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Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens (Resources for Changing Lives)

4.38  ·  Rating details ·  1,256 ratings  ·  131 reviews
Are you hoping to merely survive your teenagers? With compassion, wit and wisdom, Tripp uncovers the heart issues affecting families during the often chaotic adolescent years. Gain assurance of God's provision for parenting success and discover ways to seize the countless opportunities to deepen communication, learn, and grow with your teens.
Paperback, Second Edition, 291 pages
Published June 1st 2001 by P & R Publishing (first published 1997)
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Natalie Weber
Mar 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: marriage-family
Right now my children are 13, 15, 17, and 19. Invariably when that comes up during an introduction, I get a knowing look, perhaps an expression of sympathy, or at least a patronizing assurance that I’ll survive. But I have found myself rather enjoying these teenage years. Not because they are trouble-free, but in fact because they are so incredibly challenging! I have been stretched like never before and forced to rely on the grace of God in unexpected and undesirable situations. Pleas for wisdo ...more
Josue Manriquez
Sep 01, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I was required to read this book for a class, and I am grateful for this assignment! This is an excellent book. Even though I am a single young man with no children, I have greatly benefited from this book. Some things I learned are:
The teenage years are an age of opportunity to prepare one’s teen for a wise, God-honoring, God-fearing life driven by biblical conviction rather than worldly culture. It is an age during which parents plant seeds that will (hopefully) result in maturing young adult
Jun 24, 2012 rated it it was amazing

Best book I've read in years. Should be required reading for any parent of teens or even younger children. Revolutionary--if more parents applied the principles from this book (which are rooted in the Bible) to their relationships with their teens, we would start to see genuine change in our society.
Gavin Breeden
Aug 01, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2012-reads
If you are a parent to teens (or soon will be) or you work with teens, this books is essential reading. Paul David Tripp works through some of the difficulties of working with, communicating with, and raising teenagers. The bulk of the book deals with setting biblical goals for teens and strategies to achieve those goals in parenting. The goals are high and founded on the Bible but the book is so realistic about the sinfulness of the human heart and the true nature of biblical change, that the g ...more
Aug 20, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This book was fantastic for making me think. It is really great for any parent, with young or old children. And it is more about my own sin-nature and how my approach can be grace-filled, guided by the Word. I am re-reading after 2 years because my oldest is almost 12 and he is definitely hit the pre-teen phase now!
Joe Woodard
Oct 16, 2011 rated it it was amazing
This book is a MUST read for anyone who is setting out to raise teenagers or who even volunteers or works alongside teens. This book forces the reader to examine his or her own heart and gives the best biblical foundation for parenting that I have ever heard or read. It is a long book but well worth the read of every page.
Beth Peninger
Jan 25, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Great book. I mean, yes, I am a fan of the Tripp brothers so pretty much anything they write I like. But Paul Tripp's wisdom (and his brother Tedd) is so down-to-earth and biblical. It just makes sense on all sorts of levels.
So since the hub and I already a few years into the teens with our redheads I probably should have read this book a few years back but it is what it is and I certainly don't regret that and don't feel like it is "too late" now to implement any changes my heart picked up on
May 12, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I do not like parenting books. I mean, anything that works is usually working because it suits YOUR family, which is unique unto itself, with all its individual personalities! But THIS book gets to the heart of the matter, which is this: we have to start with ourselves. WE are the only ones we can truly change, and even that comes hard, through a painful sort of grace. Again and again, Tripp turns the tables on parents -- not to find blame, but to seek for the motivations that drive us, the need ...more
Laura Rogers
Apr 15, 2010 rated it it was ok
Shelves: parenting
I thought this book had good things to say about raising teenagers/children. I didn't think it was anything revolutionary or that I hadn't already read or thought about.
I think that if you come from a background of attachment parenting/emotional coaching with your children - this will be old hat by now. You have hopefully already built a relationship with your children that will stretch into the teen years. I strongly disagree with his brothers book - "Shepherding A Child's Heart" - and I read t
Dec 19, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This book is as much about parenting teens as it is learning how to shepherd our own hearts as parents. In this book, Tripp consistently gets to our heart conditions and attitudes with helpful illustrations and stories from his own family and pastoral experience. The gospel is always the solution and the goal of parenting is to persuade, plead, and instill in your teens a heart for God.

