The Codependency Recovery Blueprint: From People-Pleasing, Low Self-Esteem & Intimacy Issues of a Codependent to Emotional Intelligence, Self-Confidence & Self-Caring of an Independent

by Don Barlow

If you find yourself questioning the healthiness of your relationships and struggle to stand up for what you want, you're not alone. Codependent behaviors are some of the most difficult relationship patterns to identify, yet it's rarely discussed and often considered another form of "clinginess." This definition ignores the feelings of guilt and shame that arise from the best of intentions -- it does nothing to recognize that even the best intentions can hurt. As you put yourself on the line for the people you love, it can be difficult to tell when the boundaries between you and them have blurred to the point of toxicity. After all, you're motivated by wanting the best for others , even if it means you have to put aside your own values and opinions to do so. However, when you come to rely on outside factors for validation and a sense of identity, these "do good" habits can do more harm than good. You may suddenly feel obligated to stay in a constricting relationship that turns you into a victim and limits your capacity for intimacy. It can feel as though you have no one to turn to because everybody relies on you. That doesn't mean your life has to stay that way. Codependency may be running your life, but you are the one in the driver's seat. In fact, you've already taken the first step by realizing you need to change the path you're on. Don Barlow knows firsthand the transformational effects of recovering from codependency and has compiled the knowledge he gained over the years so others can experience the same freedom. In The Codependency Recovery Blueprint , here is just a fraction of what you will

Genres: Self Help

196 pages, Hardcover

Published August 10, 2021

Reviews

[Karla]

Look inward and build yourself up

Being codependent means over sacrificing yourself for others. You will never get out of it what you put into it which only leads to you feeling taken advantage of, distrustful, and full of pain. Seek out support groups to bring you out of the darkness and get you on the right track again.

[Marvin Mason]

Informative

Wow, there are so many variations of co dependency. I was surprised to discover even those abusive types have a dependency on using codependent people. Makes the reader wonder who the weaker party is. Good book.

[Shawna Lee]

Hopeful

This was nicely written and insightful. Not too heavy with just the right amount of hard facts and research. Great for fans of Brene Brown.

[Daniel DeMille]

Offering practical remedies to codependency, this book is well written, insightful, and valuable for men and women alike. The distinction between caregiving and caretaking is quite useful and thoughtful. The author provides practical information on identifying and resolving codependency issues. The author writes with empathy and includes important recommendations around self-care. The book also discusses a co-dependency 12-step program. Overall, this is a useful and practical book.

[Sindy Castellanos]

Good explanation about what codependency means, its origins, behaviors and consequences. Reading it can help not only to identify this condition in one's life, but to overcome it, through the tools that the author offers, which are accessible and very successful.
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Buena explicación sobre lo que significa la codependencia, sus orígenes, comportamientos y consecuencias. Leerlo puede ayudar no solo a identificar esta condición en la propia vida, sino a superarla, a través de las herramientas que el autor ofrece, las cuales son accesibles y muy acertadas.