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The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night

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A breakthrough approach for a good night's sleep--with no tears

There are two schools of thought for encouraging babies to sleep through the night: the hotly debated Ferber technique of letting the baby "cry it out," or the grin-and-bear-it solution of getting up from dusk to dawn as often as necessary. If you don't believe in letting your baby cry it out, but desperately w
Paperback, 254 pages
Published April 18th 2002 by McGraw-Hill Education (first published 2002)
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May 24, 2013 rated it it was ok
All these sleep books are so annoying. They go on and on about nothing, taking forever to get to what I paid for, the miraculous technique that will supposedly get my baby to sleep and stop pushing me to the brink of insanity, and then it turns out to be some dumb piece of common sense that isn't helpful. Yes, babies need routines and consistent bedtimes, very good, I'm not an idiot and I've already got that covered. What I want to know is why does he hate me so much that he feels it appropriate ...more
Apr 06, 2007 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: People who are really attachment oriented
OK, so here's the deal with The No Cry Sleep Solution.

I got this book because I really did not want to let my baby cry it out. I was pretty much attachment parenting from the time my baby was born until, oh, about 3 days after reading this book!

I did get a few good tidbits from the book, which is why it was not a "1."

First, having a really good bedtime routine is essential.
Second, Pantley's "gentle removal method" for stopping your baby from nursing to sleep works great. In fact, not only does
Apr 02, 2011 rated it it was ok
Shelves: mom-helps
Her intent = 4.5 stars
Her writing = 3 stars
Her theories = 3 stars
Her experience = 1.5 stars
Astonishing advice = 0 stars
Her overall success = 2 stars

Why do these so called experts see parenting styles as black or white? You leave your baby to cry it out, you are a detached emotionally unavailable parent who should not have had kids but rather run a corporation. You respond to every cry, you are "attached" and your deserve a golden star your child will be perfect and you can write a book about it.
Jan 26, 2008 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: moms of older children with behavioral sleep issues
While this book claims to be the third option for sleep-deprived parents (1 being: "cry-it-out," and 2 being "live with it"), I found that it was more like "live with it," with a couple of helpful pointers to make you feel like you are doing something. Or perhaps it works as the preparation phase before going on to the Ferber method.

First of all, like most self-help books, it could have been about 10 pages. I read over half of it before I got to her actual methodology. The first half is dedicat
Curtis Edmonds
Sep 13, 2012 rated it really liked it
There were a couple of times, reading this book, that I laughed. Not because it's a comedy (it isn't) but because the idea of doing a log for baby sleep patterns was... erm... well... let's just say it wouldn't have flown in our house.

Our twins were born in 2009, and I can't say much about the time when they were very little because I don't remember any of it and what I do I have blocked out. It was the most exhausting, demanding thing I have ever done or would ever want to do. The idea that I
While I appreciate the idea of a method in between "cry it out" and "deal with it", I was infuriated by Pantley's inclusion of a speculative description of the agony a child might be feeling as they cry it out (e.g., "His little body is burning with desire and utter loneliness" - I'm paraphrasing, but that is exactly the tone.) You can't use that manipulative, mean tactic AND say that (a) that you're offering a moderate option or (b) that whatever works for a family is what's best. I'm not wild ...more
Lisa R.
Jun 10, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Parents of newborns
Recommended to Lisa by: Friends from an online group I belong to
I liked this book and found it to be helpful. That said, my baby did not have major sleep issues when I started it, nor was he an older baby (he was about 5 months). We were also instinctively using some of the book's recommendations already, so that made implementing it much easier.

We're not interested in letting our baby cry it out and this book helped us feel supported in that stance. It's true that many of the suggestions are commonsense, but we found this book helped to "tie it all together
Jan 19, 2010 rated it it was ok
This book is the opposite of the BabyWise series, that I used for my first born child. It recommends a way to get your baby to sleep without using the "cry it out" method. I love the idea because it's so hard to listen to your little one cry but the book was not for me and my second born child. The book advises you to put the baby to sleep, however you usually do (nursing, rocking, swaying, etc.), but lay the baby down JUST BEFORE the baby is truly asleep. If the baby wakes up at all, pick them ...more
Jun 25, 2012 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction
80% of the advice in here is stuff we were doing already because we've read Caring for Your Baby and Young Child, Revised Edition: Birth to Age 5 and The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two. We were following this advice before, during, and after our daughter's sleep problems developed. Another 10% of the advice was just ridiculous grasping at straws. Then 5% is just waiting for the problem to get better (which the author explicitly says the book isn't in ...more
Jan 30, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: all parents
Shelves: parenting
This is one of my favorite books on infant sleep. I really appreciated the tone of this book. The author offers many helpful suggestions for helping babies sleep depending on your parenting style and your babies temperament. So many other sleep books I've read try to tell you that their way is the only way and you must be doing something wrong if it isn't working for your child. It was refreshing to read something that gave ideas without the guilt trip.
Jul 25, 2008 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: people about to have a baby
The excellent podcast "pregtastic" has an interview with the author of this book on their website. It's episode 139 May 19, 2009 or you can click here:

