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340 pages, Paperback
First published November 22, 2021
Before I got there, she called out. "Hey, Dex?"
"Yeah?" I turned around, terrified she was going to ask me if I wanted to come in and knowing I'd say yes.
She was leaning out her doorway, and a playful grin on her face. "I had fun tonight."
"Me too." And then I relaxed, because I knew what was coming.
"But I don't love you."
I grinned back. "I don't love you either."
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➥ Winnie (h) was a pretty shitty fmc. She is the fmc that we all know and hate; quirky, short, sunshine girl. She's so immature. What bothers me most is how I'm so unable to relate to her. It kills me that some men perceive women as...THAT. You know? Because we are just nothing like this. That is a whole child and it was so strange to read this book and know that (1) an old man was attracted to her and (2) we are supposed to take her seriously. She had some decently sweet moments with the girls but that's it.
➥ Dex (H) was an even shittier mmc lmao. He's only 35 but apparently he has grey hair?? Anyway, my dearest little boy Dex, don't you get tired of shitting on your ex-wife for being a decent, responsible mother, or maybe do you get tired of comparing the woman you're fucking to your own daughters? No? Ah. This man encapsulates subtle toxic masculinity and it's very telling. I truly can't see how people find men like him attractive; they're so unlikeable (not in a morally grey cute way. Especially considering that this is a contemporary romance, people!!)
➥ Hallie and Luna (Dex's daughters) carried this book on their backs!! They're so fucking cute. They were entertaining, funny, and just such little angels. They're the only reason this book wasn't 1 star for me.
➺ He lets his daughters get sunburnt because he chose to not reapply it for them and when Naomi confronts him about it, he says she's overreacting and invalidates her very valid concern for her children's health.
➺ One of his daughters has a mild allergic reaction and he chooses to not inform Naomi about it. These are things a mother needs to know!! Does no one have compassion for this woman who is exasperated trying her best to keep her daughter safe and healthy when her co-parent won't even inform her of medical issues?
➺ Naomi doesn't let her daughters have gum for many valid reasons, but Dex gives it to them anyway. One day, one of the girls gets it stuck in her hair and he doesn't even bother to try and brush it out and get it out. He just cuts it off. So of course, when the girls are given back to Naomi, she's concerned that this man is chopping up the girl's hair???
➺ Dex is bad at doing hair. The author always mentions how the pigtails are always lopsided and that he's always too rough when brushing the girls' hair. And just...? Imagine if that were a woman, how everyone would look at her like an incompetent girl, for not knowing how to do these things. And the thing is, it's not hard to learn to do even pigtails and know how to brush hair with a little bit of effort. You know what would have been much better? Much more endearing? Imagine if instead, Dex has put effort into learning how to french braid because his daughter's liked it. Imagine if he practiced on their dolls. That would be so much more wonderful, but no, even in this day and age we still glamourize these men's weaponised incompetence. He's half-assing it and he knows it.
➺ Dex is bad at cooking and burns everything so he always feeds the girls take-out. Same thing as the hair. Seriously, you can learn to not burn food if you just put in a little bit of effort. He also gives them desert before dinner and shit so he's known as the cool parent idk, and it's just so unfair.
➺ He listens to heavy metal around the girls. That's fine, but I would just love it so much more if characters like him stopped adhering to toxic masculinity, and instead did something like sing disney songs with his girls in the car. See how much better that could be?
"No one's ever torn my clothes off before. Or pinned me down that way. Or said those kinds of things." [eugh look at her being all virginal]
"I guess even selfish assholes have better manners than me." [yeah you're so quirky dude]
She smiled. "I guess so. But it's okay, because I'm not looking for a boyfriend this time, remember?"
"That's right." I recalled what she said last night. "You're in rehab for your love addiction."
"Exactly. So you can go right ahead and rip my clothes off and pin me down and say all kinds of filthy things to me."
I growled again gripping her sides. "Don't tempt me little girl."
➺ Already 15%, we are told that he masturbates thinking about her body. They have barely even talked. I just find that so disrespectful and violating what 😭
➺ They have this one hot moment where Dex rubs the tip of his beer bottle on Winnie's lower lip while making eye contact. Pretty hot right? But then we get his (disgusting) inner monologue about him imagining it was his c0ck and like 😐. That's just so degrading imo.
➺ Dex was thinking about how pretty Winnie's nails were and I thought that was so cute because men rarely acknowledge things that women put effort into like hair, makeup, outfits etc. but then he just talks about how he imagines them wrapped around his dick. Must he sexualise, everything? It's like he only imagines Winnie as a sexual object. Even in a friends with benefits situation, characters can be (and have been) respectful of the other one. But here, it's clear that Winnie is just a sexual object to him.
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Audio book source: Audible
Story Rating: 4 stars
Narrators: Stephen Dexter & Kirsten Leigh
Narration Rating: 4 stars
Genre: Contemporary Romance
Length: 10h 5m
truly the only part i liked in this book :
”Is it time to get up now?” Luna asked hopefully, scratching her belly.
“Yes,” I said. “Get dressed and we can go for donuts on the way to Aunt Bree’s.”
“Mom doesn’t let us have donuts,” she said.
“Mom’s not fucking here,” replied Hallie.
“Hey!” I gave my older daughter a sharp stare. “No cursing.”
“But you do it all the time.”
“That’s because I’m a grouchy old man, and I earned the right.”
Hallie stuck her hands on her skinny little hips. “How come Mom says she’s still young and you say you’re old, but you’re both thirty-four?”
“Mom says she’s young?” Luna sounded surprised as she tugged off her nightgown.
“Yes,” Hallie answered, spying the mattresses I had propped against the wall. She began running at them full speed and bouncing off again. “Last week when she told us she and Bryce were getting married, I said I didn’t know brides could be as old as her, and she said brides could be any age as long as they believe in happily ever after.”
the romance was a no from me