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Your Marriage God's Way: A Biblical Guide to a Christ-Centered Relationship
Celebrate the Marriage God Made for You
Your most important earthly connection is with your spouse, and when you honor the person you married, you’re also honoring God. He created marriage to be one of life’s greatest gifts, and the instruction manual you need for a joyful, lasting union is found in His Word.
In Your Marriage God’s Way, author and pastor Scott LaPierre takes a close look at the principles for building a biblical marriage—one in which your relationship with Christ brings guidance and blessing into your relationship with your spouse. You’ll gain the tools to…
understand the unique roles and responsibilities of husbands and wives
recognize and resolve the conflicts you face with a heart of hope and compassion
follow God’s worthy command to love and cherish your spouse unconditionally
Whether you’re at the beginning of your journey or you’ve been on the road together for years, Your Marriage God’s Way will provide the helpful and encouraging insights you need to experience marriage as God intends it.
Your most important earthly connection is with your spouse, and when you honor the person you married, you’re also honoring God. He created marriage to be one of life’s greatest gifts, and the instruction manual you need for a joyful, lasting union is found in His Word.
In Your Marriage God’s Way, author and pastor Scott LaPierre takes a close look at the principles for building a biblical marriage—one in which your relationship with Christ brings guidance and blessing into your relationship with your spouse. You’ll gain the tools to…
understand the unique roles and responsibilities of husbands and wives
recognize and resolve the conflicts you face with a heart of hope and compassion
follow God’s worthy command to love and cherish your spouse unconditionally
Whether you’re at the beginning of your journey or you’ve been on the road together for years, Your Marriage God’s Way will provide the helpful and encouraging insights you need to experience marriage as God intends it.
256 pages, Paperback
Published September 21, 2021
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Scott LaPierre
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I'm the senior pastor of Woodland Christian Church in Woodland, WA, a Regional Facilitator over WA and OR for The National Center for Family-Integrated Churches, an author, and conference speaker.
My wife, Katie, is also an author, and we have been blessed with seven children that we homeschool. We grew up together in the small town of McArthur, in the mountains of northern California.
After college, I served as an Army officer before becoming an elementary school teacher. While teaching, I began working part time as an associate pastor at Grace Baptist Church in Lemoore, California. When the church grew, I was hired full time and remained there until coming to Washington.
I have a bachelor’s degree in business administration and two master’s degrees, one in education and the other in biblical studies.
I spend most of my time with my home and church families. I love studying and teaching God’s Word. The free time I have is usually committed to reading and writing. Our kids stay busy with church, music, and school.
My books come from my sermons, which take twenty-to-thirty hours of work each week. This means each book contains hundreds of hours of study in God’s Word.
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I'm the senior pastor of Woodland Christian Church in Woodland, WA, a Regional Facilitator over WA and OR for The National Center for Family-Integrated Churches, an author, and conference speaker.
My wife, Katie, is also an author, and we have been blessed with seven children that we homeschool. We grew up together in the small town of McArthur, in the mountains of northern California.
After college, I served as an Army officer before becoming an elementary school teacher. While teaching, I began working part time as an associate pastor at Grace Baptist Church in Lemoore, California. When the church grew, I was hired full time and remained there until coming to Washington.
I have a bachelor’s degree in business administration and two master’s degrees, one in education and the other in biblical studies.
I spend most of my time with my home and church families. I love studying and teaching God’s Word. The free time I have is usually committed to reading and writing. Our kids stay busy with church, music, and school.
My books come from my sermons, which take twenty-to-thirty hours of work each week. This means each book contains hundreds of hours of study in God’s Word.
I hope you’ll consider subscribing to my newsletter. I know your inbox is already busy, so I’ll do my best to make sure each message is packed with value.
If I can pray for you in any way, please let me know!
God bless,
Scott LaPierre
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November 21, 2017
Marriage God's Way is a book by Scott LaPierre, a pastor from Washington who writes with a strong conviction that God, as the author of marriage, is not silent on the topic of marriage. Not only is God not silent, but as the designer of marriage, he is the ultimate authority on what marriage is and how it is to be worked out.
In the interest of full disclosure I should admit that I have had the joy of getting to know Scott over the past five months and I consider him a friend and co-laborer in the gospel. I want to assure you that I am striving to remain neutral in this review-- and if anything it has caused me to be a little more careful and slow to review his book than I have been with other books. As you all know, we are often a little more critical of those whom we love because we have a vested interest in sharpening our friends as they in turn sharpen us-- often pointing out things in private which we might not in public. I was impressed with Scott's interaction during this time. Instead of getting offended when I questioned a paragraph in his book, he responded with grace and humility and we had a fruitful conversation as a result. I mention this because I want you to catch a glimpse of the man behind the book. This is not another author trying to make a name for himself- he has a sincere love of truth and this says a lot about his credibility.
With that said, Marriage God's Way is a book that truly believe you should read. When I say this, I mean that you should really read it. Read it with the purpose of allowing God to root out the sin in your heart that resists fully giving yourself over to your spouse.
Men, as much as we love our wives there are still times when we resist loving them as we should.I know this is true because we still resist God's law and have deep hidden chambers of our hearts in which our affections are set upon the flesh. Women, for the same reasons I know that as much as you respect your husband, there are still parts of your heart which are not fully given over to him. This is true of all people because we are all in deep need of transformation— and praise God that he has set about the work of transforming us!
Scott LaPierre gets this, and he demonstrates this by getting straight to the point about our marriage. The problems we have in marriage he says, are merely symptoms of a greater problem. The problem is sin. He sets marriage problems in the context of the fall and of redemption. LaPierre encourages us to not only embrace marital trials as opportunities for the sanctifying work of Christ to do its work in us, but also reminds us to keep Christ at the center of our marriage. As we embrace struggles in our marriage we get to see God do his work in us.
All of this is set in the context of the fall and redemption of mankind, and this leads to an unfolding of what scripture has to say about a man loving his wife and a wife respecting her husband. LaPierre then dives into the topics of biblical submission, leadership, beauty, and how a man ought to treat his wife. He wraps the book up with a biblical view of intimacy and building upon the solid foundation of Christ.
If I have any differences with Marriage God's Way they are just personal preferences about how we speak about the means which God uses to sanctify us. After speaking with Scott about this I am confident that he and I ultimately agree that inward change is not brought about by obedience to God's commands, but by the Spirit's work in our heart as we hear and believe the promises of the gospel.
This is not to say that Marriage God's Way is lacking in gospel proclamation-- it isn't! Scott is faithful to proclaim the empowering nature of the gospel and our inability to please God apart from faith. Any difference that I may have is one of very slight emphasis. In fact, I would say that on the Law/Gospel continuum, we are mere inches apart and the distance is close enough to walk hand in hand together while proclaiming the same message. Again, going back to my initial disclaimer, I have scrutinized this book more closely than my other reviews because I want to avoid the appearance of favoritism. It is entirely possible that in my attempts to read with a critical eye, I have misread a few passages and have seen a difference in emphasis where there really isn't one.
Marriage God's Way is a very good book with solid practical advice drawn straight from scripture. I would recommend this to anyone whether they are married or single. The reason for this is that whether we realize it or not, marriage is a shadow of the reality of God’s relationship to the church. The theological implications reach far past earthly marriage and probe the depths of God’s love for us. For singles, reading Marriage God's Way will help to pave the way for the inevitable difficulties in marriage by preparing for marriage just as you study for a test.
Scott LaPierre's understanding of biblical love and respect are very good and his treatment of agape in particular is very convincing. This is a book that you will likely return to from time to time as a resource for aiding your marriage and counseling others in theirs.
