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VGL Male Seeks Same

(M4M #1)

3.43  ·  Rating details ·  230 ratings  ·  46 reviews
Poor Ethan Schwartz. It seems like he will never find that special someone. At age 42, he's still alone, his bed still empty, and his 42-inch HDTV overworked. He's tried the bars and other places where gay men are supposed to find one another, but for Ethan, it never works out. He wonders if it ever will. Should he get a cat?

But all of that is about to change. At work, Eth
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Aug 12, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: romance-contemp
Sweet and adorable.

Honestly, it's the kind of story you want to read with a giant glass of milk and plate full of warm chocolate chip cookies--gooey and delicious.

What do you do when you've reached a certain age and you realize all the advertised avenues for meeting prospective mates aren't working. Do you curl into your shell and wait to die or try. Try something new or stupid OR BOTH.

Ethan manages to find his unicorn, but has he oversold his own goods?

Recommended for hardcore romantics.

Bryl Tyne
Dec 08, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: all romance lovers
Have you ever reached the point where you faced the mirror and pondered, “Maybe I’m destined to be alone?”

Ethan has, and yet, he finds no solace in accepting that as his fate. Lifestyle choices only exacerbate his loneliness. For even though he’s pushing middle age, he’s far from having a face only a mother would love. Ethan could frequent the bars or clubs and, from the variety, pick up a nice-looking man to unwind his loneliness. Maybe for the night, a few days, a week, or maybe a few
Aug 18, 2009 rated it really liked it
If you, like many, have ever ventured into the scary pool of online dating, you will empathize with Ethan pretty quickly. Even if you haven’t tried various celebrated sites, Ethan’s character is one that will draw you in and send you a gripping tale where you simply can’t put the book down.

Ethan is an early forties gay man, relatively attractive but past the first blush of youth. He has a good, if occasionally mundane, job, lives in the right neighborhood, went to all the nearby gay bars, kept
Nov 04, 2010 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
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Since the only other thing I have read by Mr. Reed was IM, which scared the living hell out of me, I wasn't sure how this one was going to go. Like Stephen King writing a love story, I thought. Stephen King should be so lucky.

Ethan is 42 years old, and all he wants is someone to come home to, share a life with. He thought his job and his apartment location would help with this, but nothing. He is just so lonely. He decides to give technology a try, in the ter
Ulysses Dietz
Dec 31, 2013 rated it really liked it
A refreshingly honest and gentle story - and about a middle-aged man who is attractive, but not beautiful. In other words: reality.

When Ethan Schwartz puts his toe into the electronic dating pool, his own anxieties allow him to succumb to the very dishonesty he fears. Watching how he handles the transfer from online to real life is a testimony to the notion that good guys don't always finish last.

My only gripe about this story is that it could - and should - have been a full-length novel. There
Aug 23, 2010 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: contemporary, m-m
Ethan Schwartz is out of luck.A forty-two old,ordinary looking gay man who isn't in high demand on the dating site he just put his profile up on.
So he decides for a little experiment: he puts avery attractive photo to his profile, leans back and waits. The results are overwhelming. But among the flood there's only one response Ethan is really interested in: Brian's. Yet, when things proceed towards a face to face, Ethan hasn't come around to admit part of his internet persona isn't him. Good luc
Karen K
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Valentina Heart
Jun 05, 2011 rated it really liked it
Recommended to Valentina by: MsMiz (Tina)
Shelves: glbt
This story was such a delight for me. It was exactly what I was looking for and the pure honesty and the simplicity of the situation made it human - something too many of the stories lack.

I did of course want to read more, but it worked alright even short as it was. What didn't fit for me was the ending. I'm sorry but it just didn't fit the overall story. It didn't make sense. But still, I was so pleasantly surprised I had to rate this with 4 stars.
Jan 20, 2009 added it  ·  (Review from the author)
Poor Ethan Schwartz. It seems like he will never find that special someone. At age 42, he’s still alone, his bed still empty, and his 42-inch HDTV overworked. He’s tried the bars and other places where gay men are supposed to find one another, but for Ethan, it never works out. He wonders if it ever will. Should he get a cat?

