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Complement: The Surprising Beauty of Choosing Together Over Separate in Marriage

Aaron Ivey,

Jamie Ivey

4.50 · Rating details · 2 ratings · 1 review

Does your marriage feel stuck in a rut? Do you feel like you and your spouse are never on the same team? Do you want a flourishing and vibrant marriage, but wonder how in the world to get there?

Bestselling authors Jamie Ivey (host of the Happy Hour podcast) and Aaron Ivey have asked these tough questions too, and by God's grace and a lot of elbow grease, they've come ou ...more

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Mar 01, 2021 Autumn rated it it was amazing

Does your marriage feel stuck in a rut? Do you feel like you and your spouse are never on the same team? Do you want a flourishing and vibrant marriage, but wonder how in the world to get there? .....With funny, real-life stories and key insights from Scripture, the Iveys can help you unite with your spouse, cheer each other on, respond the right way when you fail each other, and serve one another well--even in conflict or tough times! If you want a strong marriage (or simply to be a better bett Does your marriage feel stuck in a rut? Do you feel like you and your spouse are never on the same team? Do you want a flourishing and vibrant marriage, but wonder how in the world to get there? .....With funny, real-life stories and key insights from Scripture, the Iveys can help you unite with your spouse, cheer each other on, respond the right way when you fail each other, and serve one another well--even in conflict or tough times! If you want a strong marriage (or simply to be a better better-half!), the Iveys will show you the way in Complement.
This captivating tag describing Aaron and Jamie Ivey’s dual books, they are about to release, sounds pretty timely. Learning how to be intentional and how your marriage can reflect the truths of the Bible, all while complementing each other, is a good approach to combat the negative outlook that society puts on marriage today. In an age where marriage is seen as a burden, a thing to avoid, or even something that you can easily quit and give up, these books will provide some pushback and offer things to consider that may make people view marriage differently and in a more biblical light.
Each author wrote a book on the same 10 topics without consulting each other and the results are clear that each of them have the same goal in mind. They bring the idea of being one flesh to mind with how in sync they are within these topics.
Aaron and Jamie have relatability. Some of their individual stories echoed experiences or feelings of my own. I read Jamie’s book fully then Aaron’s to compare. Both books are easy to read and I found myself not wanting to put the books down because I wanted to know what else they had to say. While scripture was referenced in each book I felt Aaron’s was a little more saturated. Jamie brought practical application which complemented Aaron’s biblical applications. Both are beneficial but I found myself resonating with Aaron’s book more. I am glad they suggest reading and then swapping to get both perspectives.
I will share a quote from each author that challenged me, “It takes kindness when we want deep in our hearts to tear our husband down. It takes throwing away the scorecard when we desperately want to add up points against him. It takes forgiving when we would feel better keeping a death grip on his wrongdoings. It takes grace when all we want to give is punishment.” -Jamie Ivey Chapter 1
“But there’s a difference between fighting against your spouse and fighting with your spouse. It may seem like semantics, but when the heat turns up in any given moment, you have to make a crucial choice: Will you view your spouse as the opponent you’re trying to defeat, or the friend you’re trying to win back? Will you treat your spouse like a person on the other team, or a person on the same team?” -Aaron Ivey Chapter 6
I hope from these quotes you get a brief glimpse of the practical, biblical advice that is a theme throughout the books.
I plan on reading through these books again with my husband and maybe approaching it chapter by chapter. Swapping then discussing along the way. These books are available March 2nd but can still be preordered from multiple distributors (links below). Also available is a 7-week Bible study format with DVD videos on the various topics in the books along with workbooks for husbands and wifes to complete and share your answers together and foster discussion.
I believe either option would be beneficial to anyone married or not. Someone who is engaged and looking to prepare for what may come up in their upcoming marriage. Married couples who are looking to be reminded of marriage and how it reflects Christ and His church. Or anyone who feels their marriage is in crisis and is looking for help wherever possible. These books have something to offer anyone.
*I received this book free from NetGalley along with B&H Publishing in exchange for an honest review.*
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Aaron Ivey is the Pastor of Worship at The Austin Stone Community Church in Austin, Texas, where he pastors a team of three hundred worship leaders, artists, storytellers, and musicians. Aaron has written and produced ten worship albums, and has written hundreds of congregational worship songs that are sung all over the world. His songwriting includes works represented in Worship Together, Jesus C ...more