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really liked it 4.00  ·  Rating details ·  23,060 ratings  ·  1,847 reviews
Nina Dean vindt het niet erg om vrijgezel te zijn. Ze heeft haar leven op de rit, een prima relatie met haar ex en genoeg vrienden om haar sociale agenda vol te krijgen. Maar dan gebeurt het onwaarschijnlijke: ze ontmoet Max, via een datingapp. Hij is knap, heeft een goddelijk lichaam én een vaste baan. Maar bovenal kunnen ze urenlang praten, hebben ze allebei een hekel aa ...more
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Published April 13th 2021 by Luitingh-Sijthoff (first published October 8th 2020)
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rory gilmore
this would’ve been 100x better if nina and lola had realised that men sucked and then fell in love and had a happy lesbian life making cool recipes and living in london
Aug 07, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Let me introduce you to Nina George Dean - the middle name in honour of George Michael who was number one when she was born. She’s 31, single and a successful food writer. Using dating app ‘Linx Online’ she meets Max - sturdy, rumpled, he declares he’s going to marry her on their first date. Her dad is disappearing to dementia, her mum is rebranding herself, her best friends are Lola and Katherine, other friends are settling down, marrying, kids, the whole nine yards.

I thought I’d like this boo
Emily B
Thanks to Netgalley and the publishers for an advanced copy of this novel.

My opinion of the book is conflicted due to the conflicting feelings I felt when reading it. It was well written, modern and pretty relatable. I easily found myself in the main characters shoes, her annoying friends annoyed me.
However, overall I found it somewhat depressing . This could be because I am similar to the main character in terms of things such as age and being childless. Perhaps that meant that I took the con
Krystelle Zuanic
I wanted to like this book a lot more than I did. It tries so hard to strike that good balance between serious commentary on relationships and ageing as well as humour and kitschy romance- but it just wasn't there for me. Especially the relationship development toward the end of the book (which I won't go into in full detail- but let's just say it was VERY out of the blue and VERY weird). The book deals with ghosting of many forms, from dementia to dating apps, and the story of Nina and her fami ...more
Oct 17, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I am convinced that Dolly Alderton could write a shopping list and I’d find it the most relatable, evocative and thoughtful thing I’ve ever read.

Bloody loved this-it’s everything I wanted her debut novel to be and more.
Sep 14, 2020 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Nope. Not for me.

A vapid 2020 Bridget Jones with a great effort made to sound like Nora Ephron (Alderton wrote the foreword to the new edition of I Feel Bad About My Neck, she's a big Ephron fan.). The highlights of the book were Nina's changing relationship with her childhood best friend Katherine, and her response to her dad's illness.

Nina writes cookbooks, but in a whole year-in-the-life we didn't see her cook as much as an egg. I don't think pouring condensed milk over a banana counts.


As much as I was telling myself that I was getting a bit tired of reading contemporary books written by Millenials about Millenials, I couldn't stop myself from placing a hold on Ghosts after reading some reviews and watching an interview with the author.

If I hear anyone say that sexual orientation is a choice, I will just send them to hear women's dating stories. It makes no sense that women would put themselves through all the BS to be with half baked, men- babies, who can't commit to pair
Dec 05, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Sometimes you just need some good (very British!) chick-lit, and ”Ghosts” was very much that.

Thirty-something year old Nina Dean has been single for two years and is now ready to start navigating her way through the online dating world, using a dating app called ”Linx”.
She soon discovers that as quickly as she can meet these men online and fall for them, they can quickly “ghost” her. This basically means they don’t reply to her text messages or answer her calls for seemingly no reason, complet
Jan 01, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Nina Dean is 31, owns her own home and is a successful food writer. She joins a dating site Linx as all her friends are settling down. She meets Max who announces on their first date that he is going to marry her!! They are instantly attracted to one another. But is he ready for commitment?

Nina’s dad has been diagnosed with Dementia whilst her mother seems to be having a midlife crises, she even wants to change her name.