But all of that is about to change. At work, Ethan hears about a website that promises to deliver more than just the tawdry hook-ups associated with so many other sites. Eth
Feb 23, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: romance, m-m, contemporary
Rick R Reed's book is a breath of fresh air. I had just finished a group of M/M books with interesting story lines, lacking slightly in execution and then I read VGL Male Seeks Same. Simpler storyline, wonderfully executed, about characters so real they could be living next door.

Thank you Rick for your commitment to excellent writing.
Dee Wy
Sep 05, 2011 rated it really liked it
I've had this book for a few years now, and just "discovered" it in my book files. So finally, I loaded it on the Paperwhite and laughed myself silly at Ethan's first attempt at meeting someone through on-line dating. I'm still smiling the next day. Fun read! ...more
May 25, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I don't have a romantic bone in my body, but I'm easily amused by "romance novels". For the most part I take them as pure fantasy, and dearly love them.
Just a candid thought mind you, but this one? Made me believe in possibilities.
Emily Moore
Mar 07, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Ethan has tried everything he can think of to find a significant other. He visited the bars where all the young, hip gay men were sure to be found only to be a wallflower and not interact with anyone. He moved to the heart of “Boystown” in Chicago to be surrounded by single gay men only to have the neighborhood gentrify and the gays move due north. He found a job as a publicist for free nights at the theater and to be surrounded by handsome actors but instead is isolated in his cube writing pres ...more
Feb 13, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Rick R. Reed just invited me to become his friend on goodreads. Apart from being flattered I realized that I never reviewed or at least added one of his books to my shelves. Something I have to change immediately.
I read at least 6 or even 7 of his books because Mr. Reed is an exceptional author. All his books are extremely well written and edited. They all have a plot that keeps you hooked.

Mr. Reed’s two books that touched me most and who made it in my top ten list of gay romance are “VGL Male
Elisa Rolle
This is quite a tender tale for a writer that usually I associate to more "creepy" tales. Ethan is a 42 years old very "normal" looking guy. He has a good job, a love for quite and comfortable thing, a nice apartment in a nice neighborhood... everything perfect if not for the fact that Ethan is lonely. He is past the age to go cruising in the gay club, and even when he was in the age, he didn't like it. The type of man you can pick in that place is not the man Ethan is searching: he wants someon ...more
Feb 11, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Really enjoyed this short story.ethan is lonely approaching middle age and just not into the bar scene,so he decided to try the Internet dating thing.enters one Brian someone who seems to be on the same wavelength,they seem to "click".and so the story begins.....I really found this endearingly sweet,so true to life's emotions ,,all the insecurities we all go through,,the am I good enough am I cute enough the old age courting ritual of being scared to put the real you out there fearing rejection ...more
Pia Veleno
May 13, 2012 rated it liked it
First of all, don't let the title fool you. Yes, this is a story about an online dating profile, however you don't need to know what VGL stands for, or any of those other silly online dating acronyms.

I went back and forth with liking this story. It was an interesting character study -- a forty-something man looking for a lasting relationship has given up on bars and other "typical" gay meeting activities -- so when he overhears another gay man bragging about all the responses he got through an
May 29, 2013 rated it liked it
I liked the book. Like always, Mr. Reeds writing is great, and like always, he is breaking my heart.

