Learn to mitigate your anger and take charge of your life Everyone experiences anger from time to time, but when left unchecked or unbridled, this normal human emotion can become disruptive and damage relationships. If you’re ready to stop letting anger control your life, turn to Anger Management For Dummies. This trusted source gives you tools to identify the source of your anger―whether it’s fear, depression, anxiety, or stress―and offers ways to deal with the “flight or fight” instinct that anger produces, allowing you to release yourself and your life from its grip. Anger Management For Dummies outlines specific anger management methods, skills, and exercises that you can use to take control of your feelings and actions. It Overcoming anger issues requires support, mindfulness, and a bit of practice―all of which this book provides. When you’re ready to face your triggers and change your perspective on the emotions of anger or rage, let Anger Management For Dummies give you the helping hand you need.
I fucking hated this book, and I fucking did not need it, no matter what my stupid therapist says!!!
But seriously, this book is interesting, with some helpful techniques for keeping anger in check. I liked most how the authors were frequently able to, using very simple and direct language, demonstrate how inconsequential many of the problems that we get angry over are. This is doubtless because they have helped angry folks practice these techniques in numerous counseling sessions.
But this was also a negative. Sometimes, the book was a bit windy, feeling like long, drawn-counselling sessions transcribed. Maybe some will find that helpful, but for me, it was a bit tedious.
I'm usually not a dummie book subscriber but I have to praise Elliot. While I don't agree with everything I found this book to be highly relevant to understanding the different forms of anger and more importantly how to react. What I particularly enjoy was learning how to recognize what I thought was sadness but is actually suppressed anger. I‘m usually the one who thinks I don’t get angry or that anger is a waste of time but through Elliot I learned it is a natural feeling and emotion that we all experience and we can use it for constructive progress if applied correctly. Great read!
Think about this book as reference guide for anger. It may not have all the solutions, but there are many good tips and techniques, as well as relatable examples.
Considering how quick of a read it is, if you think you may have a problem managing strong emotions this book is a great place to start :)
This is something like my personal bible. As in I think about it a lot, but I don't really open it and read from cover to cover, having gone through the chapters I needed for Sunday school. It's well written, easy to read, and applicable. Of course, its existence on my bookshelf and my frequent thoughts about it makes me feel depressed sometimes.
This book had lots of extremely practical advice regarding an extremely difficult subject for many. While certainly an anger management problem warrants other actions (like therapy) to resolve, this book really laid out the mental pathways many people (including myself) take to reach a place deep anger. Becoming aware of those pitfalls and actively trying to divert away from them and break behavioral habits is extremely difficult but more than worth it. This book made me feel understood without shame. The book also very much takes the position that chronic anger is really just an ingrained habit, and not your permanent identity if you don’t want it to be, which is a really comforting thought for someone who has unconsciously adopted that into their own psyche.
Normally, I would not consider the self-help books written by PhD holders, simply because their language is only decipherable to the academic intelligentsia. However, I chose this book only because of the curiosity, that, I have over the subject. And barring initially few chapters, they proved me wrong.
What is so interesting about the book are two things 1) the anecdotes they give for each and every situations is quite relatable and understandable 2) you can start with any chapter according to you need. Arranging the kindle 'contents' according to sections (rather than chapter wise) is the only major inconvenience of this kindle edition (as a result we were not able to go the respective chapters directly).
The real challenge of reading the book is to generate an anger management protocol (based on the information provided), that suits you.
I like the ‘For Dummies’ series about mental health. They are written in plan language that is based in contemporary research. They are not going to win a Pulizter Prize for writing, but they are practical and informative without a lot of the bullshit inherent if ‘scholarly' writing. This book was no different, most of the specific content about anger is contained in the first 100 pages, the rest is good mental health hygiene. It will leave you with a good understanding of contemporary thought about anger and how to cope with it.
This is a very helpful book. A lot of the techniques just help you reframe your thinking and expectations. I listened to the audio version of the book, and while it probably would be better to physically read the book, it was still useful.