I must confess I met my husband on a dating site so I can relate to the biz
Aug 22, 2020 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: arc, 2020
I really do love Dolly’s Writing, she is the the only person I’d even consider reading the Times for and I’ve directly quoted entire chunks of Everything I Know About Love at people. Ghosts however was disappointing and underwhelming.

There are some attempts at combining seriousness with levity, but the seriousness never really reaches any true depth. Whilst the characters, the lead character Nina Dean included, felt like pastiches of generic millennials. There were definitely parts that enjoyed,
Oct 07, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favourites
I'm having trouble putting words together for this review, as I'm not sure I can quite summarise how strongly I love this book?? I had very high expectations, and she somehow surpassed them. How is this her first novel? I just need to know.

Our main character Nina, a successful food writer, is so fully and fantastically realised that I genuinely feel like I know her. I can see her, I can hear her, I can smell her? (Mm, bit weird) Her thoughts and observations throughout the book had me nodding ve
A solid debut novel about millennial struggling to navigate the shifting dating and friendship landscape of her early 30s: ageing parents, revised life expectations and loss of friendships when priorities and life trajectories no longer align. This struck this right balance between light, contemporary women's fiction and delicately handling the heavier theme of dementia. Ghosting features too (the clue is in the title), but I think this definition could be stretched beyond the traditional defini ...more
Dec 01, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I felt pretty conflicted reading this one. Nina is so relatable, it was easy to feel every emotion right along with her. However I found the plot slow moving and a little boring. This isn’t your run of mill romance as there are serious themes but it didn’t go as deep as I was expecting and felt a little clunky.
Oct 12, 2020 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This was one of my most anticipated books of 2020 and sadly it just did not work for me.

Nina is in her early thirties, a successful food writer who has broken up with her boyfriend of seven years and is entering into the world of online dating and coming to terms with her father's dementia diagnosis. Needless to say, she has a lot on her plate. I did like the way the book balanced all these elements and Nina's coping strategies for these things were believable and showed a lot of strength, whic
Carly Findlay
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Jul 22, 2020 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
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I received a copy of this novel via NetGalley.

I enjoyed the majority of this book, it told a wonderful tale of ghosting, letting people back in, and the woes of online dating. The storyline with the father was also wonderfully tied into the overall theme of ghosts and whilst I was quite annoyed at how the character treated their mother, I could tell it was because of how scared she was about her father's future. I thought the relationship bet
shopping for a moon
This book tried so goddamn hard to mix a modern and relateable writing style with serious topics including ageing, dating in your thirties and illness. I can't deny that during the first handful of chapters I kinda fell for that, but afterwards the plot itself just took some turns that didn't work in favour of that whatsoever. Don't get my wrong, I did enjoy some social commentary Dolly Alderton tried to make, but the way the protagonist behaves in her relationships was so different to what she ...more
Nabilah Firdaus
Nov 21, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Ghost (v): To end a personal relationship with someone by vanishing suddenly without any closure or explanation.

Funny, heartfelt and perceptive, Ghosts by Dolly Alderton is a sharp witted exploration of relationships, familial bond, modern dating and friendship between women. At the heart of the story was a successful food writer, Nina Dean who has just turned 32 years old and decided to explore the world of online dating. She then meets Max, a charming accountant who tells her on the first date
Pauline [paulineisreading]
Ghosts is one of my most anticipated releases of the year and i’m so pleased to report that it met my high expectations. It’s everything i’d expect from a Dolly Alderton’s fiction and more.