In the interest of full disclosure I should admit that I have had the joy of getting to know Scott over the past five months and I consider him a friend and co-laborer in the gospel. I want to assure you that I am striving to remain neutral in this review-- and if anything it has caused me to be a little more careful and slow to review his book than I have been with other books. As you all know, we are often a little more critical of those whom we love because we have a vested interest in sharpening our friends as they in turn sharpen us-- often pointing out things in private which we might not in public. I was impressed with Scott's interaction during this time. Instead of getting offended when I questioned a paragraph in his book, he responded with grace and humility and we had a fruitful conversation as a result. I mention this because I want you to catch a glimpse of the man behind the book. This is not another author trying to make a name for himself- he has a sincere love of truth and this says a lot about his credibility.
With that said, Marriage God's Way is a book that truly believe you should read. When I say this, I mean that you should really read it. Read it with the purpose of allowing God to root out the sin in your heart that resists fully giving yourself over to your spouse.
Men, as much as we love our wives there are still times when we resist loving them as we should.I know this is true because we still resist God's law and have deep hidden chambers of our hearts in which our affections are set upon the flesh. Women, for the same reasons I know that as much as you respect your husband, there are still parts of your heart which are not fully given over to him. This is true of all people because we are all in deep need of transformation— and praise God that he has set about the work of transforming us!
Scott LaPierre gets this, and he demonstrates this by getting straight to the point about our marriage. The problems we have in marriage he says, are merely symptoms of a greater problem. The problem is sin. He sets marriage problems in the context of the fall and of redemption. LaPierre encourages us to not only embrace marital trials as opportunities for the sanctifying work of Christ to do its work in us, but also reminds us to keep Christ at the center of our marriage. As we embrace struggles in our marriage we get to see God do his work in us.
All of this is set in the context of the fall and redemption of mankind, and this leads to an unfolding of what scripture has to say about a man loving his wife and a wife respecting her husband. LaPierre then dives into the topics of biblical submission, leadership, beauty, and how a man ought to treat his wife. He wraps the book up with a biblical view of intimacy and building upon the solid foundation of Christ.
If I have any differences with Marriage God's Way they are just personal preferences about how we speak about the means which God uses to sanctify us. After speaking with Scott about this I am confident that he and I ultimately agree that inward change is not brought about by obedience to God's commands, but by the Spirit's work in our heart as we hear and believe the promises of the gospel.
This is not to say that Marriage God's Way is lacking in gospel proclamation-- it isn't! Scott is faithful to proclaim the empowering nature of the gospel and our inability to please God apart from faith. Any difference that I may have is one of very slight emphasis. In fact, I would say that on the Law/Gospel continuum, we are mere inches apart and the distance is close enough to walk hand in hand together while proclaiming the same message. Again, going back to my initial disclaimer, I have scrutinized this book more closely than my other reviews because I want to avoid the appearance of favoritism. It is entirely possible that in my attempts to read with a critical eye, I have misread a few passages and have seen a difference in emphasis where there really isn't one.
Marriage God's Way is a very good book with solid practical advice drawn straight from scripture. I would recommend this to anyone whether they are married or single. The reason for this is that whether we realize it or not, marriage is a shadow of the reality of God’s relationship to the church. The theological implications reach far past earthly marriage and probe the depths of God’s love for us. For singles, reading Marriage God's Way will help to pave the way for the inevitable difficulties in marriage by preparing for marriage just as you study for a test.
Scott LaPierre's understanding of biblical love and respect are very good and his treatment of agape in particular is very convincing. This is a book that you will likely return to from time to time as a resource for aiding your marriage and counseling others in theirs.
October 26, 2021
If you are looking for a devotional type book that you can do with your spouse this is a great option. This would also work great for younger couple starting out their life together. I really enjoyed that the author puts a lot of emphasis on not following what he says but rather what God has to say about marriage in his Word. He uses Scripture to parallel marriage in the Old and New Testament. Everything is explained in detail so there is not much room for doubt.
The love that Scott LaPierre has for this topic shines throughout the whole book. I highly recommend you grab this one or gift it to a young couple!
I received a copy of this book from the author. I was not required to post a positive review. All views expressed are only my honest opinion.
The love that Scott LaPierre has for this topic shines throughout the whole book. I highly recommend you grab this one or gift it to a young couple!
I received a copy of this book from the author. I was not required to post a positive review. All views expressed are only my honest opinion.
July 25, 2021
I received an ARC initially from Booksprout for an honest review.
This book will make you cry and think about things you haven’t wanted to face. Here is a link to my full review on my reading blog: https://quirkyreader.livejournal.com/...
Get that box of tissues ready.
This book will make you cry and think about things you haven’t wanted to face. Here is a link to my full review on my reading blog: https://quirkyreader.livejournal.com/...
Get that box of tissues ready.
April 21, 2017
Scott explains why husbands should be the spiritual leader in the household. He puts pressure on men to step up and start taking their God-given
Marriage God’s Way is a marriage book for men and women together
This book could easily be a couple’s marriage book to do together. He goes back and forth, blending both the husband’s and wife’s roles into the chapters. I found this interesting and different. Other books I’ve read, like Love and Respect, separate the man’s and the woman’s sections. That makes it more convenient to skip over the other gender’s section. Working through Marriage God’s Way, I see how it all fits together clearer, seeing both sides simultaneously.
Marriage God’s Way: A Biblical Recipe for Healthy, Joyful, Christ-Centered Relationships by Scott LaPierre is an excellent read. I am strongly recommending it to married couples wanting to learn more about God’s gift of marriage.
Marriage God’s Way is :
*thoughtful
*well laid out
*concise while being easy to read
*challenging to your spiritual walk.
I’m walking away stronger for reading this book. Going through Marriage God’s Way, I have grown in understanding God’s call about how men are to treat their wives and their marriage. Additionally, I’m having great conversations with my wife about our marriage that have been brought up in Marriage God’s Way.
Read my full review here: http://myfamilyonabudget.com/marriage...
Marriage God’s Way is a marriage book for men and women together
This book could easily be a couple’s marriage book to do together. He goes back and forth, blending both the husband’s and wife’s roles into the chapters. I found this interesting and different. Other books I’ve read, like Love and Respect, separate the man’s and the woman’s sections. That makes it more convenient to skip over the other gender’s section. Working through Marriage God’s Way, I see how it all fits together clearer, seeing both sides simultaneously.
Marriage God’s Way: A Biblical Recipe for Healthy, Joyful, Christ-Centered Relationships by Scott LaPierre is an excellent read. I am strongly recommending it to married couples wanting to learn more about God’s gift of marriage.
Marriage God’s Way is :
*thoughtful
*well laid out
*concise while being easy to read
*challenging to your spiritual walk.
I’m walking away stronger for reading this book. Going through Marriage God’s Way, I have grown in understanding God’s call about how men are to treat their wives and their marriage. Additionally, I’m having great conversations with my wife about our marriage that have been brought up in Marriage God’s Way.
Read my full review here: http://myfamilyonabudget.com/marriage...
December 21, 2021
This is a book that needs to be in every church library, and it would be a perfect book to use in marriage counseling sessions. Author Scott La Pierre shares his knowledge as a pastor, and his own experiences as a husband, to offer a biblical recipe for the institution of marriage. Your Marriage God's Way is overflowing with Bible scripture, and I have no doubt that the Holy Spirit was leading the author every step of the way.
I like that this book is written in an easy, almost conversational style, and that it focuses on the many aspects of marital relationships. Your Marriage God's Way is a wonderful guide that targets our own thinking, so that we can better understand our spouse's viewpoint. Studying this book together as a couple would be ideal, but reading it alone is a great beginning! A successful marriage takes work, determination, and a strong foundation, and La Pierre shows us that understanding, and following God's recipe, will surely pave the way. An added bonus is that there is a workbook for recording your thoughts as you go. Both of these are valuable resources that you will want for your own!
I received a digital copy of this book from the author. There was no obligation for a positive review. These are my own thoughts.
I like that this book is written in an easy, almost conversational style, and that it focuses on the many aspects of marital relationships. Your Marriage God's Way is a wonderful guide that targets our own thinking, so that we can better understand our spouse's viewpoint. Studying this book together as a couple would be ideal, but reading it alone is a great beginning! A successful marriage takes work, determination, and a strong foundation, and La Pierre shows us that understanding, and following God's recipe, will surely pave the way. An added bonus is that there is a workbook for recording your thoughts as you go. Both of these are valuable resources that you will want for your own!
