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Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ's Control

4.14  ·  Rating details ·  17,654 ratings  ·  518 reviews
Very few books on dating have stood the test of time like Passion and Purity. Its much-needed message remains strong and hopeful in an age when doing whatever "feels right" is common practice. Using her own life as an example, Elisabeth Elliot guides singles of both genders and of any age on how to put their love lives under the authority of Jesus Christ.
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Paperback, 192 pages
Published April 5th 2012 by Fleming H. Revell Company (first published 1984)
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zhuangman
Oct 10, 2010 rated it really liked it
This is my second time reading this. In my first attempt, I think I had zero interest...this time, it's with a spirit of brokenness that opened my heart to what Elisabeth Elliot has to say about love and relationship.

Some said that her standards are too high... perhaps that's how purity is; it's either achieved or not at all.

What if that just how HIGH God's standard is anyway? What if it is meant to be possible for every single one of us?

If you already have in mind what love is all about - th
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Faith
Every young person should read this book. Like, seriously. ❤️
Jason Sixsmith
Mar 17, 2008 rated it it was amazing
What a breath of fresh air. In a society plagued with hedonism an earnest Christian can find great difficulty in knowing how to find a spouse. Between this book and Joshua Harris' " I Kissed Dating Goodbye" it became a relief to know that I was not alone in my disapproval for post-modern romance. ...more
Abigayle Claire
Jun 06, 2016 rated it it was amazing
This is definitely the only book of this sort I've ever read twice, let alone binge-read twice. The personal anecdotes and plethora of diary, song, and Scripture quotations make it that much richer. For me, this book provides a foundation for why I live the way I do and acknowledges that it's hard to do so! The nice thing is, you're not just being preached at. The author understands--she struggled, overcame (but not without things she wished they'd done differently), and now she's sharing her st ...more
Olivia
{4.5 stars}

First thoughts: "Why haven't I read this book before now?" But then it dawned on me that I needed it NOW...it would not have had the same effect a few years ago.

Mid-way thoughts: "Honestly, no one can love like that." But then I realized that it is the pure kind of love and passion God expects of us.

Three-fourth thoughts: "Jim, just marry her for goodness sake!" I was really getting impatiant for them to get married, but then I had to ask myself if I'd be willing to allow the Lord to
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Nellie Anne
Feb 03, 2011 rated it it was ok
Good message, but I disagree with details. I think Elliot's overall message is good and true. As a single-but-waiting-on-the-Lord 29-year-old, I agree with the ideas of waiting on His timing and leading. I also disagree with much of what goes on in modern relationships, and think it needs addressing. However, my issues with this book are that, first of all, Jim Elliot was rather pompus in his pursuit of Elisabeth. I hate saying that, since he was a martyr for the cause of Christ. Men are the spi ...more
Charles
Mar 25, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I have to say that this is the second most influential and beneficial book I have read (after the Bible). Not only is Mrs. Elliot an extraordinary writer she has the amazing gift of wrapping a story inside of a group of ideas that once discovered seem so natural and plain.

While reading this book, I was overwhelmed emotionally. Many times I was crying, at other times celebrating. But ultimately I was taken aback by such a wonderful story of two young people who so relied on the Lord that they wer
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Hannah
Jul 29, 2011 rated it did not like it
Shelves: devotional
I was between twelve and fourteen when I read this book with my older sister. At the time, I found it to contain far too much passion and not enough purity. Today, all I can remember are stories about them sitting as close as possible together, etc. (before they decided not to do that anymore) and quotes from his letters to her that I found very disturbing at the time. He talked about how much he longed for her physically and that was the only side I could see to their relationship. When they go ...more
Christine
May 22, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I read this about a year and a half ago. After looking at the subtitle, I was like, "Ummm… is this for me? I don't have a love life, but I guess one day I will so I guess it won't hurt to read it." Since I've never dated and have high standards for myself and my future husband, I thought this book would not convict me, but I was wrong. So much of this book can be applied to every area of life. "Do I love God more than anything and everyone? Would I be willing to give up someone I love for the wi ...more
Jason Shuttlesworth
Mar 12, 2012 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: esther swaty
Somewhat hard to read, nevertheless interesting. I agree with 100% of everything she says and if everyone took her advice, society would be much much more stable. It seems like the best idea in the world to never tell a girl 'I love you' unless you're next few words are 'Will you marry me?'

