and the financial picture above average. On top of it, i had a strong network of friends with children who were active and engaged in community and events. At the time, the book was reassurin ...more

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Mar 14, 2011 Kate rated it liked it

This was a well-researched book that I found interestingly current despite the fact that it's ten years old. That said, though, both the theme of the book and the writing itself seemed kind of old-hat - ie that women have really similar problems that stretch through multiple generations. Nice that Orenstein gives examples of kind of 'alternative' lifestyles and further delves into how they might not be that alternative anyway. I think it could have stated the same information in a much shorter b ...more

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Aug 29, 2007 Sarah rated it it was amazing

Thought this book would help me find some direction... it didn't. Instead, it highlighted that women today have many many choices. And some of them will be right and some will be wrong for any given woman - there is no single right path, we each must find our own. Some will prioritize career over family and that will be the right thing for them; for others it will be wrong. Some will prioritize family over career - and again, that will work for some and make others miserable. While those are the ...more

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Sep 23, 2012 Chrissy rated it really liked it

Shelves: nonfiction, feminism

A lot of focus has been placed on where women CAN be, now that we live in a post-women's movement world, and yet not much has been written addressing where women ARE. This was a fascinating, personal take on the many different paths women take nowadays and the potential successes and pitfalls of each.

Yes, the focus was very much on the middle- to upper-class segment of the population, but overall, it shows how the commonalities of women's experiences outweigh the differences. The demented press ...more

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Peggy Orenstein is a best-selling author and a contributing writer for The New York Times Magazine. Orenstein has also written for such publications as The Los Angeles Times, USA Today, Vogue, Elle, Discover, More, Mother Jones, Salon, O: The Oprah Magazine, and The New Yorker, and has contributed commentaries to NPR’s All Things Considered. Her articles have been anthologized multiple times, incl ...more