I received a digital copy of this book from the author. There was no obligation for a positive review. These are my own thoughts.
May 29, 2017
Marriage God's Way is exactly what this book talks about! Scott LaPierre does a great job of explaining the our roles in marriage with Bible verses and personal examples.
A wife's submission to her husband is such a hot topic today with so much feminism being pushed in our faces. The culture of the country/world is infiltrating our minds and churches. Scott does a great job explaining what God wants, not what men want. When Scott LaPierre talks about women's submission to their husbands, he uses the utmost respect while being truthful. He explained points that I hadn't even thought of and I haven't heard from any other pastor.
Marriage God's Way will give you a new perspective of what Biblical marriage is supposed to be, and what God has always wanted it to be.
A couple Favorite Quotes:
"This is the end of the sixth day, but earlier in the day, in Genesis 2:18, God observed, “This is not good.” What had changed to go from “not good” to “good”? God had created a woman. That is how good women are. That is how much of a good thing a wife is. The addition of a woman can transform something “not good” into “very good.”
Some women might find it offensive to be identified as their husbands’ “helpers,” but the title is not a criticism of Eve’s insufficiency but an identification of Adam’s inadequacy!"
"Agape Is Sacrificial
Agape is not about feelings or emotions. It is a choice. It is an act of the will. This is important to keep in mind, because we tend to think love is a feeling. You get shot by Cupid’s arrow and then you are “in love.” Unfortunately, feelings can come and go.
In contrast, agape is about what we are willing to do. First Corinthians 13 is known as the Love Chapter, and in verses 4–7 we read: 4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 [b]bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
A wife's submission to her husband is such a hot topic today with so much feminism being pushed in our faces. The culture of the country/world is infiltrating our minds and churches. Scott does a great job explaining what God wants, not what men want. When Scott LaPierre talks about women's submission to their husbands, he uses the utmost respect while being truthful. He explained points that I hadn't even thought of and I haven't heard from any other pastor.
Marriage God's Way will give you a new perspective of what Biblical marriage is supposed to be, and what God has always wanted it to be.
A couple Favorite Quotes:
"This is the end of the sixth day, but earlier in the day, in Genesis 2:18, God observed, “This is not good.” What had changed to go from “not good” to “good”? God had created a woman. That is how good women are. That is how much of a good thing a wife is. The addition of a woman can transform something “not good” into “very good.”
Some women might find it offensive to be identified as their husbands’ “helpers,” but the title is not a criticism of Eve’s insufficiency but an identification of Adam’s inadequacy!"
"Agape Is Sacrificial
Agape is not about feelings or emotions. It is a choice. It is an act of the will. This is important to keep in mind, because we tend to think love is a feeling. You get shot by Cupid’s arrow and then you are “in love.” Unfortunately, feelings can come and go.
In contrast, agape is about what we are willing to do. First Corinthians 13 is known as the Love Chapter, and in verses 4–7 we read: 4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 [b]bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
January 16, 2017
Marriage God's Way by Scott LaPierre was a very informative and enlightening book. I can see that the Pastor Scott has really put a lot of thought and prayer into the contents of this book. From beginning to end the Biblical platform presented in a historical way that really could help a lot of marriages. Both encouraging and challenging for both the husband and wife, I wish I had something like this when my wife and I first got married, it would have been a huge asset to our marriage when we were just starting out. Having something like this easy read would have made our journey together so far even better.
As someone who went through marriage counseling before I was married and as someone who has offered counsel to others since getting married, I still found some very good insight into how I should view my wife. The mixture of personal experience with professional and biblical experience captured my attention more than most other books I’ve read. I intend to keep reading through it until I've captured every enlightening aspect in my own marriage. Pastor Scott LaPierre truly has a passion for reaching others for Christ and being a Biblical example of Marriage God's Way that all men should aspire to be.
Making a marriage work is a team effort and many of us lose sight of that along the way. Pastor Scott mentions in the first few chapters of this book that God comes first, A spouse should come directly after that and everything else follows. I really like that philosophy and feel the it is the aspect that really makes marriages survive even the hardest of moments.
Don’t take my word for it though, check it out for yourselves.
As someone who went through marriage counseling before I was married and as someone who has offered counsel to others since getting married, I still found some very good insight into how I should view my wife. The mixture of personal experience with professional and biblical experience captured my attention more than most other books I’ve read. I intend to keep reading through it until I've captured every enlightening aspect in my own marriage. Pastor Scott LaPierre truly has a passion for reaching others for Christ and being a Biblical example of Marriage God's Way that all men should aspire to be.
Making a marriage work is a team effort and many of us lose sight of that along the way. Pastor Scott mentions in the first few chapters of this book that God comes first, A spouse should come directly after that and everything else follows. I really like that philosophy and feel the it is the aspect that really makes marriages survive even the hardest of moments.
Don’t take my word for it though, check it out for yourselves.
September 28, 2021
Scott LaPierre's book, Your Marriage God's Way, begins with an introduction that explains why he wrote this intelligent, helpful and impressive book. LaPierre opens his arguments by urging people to believe God's word rather than him. Because of his passion for marriage and family, as well as everything he has learned as a husband and father, he felt compelled to author the book and its companion workbook.
LaPierre's enthusiasm for marriage, family and people shines through throughout the book. He cites the scriptural foundation for his writing about the roles of husbands and wives in an easy-to-understand and absorbable manner. However, he admits that because of our sinful natures, the scriptural roles may be difficult for spouses to follow.
LaPierre uses parallels between marriage and scripture-from creation to the New Testament-to illustrate how God envisions marriage. There are instructions for married couples on how to live and love one another, intermingled with examples of God's unfailing, unconditional love for His children and how it pertains to marriage.
I appreciated how each spouse's responsibility was broken down within a Biblical framework. I especially like how distinct Biblical terms were clarified and explained in great depth.
Pastors, counselors, youth ministers, and Sunday school teachers could use Your Marriage God’s Way to help married and single people alike.
I received an ARC e-book of this book from the author. However, my review is voluntary, and all opinions are my own.
LaPierre's enthusiasm for marriage, family and people shines through throughout the book. He cites the scriptural foundation for his writing about the roles of husbands and wives in an easy-to-understand and absorbable manner. However, he admits that because of our sinful natures, the scriptural roles may be difficult for spouses to follow.
LaPierre uses parallels between marriage and scripture-from creation to the New Testament-to illustrate how God envisions marriage. There are instructions for married couples on how to live and love one another, intermingled with examples of God's unfailing, unconditional love for His children and how it pertains to marriage.
I appreciated how each spouse's responsibility was broken down within a Biblical framework. I especially like how distinct Biblical terms were clarified and explained in great depth.
Pastors, counselors, youth ministers, and Sunday school teachers could use Your Marriage God’s Way to help married and single people alike.
I received an ARC e-book of this book from the author. However, my review is voluntary, and all opinions are my own.
March 15, 2019
Best advise yet
In a world like ours nowadays it is very seldom that you see that someone points out the importance of submission in the part of the wife. I believe it is how it was designed in the very beginning. Though there is that space in between for adjustment and in a harmonious relationship, the roles between the partners is what counts. It really challenges the couples.
This book is very uplifting and inspirational. It cites several experiences by the author. A very highly recommended read.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
In a world like ours nowadays it is very seldom that you see that someone points out the importance of submission in the part of the wife. I believe it is how it was designed in the very beginning. Though there is that space in between for adjustment and in a harmonious relationship, the roles between the partners is what counts. It really challenges the couples.
This book is very uplifting and inspirational. It cites several experiences by the author. A very highly recommended read.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
February 13, 2020
Comprehensive and insightful, Scott Lapierre gives clarity where there is often confusion in the roles and responsibilities within a marriage relationship.
