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The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night

3.49  ·  Rating details ·  8,293 ratings  ·  906 reviews
A breakthrough approach for a good night's sleep--with no tears

There are two schools of thought for encouraging babies to sleep through the night: the hotly debated Ferber technique of letting the baby "cry it out," or the grin-and-bear-it solution of getting up from dusk to dawn as often as necessary. If you don't believe in letting your baby cry it out, but desperately w
Paperback, 254 pages
Published April 18th 2002 by McGraw-Hill Education (first published 2002)
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May 24, 2013 rated it it was ok
All these sleep books are so annoying. They go on and on about nothing, taking forever to get to what I paid for, the miraculous technique that will supposedly get my baby to sleep and stop pushing me to the brink of insanity, and then it turns out to be some dumb piece of common sense that isn't helpful. Yes, babies need routines and consistent bedtimes, very good, I'm not an idiot and I've already got that covered. What I want to know is why does he hate me so much that he feels it appropriate ...more
Apr 06, 2007 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: People who are really attachment oriented
OK, so here's the deal with The No Cry Sleep Solution.

I got this book because I really did not want to let my baby cry it out. I was pretty much attachment parenting from the time my baby was born until, oh, about 3 days after reading this book!

I did get a few good tidbits from the book, which is why it was not a "1."

First, having a really good bedtime routine is essential.
Second, Pantley's "gentle removal method" for stopping your baby from nursing to sleep works great. In fact, not only does
Apr 02, 2011 rated it it was ok
Shelves: mom-helps
Her intent = 4.5 stars
Her writing = 3 stars
Her theories = 3 stars
Her experience = 1.5 stars
Astonishing advice = 0 stars
Her overall success = 2 stars

Why do these so called experts see parenting styles as black or white? You leave your baby to cry it out, you are a detached emotionally unavailable parent who should not have had kids but rather run a corporation. You respond to every cry, you are "attached" and your deserve a golden star your child will be perfect and you can write a book about it.
Jan 26, 2008 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: moms of older children with behavioral sleep issues
While this book claims to be the third option for sleep-deprived parents (1 being: "cry-it-out," and 2 being "live with it"), I found that it was more like "live with it," with a couple of helpful pointers to make you feel like you are doing something. Or perhaps it works as the preparation phase before going on to the Ferber method.

First of all, like most self-help books, it could have been about 10 pages. I read over half of it before I got to her actual methodology. The first half is dedicat
While I appreciate the idea of a method in between "cry it out" and "deal with it", I was infuriated by Pantley's inclusion of a speculative description of the agony a child might be feeling as they cry it out (e.g., "His little body is burning with desire and utter loneliness" - I'm paraphrasing, but that is exactly the tone.) You can't use that manipulative, mean tactic AND say that (a) that you're offering a moderate option or (b) that whatever works for a family is what's best. I'm not wild ...more
Mara YA Mood Reader
Jan 08, 2020 rated it did not like it
Honestly I tried very very hard to do the whole no-cry thing with my first.

I now laugh at my naivety as a dumb first-time parent and how much ridiculous crap I put myself through (let alone what it did to my marriage) with all the baby-led weaning, bed sharing, baby-wearing crunchy granola BS.

I’m sure it’s works for some kids. But never mine. And I say kids/babies because some parents are just blessed with those “easy babies”. Not me. Mine are “spirited” (although my second was “easier” than m
Paul Sánchez Keighley
This seems as good a place as any to point out how strangely vindictive most of these parenting books are. They actively make you feel bad for trying anything other than what they propose. This one offers advice on how to help your baby get to sleep if you don’t like the idea of letting him cry himself to sleep. Which is fine, there’s certainly a market for that. Only you know what? If you do let your baby cry himself to sleep and happen to read this book, Mrs Pantley is going to make sure you r ...more
Curtis Edmonds
Sep 13, 2012 rated it really liked it
There were a couple of times, reading this book, that I laughed. Not because it's a comedy (it isn't) but because the idea of doing a log for baby sleep patterns was... erm... well... let's just say it wouldn't have flown in our house.