I think this is what my situation will be like...unless I join a monastery first.

The book really makes you realize how valuable chastity is. I saw the Hope Diamond on display the day after I bought this book.
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Haley Annabelle
Feb 01, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I rarely give books 5 stars but this one was so enjoyable and thought provoking that I feel like I have to! I was so fascinated learning of Elizabeth and Jim Elliots rocky “courtship.” I think it shows that not all relationships look the same and God has His ways of bringing people together.
I definitely don’t agree with a lot of the theology in here and there is some practical advice that Elizabeth gives that I wouldn’t follow. But overall this was a very encouraging book.
Rachelle Cobb
Mar 09, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I may upset a few Elliot fans here, but I actually didn't like Jim at first. It seemed to me as if he led Elisabeth on, and that upset me because I would much rather courtship be initiated by the interested gentleman when both parties are ready to pursue marriage. But the Elliots' commitment to Christ, purity, and the good of the other--though imperfect as all are--is inspiring. ...more
Hayley
Jun 16, 2015 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This is my impression of Elisabeth Elliot. "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?! Eh? Eh?"

Well Ees, 1. I'm not a cow, and 2. there is a world (unlike one that you could possibly conceive of) in which human relationships can't be boiled down to crass economic metaphors!
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Sandrine Cotnoir
Jun 06, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2020-reads
I really enjoyed this book, but I did find certain aspects of it a bit frustrating, mostly the approach Jim Elliot had to dating. It was frustrating to watch how he continuously strung Elizabeth along even though he had no intentions of ever marrying her because he was convinced he was supposed to be single. But then he kisses other women? I think I was confused because many people tout this book to be an inspiring, romantic love story, but I didn't find much about their relationship as somethin ...more
Brice Karickhoff
Oct 04, 2019 rated it really liked it
Elisabeth Elliot is just the best. Most people would probably think she is outdated now or irrelevant. Hot take: I strongly disagree. Id say this is one of those books that makes Christian boys into Godly men. So if you care about that kind of thing, give it a look.
Caleb
Feb 25, 2011 rated it really liked it
It has been awhile since I have read a "purity" book. I was excited to read it after hearing great things from a friend. I had heard of Jim Elliot before and seen the movie End of the Spear, but I didn't know that his wife, Elisabeth Elliot, has left quite a legacy of her own, through writing over twenty-five books! Although Jim died over fifty years ago, he lives on in the writings of Elisabeth.

Elisabeth Elliot writes an atypical work compared to other Christian purity literature. Many of today
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Bethany Rishell
May 28, 2020 rated it did not like it
This book is HORRIFIC.

Elliot has the audacity to attribute her own, dangerously flawed views on issues of consent and romance to the SAVIOR OF THE WORLD. Among the LESS serious problems with the book, she asserts that men should always be the initiators, that women are naturally and should always be passive, that holding hands and leaning shoulder to shoulder (even during engagement!) was "going too far." Yet, she was perfectly fine with her fiance sending her a female porn-like letter one would
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Cedar Lea
I originally picked up this book because I thought it would have something to say on how to deal with sexual temptation. While the overall content of the book turned out differently than I expected, I found that I still learned a lot from Elisabeth Elliot's story on how to live the Christian life.

Pros
- The book was very inspiring on living a life completely devoted to God. I admired how Jim and Elisabeth placed their desire to fulfill the mission of the church above everything else - it's what
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Josh Miller
Mar 17, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Several years ago, a respected friend in the pastorate (my youth pastor when I was a teen), recommended this book to me and told me it was the best book he had read on the love/dating/marriage relationship.

I tucked that tidbit of knowledge in the cranium and jumped at the opportunity to read this book when it came my way. I personally am not familiar with this level of Christianity when it comes to man/woman relationships. She writes of the path/journey with which she & Jim Elliot came to be mar
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Meagan
Jan 09, 2012 rated it really liked it
Passion and Purity was recommended to me when I was attending Christian College right after high school. It's been just over 6 years now since I read it so I don't remember everything about the book but I do remember it being one of the best books I read that first year or Christian College and my very first tattoo was because of a line in the book that said "If your life is broken when given to Jesus it's because pieces can feed a multitude." That has been one of my favorite quotes since I read ...more
James Njoroge
Nov 21, 2014 rated it it was amazing
“Unless a man is prepared to ask a woman to be his wife, what right has he to claim her exclusive attention? Unless she has been asked to marry him, why would a sensible woman promise any man her exclusive attention? If, when the time has come for a commitment, he is not man enough to ask her to marry him, she should give him no reason to presume that she belongs to him.”