September 28, 2021
This book was life-changing! I’m married to my best friend, Matt, whom I love with all my heart. We celebrate seven years of marriage this November and have a blended family of four kids ages 12, 13, 14, and 15. This is a second marriage for both of us, and I don’t often write about my “time before Matt” partly because as a Christian I don’t want to proclaim “I’m divorced and remarried.” I’m embarrassed about it, in truth—I never wanted to be a “divorced woman,” and I know God hates divorce.
But it’s my reality, and one I’m forced to own. It’s also an experience that has taught me so much about marriage, God’s plan for marriage, and how critical it is to keep God at the center of my marriage.
Now, seven years into our marriage, Scott’s book reminds me of the truths I have come to know so well. And it convicts me anew that we need to keep these things at our core to not only enable our marriage to thrive but—most importantly—to have our lives honor and bless our God, as well as show others, including our children, the way.
Scott’s words in Chapter 11 about divorce hit hard: “I am not trying to condemn those who have already gone through a divorce (and the vast majority of people who have experienced the tragedy of divorce would confirm what I am saying here about the damage divorce causes),” Scott writes. “Rather, I want to urge married couples never to consider divorce as an option. My hope is to spare families, especially those with children, the deep heartache divorce brings. My experience has been that most people who have been through a divorce are among the first to encourage pastors to preach strongly against it. They want to see others avoid the grief they have suffered.”
This, exactly. Not only do I want my own marriage to grow and blossom, but I know firsthand that deep heartache of divorce he refers to. I don’t want anyone to go through what I experienced. We can escape such pain by honoring the wisdom given to us in the Bible.
“I am not asking you to trust me,” Scott writes in the introduction. “Rather, I am inviting you to trust what God says in the Bible.”
Note that none of these points apply to abusive marriages. Men—or women—who abuse their spouse are never acting in a Godly manner.
Here are my four key takeaways from Scott’s book:
1) The power of the marriage model
I’ve learned, and Scott reiterates, that the model of marriage is a cornerstone, and living within an ideal, Godly marriage is part of God’s plan.
Not all people are called to marriage, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. But for those who do marry, the covenant and relationship that evolves is so important.
In the introduction, Scott makes the point that “the marriage relationship is one of the greatest tools believers have for sharing about Christ with others because it is a picture of Jesus and His relationship to the church. Godly marriages can reveal Christ to an unbelieving world.”
I grew up a child of divorce and didn’t truly understand the power of a Godly marriage, where the man and woman are united with each other in the way God intends, each loving, respecting, serving, and honoring the other as a way of loving the Lord. I also grew up in a big city and was mightily influenced by the morals and values of non-Christians for many, many years—those of friends and coworkers and pop culture and the world in general.
In Chapter 14, Scott tells us that whenever we read the Bible, we face two choices: We can shape Scripture to fit our desires and beliefs, or we can allow Scripture to shape us and our thinking.
I choose to be shaped by Scripture.
And Scripture tells me there is a model for marriage, and it wields great power.
2) Keep God at the center
That model for marriage is one where God is at the center. Hard times will come—that’s almost a given in any relationship. I’ve never met anyone who didn’t experience some sort of hardship or struggle. Our life on earth is not perfect, nor will it ever be.
When those hard times come in a marriage, they have the potential to tear down the foundation and shatter the union. If it’s just man and woman united alone, two sinful and imperfect creatures against the temptations and evils of the world, they are vulnerable to attack.
But when their marriage is rooted in Christ, nothing can stand against them.
As Scott writes in Chapter 21, “Just as Jesus was the rock for Israel and is the rock for the church, He can also be the rock—or foundation—for our marriages.”
When the proverbial thunderstorms of life appear, a foundation rooted in the Lord will never crumble.
Our marriage faced a hard time recently when one of our kids had a major mental health crisis. Instead of putting each other first, I had to drop everything and focus all my attention on my child—on getting her the help she needed. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for Matt, and it certainly wasn’t easy for me. But our relationship is rooted in the Lord, and God took care of us.
“Yes, there will be times when a husband does not want to love his wife and a wife does not want to submit to her husband,” Scott writes in Chapter 1. “In those moments, husbands and wives can tell themselves, ‘I am called to do this out of my love for Christ. I want to submit to His commands because of what He has done for me.’ I would never try to convince a husband that his wife is worthy of his love, or try to convince a wife that her husband is worthy of her submission. The fact is, no spouse is worthy. But Christ is worthy of a husband’s love and a wife’s submission. He deserves our obedience.”
3) A ‘good helpmate’
As a feminist and a driven career woman, I used to bristle at the word “submission.” I resented Bible verses that talked about how the wife must “submit” to her husband. But then I learned the word means far more than it does in our culture. Indeed, submission is part of every Christian’s call. We are to submit to government, to each other, to our enemy—and to our spouse.
In Matthew 20:28, Jesus said He “did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” As a follower of Jesus, I am to do the same—we all are.
In my marriage, I’ve learned to embrace the role of helper to my husband. This doesn’t mean he is more important than I am or that I my work and role are unimportant. I’ve simply realized that serving my husband, putting his needs before mine and trying to be helpful to him, is a way I can serve Jesus.
As Scott writes in Chapter 5, the Hebrew word translated “helper” is ezer, and it means “help” or “one who helps.” The word occurs 21 times in the Old Testament, including twice in Genesis 2. But it’s important to note that ezer is never used in a negative sense.
“The term isn’t used to speak of a sycophant, minion, or slave. Instead, it is used to describe great strength and support,” Scott writes.
Marriage is a team sport. When we fight, one of us doesn’t “win” the argument. We both lose.
Pushing my ego and pride aside to focus on how I can help my husband is a good way to love him. When I help Matt, we both win. He helps me in return, and together, our efforts glorify the Lord. In humbling myself, I gain much, and I’m modeling Jesus in the process.
4) Respect is key
The biggest thing I have learned in my marriage is that respect is critical. We all want love and respect, but in a marriage, one is primary and the other secondary. As Scott writes in Chapter 12, “Husbands want to be loved, but they want to be respected even more. Wives want to be respected, but they want to be loved even more.”
In my first marriage, I lost all respect for my spouse. But with Matt, I strive to respect him always. This means I don’t seek to control him or manipulate him. I trust that he’s a grownup tasked to lead our family well. I make a conscious choice to “let” him lead. This doesn’t mean I simply do his bidding—it just means I choose to trust his judgment. I don’t try to manage things as I did in the past. He doesn’t need a manager—he needs a wife.
In Chapter 15, Scott writes, “Some husbands don’t lead because their wives are already doing so.”
I show respect for my husband by trusting him and relinquishing that control I used to hold so tightly. I don’t need to control every aspect of our lives. We’re a partnership.
Of course, this is my take as a woman. Scott has plenty of words of wisdom for men throughout this book, but as a wife, I found reading the parts about my role in the marriage the most helpful.
I highly recommend this book!
But it’s my reality, and one I’m forced to own. It’s also an experience that has taught me so much about marriage, God’s plan for marriage, and how critical it is to keep God at the center of my marriage.
Now, seven years into our marriage, Scott’s book reminds me of the truths I have come to know so well. And it convicts me anew that we need to keep these things at our core to not only enable our marriage to thrive but—most importantly—to have our lives honor and bless our God, as well as show others, including our children, the way.
Scott’s words in Chapter 11 about divorce hit hard: “I am not trying to condemn those who have already gone through a divorce (and the vast majority of people who have experienced the tragedy of divorce would confirm what I am saying here about the damage divorce causes),” Scott writes. “Rather, I want to urge married couples never to consider divorce as an option. My hope is to spare families, especially those with children, the deep heartache divorce brings. My experience has been that most people who have been through a divorce are among the first to encourage pastors to preach strongly against it. They want to see others avoid the grief they have suffered.”
This, exactly. Not only do I want my own marriage to grow and blossom, but I know firsthand that deep heartache of divorce he refers to. I don’t want anyone to go through what I experienced. We can escape such pain by honoring the wisdom given to us in the Bible.
