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The Kosher Sutra: Eight Sacred Secrets for Reigniting Desire and Restoring Passion for Life

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America has a contradictory relationship with sex. Sex is everywhere—advertisements, the Internet, magazines, and television—yet one third of all marriages in America are utterly sexless. Our over-exposure to sex has diluted the most powerful form of intimacy to such an extent that most couples have forgotten what passion feels like. In The Kosher Sutra, Shmuley Boteach,

Paperback, 256 pages
Published January 6th 2009 by HarperOne (first published January 1st 1999)
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Sarah Whitney
Apr 07, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, library, 2009
I'm a little biased as really I like Shmuley. I've enjoyed many episodes of Shalom in the Home and am a big fan of his work, which is why I had to read this!

Over all I liked the book. Maybe even really liked it. Definitely a good reminder for what helps keep relationships electric, if you know what I mean ;-)

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The Kosher Sutra
Shmuley Boteach

I believe that these two facts – the instant availability of sex in the cultural marketplace versus its increasing nonexistence in the American bedroom
Mar 05, 2009 rated it really liked it
Let’s talk about the big bang (or sex)

(Disclaimer: None of this is intended to be offensive to those who practice the kosher way. It is strictly intended to be tongue-in-cheek (or in other places as the subject may necessitate.))

I admit it. I was surfing the channels a few weeks ago and stopped on Dr. Phil who was hosting Shmuley Boteach for his book, “The Kosher Sutra: 8 Sacred Stories for Reigniting Desire and Restoring Passion for Life.” Intriguing as it was I decided to read it although I w
Douglas Lord
Nov 13, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This follows Kosher Sex: A Recipe for Passion and Intimacy (Main Street, 2000) and solidifies Boteach’s role as some sort of rabbinical Shmuley Boteach/Annie Sprinkle. The attraction to Boteach, other than his awesomely awesome name, is his unswerving belief in the limitless potential of you – yes, you! Within each of us there is “buried treasure,” a magic that opens limitless possibilities and extends to the ‘ol marital bed, where -- with a completely straight face -- he advises us to tear each ...more
Mar 04, 2013 rated it liked it
Rabbi Schmuley Boteach

“Schmoozwe—Don’t Snooze”

The Sex(y) Rabbi has done it again! This bedroom how-to manual offers unorthodox approaches and whack-job suggestions to improve
marital relationships. Having recognized with shock America’s sinking sexual libido, he has zealously rushed to the rescue with a literary Litany to Restore Lust between the sheets.

The author’s Eight Secrets to produce Eroticism—not to be confused with morbid sexual practice--prove fascinating reading: a
J. Parker
Dec 03, 2014 rated it it was ok
To be fair, I didn't finish the book -- although I really tried.

Unfortunately, I found Kosher Sutra to be a mixture of insightful ideas about eroticism and bad advice for sexuality in marriage. At times, I was nodding at notions the author presented, and then a page or two later, I was wincing at his suggestions. For example, Boteach explains how he counseled a woman to withhold any information about her sexual past from her fiancé, which I find to be both deceptive and dangerous.

I simply couldn
Dec 19, 2009 rated it liked it
Boteach is lucid and engaging in his advocacy for capturing the erotic in all aspects of life, albeit wholly unoriginal aside from his orthodox Jewish perspective. But if his messages aren't new (e.g. the ubiquity of sex diminishes its erotic allure; novelty and forbidenness can figure prominently in arousal; and eroticism applies as much to intellectual curiosity and platonic relationships as it does to the sexual), his vantage point is; and this fact alone adds insight to the underlying themes ...more
Apr 08, 2009 rated it it was ok
I like his emphasis on the erotic and I really appreciate that he extends his view of the erotic to include all of life and especially nature. I agree with his assertion that boredom is deadly to eros and that engaging more fully in life and sexuality can be a remedy for that sort of depression that comes from boredom. Some of his specific suggestions seem like they might be helpful in re-igniting the erotic spark, other suggestions seem unfeasible, odd, or just a bit too religious for my taste. ...more
May 26, 2016 rated it it was ok
I picked up this book after seeing an interview with Shmuley expressing his views on the broken American male. I was intrigued and had high expectations for his work, so my rating may not be entirely fair. He outlines the principles of attraction and applies them to marriage burn out... almost redundantly. The basic idea behind the book in the intro was great and I would have like to see that tone carried out through more of the book.
Aug 26, 2011 rated it it was ok
Is it embarrasing that I'm reading this? Nevertheless. . . .