Our twins were born in 2009, and I can't say much about the time when they were very little because I don't remember any of it and what I do I have blocked out. It was the most exhausting, demanding thing I have ever done or would ever want to do. The idea that I
Jun 25, 2012 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction
80% of the advice in here is stuff we were doing already because we've read Caring for Your Baby and Young Child, Revised Edition: Birth to Age 5 and The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two. We were following this advice before, during, and after our daughter's sleep problems developed. Another 10% of the advice was just ridiculous grasping at straws. Then 5% is just waiting for the problem to get better (which the author explicitly says the book isn't in ...more
Feb 01, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Well, if you know us, you know that when we have babies we more or less practice "attachment parenting," which we didn't even know existed until we were already doing it. It just felt natural to have our babies co-sleep, to not use a bottle or pacifier, etc. Little did we realize that I would become the "human pacifier" and that our oldest would have a very hard time weaning herself out of our bed. Fortunately we learned how to not begin that issue with our next two, but it still remained for ou ...more
Jul 25, 2008 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: people about to have a baby
The excellent podcast "pregtastic" has an interview with the author of this book on their website. It's episode 139 May 19, 2009 or you can click here:

William Sears writes the forward for this book in which he says:

"Sleep -or more accurately, the lack of sleep- is one of the most challenging aspects of parenting during the first year or two of a baby's life. The biggest hurdle is getting the baby to sleep through the night. Parents who are sensitive to th
Ani Darbinyan
Nov 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This is NOT a sleep training book, this is a book educating loving parents about knowledgeable approach and correct expectations about babies. If you encounter on the internet phrases like "a 6 month old should sleep 12 hours a night", then most probably that's a sleep trainer's blog. Sleep trainers involve tears and never care for your baby's psychological future, they care about their money. Beware sleep trainers!

Biologically 5 straight hours of sleep is considered "sleeping through the night"
Nov 13, 2010 rated it it was amazing
The only baby "help" book I've ever read, because it's all I've ever needed.

I'm not buying into that "let your child scream themselves to sleep" thing. A baby is not a toddler, a baby is not a preschooler, a baby is not a naughty little child who is angry about having to go to bed. A baby is just that, a completey helpless human who relies on only ONE method to let you know MANY different things: cry.

I'm already biased going into this book to read it, that I don't believe in "cry it out" and I w
Lisa R.
Jun 10, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Parents of newborns
Recommended to Lisa by: Friends from an online group I belong to
I liked this book and found it to be helpful. That said, my baby did not have major sleep issues when I started it, nor was he an older baby (he was about 5 months). We were also instinctively using some of the book's recommendations already, so that made implementing it much easier.

We're not interested in letting our baby cry it out and this book helped us feel supported in that stance. It's true that many of the suggestions are commonsense, but we found this book helped to "tie it all together
Jan 19, 2010 rated it it was ok
This book is the opposite of the BabyWise series, that I used for my first born child. It recommends a way to get your baby to sleep without using the "cry it out" method. I love the idea because it's so hard to listen to your little one cry but the book was not for me and my second born child. The book advises you to put the baby to sleep, however you usually do (nursing, rocking, swaying, etc.), but lay the baby down JUST BEFORE the baby is truly asleep. If the baby wakes up at all, pick them ...more
Apr 16, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Tired parents of little ones
Shelves: parenting-books
A beacon of hope to those mired in the fog of sleep deprivation.

There is an almost universal malady among parents of young children and babies and it’s called Sleep Deprived. You know if you suffer from this condition if your baggy eyes remind you to that you need to call Grandma June, your pillow hair resists all attempts at taming, you put the cereal in the fridge and milk in the cupboard, and slinged to your body is a bundle from heaven for whom all of this is worthwhile.