“I am not asking you to trust me,” Scott writes in the introduction. “Rather, I am inviting you to trust what God says in the Bible.”
Note that none of these points apply to abusive marriages. Men—or women—who abuse their spouse are never acting in a Godly manner.
Here are my four key takeaways from Scott’s book:
1) The power of the marriage model
I’ve learned, and Scott reiterates, that the model of marriage is a cornerstone, and living within an ideal, Godly marriage is part of God’s plan.
Not all people are called to marriage, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. But for those who do marry, the covenant and relationship that evolves is so important.
In the introduction, Scott makes the point that “the marriage relationship is one of the greatest tools believers have for sharing about Christ with others because it is a picture of Jesus and His relationship to the church. Godly marriages can reveal Christ to an unbelieving world.”
I grew up a child of divorce and didn’t truly understand the power of a Godly marriage, where the man and woman are united with each other in the way God intends, each loving, respecting, serving, and honoring the other as a way of loving the Lord. I also grew up in a big city and was mightily influenced by the morals and values of non-Christians for many, many years—those of friends and coworkers and pop culture and the world in general.
In Chapter 14, Scott tells us that whenever we read the Bible, we face two choices: We can shape Scripture to fit our desires and beliefs, or we can allow Scripture to shape us and our thinking.
I choose to be shaped by Scripture.
And Scripture tells me there is a model for marriage, and it wields great power.
2) Keep God at the center
That model for marriage is one where God is at the center. Hard times will come—that’s almost a given in any relationship. I’ve never met anyone who didn’t experience some sort of hardship or struggle. Our life on earth is not perfect, nor will it ever be.
When those hard times come in a marriage, they have the potential to tear down the foundation and shatter the union. If it’s just man and woman united alone, two sinful and imperfect creatures against the temptations and evils of the world, they are vulnerable to attack.
But when their marriage is rooted in Christ, nothing can stand against them.
As Scott writes in Chapter 21, “Just as Jesus was the rock for Israel and is the rock for the church, He can also be the rock—or foundation—for our marriages.”
When the proverbial thunderstorms of life appear, a foundation rooted in the Lord will never crumble.
Our marriage faced a hard time recently when one of our kids had a major mental health crisis. Instead of putting each other first, I had to drop everything and focus all my attention on my child—on getting her the help she needed. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for Matt, and it certainly wasn’t easy for me. But our relationship is rooted in the Lord, and God took care of us.
“Yes, there will be times when a husband does not want to love his wife and a wife does not want to submit to her husband,” Scott writes in Chapter 1. “In those moments, husbands and wives can tell themselves, ‘I am called to do this out of my love for Christ. I want to submit to His commands because of what He has done for me.’ I would never try to convince a husband that his wife is worthy of his love, or try to convince a wife that her husband is worthy of her submission. The fact is, no spouse is worthy. But Christ is worthy of a husband’s love and a wife’s submission. He deserves our obedience.”
3) A ‘good helpmate’
As a feminist and a driven career woman, I used to bristle at the word “submission.” I resented Bible verses that talked about how the wife must “submit” to her husband. But then I learned the word means far more than it does in our culture. Indeed, submission is part of every Christian’s call. We are to submit to government, to each other, to our enemy—and to our spouse.
In Matthew 20:28, Jesus said He “did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” As a follower of Jesus, I am to do the same—we all are.
In my marriage, I’ve learned to embrace the role of helper to my husband. This doesn’t mean he is more important than I am or that I my work and role are unimportant. I’ve simply realized that serving my husband, putting his needs before mine and trying to be helpful to him, is a way I can serve Jesus.
As Scott writes in Chapter 5, the Hebrew word translated “helper” is ezer, and it means “help” or “one who helps.” The word occurs 21 times in the Old Testament, including twice in Genesis 2. But it’s important to note that ezer is never used in a negative sense.
“The term isn’t used to speak of a sycophant, minion, or slave. Instead, it is used to describe great strength and support,” Scott writes.
Marriage is a team sport. When we fight, one of us doesn’t “win” the argument. We both lose.
Pushing my ego and pride aside to focus on how I can help my husband is a good way to love him. When I help Matt, we both win. He helps me in return, and together, our efforts glorify the Lord. In humbling myself, I gain much, and I’m modeling Jesus in the process.
4) Respect is key
The biggest thing I have learned in my marriage is that respect is critical. We all want love and respect, but in a marriage, one is primary and the other secondary. As Scott writes in Chapter 12, “Husbands want to be loved, but they want to be respected even more. Wives want to be respected, but they want to be loved even more.”
In my first marriage, I lost all respect for my spouse. But with Matt, I strive to respect him always. This means I don’t seek to control him or manipulate him. I trust that he’s a grownup tasked to lead our family well. I make a conscious choice to “let” him lead. This doesn’t mean I simply do his bidding—it just means I choose to trust his judgment. I don’t try to manage things as I did in the past. He doesn’t need a manager—he needs a wife.
In Chapter 15, Scott writes, “Some husbands don’t lead because their wives are already doing so.”
I show respect for my husband by trusting him and relinquishing that control I used to hold so tightly. I don’t need to control every aspect of our lives. We’re a partnership.
Of course, this is my take as a woman. Scott has plenty of words of wisdom for men throughout this book, but as a wife, I found reading the parts about my role in the marriage the most helpful.
I highly recommend this book!
July 26, 2022
Your Marriage God's Way: A Biblical Guide to a Christ-Centered Relationship
by Scott LaPierre
Rating:5/5
Description:
Celebrate the Marriage God Made for You
Your most important earthly connection is with your spouse, and when you honor the person you married, you’re also honoring God. He created marriage to be one of life’s greatest gifts, and the instruction manual you need for a joyful, lasting union is found in His Word.
In Your Marriage God’s Way, author and pastor Scott LaPierre takes a close look at the principles for building a biblical marriage—one in which your relationship with Christ brings guidance and blessing into your relationship with your spouse. You’ll gain the tools to…
Review:
👉Talking about the title of the book, the title of the book is really so interesting to read.
👉The cover is appealing and attractive as well.Writing style is quite appreciable .
Author Scott La Pierre shares his knowledge as a pastor, and his own experiences as a husband, to offer a biblical recipe for the institution of marriage. Your Marriage God's Way is overflowing with Bible scripture, and I have no doubt that the Holy Spirit was leading the author every step of the way.I like that this book is written in an easy, almost conversational style, and that it focuses on the many aspects of marital relationships. Your Marriage God's Way is a wonderful guide that targets our own thinking, so that we can better understand our spouse's viewpoint. Studying this book together as a couple would be ideal, but reading it alone is a great beginning! A successful marriage takes work, determination, and a strong foundation, and La Pierre shows us that understanding, and following God's recipe, will surely pave the way.
Wow! What a book! I am in love with the book
For complete read do order the book on @amazondotin @amazondotcom
👉I just loved reading the book and will recommended to everyone ....
Happy reading!..
by Scott LaPierre
Rating:5/5
Description:
Celebrate the Marriage God Made for You
Your most important earthly connection is with your spouse, and when you honor the person you married, you’re also honoring God. He created marriage to be one of life’s greatest gifts, and the instruction manual you need for a joyful, lasting union is found in His Word.
In Your Marriage God’s Way, author and pastor Scott LaPierre takes a close look at the principles for building a biblical marriage—one in which your relationship with Christ brings guidance and blessing into your relationship with your spouse. You’ll gain the tools to…
Review:
👉Talking about the title of the book, the title of the book is really so interesting to read.
👉The cover is appealing and attractive as well.Writing style is quite appreciable .
Author Scott La Pierre shares his knowledge as a pastor, and his own experiences as a husband, to offer a biblical recipe for the institution of marriage. Your Marriage God's Way is overflowing with Bible scripture, and I have no doubt that the Holy Spirit was leading the author every step of the way.I like that this book is written in an easy, almost conversational style, and that it focuses on the many aspects of marital relationships. Your Marriage God's Way is a wonderful guide that targets our own thinking, so that we can better understand our spouse's viewpoint. Studying this book together as a couple would be ideal, but reading it alone is a great beginning! A successful marriage takes work, determination, and a strong foundation, and La Pierre shows us that understanding, and following God's recipe, will surely pave the way.