This book helps a parent really think through what is truly important in raising your children into adulthood s
Peter Jones
Feb 03, 2012 rated it really liked it
One of the best books I have read on shepherding older children. As I read it, I was constantly thinking about my own children and the congregation I serve. The book is really well-outlined, which allows for easy referencing after I was done reading. He did a good job of maintaining a proper biblical balance between focus on Christ, but not allowing this to obscure how teenagers should behave. One of the most important things he emphasizes is how much work and time good shepherding requires. Thi ...more
Davi Saro
Nov 16, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: christian-living
A fantastic book on parenting teenagers from a Christian perspective. Paul David Tripp does a masterful job of exposing difficulties and opportunities that exist in raising children during the teenage years. It has changed my outlook in a significant way. Rather than merely seeing this time as a struggle between my personality and my child’s, I am now parenting in such a way that is more meaningful, biblically faithful and Christ centered. I am already seeing a positive response in my children. ...more
Todd Adrian
Aug 13, 2015 rated it liked it
The concepts, ideas, principles, and strategies in this book are worth at least 4 stars. However, Tripp seems to want to take three paragraphs to say what should be said in one paragraph. While the content is exceptional and worth reading, you will actually read it several times while reading the one book due to his repetition. Great content, great examples, and I found it very useful and convicting. Just wish he had written it in 175 pages instead of 250.
Aug 05, 2018 rated it really liked it
Though this book is aimed at parents of teens, it has been super helpful for me as both an elementary teacher and a youth group leader. It is a bit repetitive and less practical than I prefer, but Tripp presents a beautiful and biblically sound vision for the teenage years that really has a lot of application for redemptive living in general. Definitely worth the read, especially if you hold a place of significant influence in the life of kids.
Nathan Schneider
Aug 07, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
Tripp's Age of Opportunity is an exposition of parenting from a strictly biblical perspective. For that reason, it is tremendously helpful. Tripp does an excellent job of connecting the dots between biblical exegesis and parental application. He highlights the task of parenting, the sinfulness of children, and the responsibility of showing grace in discipline (without minimizing the need for grace). This book will be at the top of my list for suggested reading for parents.
Julie Biles
Nov 28, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Unquestionably the best contemporary book I have read yet on parenting teens! Tripp takes a very positive slant and helps the reader look at this often dreaded period of life as the most exciting yet! I have read and reread this book with each of our 4 children! So yes, I would recommend it for sure!
Sep 13, 2014 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015, faith
Very practical & grace-filled.
Chris Snodgrass
Feb 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Excellent guide to parenting teens, with a focusing on reaching their hearts and practical strategies to do so.
Bryan Kuranaga
Feb 07, 2019 rated it liked it
I am swimming against the tide when I say that I am not overly impressed with Paul Tripp's writings. Nevertheless, I appreciate his honesty in all of his books and his ability to spot the issue beneath the issue. He exhorts his readers in this book to be parents who are aware of the different pressures that a teenager will face and to know how to respond to those pressures when the time comes.
Tim Casteel
Feb 28, 2018 rated it really liked it
Outstanding book. I listened to the audiobook and liked it so much that I bought the paperback so I can go back through it and underline and chew on its truths (and so my wife can read it - she doesn't like audiobooks!).

What I appreciate about Tripp’s book is that he focuses first, not on the teenager, but on the parents. On our fear- seeing the teen years as an incredible opportunity to talk about real issues for the first time. On our idolatry- comfort, ease, wanting to appear as perfect pare
Jan 19, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Very helpful and biblically grounded. Profoundly searching as a parent as to many ‘heart’ issues that lead to poor family dynamics. A positive and proactive set of biblical guidelines and practical suggestions for parenting through the teen (and beyond) years. Recommend
May 27, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
Very good read-first half (or maybe 3/4) was more general- 'what is your goal', 'what kind of life and character do you want your teen to have when he/she leaves home'? I love how the author shapes these years as years that are not just to be 'survived', but years that are a golden opportunity to help your teen grow in faith and character. It also addresses the issue of what *parents* need to do too, letting go of our own pride and control and wrong attitudes. The last chapter or two is more pra ...more
Jan 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: personal
Brilliant book with a strong biblical framework for parenting teens by grace.

