Keep Calm And Cut Him Off: 13 Reasons to "Go Silent" on Guys Who Reject or Break Up with You

by Bruce Bryans

A guy who rejects or breaks up with you should no longer exist in your life. Contacting him or allowing him to stay in-touch with you will make you work harder and harder to convince him that you’re worth his love and attention, and it will compel you to play that ugly and unwinnable game called, "Chase-A-Man".

The best way to avoid this ugly game and break his spell over you is to cut the guy off (cease all communications and interactions) for a set period of time, or in some cases, keep him cut off and out of your life indefinitely.


If a guy consistently fails to prioritize you or if he simply cannot reciprocate the love and respect you have for him, you need to cease contact with him and move on, either temporarily or for good.

Regardless of what the situation is and what kind of action it demands on your part, you must resist the temptation to "keep in touch" or "be friends" with men who have already made it clear that they’re just not that into you anymore.


If you’ve already been hurt, rejected, or perpetually neglected and you want to make it clear to a guy that you no longer want to "stay in touch" or "be friends" with him, you need to cease all contact and interactions with him by "going silent" on him.

In these situations, going silent on a guy will help you to rebuild your self-confidence, reclaim your power and peace of mind, and in some cases, make him realize just how much he misses being with you and having you in his life.

But going silent is just the first step. The biggest challenge for most women is not in the going silent, but in staying silent for as long as necessary!

In this insightful little survival guide for women, you’re going to learn the importance of silence after a breakup or rejection, how it benefits you, and the powerful influence it has on the man who rejects you. If you want to bounce back from a bad breakup or even just improve your relationships with men in the future, this book will help you rediscover your true self-worth and will be a gentle reminder of why you may need to cut a guy off either for a certain period of time or perhaps even completely.

Here’s what else you’re going to learn
Get started right away and discover how silence can help you reclaim your power after a breakup or quickly bounce back from male rejection.

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Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction, Relationships

79 pages, Paperback

Published December 14, 2021

About the author

Bruce Bryans writes books for men and women who want to become both irresistible and irreplaceable romantic partners to the opposite sex. This is the focus of all of his books.

Reviews

[Andreia Butterfly ❤️Audible listener since 2013 · Rating 5 out of 5]

5 amazing Stars!! Best book I´ve read in 2025 so far. I wish I had read this book when I was 20 but unfortunately at that time there were not so many books about abusive and toxic relationships like there are nowadays! Still, the reading was valid and opened up my eyes more than ever before in regarding to how men can be toxic and abusive towards women and taught me how to detach from men´s needs, opinions and behavioural patterns and FOCUS ON MYSELF. All that worry and energy spent on endless trying to please and make men happy, NOT anymore. I am finally, although late, learning to please myself, worry about myself and focus on self-realization. Awesome narration. Thank you!

[SB · Rating 5 out of 5]

Short and jam-packed full of vital information to keep your dignity and self-respect as a high-value woman.

[Say · Rating 5 out of 5]

Choose yourself!

Read this book within a day! Maybe even an hour or two and I finally decided to BLOCK HIM.

I am one who doesn’t mind cutting a guy off when I’m no longer satisfied but left the communication open i.e deleting the contact but not blocking the number or unfollowing on social media but not blocking and still allowing the person to walk in and out of my life whenever.

This book shows what a huge mistake I have been making by giving my access to someone who denied my love in the first place. The biggest lesson I learned from this book is that it’s better to use your time with yourself or better men than to hope and pray that your desired guy sees your value. You only lessen your value by sticking by a man who openly shows that they don’t want you. You are only probing to yourself that you don’t think you can do better and you ALWAYS CAN!

Read this book and pass it on to every woman you know is toooo good to be sticking around waiting for Mr. Wrong to become Mr. Right!

[Tere Vg · Rating 5 out of 5]

Required reading

Wish I read this 20 years ago. Filled with honest and great advice. Definitely worth checking out. Easy, quick read.

[Gina Michael · Rating 4 out of 5]

Short and concise book about the importance for women to cut off these kind of men.

[Keeya Ragin · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read for all women

This book is a must read for all women. I appreciate the honesty of the author from a man’s perspective in explaining unattractive behavior from a women. I will definitely read again.

[Diana · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was a must read. Or that's what my friend told me when he sent it to me. iI think that going no contact was one of the hardest things I did but it was what gave me my life and peace of mind back. I thought that we could be friends, keep in contact and make sure that the other one was ok, but talking to him made me miss him more and want him back. So distance helped. Then my friends stepped in and helped by keeping me busy. at first every day, week and month seemed like forever. But it got easier. No contact from September 2020 to July 2022 when he reached out. No, we didn't get back together. It's a hard lesson to learn, but you can't be their friend when you want them back, and I was too stubborn to accept. Luckily I don't love him anymore. I care about him and his family and i wish them the best but that's all.

[Zakiya Daniel · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a short, meaningful, and impactful read, and I feel like I got more out of it than I originally anticipated. First off, do not let that pink cover fool you. I thought it would be a book that spoke much more from first-person experience. However, having a male author give his perspective and advice about why it is often in our best interest to move on from poor, one-sided relationships was not what I expected. This book was pretty insightful about how a woman's behavior after a breakup or bad relationship actually affects her ex-partner. I am glad I read this book because I feel like it gave me a powerful bargaining tool that I can use as I navigate future relationships, and I would recommend it to anyone who is doing the same.