Wow! What a book! I am in love with the book
For complete read do order the book on @amazondotin @amazondotcom
👉I just loved reading the book and will recommended to everyone ....
Happy reading!..
October 25, 2021
As a somewhat newlywed I was really excited to pick up this book! I enjoy reading books on marriage and learning something new. However, may be my expectations were too high, because Your Marriage God’s Way ended up being a let down.
I understand what the author was trying to do, but at the same time I don’t think it was executed well. First, a lot of what in this book was stuff that I had already read or heard before in other books/messages on the topic. Second, it seemed like he relied to heavily on showing the different meanings of words in Greek and Hebrew, which isn’t a bad thing, but it happened a lot. It read more like a scholarly paper than book for the everyman. Third, sometimes he was too wordy.
I also found myself frustrated in his statement that all divorce is unbiblical, even if the reasons are infidelity or abuse. i strongly disagree with him on this because I do believe that Scripture does give allowance for divorce in those kinds of situations.
I also wish that there had been more specific practical tips on how to apply what he was saying rather than just general recommendations. I don’t know, for me, this just seemed like more of a treatise on the doctrine/theology/teaching of marriage than actual practical advice. I think that book for the everyman on marriage should have both!
I feel like so far all I’ve done is talk about what I didn’t like about the book, so let me share a few things I did like.
First, I did like some of the fresh insights that were provided on passages about marriage. However, I do wish there had been come more time spent on 1 Corinthians 7, which is a chapter that has been sorely misused and misinterpreted, but maybe it is a better fit for a book on dating.
Second, I did appreciate that the author didn’t make wives out to be an “other” like some marriage books do tend to do at time.
I would also like to share a few quotes that stuck out to me while reading Your Marriage God’s Way that I either really liked or that I found thought-provoking:
“As a wife, you want to look for the unique areas in which your strengths can comment your husband’s needs and weaknesses” (p. 60).
“In many ways, phileo is a great description of what marriage is meant to be: a deep and close friendship” (p.85).
“Agape is a choice, an act of will. We choose whether we do or don’t love” (p.91).
“Our spiritual liberty is not only about freedom but about giving up our rights for others” (p.156).
“True freedom comes when we strive to husbands and wives as God commanded rather than as society defines” (p.159).
“A wife’s submission to her husband has less to do with her relationship with her husband and more to do with her relationship with the Lord. A Woman’s trust in God combats the fear-or-terror – she experiences when she submits to her husband” (p.200).
Overall, Your Marriage God’s Way wasn’t for me, Personally. I think that there are other better marriage books out there. however, I do think that this might be a good book for someone who hasn’t read any other marriage books, or who is engaged.
*I received a copy of this book from the author and Celebrate Lit in exchange for my honest review.
I understand what the author was trying to do, but at the same time I don’t think it was executed well. First, a lot of what in this book was stuff that I had already read or heard before in other books/messages on the topic. Second, it seemed like he relied to heavily on showing the different meanings of words in Greek and Hebrew, which isn’t a bad thing, but it happened a lot. It read more like a scholarly paper than book for the everyman. Third, sometimes he was too wordy.
I also found myself frustrated in his statement that all divorce is unbiblical, even if the reasons are infidelity or abuse. i strongly disagree with him on this because I do believe that Scripture does give allowance for divorce in those kinds of situations.
I also wish that there had been more specific practical tips on how to apply what he was saying rather than just general recommendations. I don’t know, for me, this just seemed like more of a treatise on the doctrine/theology/teaching of marriage than actual practical advice. I think that book for the everyman on marriage should have both!
I feel like so far all I’ve done is talk about what I didn’t like about the book, so let me share a few things I did like.
First, I did like some of the fresh insights that were provided on passages about marriage. However, I do wish there had been come more time spent on 1 Corinthians 7, which is a chapter that has been sorely misused and misinterpreted, but maybe it is a better fit for a book on dating.
Second, I did appreciate that the author didn’t make wives out to be an “other” like some marriage books do tend to do at time.
I would also like to share a few quotes that stuck out to me while reading Your Marriage God’s Way that I either really liked or that I found thought-provoking:
“As a wife, you want to look for the unique areas in which your strengths can comment your husband’s needs and weaknesses” (p. 60).
“In many ways, phileo is a great description of what marriage is meant to be: a deep and close friendship” (p.85).
“Agape is a choice, an act of will. We choose whether we do or don’t love” (p.91).
“Our spiritual liberty is not only about freedom but about giving up our rights for others” (p.156).
“True freedom comes when we strive to husbands and wives as God commanded rather than as society defines” (p.159).
“A wife’s submission to her husband has less to do with her relationship with her husband and more to do with her relationship with the Lord. A Woman’s trust in God combats the fear-or-terror – she experiences when she submits to her husband” (p.200).
Overall, Your Marriage God’s Way wasn’t for me, Personally. I think that there are other better marriage books out there. however, I do think that this might be a good book for someone who hasn’t read any other marriage books, or who is engaged.
*I received a copy of this book from the author and Celebrate Lit in exchange for my honest review.
May 16, 2018
I am a struggling christian and when I saw this book I thought that it would help me. Well it is a work in progress but I am learning day by day to be a better Christian and to help my marriage.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
September 19, 2022
A great devotional for couples to do together. Also great for any time in your marriage whether you're a newlywed or married for 25 or 50 years. Highly recommend.
I received a free copy of this book and am voluntarily leaving a review.
I received a free copy of this book and am voluntarily leaving a review.
March 5, 2019
This is an excellent book along with the companion workbook by the same name. My husband and I have an awesome marriage of 23 years and we plan at least another 23 years. But this book was not a waste of time. It is wonderful to work on a better marriage together with God. It only gets better.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
February 8, 2020
Fantastic
What a fantastic recipe book for marriage. There are such great biblical references as well as personal insights from the Author.
What a fantastic recipe book for marriage. There are such great biblical references as well as personal insights from the Author.
September 22, 2021
In my journey of trying to be a good Christian woman, I've gained a great deal of knowledge regarding our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. One of the more vital areas has been regarding how He wants us to live of lives, especially when it pretends to the holy bonds of matrimony and, of course, love.
Being a child of the 1950's I can't help but recall the now-classic song getting sung by Frank Sinatra called Love and Marriage. According to the song's lyrics, they go together like the old-fashioned horse and carriage where you can't have one without the other. In addition, it's a foundation which no one can denigrate; and if you've got any doubts, basically ask anyone who's happily married. According to the song, these two items get so tightly interwoven that it's a misconception if you would try to separate them.
However, this song doesn't address the importance of the Lord's presence in the relationship between a husband and his wife. Some individuals allow their hearts to rule their minds when it comes to falling in love and blindly rush into marriage with that person. And sometimes, individual's mind rules their hearts, and they rush into marriage because it's the proper thing to do; yet, there's no real love for that other person.
Given the vast multitudes of personalities that exist between men and women, it's impossible for two individuals to mesh 100% perfectly all of the time. There needs to be some compromise between the two, and within this compromising, couples on occasion might have incidents where anguish and disagreement rule the day. Unfortunately, there's no single book designed to give individuals detailed information about how something should get done when these incidences arise, save one, which is the book written by the Lord, the one who had created the institution of marriage.
In his book, the author, Pastor Scott LaPierre, with his extensive knowledge of the Lord's words and personal stories, gives readers the much sought-after marriage instructional manual they've been looking for. Within the pages of this book, readers are given easy-to-understand descriptions of the roles husbands and their wives have been given by the Lord. Basically, almost all aspects of marriage get presented, including intimacy. Naturally, readers get told about the Lord's love and how to show it to each other, and more importantly, how couples can form the everlasting basis for the kind of relationship God wants his believers to have. Marriage is by far one of the grandest gifts he could ever give His children.