But you think, “Can’
Nov 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
As a parent of 4 children, I have read a lot of baby books. The No-Cry Sleep Solution is one of the few that really spoke to me, as an attachment-style parent. The idea of letting a helpless tiny baby cry out her fear of abandonment never sat well with me. As my babies turned into toddlers, I bought the follow up book too. All 4 of our kids were naturally night-hawks, staying up late and sleeping until 10am or later. It was refreshing to read about understanding their biological rhythms and not ...more
Kristen Stevens
Nov 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love this book. I used the first edition for 4 of my kids and got the new edition for my 6th baby. It is so helpful for all situations and different kids personalities. With my 6th baby I was beyond my breaking point getting up every hour to soothe her. She would make herself sick by crying so long. I pulled out my trusted book, now like a dear friend. By carefully following the guidance of this book it didn’t take my baby long to learn how to sleep soundly through the night. Elizabeth Pantley ...more
Rachael Ann
Nov 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was such a helpful book after just becoming a mother and when I was starting to have issues with my daughter and her sleep schedule. It made me feel like I was a normal person and made me feel like what I was going through was completely normal. Elizabeth also offers great suggestions and advice for helping to get kiddo back to a schedule. Thank you so much and I definitely recommend it!
Jan 17, 2009 rated it it was amazing
A re-read
Good info on baby sleep needs and what you should reasonable expect as a parent. The book is genius at explaining how to teach your baby to get to sleep on his own without having to make him cry until he passes out.
I like how the book presents info and ideas and lets you as
the assumed intelligent adult make the right specific decisions for your family. So many "sleep" books tend towards the "do it our way or else your child will be sleepy and bratty". I also like the little personal sn
Dec 18, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommended to Sera by:
This book was extremely informative, because it provided great insight into sleep rhythms and other information that affects how well someone sleeps at night. My goal is to begin using the tips for newborns as soon as the baby comes home from the hospital. Let's see if the author's approach will work. Most of her tips make sense so I am feeling optimistic. Plus, I like to have a third option instead of picking between "suck it up" or "let the baby cry it out", since someone is going to be very u ...more
Jan 09, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: nonfiction, parenting
This book saved my sanity. With a chorus of people telling me to just "let her cry it out" I was overwhelmingly grateful to find this book which supported my need to find another way. We're in the early stages of using Pantley's suggestions, but we've already seen improvements in fewer night wakings. The best lesson I've learned (so far) as a parent is to always do what feels right and to never give in to something that feels wrong. I have a plan and I feel so much more in control of my life now ...more
Jan 30, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: all parents
Shelves: parenting
This is one of my favorite books on infant sleep. I really appreciated the tone of this book. The author offers many helpful suggestions for helping babies sleep depending on your parenting style and your babies temperament. So many other sleep books I've read try to tell you that their way is the only way and you must be doing something wrong if it isn't working for your child. It was refreshing to read something that gave ideas without the guilt trip. ...more
Sarah Mason
Sep 29, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Quality Content. Intuitive approach with patience at the centre

Easy read and simple steps. Whilst I have not yet started to implement her suggestions alot of what she has diiscribed I am doing already with my newborn, at 11 weeks baby it's a great time to read and ake sure I am prepared and setting up for successful sleep in the future.
Jul 13, 2018 rated it it was ok
It has some good ideas and points to follow, but it could be covered in some 30 pages. The rest of the 300 pages are full of nothing and repeating over and over the same nothing.
Oct 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
I want to hug Elizabeth Pantley! And if I did, I'm sure I would cry all over her. I haven't even done a fraction of the work she describes, and my 9-month-old son and I are already sleeping better. Book after book and blog after blog treat baby sleep as something to be dissected and managed, while *breaking* baby of all those nasty sleep habits. And in the end, the story is "cry it out" or "live with it." I said over and over there had to be another way. I refused to believe that the only way to ...more
Natalie Innes
Aug 22, 2014 rated it it was ok
Is it just me, or are sleep books so flipping annoying? They spend the first half telling you sleeping facts and statistics, a quarter of the book is raving success stories from parents who tried the method ("this author saved my life!) and maybe a quarter of the book is actual information of what to do. It's like, "I'm TIRED! That's why I'm reading this book. Cut the crap and get to the point." I like the premise of the book--you can still sleep train your baby without using the "cry it out met ...more
Destiny B
Feb 02, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Although I believe there is no holy grail as to how to put your baby to sleep, this book offers some insight to understand patterns you are (or aren't setting) with your baby. It's a super quick read, and has specific sections for your age baby. I ordered this book one night on Amazon after a terrible few days of sleep with my own baby. I didn't know where I would find the time to read this book, but after a few nights I found I was able to get a lot out of this book in a quick amount of time. I ...more
May 20, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Fantastic Read

This book reinforces what I had already read and hoped to achieve for my little one. A safe and secure environment is better than just leaving baby to cry it out. I greatly appreciated the tips and fundamental understanding of why and how to achieve sleep success without leaving baby to cry. Easy to read and well transitioned information through each chapter has helped me on my way to understanding and bettering our families sleep!
Sarah Allen
Jan 10, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This author is rock solid. Her books offer practical guidance about attachment parenting and how to help babies sleep well. Her advice works WONDERS and made all the difference for my little one's sleep. Highly, highly recommend! ...more
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Elizabeth Pantley is the international bestselling author of The No-Cry Sleep Solution and twelve other books for parents, published in over twenty languages.

She simultaniously writes the well-loved Destiny Falls Mystery & Magic book series.

Elizabeth lives in the Pacific Northwest and is the mother of four and Nana to one. Visit her at

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