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To All The Places I've Had Sex Before

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Dec 06, 2020 Twishaa Sharma rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

I’ll be honest, I’m not sure what made me pick out this book.. was it the very obvious title hinting at numerous sexual escapades indulged in by the author? Probably not. That would not have been enough to catch my eye. Then perhaps it was the question posed at the start of the synopsis.. “Does sexual freedom mean liberation?” an innocent enough question, I thought, but only after finishing the book I realise that on the contrary it a heavily loaded one; one that took the author to a part of sel I’ll be honest, I’m not sure what made me pick out this book.. was it the very obvious title hinting at numerous sexual escapades indulged in by the author? Probably not. That would not have been enough to catch my eye. Then perhaps it was the question posed at the start of the synopsis.. “Does sexual freedom mean liberation?” an innocent enough question, I thought, but only after finishing the book I realise that on the contrary it a heavily loaded one; one that took the author to a part of self-discovery.

As the title suggests, the author has dedicated each chapter in the book to a place where she has had a sexual encounter. She follows the narration of every incident with a self-reflective letter to herself. LAUX writes confidently and even as she battles her feelings of insecurity and self-worth, there is no doubt that her writing is at par with many established authors. There was dry humour interspersed with deep psychological insights - never a dull moment while reading the book. I was pleasantly surprised to see Charles Duhigg quoted in one of the self-reflection notes. The sexual encounters too are not jarring or overbearing, in fact they are almost necessary to drive home the message. Each incident is like a short-story with its own characters and learnings, and a deeper understanding of the protagonist.

I particularly enjoyed her personal letters to herself, at times empathising, other times berating her mishaps, but always giving out an air of compassion and kindness. These traits become even more prominent as you progress with the book. It’s almost like a growth chart of self-discovery. It doesn’t sound preachy or philosophical, just honest and down to earth.

This book was an important read to understand the sexual stigmas that exist around Black women and the cultural ties within the Black community. It also throws light on the issue of the importance of mental wellness and the importance of reaching out for help.

My favourite quote by LAUX from the book also beautifully sums-up my review. “Vulnerability is an act of authenticity. And authenticity is an act of love.” It takes a brave, confident, strong and self-assured woman to come up with a book like this. ...more

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Aug 02, 2020 Dominic Rose rated it it was amazing

This is a candid celebration of Black female sexuality that is so often stigmatized in our society today. Instead of shying away from the topic, LAUX fully embraces her sexual experiences and identity, taking full ownership of her narrative. With comedic moments and inspiring insights, sexual empowerment has never felt so refreshing.

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Aug 05, 2020 Rosie Baker rated it it was amazing

LAUX creatively draws the reader in to explore the typically difficult topics of sex and sexual liberation. This is a book everyone should pick up and read!
- Rosie Baker, Author of Mirrors & Windows

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Aug 02, 2020 Mihir Pershad rated it it was amazing

In her memoir, LAUX explores the importance of truth telling to sexual and mental wellness. Her storytelling provides a window into improving our understanding of ourselves, particularly related to mental and emotional wellbeing.

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Aug 03, 2020 Zaimah rated it it was amazing

Author LAUX book is a journey of discovering one's own sexuality and how it impacts us emotionally and mentally especially as a young black woman. The author is candid in her retelling and you can sense her vulnerability. ...more

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Feb 24, 2021 Madhurima Pramod rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

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The most impactful and striking feature of the story is the narrator's raw honesty. This level of openness gives the reader a glimpse into the narrator's psyche. She has flaws, but also a deeply introspective quality, which guides her in her journey of healing and acceptance. The vulnerability and self doubt displayed by the storyteller also makes her very relatable person.
The writing style is smooth, modern and very effective in telling a compelling story. I highly recommend this book. ...more

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Aug 01, 2020 Raven rated it it was amazing

Worthwhile Read for Black Women

To All The Places I've Had Sex Before explores the stigmas that exist around sex, especially those placed on young Black women, and LAUX's journey to sexual liberation. LAUX tells her truth in a way that makes you feel like you're talking to a friend. This book breaks down the bedroom walls that hold hushed conversation about sex and intimacy. Conversations typically only had with a trusted friend or maybe just with yourself. LAUX was brave enough to share her stor ...more

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