In conclusion, let's look at what Ephesians 5:28-33 [ESV] has to say about marriage
[28] In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
[29] For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,
[30] because we are members of his body.
[31]"Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."
[32] This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
[33] However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
For having written this book, with the Lord's guidance, for his readers, there's no way I can't give Pastor LaPierre the 5 STARS he deserves for this book.
I received a PDF.file ARC [Advanced Reader’s Copy] of this book from the author and the above has been my honest opinion.
I highly recommend that you should check out the accompanying workbook, which is designed to enhance your reading experience of this book.
Being a child of the 1950's I can't help but recall the now-classic song getting sung by Frank Sinatra called Love and Marriage. According to the song's lyrics, they go together like the old-fashioned horse and carriage where you can't have one without the other. In addition, it's a foundation which no one can denigrate; and if you've got any doubts, basically ask anyone who's happily married. According to the song, these two items get so tightly interwoven that it's a misconception if you would try to separate them.
However, this song doesn't address the importance of the Lord's presence in the relationship between a husband and his wife. Some individuals allow their hearts to rule their minds when it comes to falling in love and blindly rush into marriage with that person. And sometimes, individual's mind rules their hearts, and they rush into marriage because it's the proper thing to do; yet, there's no real love for that other person.
Given the vast multitudes of personalities that exist between men and women, it's impossible for two individuals to mesh 100% perfectly all of the time. There needs to be some compromise between the two, and within this compromising, couples on occasion might have incidents where anguish and disagreement rule the day. Unfortunately, there's no single book designed to give individuals detailed information about how something should get done when these incidences arise, save one, which is the book written by the Lord, the one who had created the institution of marriage.
In his book, the author, Pastor Scott LaPierre, with his extensive knowledge of the Lord's words and personal stories, gives readers the much sought-after marriage instructional manual they've been looking for. Within the pages of this book, readers are given easy-to-understand descriptions of the roles husbands and their wives have been given by the Lord. Basically, almost all aspects of marriage get presented, including intimacy. Naturally, readers get told about the Lord's love and how to show it to each other, and more importantly, how couples can form the everlasting basis for the kind of relationship God wants his believers to have. Marriage is by far one of the grandest gifts he could ever give His children.
In conclusion, let's look at what Ephesians 5:28-33 [ESV] has to say about marriage
[28] In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
[29] For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,
[30] because we are members of his body.
[31]"Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."
[32] This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
[33] However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
For having written this book, with the Lord's guidance, for his readers, there's no way I can't give Pastor LaPierre the 5 STARS he deserves for this book.
I received a PDF.file ARC [Advanced Reader’s Copy] of this book from the author and the above has been my honest opinion.
I highly recommend that you should check out the accompanying workbook, which is designed to enhance your reading experience of this book.
March 3, 2019
I read this book via an Amazon KINDLE Unlimited download.
Being a child of the 1950’s I can’t help but recall the now classic song being sung by Frank Sinatra called Love and Marriage. According to the song’s lyrics they go together like the old-fashioned horse and carriage where you can’t have one without the other. In addition, it's a foundation which no one can denigrate; and if you’ve got any doubts, just basically ask anyone who’s happily married. These two items according to the song is something so tightly interwoven, that it’s a misconception if you would try to separate them.
However, one thing which this song doesn’t address is now important the Lord’s presence is in the relationship between a husband and his wife. Some individuals allow their hearts to rule their minds when it comes to falling in love, and blindly rush into marriage with that person. And sometimes, individual’s mind rules their hearts and they rush into marriage because it’s the proper thing to do; yet, there’s no real love for that other person.
Given the vast multitudes of personalities which exist between men and women, it’s impossible for two individuals to perfectly mesh 100%. There needs to be some sort of compromise between the two, and within this compromising, couples on occasion might have incidents where anguish and disagreement rule the day. Unfortunately, there’s no single book designed to give individuals detailed information about how something should be done when these incidences arise, save one; which is the book written by the Lord, the one who had created the institution of marriage.
In his book, the author, Pastor Scott LaPierre, with his extensive knowledge of the Lord’s words and personal stories gives readers the much sought-after marriage instructional manual they’ve been looking for. Within the pages of this book, readers are given easy to understand descriptions for the roles husbands and their wives have been given by the Lord. Basically, almost all aspects of a marriage are presented including intimacy. Naturally readers are told about the Lord’s love and how to show it to each other; and more importantly how couples can form the everlasting basis for the kind of relationship God wants his believers to have. Marriage is by far one of the grandest gifts he could ever give His children.
In conclusion, let’s look at what Ephesians 5:28-33 [ESV] has to say about marriage
28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,
30 because we are members of his body.
31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
For having written this book, with the Lord’s guidance, for his readers, there’s no way I can’t give Pastor LaPierre, the 5 STARS he deserves for this book.
You should check out the accompanying workbook, which is desogned to enhance your reading experience of this book.
Being a child of the 1950’s I can’t help but recall the now classic song being sung by Frank Sinatra called Love and Marriage. According to the song’s lyrics they go together like the old-fashioned horse and carriage where you can’t have one without the other. In addition, it's a foundation which no one can denigrate; and if you’ve got any doubts, just basically ask anyone who’s happily married. These two items according to the song is something so tightly interwoven, that it’s a misconception if you would try to separate them.
However, one thing which this song doesn’t address is now important the Lord’s presence is in the relationship between a husband and his wife. Some individuals allow their hearts to rule their minds when it comes to falling in love, and blindly rush into marriage with that person. And sometimes, individual’s mind rules their hearts and they rush into marriage because it’s the proper thing to do; yet, there’s no real love for that other person.
Given the vast multitudes of personalities which exist between men and women, it’s impossible for two individuals to perfectly mesh 100%. There needs to be some sort of compromise between the two, and within this compromising, couples on occasion might have incidents where anguish and disagreement rule the day. Unfortunately, there’s no single book designed to give individuals detailed information about how something should be done when these incidences arise, save one; which is the book written by the Lord, the one who had created the institution of marriage.
In his book, the author, Pastor Scott LaPierre, with his extensive knowledge of the Lord’s words and personal stories gives readers the much sought-after marriage instructional manual they’ve been looking for. Within the pages of this book, readers are given easy to understand descriptions for the roles husbands and their wives have been given by the Lord. Basically, almost all aspects of a marriage are presented including intimacy. Naturally readers are told about the Lord’s love and how to show it to each other; and more importantly how couples can form the everlasting basis for the kind of relationship God wants his believers to have. Marriage is by far one of the grandest gifts he could ever give His children.
In conclusion, let’s look at what Ephesians 5:28-33 [ESV] has to say about marriage
28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,
30 because we are members of his body.
31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
For having written this book, with the Lord’s guidance, for his readers, there’s no way I can’t give Pastor LaPierre, the 5 STARS he deserves for this book.
You should check out the accompanying workbook, which is desogned to enhance your reading experience of this book.
November 18, 2018
I find it really hard to write a review for this book and it took me a while to finally get to it. I think that this book contains some great advice and I liked that this book was meant for both husbands and wives. Another thing that I really liked was that it used a lot of Scripture to back up its claims and it did so in a convincing manner without taking verses out of context and twisting them to the author's liking. The author also has a very clear and accessible style of writing.
However, what was missing in my opinion might be a little bit of warmth or maybe grace - this book presents a simple formula that may not be that simple in real life. It was also very heavy on submission, which is important in marriage, but I felt like it was maybe stressed a little too much.
Now, I am not married yet and just preparing for marriage and there were other books that just seemed more helpful to me. I think that if you're in a different situation, this straight-forward, no-nonsense book might be exactly what you need. It's not unlikely that I will come back to this book once I'm married and see it in a different light, but for now, that is all I can say.
If you're looking for a clear and honest Biblical resource, I encourage you to have a look at this book to see if this might be for you.
Disclaimer: I received a review copy via Netgalley in exchange for an honest opinion.