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May 28, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: short, m-m, contemporary
I really should read the blurbs sometimes when I pick a book. I just saw Rick R. Reed and thought "Yep, I'll like that".
I got to 23% and felt a little nauseous with nerves... Why do people do that!? It doesn't work, it never does damnit.
Even knowing how this was gonna go tits-up, I couldn't put it down (It's Rick, I adore his stories). I am glad that this was only a short, I don't think I could have handled the suspense of the reveal if it had been a full novel.
I love how Rick's characters are a
Aug 28, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I have read three stories from Mr. Reed and all of them are walking on the dark side. This one, is a lighter, and a whole lot funnier. I haven't had the experience of online dating but I can sympathize with Ethan. Especially when he says that he actually wants to find his man through mutual friend. This story is told from Ethan's POV using 3rd person -- so you definitely get to know what Ethan is thinking and feeling for the whole thing. AND, Ethan's voice is so funny, I can't help giggling here ...more
I chose this book because it was on The Best Humorous Gay Romances list. IMMHO it doesn't fit there. I found this book to be real and heartfelt and...poignant. I understood Ethan in the depths of my soul - his yearnings for a deeper connection, his motivation for his subterfuge. Rick Reed manages to construct a detailed, human, and sympathetic character in the very short span of 55 pages (on my e-reader); no mean feat! ...more
Jen Pinto
Apr 07, 2011 rated it really liked it
I liked this one a lot and I especially loved the ending. It was short and sweet, normally I don't like anything too short because I feel you can't really get the know the characters very well, but Rick Reed did a great job bringing the characters to life. I could almost feel the anxiety and tension building. The character that jumped out at me the most was a minor one; Bubbles, he was such a bitch. LOL! I would love to see a side story about him finding a great dom to knock him into line in a v ...more
May 12, 2011 rated it it was ok
I just realized that my stupid ass gave this a two and then failed to review it. I promise that I haven't done this before.

Okay honestly I don't think anyone should look at my rating as to whether they should buy it or not. Pay attention to this review. The author did a damn good job writing this, very vivid and humorous but I'm not a big fan of books that don't cement that Happy Ever After feel for me and though the author tried at the end to give that feeling, it felt forced rather than believ
Sweet and romantic Ethan gets himself in trouble by pretending to be someone he isn't... his online persona, or rather just his picture, changed to test and see what the results would be.

He found out and then worried that he might have found just the perfect man, who thought Ethan was someone else.

Alls well that ends well, and this has a cute ending. I enjoyed this story, Ethan and Brian sound made for each other

1st read - Aug 14, 2012
2nd read - Dec 1, 2012

I re-read because I picked up the secon
Sep 15, 2011 rated it liked it
3.5 Stars
At the beginning of this story I was going to give up,
As it focus in the main character(33% into my kindle)all his emotions, his thoughts,and let me tell you, I feel like he never shuts-up.
I decided to keep reading mostly out of curiosity than entertainment.
I'm glad I finished, as my favorite part of the book is more towards the end.
I like Ethan, but I wish he didn't "talk" that much.The ending is much favorite part,surprisingly quite lovely indeed.

Oct 21, 2010 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: amazon
Aaaaah, this type of romance are so rare. I love the "oh so not perfect" ordinary person who finds that special ordinary someone that completes them. I'm a little scared to read the sequel, but it was a nice change from all those perfect bodies and faces I read so much of. Beauty "is" in the eye of beholder. A 5 star read for me. ...more
Ann Roberts
Oct 20, 2011 rated it really liked it
I enjoyed the aspect that not everyone has to be perfect to find a true love! This book dealt well with the online dating world and the tendency to "exaggerate" our physical attributes to attract a mate. I wished the actual relationship once they met in person had been given more attention, but overall I enjoyed this book. ...more
LD  Durham
Jun 06, 2010 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to LD by: Carvedwood
Shelves: m-m-romance
It was cute. The ending was a bit odd and didn't fit with everything that had gone on before. I think. I don't know. But it was a cute story. Short and endearing, but I think it stretched my ability to beleive in the main character, Ethan's, intelligence a bit too far. ...more
Nov 03, 2012 rated it it was ok
Shelves: nomance
Great premise and characters. A very realistic look at a middle aged gay man's life without any sugarcoating or breeches-ripping. The prose is a little bit hard to read - I'm not sure why, since it's plain English. I guess it's the way the sentences are worded, but overall a good read. ...more
Feb 09, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: own, read-2013
Short, enjoyable M/M story about online dating and the little lies we so easily feel tempted to tell when using it. Liked that the characters were "normal" people rather than some impossibly handsome ideal. ...more
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Rick R. Reed draws inspiration from the lives of gay men to craft stories that quicken the heartbeat, engage emotions, and keep the pages turning. Although he dabbles in horror, dark suspense, and comedy, his attention always returns to the power of love. He’s the award-winning and bestselling author of more than fifty works of published fiction and is forever at work on yet an

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