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Saying Kaddish: How to Comfort the Dying, Bury the Dead, and Mourn As a Jew

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Shows mourners how to turn the Jewish traditions surrounding death and bereavement into sources of comfort and healing, offering detailed instructions for following the stages of a Jewish year of mourning.
Hardcover, 266 pages
Published November 3rd 1998 by Schocken (first published 1998)
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Jul 07, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Holly says she wonders who taught me to pick out books! HA! This one is very interesting --Of course, I am not Jewish, but I am appreciating learning about the traditions and how saying Kaddish is a form of comfort for the loss of a loved one.
There are probably things in the Kaddish tradition that we as Christian's could use to help us when we go through the loss of someone we care about.
Oct 31, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Anita Diamant's beautifully lucid prose sheds a comforting light on a subject many of us would prefer to keep in the dark. Her extensive knowledge of Jewish tradition is bolstered by useful bibliographical footnotes and she combines this with a helpful sensitivity to psychological and cultural issues associated with bereavement. I think what I appreciated most about this book is her neutrality with regard to the spectrum of observance. She presents various perspectives on religious tradition, fr ...more
Nov 13, 2007 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I suppose I should have read this before my father died. I suppose I should have read this right after my father died. I didn't. I'm reading it now, and, although it makes me sad, it helps me understand the Jewish way in mourning and death. It was a mildly helpful book in terms of the rituals surrounding Jewish death and dying.

The one who really should read it next is my husband. His parents are in their late 70s.
Melvin Marsh, M.S.
Feb 12, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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I normally don't like Anita Diamant's books but this was surprisingly good. I think it covers almost everything one would need for the death and dying process. This is going to be quite helpful in my pararabbi program.
Feb 22, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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Unlike most books I read, I didn't choose this one, or read it for pleasure. Rather, our rabbi gave it to me when my husband died. It talks about everything I needed to know about what would happen and what I needed to do, as well as giving down-to-earth advice about the process of grieving. It's something I'll keep and refer to again and again.

Diamant has included an interesting appendix, "Planning for the Unthinkable," in which she urges us all to prepare for our own deaths by, among other thi
Emilia P
Jan 01, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
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Anita, always solid stuff. Caring for the dying and the dead, sitting Shiva, sticking to rhythms, turning the focus from the mourned to the mourner deliberately. I learned some great things about ways to mark and understand dying in a Jewish cultural and religious context, but as often is the case, I found myself seeking a philosophical solace in a how-to book. Diamant is great at straddling that line, but I expected a slightly heavier tome. Ah well. It was quite good, and I'm glad she is there ...more
Dec 01, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A gift from my rabbi when my mother passed away in November, 2012, this book has guided and comforted me through these early weeks of mourning. Diamant clearly explains traditional Jewish customs and beliefs while offering support for less traditional Jews to find a meaningful path to healing from such loss. Never "preachy," "Saying Kaddish" is a book I will return to throughout the coming months and keep in my library for reference and comfort in the future.
Elyse P
Aug 21, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very helpful book when dealing with the process of grief and mourning from a Jewish perspective. Educational as well as spiritual. Most Most of the book is written with an orthodox lens, but there is some information on how each of the branches of Judaism observe.
Oct 10, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Good, practical information about how to deal with death in the family following the Jewish religion.
April Zipser
I think this will be a good intro into a very sad subject.
Viola Spencer
Jan 21, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A comfort to a mother who had to bury her adult child.
Andrew Newman
Jul 27, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I skimmed this book when my father passed away suddenly, and just got around to rereading it with a different focus toward the end of my period of mourning. A valuable, insightful resource.
Dec 08, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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Written with kindness and all the necessary details. This is one to keep on hand at home; it even made me feel better.
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“FINAL CONFESSION I acknowledge before the Source of all That life and death are not in my hands. Just as I did not choose to be born, so I do not choose to die. May it come to pass that I may be healed but if death is my fate, then I accept it with dignity and the loving calm of one who knows the way of all things.   May my death be honorable, and may my life be a healing memory for those who know me.   May my loved ones think well of me and may my memory bring them joy.  ” 0 likes
“From all those I may have hurt, I ask forgiveness. Upon all who have hurt me, I bestow forgiveness.   As a wave returns to the ocean, so I return to the Source from which I came. Shema Yisrael Adonai Elohenu Adonai Echad. Hear, O Israel, that which we call God is Oneness itself. Blessed is the Way of God, the Way of Life and Death, of coming and going, of meeting and loving, now and forever. As I was blessed with the one, so now am I blessed with the other. Shalom. Shalom. Shalom. RABBI RAMI M. SHAPIRO13” 0 likes
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