[Chloé · Rating 5 out of 5]

I binge read this in one sitting and loved every minute of it! This has helped me to realise that I am probably better off without, it has made me realise behavioural red flags on my exes side, it has taught me that I deserve better, and that it was his behaviour that made me feel unloved towards the end of the relationship.

Parts of this book did hit hard, a few home truths came through, and realisation hit me too. I am all for self help books and I will always recommend them to anyone who is struggling. This was a 5 star read for me, and I am forever thankful that my kindle recommended this for me 🥰

[Ivelisse Santiago · Rating 5 out of 5]

Reinforces your decision to continue to ghost

Recently an ex came back after we almost got married and later on rejected me and ghosted. He texted out of nowhere 10 months later without explanation. I decided not to respond and looked in amazo kindle for a book to help me in this situation. This book help me reinforce my decision to go ghost on him and decide is not worth fighting for a pseudo-relationship. If you want to not feel guilty over ghosting your ex this is the must go to book. The author's advise paints a clear picture of your ex intentions and reasons of why you should continue ghosting.

[Angelia Bowdre · Rating 5 out of 5]

Timely and Right on point!

This is a wonderful book! It points out everything that I have known and even more! It is straight to the point and it doesn't cut any corners. You will definitely learn some things. If you are a type of woman who just can't seem to let go of a man even after he has rejected you, then you should read this book asap! Bruce definitely has 13 good reasons for you to cut him off!

[Sara Navarro · Rating 4 out of 5]

it's good advice

cutting a guy off is probably the fastest way to return to yourself after a break up, but it's easier said than done. and this author often uses the term 'high quality men'' but what does that actually mean? everyone seems to be flawed in some way. I keep running into the low quality guys

[Catherine Flynn · Rating 5 out of 5]

What a great read for all the women who are going through a heartbreak. This is a great book as well to guide you to avoid people wasting your time. I like how the book was written. Even though it's a straightforward book, he still encourages women to know her worth and reminds her why she should not settle. I would reread this over and over until it set in deep in my heart.

[Booked.Shaye BWRT · Rating 5 out of 5]

Read it!! Listen to it!! & take notes. One of the best self help books I've ever read. He was spot on! & Ive tested the methods & they WORK!
Someone in my book club gifted it to me. & omg I’m so grateful. The information is straight forward. & to the point. & raw. It’s real. It’s not nice , it’s true.

[A · Rating 5 out of 5]

motivating and immediate

It is brief and to the point. No flowery writing here. How to recognize bad behavior and how to not tolerate it and why. So short you should read it repeatedly to allow it to sink in.

[Pippë · Rating 2 out of 5]

entire book could have been done in a couple pages: get rejected? go no contact. his dog died? stay no contact. his mom died? maybe contact. men don't respect women with no self worth, so get some. umm. ok?

[Kristy Lee · Rating 5 out of 5]

Awesome Read

This book made me get the motivation to keep it moving and remember who the f I am. I have plenty of guys who beg for my attention all to be chasing this emotionally unavailable one. Great read. Will definitely check out some of his other books some time. Thank you <3

[Andrew · Rating 3 out of 5]

Should have just been a short article. Not sure how helpful it would be, because most people would figure it out on themselves, those who need this advice would be someone with very low self esteem/value (but those people would not listen to that advice anyway).

[Dom Will · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thank you for motivation!

Def needed this in my time of need! Thank you for positive words that I will now replay in my head!

[Oluwaseyi]

Good

[Eunice Rivers · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great easy read

Great read, very helpful and empowering. I have read a few of this author's other books, I've found them all very practical and useful.

[Eleanor Skinner · Rating 1 out of 5]

what in the andrew tate outdated male opinions on female emotions was this?

[Claudia Friedman · Rating 5 out of 5]

A Book Worth Rereading!

One of the best out there. I recommend reading it as many times as you need. Best self love you can give yourself.

[Brittany Findley · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book helped me figure my dating life out

[Delmira · Rating 5 out of 5]

EMPOWERING

Concise, thorough, explanatory, and empowering. I am happy I purchased this book. It is worth every penny and every woman should have a copy. I highly recommend it.

[Aurora Mishawn · Rating 4 out of 5]

Helpful

I love how short and to the point this book is. I will definitely implement the tools that I have gained from this read. I will actually read again.

[Samantha Boutet · Rating 5 out of 5]

I liked it. Pretty basic. Similar style of writing and thinking to Brian nox books which are also good

[leslie chapman · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great read

I felt better after reading this book especially when the advice is from
male author and not a female.

Thanks!

[Leah Qualls · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent Recommendations

Straight and to the point type of book. I believe his views are important to apply to specific situations. Good read.

[Caitlin Frey · Rating 5 out of 5]

“Newsflash he is not your man” 5⭐️ Short listen on audiobook jam packed with such hard truths. Wish I had listened to it sooner.