Too Close Too Soon: Avoiding the Heartache of Premature Intimacy

by Jim A. Talley, Bobbie Reed

Jim Talley and Bobbie Reed outline simple yet effective methods of building quality relationships while curtailing premature intimacy in this plain-spoken and experience-tested manual. A study guide at the end of the book features discussion questions and creative assignments for each chapter. Previous edition: 0840730454

Genres: Counselling, Marriage, Relationships, Nonfiction, Christian, Parenting, Christian Non Fiction

192 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1982

Reviews

[Katie]

Interesting premise. I didn’t appreciate how “French kissing” was the “hard line” for intimacy (ie, it’s okay to French kiss but nothing more, according to the author. Seems to me, he’d had better success than 70% failure if he advocated for stronger limits). The 4-month exercise also seemed…I don’t know the word…excessive? Like, here: ask all these personal questions, but never once think about marriage. And not only that, but if you’re seeing another person, you’d better not, because your sole focus should be on this person you’re getting to know, but definitely not thinking about marrying. Oh, and it’s okay to French kiss (see above), but you’re not thinking about marriage, so you’d better not do any petting.

[Tivona Low]

My pastor recommended this book as we started on a sermon series on "How To Avoid Marrying A Jerk". It does challenge social norms on how to approach dating along with list of activities of to-dos to enter a safe and more fulfilling relationship. However, wished there were more references to how the Word is tied to these decisions made so that convictions surpasses mere actions.

[Jess Heimbaugh]

Very constructively helpful guide to viewing dating in light of eternity. Awesome break out questions at the back and strategies for accountability within the dating context. Setting goals, working towards things together, it's not meant to be a sprint... it's a pilgrimage. :)

[Alexandra]

Horrifically outdated. Stuck in the 50s with gender roles and blatant sexism. Was gifted to me as a joke.

[Joseph Atinsky]

This book reveals tips if you are considering forming lasting intimate relationships. Wise and helpful perspective, whether you agree with every point or not.

[Elden Fenison]

Great book for two people beginning a committed relationship.

[Alicia]

good points on avoiding intimacy before marriage.

[Michelle]

Good information and a quick read, too.

[Kiersten Brown]

Good book to keep in mind but a bit radical.
I would like to see a millennial contribute to this book.