'Our goal can not be survival. This goal is too low because it forgets the glorious things that God is doing in us and has promised to do through us. Ours is a wonderful daily opportunity - to be part of Gods glorious work of redemption. We could not have a higher calling! ... We need to embrace our calling with hope. He is here, he is at work!' p253

'Work in us, Lord, so that you may work through us to capture the liv
Jason Suydam
Apr 07, 2015 rated it liked it
Great book to read to lead through relationships with teenagers, whether a parent, grand parent, aunt or uncle, or youth leader. The author does a great job of using his counseling skills to conversationally teach you to walk with Christ as you shepherd teens in the same manner. He does a great job at hooking us with hope for parenting techniques and then sells us what we need; a biblical view of discipling teens and a biblical view of what God has called us to do. There are many more techniques ...more
Jul 21, 2010 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, dropped
Very helpful book. However, I felt like Tripp said the same things over and over. This info could probably be paired down into 1/4 the space.

Key points: don't look at "problems" with your teen as inconveniences. Instead see them as opportunities given by God for you to engage your child. During these opportunities, you discuss (not lecture) problems, choices, responses in ways that bring biblical truth to light. Also remember that you are a sinner and you should not be surprised when your teen
I have some quibbles with this book (it talks about providence in a way that I wouldn't. sometimes it sounds very, very certain in territory that seems pretty ambiguous to me, and the example of the poor "assimilated" Jones family didn't work for me, but...), all in all, I think it will make me a better parent. I need to meditate for a long time on the title premise -- that parenting older children is an opportunity, not a burden. The book is gospel centered, and this, too, provides food for tho ...more
Dec 06, 2011 rated it liked it
Paul David Tripp has penned an encouraging book about the importance of focusing on teenager's hearts rather than merely looking at their behavior. I believe this is a critical perspective and Tripp does a good job looking at the Scriptural basis for this sort of approach. Tripp also provided a number of examples from his life. Inspite of the examples provided, I found that this book did not connect with me as some books that discuss looking at heart issues. If this was the only book on the topi ...more
Mar 16, 2008 rated it it was amazing
I will refer to this book until my children are grown. My favorite parenting book of all time.
I learned that when disobedience happens, it is an opportunity to guide out children and show them that we are sinners too. Many examples are given in this book that let me know how normal my teenager is. (that is good to know) Gentle reminders of how to parent a teenager. (so different than the elementary and toddler years.

loved this book, still do, always will

if you are a parent read it, you will be
Matt Kottman
Oct 27, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting, 2016
As always Tripp is really helpful in dealing with the human heart. The teenage years are years of great confusion mingled with the pursuit of the answer to the question "Who am I?" This can be a difficult period of life to navigate as a parent of a teen. Tripp gives great sound wisdom in this work. Much of what he suggests we have done in our home for years and we have seen great fruit from it, and are praying for continued fruit.
Vincent Ng
Jul 01, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Very practical book on parenting teenager - shift the view of parenting teenagers from a perspective that invokes fears, hesitancy, with a survival mindset to one that views the teenage years as an age of opportunity to shape teenagers with gospel truth through redemptive parenting. I personally don't have children, but his book helps examines not only the heart of teenagers but that of parents and individuals as well. Highly recommended!
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Paul was born in Toledo, Ohio to Bob and Fae Tripp on November 12, 1950. Paul spent all of his growing years in Toledo until his college years when his parents moved to Southern California.
At Columbia Bible College from 1968-1972, (now Columbia International University) Paul majored in Bible and Christian Education. Although he had planned to be there for only two years and then to study journalis
“It is so easy to lose sight of the fact that these are God’s children. They do not belong to us. They are given not to bring us glory, but him. Our teenagers are from him, they exist through him, and the glory of their lives points to him. We are but agents to accomplish his plan. We are but instruments in his hands. Our identity is rooted in him and his call to us, not in our children and their performance. The ultimate rejection that should make us weep is not that they have rejected us, but him.” 0 likes
“Successful parenting is the rightful, God-ordained loss of control. The goal of parenting is to work ourselves out of a job. The goal of parenting is to raise children who were once totally dependent on us to be independent, mature people who, with reliance on God and proper connectedness to the Christian community, are able to stand on their own two feet.” 0 likes
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