In her debut novel, Dolly takes us through the life of Nina, a food writer in her early 30s who’s decided to embrace the world of online dating after ending a 7 year long relationship. As you could probably guess, she experiences being ‘ghosted’ along the way and other intricacies that come with modern dating.
Margarida Lopes
Jan 11, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I know I could point out a lot of not-so-good things about this book, but it is exactly what I needed to read right now to feel understood. It hit close to home in the two main topics, so that's the reason for the 5 stars. ...more
Dec 08, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 4-star
⭐⭐⭐⭐ - Somewhere between 3/5 and 4 stars. This first fiction book from Dolly Alderton was quite an enjoyable read. Her first book was one of my favourite's I read that year and so I was excited to sink my teeth into this one. I would have to describe this as a comical/romantic fiction book, although there isn't much romance as I first anticipated. Based on the blurb, I would have thought it centred around Nina's relationship and her work. However, I felt two-thirds of this book focused more on t ...more
Sandrine V
Aug 07, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Dolly Alderton can do no wrong. This story is about so much more than just being ‘ghosted’ by a man. She explores themes like female friendship, dementia, growing up, and being one of the last ‘single’ friends in your thirties (and how there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that). It’s written in such a compassionate and poignant way and the descriptions are attentive, nostalgic and so vivid. I recognized Dolly in some of the passages: beautiful depiction of Hampstead Heath, references to food an ...more
Dec 18, 2020 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
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Tanja Berg
Jan 10, 2021 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audio
This book was like meeting a long lost friend. After five minutes it feels like all the time that’s passed since you last saw each other has disappeared. This is the kind of book that makes all the crappy ones on between worth it, just to find it.

We follow Nina between two birthdays, her 32nd and 33rd. Her father has dementia and her mother is set on a path to find herself. Most of Nina’s friends are getting married and having babies, including her ex boyfriend. All except Lola, who is on an en
Oct 27, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I didn't want this to end. Pitch perfect, so entertaining, and with just enough to get your teeth into about nostalgia and memory and identity. Nobody could have read the audiobook better than Holliday Grainger, and although I recommend the listening experience I now really want to read a physical copy too. This rating, however, is based on my personal expurgated version of this book in which the part where Katherine flippantly tells of the time her infant daughter Olive DRANK out of the TOILET ...more
Caroline O'Donoghue
It might be tempting to look at what Alderton does and call it easy – romance, friendship, and contemporary observations about millennial women's lives are so common in the fiction marketplace that we are all too quick to throw one thing in with another, and before you know it, we're using lazy comparative qualifiers - 'the new Ephron' 'the next Rooney' 'the next Keyes' - to describe everything a woman writer does. Alderton's voice, however, is singular.

There's a bite, a sharpness, and an inten
Sep 02, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
*I got an ecopy from netgalley in exchange for an honest review*

This was such an incredible book - it was hilarious (I laughed out loud so much I think my mum probably thought I’d gone mad) & heartbreaking (cue me sobbing in a corner)

It’s the first strongly feminist book I’ve actually liked. Mainly because it shows a balance of everything, it had the strongest friendships but also showed when they went wrong, it had the ups & downs of both married life & single life, etc...

I loved the set up of
Lara Glantz
Returned to this review because I don’t think my initial review was fair. This book contains some really astute social analysis and a few incredibly moving moments. But where Everything I Know About Love painted these incredibly intimate and relatable friendships, and nuanced and complex (real life) characters, Ghosts paints one dimensional and largely unlikeable characters. The plot was also poorly paced, and the unlikely twist at the end felt almost misogynistic? Anyway that’s my updated revie ...more
Nov 10, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Enjoyed this novel of Nina dean entering the world of online dating and going through the process of ghosting and disappointment . felt though the ending was a bit too neatly tied up but overall like the wit and humour of dating in the 21st century. the secondary story did like the how the author treated her father slowly getting worse with dementia.
Anastasiya Mozgovaya
i had bought this book out of pure curiosity without any major expectations, but i have loved it!!! a perfect modern novel. it is sharp and witty, and so good at portraying the odd reality we exist in. Dolly Alderton is a brilliant writer!
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Dolly Alderton is an award-winning author and journalist. She is a columnist for The Sunday Times Style and has also written for GQ, Red, Marie Claire and Grazia. From 2017 to 2020, she co-hosted the weekly pop-culture and current affairs podcast The High Low alongside journalist Pandora Sykes.

Her first book Everything I Know About Love became a top five Sunday Times bestseller in its first week o

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