Her Hand in Marriage
I was first exposed to Doug Wilson when he gave a lecture at Bethlehem College and Seminary during his time in Minneapolis, MN for Desiring God's 2009 National Conference. My first impressions of Wilson were that he was a boisterously funny man with much wise counsel who had an out-dated theological approach that didn't adequately address the issues that are important to people today. I do not think I could have been more incorrect.
Per my old blog, at the time of reading, "I found the book to be little more than a pitched retort to Joshua Harris' very popular I Kissed Dating Goodbye emphasizing a Covenant Theological approach to semi-arranged marriage, but naively labelled "Biblical Courtship" in an attempt to make it palatable to the boy & girl."
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I was impressed with this book. Doug Wilson does a good job of presenting solid principles with which to use in the dating/courting realm. And even if you disagree with his framework of courtship, there is plenty of healthy meat left in this book. He advises with balance and wisdom.
I appreciated how he talks about (after mod ...more
I've heard a lot of people talk about "Biblical courtship" but they have often failed to really give any Biblical support other than the basic Biblical principles of love and serving others, which obviously go contrary to the modern dating model with is typically about self-gratification.
The book is great from the start, opening with a fantastic introduction which I can easily relate to. Wilson lays down some ground ...more
I will always treasure these gifts, because by saying "No" to temptation before marriage - it has given my marriage a better foundation to rest upon than I could have hoped for.
No person or marriage is perfect, but being pure as you approach marriage will enhance your marriage beyond what you can imagine. It will ...more
The appendix, "The Garden" is worth it's weight in gold. The pure woman says to the stranger, "My stream is made to quench the thirst, not of travelers, but of the lord of the garden...When my mother's lord gives a blessing, the one I appoint will be lord of my garden."
Pastor Wilson speaks about the different roles of men and woman when courting, marrying, and preparing their subsequent children to do the same. Those of us who do it are called to do it in a Godly way, and this book of Wilson's has helped instil in me a reverence for they way Go ...more
Wilson is very insightful. It is a better read a second time around. Whether he is addressing biblical adornment of women, biblical femininity or masculinity, he is clear and expounds in the Old Testament and New Testament convincingly.
I was left believing in God's wisdom for instituting marriage laws and the laws of male and female sexual purity before marriage.
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In addition the author co-wrote a book dealing with the civil war that was roundly condemned for horrible and sloppy citations. While it was probably more lazy than malicious this is unacceptable for someone trying to write history. The publishing company ceased publishing it when this b ...more
I'm a major advocate for courtship and already know quite a bit about it - but Douglas Wilson had more thoughts about it ... as the saying goes "you learn something new every day".
in the very beginning he seems to repeat himself - however as each chapter progresses, his writing becomes clearer and solid.
I absolutely recommend this book to everyone - there is wisdom on every page.
He is quite against the modern form of dating and believes it to be harmful to all those involved. I wasn't persuaded until I finished the book. This book however isn't just a thesis against dating. It is a practical how-to for all those involved in the courtship process from the man to the woman to her parents.
Highly recommended for young men, women and the parents of such.
There are problems in the modern dating scene. Unfortunately, we live in an age in which it is hard to Live like Little House on the Prairie. Some good material, but be wise in how to apply it.