William Sears writes the forward for this book in which he says:

"Sleep -or more accurately, the lack of sleep- is one of the most challenging aspects of parenting during the first year or two of a baby's life. The biggest hurdle is getting the baby to sleep through the night. Parents who are sensitive to th
Mar 03, 2010 rated it liked it
I credit this book with the ideas that have gotten my son to sleep by himself. Okay, okay, he's still waking up once a night and I'm going into his bed, but that's the next hurdle to get over and I'm confident we will.

The key things I learned, either through the book (admittedly, I finished it 3 months ago) or through my process:
1 - be patient. They say do something for 10 days before giving in. Somewhere else I've read that something becomes a habit after 3 days for a child this young. So, don
Feb 01, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Well, if you know us, you know that when we have babies we more or less practice "attachment parenting," which we didn't even know existed until we were already doing it. It just felt natural to have our babies co-sleep, to not use a bottle or pacifier, etc. Little did we realize that I would become the "human pacifier" and that our oldest would have a very hard time weaning herself out of our bed. Fortunately we learned how to not begin that issue with our next two, but it still remained for ou ...more
Alana Garnica
Jan 29, 2017 rated it really liked it
A bit repetitive. ...but a lot of helpful hints, I will definitely be using a few of the ideas in this book to see if they work! I don't really fall into 1 category in this book....sometimes we cosleep sometimes hee sleeps alone in his crib but just like any other parenting book...i take little pieces of advice and make my own routine. .
Apr 16, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Tired parents of little ones
Shelves: parenting-books
A beacon of hope to those mired in the fog of sleep deprivation.

There is an almost universal malady among parents of young children and babies and it’s called Sleep Deprived. You know if you suffer from this condition if your baggy eyes remind you to that you need to call Grandma June, your pillow hair resists all attempts at taming, you put the cereal in the fridge and milk in the cupboard, and slinged to your body is a bundle from heaven for whom all of this is worthwhile.

But you think, “Can’
May 10, 2018 rated it liked it
Parts of this book were 5 stars, parts more like 2 stars. #1 I love the idea of a middle road between sleep training and having your life be out of control. I needed a reminder that such a middle road exists and I'm not the only person in the world who wants to be on it. #2 Some pointers are very good and we are and will be trying them. #3 A lot of other information that was not necessary for me - skimmed through large sections. I don't know that this book will change anyone's life overnight (or ...more
May 24, 2017 rated it it was ok
:( 2.5
Sep 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is a ray of hope.
Nov 07, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
A few interesting tidbits of information but nothing life changing. Still searching for answers. Unless you know nothing about putting a baby or toddler to sleep, you can probably skip this one.
Alyssa Jahnigen
Mar 17, 2017 rated it really liked it
This book had some logical tips that I already knew but didn't quite know how to implement. I thought it was very encouraging. I will update you to see if the tips work! At least my attitude about her sleep has improved!
Feb 22, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I have a 9 month old daughter and for the last 9 months, she has been a great sleeper... as long as she is in my bed, or in my arms, or anywhere other than in her crib, or by herself. It is my own fault really. When she was a newborn, I rocked her to sleep and could not get enough of her newborn goodness, so I held her while she slept for hours at a time. As I began to realize that she needed to be able to, 1. fall asleep on her own and 2. sleep in her own bed, I discovered very quickly that I n ...more
Nov 13, 2010 rated it it was amazing
The only baby "help" book I've ever read, because it's all I've ever needed.

I'm not buying into that "let your child scream themselves to sleep" thing. A baby is not a toddler, a baby is not a preschooler, a baby is not a naughty little child who is angry about having to go to bed. A baby is just that, a completey helpless human who relies on only ONE method to let you know MANY different things: cry.

I'm already biased going into this book to read it, that I don't believe in "cry it out" and I w
Jan 12, 2012 rated it it was ok
Shelves: read-in-2009
There are some really nice ideas in this book, but I can't help wishing that my own baby could read the book himself, understand it, and act upon it, because I have to say, it didn't work for me.