Wow! I'm greatly rebuked and encouraged at the same time. God help us walk in purity!
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Dave Mathews
Mar 12, 2019 rated it really liked it
Come for the insight on consecrating your love life to God, stay for the broad-reaching, soul-sanctifying, often gut-wrenching truths about living a life of holiness and sacrifice for the sake of Christ.
Would I recommend the way Jim and Betty dated/courted to anyone on earth? No. But the truths that this book presents can still have massive impact on the way you view your life before Christ and the lot he has chosen for you. Read it!
Ed
Jul 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is a great book for singles assuming they are in love. This book is good for counselors to read while dealing with young people that are in love. A big word that they need to learn is 'patience' when questioning their relationship to each other. I recommend this book for teens. ...more
Schuyler
Apr 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
A kind heart with God-focussed words, Scripture, letters, and quotes that help me focus my heart well. I enjoyed it, and would definitely read it again.
Ted Tyler
Sep 24, 2018 rated it it was amazing
A wise mentor has been promoting this book for the past five or six years, so I finally decided to take him up on reading this book. At first, I just rolled my eyes at Elisabeth Elliot and her views on relationships, dating, and marriage. She came across as incredible old-fashioned and out of date. But, out of respect for my mentor, I kept pressing through. By the halfway point, I found that Mrs. Elliot was using Scripture, logic, and personal wisdom to make the case for restraint of our natural ...more
Sharon
Aug 15, 2010 rated it really liked it
Shelves: dating, purity
This book was alot different than I expected, but was good overall. Elliot teaches us principles on waiting on the Lord and trusting in His timing, His promises and His plan from a very "girly" perspective. She shares her own dating/waiting, "already-not-yet" story of her relationship with Jim Elliot.

The book is filled with stories, letters and her own personal journals. It's a fast, interesting and intriguing read-- and whoever reads this (well, girls mostly) will grow to really be encouraged
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Julie G
Jul 10, 2008 rated it it was amazing
I read this book in high school and college when I was single, and thought it would be fun to reread it as the "book released in the year I was born" for the SBC. I thought I'd find it interesting to reread what I had highlighted and written in the margins when I was single now that I'm married, but didn't expect to get just a ton out of it since it's written for those who are single.

However, the book speaks so much to waiting, trusting God, and letting Him sustain you, that I ended up being rea
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Ebookwormy1
This book had a deep impact on me when I read it in college. Several friends read it and there was a lot of discussion about it. I think the concept of saving as much as possible of the physical relationship for marriage was good...

However, there is something about Elisabeth Elliot that strikes me as very severe. It made me uncomfortable, and this feeling persisted through other books of hers that I read.

I would recommend this book as encouragement to a young person who is on track. However, I
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Stephanie Allen
Nov 20, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommended to Stephanie by: Mat Jones, Katie Ellis, Amanda Soto
This is a wonderful, marvelous, fabulous, awesome book! I wish I had read this years ago. It would have saved me a lot of heartache and pain, even in my current relationship. This book teaches you how to be patient in singleness, how to love passionately and still remain pure, and how to conduct yourself in a godly manner. I have so much more respect for my boyfriend now than I did before I read this book. Jim Elliot, Elisabeth's first husband (he was killed in South America, in the mission fiel ...more
Melanie
May 28, 2017 rated it did not like it
This book was recommended to me by a friend, so I read it out of politeness. Good gracious, I wish I had just refused. Elisabeth essentially shames an unmarried pregnant woman at one point, recounting how an acquaintance of hers called this woman unmarriageable. She also advises a woman who is with someone that she isn't attracted to to just stay with him anyway, because she is God's gift to him and in the end her happiness doesn't matter, only this guy's happiness is important. Right Elisabeth, ...more
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