The idea of the book is great, of course, and there is some good advice here, but it has this bizarre tone and seems to be almost entirely male-focused. "Husbands! Walk a few steps behind your wife and see how other men are attracted to her as she walks down the street. Your desire will be ignited!" etc. I am moving on to my next book. . . .
Aug 18, 2010 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
subtitle made me think it was about being passionate in general, and I thought it would be some sort of pep talk about midlife crises, but it turns out to be entirely about marital sex lives. A mix of generally good sex therapy practices, weird (to me) reverse sexism ("sexual variety in a woman is erotic, in a man pathetic", e.g.), and rabbinical justifications for one or another recommendation.
Sep 12, 2010 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2010
This book may come in handy when I have an erotic relationship with more than just chocolate.

I did like Rabbi's thoughts on couples maintaining erotic curiosity about each other to keep things fresh. However, I must object to Rabbi's advice that we follow Leviticus and Deuteronomy. For one, because I don't think any male cross-dresser or drag queen would accept that they are not permitted to dress in female clothing, for example.
Jessie Jellick
Jan 03, 2013 rated it it was ok
I liked this book, its got lots of interesting ideas but theres just one fundamental thing that doesn't work in! Who has the time, or the energy to put all these practices into place? are you supposed to get a man interested...he clearly says most men are lazy in bed, so hows this book going to change that, its like a workout, mentally, spiritually and physically...every day for the rest of your marital life....hmmmmm....its very ideal but not very real!
Onyinye Ihezukwu
Great book

This book is an incredible read, with tons of sincere, heartfelt advice for people who want to make stale relationships fresh again. I would definitely recommend this to anyone in search of a deeper meaning to sex and love. Please and please; get yourself a copy and feed your soul. Heavens bless Rabbi S.
Apr 24, 2009 rated it liked it
I love Shmuley and wanted to love this book, but wasn't overly impressed. I did like the parts about not assuming to know everything about your partner and how being engaged in life translates into the bedroom (and vice versa). However, the sterotypes very a little over-the-top and the assertion that woman are superior to men was off-putting. Overall it was a good read, but I was expecting more.
Mar 30, 2009 rated it liked it
This book had some interesting ideas on building intimacy on a different level. I found his ideas on the importance of attractiveness in the eyes of your spouse to be true in my marriage. Overall a useful book, not on a sexual level as much as just having passion in whatever you do.
Oct 08, 2009 rated it liked it
Great advice for relationships
Cathy Chung
Mar 11, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This was a fascinating book. Gives interesting insight into Orthodox relationships and examples of how to keep love and passion alive in a marriage. I liked it so much I read it twice!
Becki Tooley
Jun 23, 2009 rated it liked it
Anticipation is more powerful than one might imagine. Mystery is a good thing but that does not mean secrets. Insightful.
Dec 30, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I love this book
Apr 15, 2009 rated it it was amazing
I think this book should be read by every man in a relationship...and every woman. Yes, I said "should". Wow. That's serious!
Feb 19, 2016 rated it liked it
Keep in mind the suggestions in the book are just one opinion from a Rabbi, not a cure all. Not many are practical for parents in general, but especially for parents of young children.
May 23, 2010 rated it it was amazing
Loved it! Absolutely wonderful. Presents God's concept of shalom so well. Looking forward to reading more of his books. - A Christian Woman
Robin Templin
Jul 11, 2013 rated it it was amazing
love everything this man says
Mar 10, 2014 rated it it was ok
Kiss her more. Rub her feet. Enjoy her individuality & uniqueness. Enjoy the outdoors to re-stimulate interest in the world around me. These are the ideas I came away with.
May 10, 2013 rated it really liked it
This is a very female centric novel but it's a very intriguing read. The most refreshing thing was that even though he's a rabbi, it's not heavily saturated in religion.
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Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, named by Talkers Magazine as one of the 100 most important radio hosts in America, is a nationally syndicated talk show host, the international best-selling author of 15 books, and an acclaimed syndicated columnist.

A winner of the London Times highly prestigious "Preacher of the Year" award, Rabbi Shmuley has lectured and appeared in print, radio, and TV all over the globe.
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