As it turned out, we had already tried / were already trying many of the ideas in this book and to no avail. The only thing we hadn't already done was keeping a sleep log, which, in the end, served only one purpose - to frustrate and stress me out, which I did not need!

I've now been following the book si
Jun 15, 2009 rated it really liked it
I read this book a bit before my first daughter was born and just after, and I learned a lot. I was quite proud of myself at the time. I had a well-adjusted infant who had a set sleep and wake-up time. Sure, she would wake up in the middle of the night for feedings, but those were also on a schedule. And I justified those away by reminding myself that she was very low on the weight percentile scale. If she wanted to eat, she would eat!

Fast forward to almost a year later, and I'm done. Toast. I n
Allison Means
Dec 08, 2011 rated it really liked it
New parents still figuring out how to be parents: please consider reading.

As a new mom I've discovered an entirely different part of myself that I had no idea existed. I used to think I would be the "disciplinarian" when it came to children between me and my husband, but after just five short months I now know that is not going to the case, and I don't feel bad about it.

Another thing that I've learned is that people LOVE to give you advice on how you SHOULD be raising your child because that's h
Oct 09, 2009 rated it really liked it
As someone who is a big believer in not letting your child cry it out and who breastfeeds her child to sleep, this is definitely a book written for me. I am naturally not inclined to like this book because I abhor the idea of "training" of any kind, however she definitely offers a nice way to start working with your child should your child not be sleeping the five hours or more time span that makes up "sleeping through the night". What I like about Ms. Pantley is she asks you to be honest about ...more
Lori Reed
Jul 30, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, parenting
Does your baby cry every night when you put her to bed? Does she wake up in the middle of the night and cry for you to come hold her? Go to her every time and risk having a spoiled child. Let her "cry it out" and you’ll cry too. What’s a parent to do? The No-Cry Sleep Solution is the answer to every parent's sleep problems whether your baby sleeps in a crib or co-sleeps and whether your baby is breast or bottle-fed. Using the many tips provided, you will create a plan based on your baby’s needs. ...more
Jan 17, 2009 rated it it was amazing
A re-read
Good info on baby sleep needs and what you should reasonable expect as a parent. The book is genius at explaining how to teach your baby to get to sleep on his own without having to make him cry until he passes out.
I like how the book presents info and ideas and lets you as
the assumed intelligent adult make the right specific decisions for your family. So many "sleep" books tend towards the "do it our way or else your child will be sleepy and bratty". I also like the little personal sn
Jan 24, 2011 rated it really liked it
This book was really boring. I spent a lot of it thinking "ok, get to the freaking point already!" I also skipped quite a bit in the beginning. That being said, it worked WONDERS for our little family. My son was 8 months old when I started this book. (9 months old now.) He woke up literally every 1-2 hours during the night, refused to go to bed before 10-11pm, and slept until 8-10 in the morning. I was going crazy, my husband was going crazy, and everyone was crabby. Literally within 2 weeks of ...more
Mar 31, 2010 rated it liked it
I have no idea if the principles in this book work or not because I don't have a baby yet but they do make a lot of sense. I like the idea of small attainable goals for a baby's sleep patterns rather than the idea of letting them cry it out until they learn to sleep through the night. I can only hope it works.

That said, I didn't really love the way this book was written. The author was warm enough but almost half the book was about how the principles in the book would work. I bought the book. I
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Parenting educator Elizabeth Pantley is president of Better Beginnings, Inc., a family resource and education company. Elizabeth frequently speaks to parents at schools, hospitals, and parent groups around the world. Her presentations are received with enthusiasm, and praised as realistic, warm and helpful.

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“1. Review Table 2.1 on page 48: How many naps should your baby be getting? __________ How many naps is your baby getting now? __________ How many hours should your baby be napping? __________ How many hours is your baby napping now? __________ 2. Do you have a formal nap routine? ____________________ 3. Are your baby’s naptimes/lengths consistent every day? __________ Prebedtime Routine Log Baby’s Name: _______________________________________ Age: _______________________________________ Date: _______________________________________ Key: Activity: active, moderate, or calm Noise: loud, moderate, or quiet Light: bright, dim, or dark” 0 likes
“Until about age ten or so, a child thrives on spending special quiet time with a parent before bed. Reading books, talking, giving back rubs, and simply being together quietly are all important prebed rituals. Actually, I find that most parents who do not have a formal bedtime routine typically spend that last hour before bed fighting with their children about going to bed—now that is unpleasant and unnecessary.” 0 likes
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