However, what was missing in my opinion might be a little bit of warmth or maybe grace - this book presents a simple formula that may not be that simple in real life. It was also very heavy on submission, which is important in marriage, but I felt like it was maybe stressed a little too much.
Now, I am not married yet and just preparing for marriage and there were other books that just seemed more helpful to me. I think that if you're in a different situation, this straight-forward, no-nonsense book might be exactly what you need. It's not unlikely that I will come back to this book once I'm married and see it in a different light, but for now, that is all I can say.
If you're looking for a clear and honest Biblical resource, I encourage you to have a look at this book to see if this might be for you.
Disclaimer: I received a review copy via Netgalley in exchange for an honest opinion.
October 7, 2016
Very good book, it clearly demonstrates what the Bible says about marriage. Easy to read with profoundly simple ideas, Marriage God's Way is a book anyone doing Christian Counseling should read. Pastor Scott quotes the Bible but also explains it in a way that is easy to understand. Part of his explanation of 1 Peter 3:1 is "husbands seem to struggle with stubbornness even more when they feel they are being nagged, and wives seem to struggle with nagging even more when they feel their husbands are being stubborn."
I loved the part about submission where he says "submission means a wife sees herself as a part of her husband's team", I also appreciated the emphasis on that the Bible says a woman is only supposed to submit to her own husband, not all men.
My favorite quote "A husband's love and a wife's submission is not a test of their obedience to their spouse. It is a test of their obedience to the Lord."
This is a great book for anyone that wants to understand what the Bible says about Marriage. But it also clearly points out why what the Bible says actually works!
I loved the part about submission where he says "submission means a wife sees herself as a part of her husband's team", I also appreciated the emphasis on that the Bible says a woman is only supposed to submit to her own husband, not all men.
My favorite quote "A husband's love and a wife's submission is not a test of their obedience to their spouse. It is a test of their obedience to the Lord."
This is a great book for anyone that wants to understand what the Bible says about Marriage. But it also clearly points out why what the Bible says actually works!
November 4, 2016
If you think that you have exhausted what the Bible has to say about marriage: think again and read this book.
Scott LaPierre has a way of applying familiar Scripture passages with solid theology, but radical and rare clarity and depth. Passages that I have heard dozens of sermons on I suddenly saw in a new light. In addition, the author is not afraid of standing by Biblical truths, even when those truths are counter-cultural.
The practical, personal stories from the author's own experiences, conversational tone, and well-organized chapters kept me reading, but the application and spiritual truths are what will truly stick with me.
Scott LaPierre has a way of applying familiar Scripture passages with solid theology, but radical and rare clarity and depth. Passages that I have heard dozens of sermons on I suddenly saw in a new light. In addition, the author is not afraid of standing by Biblical truths, even when those truths are counter-cultural.
The practical, personal stories from the author's own experiences, conversational tone, and well-organized chapters kept me reading, but the application and spiritual truths are what will truly stick with me.
October 15, 2016
Scott has put in a lot of time researching the scriptures about the roles of husband and wife. He has done a great job of explaining the scriptures that he shares. I like the clear picture he paints about agape love, and how that is the type of love that a husband should have for his spouse. I also like how he talks about how a wife should respect her husband and how that can look different to each couple. He did a good job on writing this.
The other thing that meant a lot to me was how he gave examples of practical ways to respect your husband, and for husbands to love their wives.
The other thing that meant a lot to me was how he gave examples of practical ways to respect your husband, and for husbands to love their wives.
November 21, 2016
I think this is the best book on marriage I have ever read, and I’ve read a ton of them. You have solid doctrine along with real examples, even you from your own marriage. You ask the hard questions that bring conviction even to me. This is dynamite! Thank you for going beyond the basics and answering questions that people really ask about marriage. I hope it gets into the hands of many thousands of couples. I believe it will be a tremendous blessing.
B. Kay Coulter (Author, Editor, Ghostwriter)
B. Kay Coulter (Author, Editor, Ghostwriter)
June 27, 2017
Best marriage book I've ever read!! Filled to the brim with biblical encouragement and exhortation. Scott packs a serious punch, while at the same time never ceasing to be compassionate. I also really appreciated how every chapter has truths for both the husbands and wives. I seriously can't recommend this book enough. I pray the Lord will use the lessons and truths here to bear much fruit in my own marriage!!
January 1, 2019
This book had some good points to it, but mostly it seemed to not respect that women have minds and are thinking and feeling beings. This book seemed to use scripture to make it be OK for men to treat women as "less-than" and that women should be submissive door-mats because men will always have the last word. Marriage is a partnership. However, this book does not take anything from that angle. I was very disappointed in reading this.
January 17, 2019
Wonderful Christian marriage book
Would recommend 10/10, very insightful and helpful understanding marriage God’s way. Every married couple would benefit from reading this. This book has helped me grow in God and in my marriage. Very thankful to God for having pastor Scott write this
Would recommend 10/10, very insightful and helpful understanding marriage God’s way. Every married couple would benefit from reading this. This book has helped me grow in God and in my marriage. Very thankful to God for having pastor Scott write this
October 30, 2019
A wonderful read which could help.you have a good marriage. It shows you way a to deal with any issues that come up and now to deal with them to the benefit of both partners
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September 16, 2020This book was so good my husband and I used it twice in our couples bible study group. 2 yrs. apart, and each time we still learned a great bit, as did the other couples. Love this book!
June 28, 2018
At its best, marriage can bring joy and blessings of which are rarely found in this life, but at its worst, marriage can inflict pain and conflict. This is often because husbands and wives don’t fully understand their roles and the responsibilities that go along with their roles. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we had access to instructional guidance to show us how to have the wonderful marriage that we’d hoped for? Here’s the thing: we DO have access to these instructions! As the Creator of marriage, God is the ultimate authority on marriage, and He has placed in His Word the recipe that shows husbands and wives how to experience the marital blessings that are available to every couple. In this book, Pastor Scott teaches about the instructions included in the Bible. He explains concepts like Scripture’s commands for husbands and wives, Godly love and how to show it, submission and headship, Biblical intimacy, and how to build your marriage on an indestructible foundation, among other things.
One of the things that I particularly enjoyed about this book is that everything was explained simply and in a straight forward manner. Pastor Scott makes it clear how incredibly vital following God’s instructions for marriage is to having a healthy, godly relationship, one that would prove to be a good example for your children and others around you. Not only is God not silent about His expectations for this sacred bond, but as the Creator of marriage, He is the ultimate authority on the matter and the only One who has the authority to define what marriage is and set guidelines for it. Nobody else even has the authority to modify the definition or standards of marriage. I truly believe that this would make a wonderful addition to every couple’s literary arsenal and has the potential to strengthen any relationship. It would probably be an excellent idea for a couple who is contemplating marriage to read. It would make an excellent engagement gift or part of the wedding present. It just has so much valuable insight. I think this is something that I’ll be rereading multiple times.
I’d like to thank Scott LaPierre, Charis Family Publishing, and Netgalley for providing me with an electronic copy of this wonderful book. I understand that receiving it in this manner doesn’t obligate me to leave a positive review.
One of the things that I particularly enjoyed about this book is that everything was explained simply and in a straight forward manner. Pastor Scott makes it clear how incredibly vital following God’s instructions for marriage is to having a healthy, godly relationship, one that would prove to be a good example for your children and others around you. Not only is God not silent about His expectations for this sacred bond, but as the Creator of marriage, He is the ultimate authority on the matter and the only One who has the authority to define what marriage is and set guidelines for it. Nobody else even has the authority to modify the definition or standards of marriage. I truly believe that this would make a wonderful addition to every couple’s literary arsenal and has the potential to strengthen any relationship. It would probably be an excellent idea for a couple who is contemplating marriage to read. It would make an excellent engagement gift or part of the wedding present. It just has so much valuable insight. I think this is something that I’ll be rereading multiple times.
I’d like to thank Scott LaPierre, Charis Family Publishing, and Netgalley for providing me with an electronic copy of this wonderful book. I understand that receiving it in this manner doesn’t obligate me to leave a positive review.
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